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thing except sex, as she was not comfortable with the idea of having sex before marriage. Now, when we try to have sex, we both get fully excited. My penis also swells to a good size, but I cant penetrate her. We both try a lot but I still cant penetrate. My penis after excitement looks too large to go in the vaginal opening and it just slips away. I tried inserting my finger inside her vagina. It goes very deep inside. I had a normal habit of masturbating twice a week before marriage. One of my doctor friend suspects that the problem could be psychosomatic problem for my wife. And that is why the vaginal muscles contract during the act, making it difficult for me to insert the penis. What is your opinion? If she is allowing the deep penetration of your finger in the vagina, she does not have a problem. I suggest you try with her legs on your shoulder or request her to come from the top.
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1I am amonths ago. guy. I got mar25-year-old ried six Yesterday during sex, suddenly a sound came out and I found out that my penis was bleeding. I am worried whether I can have sex normally again? Your penis does not contain explosives. The sound may have been by air in the vagina. Find another reason for your bleeding maybe tight foreskin. You can certainly be okay.

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incidents have only helped us understand one another better, says Rahul from Brussels, where he is working in a news agency as a multimedia journalist. On his part, Nils is also very pleased with the special bond he shares with Rahul. We clicked from the moment we met! I would say Rahul is one my best friends with whom I can share all my feelings, emotions and job related issues, says Nils from Kln. Rahul adds, Friendship should not have boundaries. You meet in different situations and come from different cultures. Fortunately, we shared the same sense of humour and could communicate easily. The early bonhomie extended even after they graduated from college. Rahul moved abroad to work, but the two made it a point to keep in touch. Nils visited Rahul at most of the places he was staying at. Over the years, they met in Singapore where Rahuls parents live and then met in nine countries and 15 cities including London, Singapore, Brussels, Beijing, Pune, Amsterdam, Malmo (south Sweden), London and Kln. A year ago, Rahul again visited Kaarst. Talking about their relationship, Rahul says, Whenever we meet, we joke that our exchange programme is over. In fact, we ask each other, hey where are others? Now, Rahul lives very near to Nils, the duo meet often. However, the duo will return to the city since Rahul is marrying a French girl in Pune. Nils will be present for the wedding accompanied by his girlfriend. The marriage will be a traditional affair. Rahul met his fiancee when he was working in China. I am excited to come to the city for the marriage. This will be my fourth trip to Pune, says Nils. Nils works as a researcher in a pharmaceutical company in Kln. However, the difference between their professions does not make any difference to him. I would say it is the contrary. It is because we have different jobs, we can talk to each other freely and communicate, says Nils. On an average, the two contact each other every second week. It depends on situations. Sometimes we catch up daily and sometimes in a month. However, Facebook and email have made life simpler as we communicate through these mediums. Whenever we have something serious or something interesting happening in our lives, we make it a point to talk things over, adds Nils. Savita Kelkar, a member of the Deccan Education Society and administrator of DES cultural society, is a witness to the strong bond shared between these two youths over the years. We started the student exchange program in 1997. Rahul and his brother had participated in the program when they studied here. I remember both were helpful and open to learn about different cultures, reveals Savita. Kelkar visited Rahul and his fiancee in May this year when she had gone to visit Brussels. She could not visit Nils then, but knows how both of them have matured through all these years. There are various examples of such friendships built through an exchange programme. We have even started parent exchanges programmes and response to it has been fantastic. Here, people build friendship as a lifelong bond rather than a short term thing, smiles Kelkar.

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he bond of friendship doesnt know any boundaries. This may be an oft repeated clich, but two persons who became friends in Pune are an example of this fact. In what reads like a chapter from a pleasant book, Nils Lilienthal from Dusseldorf, Germany and Rahul Venkit have defied distance and time to meet each other consistently for over a decade! The duo are scheduled to meet in Pune in December, as Rahul is getting married. The most interesting part of their friendship? Over the 10 years, Nils (29) and Rahul (27) travelled across countries and continents, just to catch up and keep their relationship alive. Nils and Rahuls inspiring story of friendship started in December 2000 when Nils had come to Fergusson College under a student exchange programme. Both of them stayed in the college hostel for four weeks and within that period, their wavelengths matched. Soon, they became close friends. Next year, it was Rahuls turn to experience German hospitality as his friend received him at Dusseldorf airport and took him to his town, Kaarst. That apart, Nils came to India thrice under different exchange programmes and stayed with Rahuls family. The friendship of course was also a learning experience for Nils and Rahul. For instance, the difference between their cultures was responsible for creating funny situations. Once, my mother had prepared an omelette for Nils. She added chillies to the omelette and in turn Nil ate the chillies thinking they were nuts. What happened next is still etched in my memory. Since Nils is not used to spicy food, his face turned really red! However, such

Starring Matt Damon and Emily Blunt, the Adjustment Bureau is an interesting film to watch. However, there is nothing serious about the plot or the story.

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A great film to watch on a lazy Sunday afternoon. This is singer Christina Aguileras dramatic film debut as Ali, a small-town girl in search of stardom.

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As in most thriller flicks, the haunting starts when the protagonist moves to a new house. This is exactly happens when Juliet (Hillary Swank) moves to a new house. Not really the best in its genre, but worth one watch nonetheless.

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After meeting in nine countries and 15 cities over a period of 10 years, Nils Lilienthal and Rahul Venkit talk about their truly unique friendship...

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The film starts on the right note, but loses drive once the plot progresses. The film definitely lacks the kick, but may settle well with young love birds.

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