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txt # 1 Make a positive change: If you're reading this article, your baby has probably just started hitting you. Maybe you have tried a few things (yelling, ignoring, redirecting) and they haven't worked. My husband and I tried everything with our 14 month old and finally found that creative redirection worked best. What do we mean by creative redirection? Well, you know it as a "high five"! # 2 When the baby strikes: When your baby hits you, keep calm and know that she's not trying to hurt you. As best as you can, ignore what she just did. # 3 The High Five: Then, immediately start this new activity. Hold out your hand and teach your baby how to do a high-five. This works best if you have another parent or caregiver to model the high-five. Cheer and praise when your baby gets the high-five right. She'll want to high-fives over and over again. Keep doing it! And keep cheering! # 4 Reinforcing: Now, whenever you feel like doing a high-five, do it! That will help your baby remember how to high-five, and help her associate happy feelings with high-fives. The next time she hits you, ask if she wants to high-five. Then do as many high-fives as she wants. Your baby will start to equate high-fives, with lots of positive attention. She will prefer to high-five than hit your face (which receives little to no attention).

If your toddler is hitting you or other people and you just don't know how to stop it - then I have you good tips for you! Many parents hit back and it's not the method I recommend you no matter what - he is only a child, not a criminal! Don't even think about spanking him - it will only add fuel to the fire! First of all you have to understand that your toddler is hitting you or others not because he wishes Page 1

babyhittingface.txt to hurt someone, but because that it's probably the only way for him to make social contacts with people! Since he still probably can't talk then the best way for him to get attention is with physical contact! Most of the times this simple method will work - just gram his little hands and don't him move for 10-20 seconds! Look him in the eyes and tell him that hitting is unacceptable for you! Most parents who use this method still do one mistake - they are not consistent! One time they will do it, another time they will scream at the child, third time they will ignore - you must repeat it time after time until your child learns! You can also teach him other methods of communication. Tell him that if he wants something he can touch you gently. When he does it give him some sort of prize - ice cream, candy or a strong hug and kiss! That way he'll understand, after few times, what works better for him and use the gentle way to get attention! One more thing - it's very important not to overreact. Since you do understand the real reason behind the hitting then you don't have to get angry! I hope I helped you, good luck!

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Hitting, Kicking, Biting and Hair Pulling April 14th, 2009 How to cope with your childs aggressive behavior. by: Elizabeth Pantley Acting Out * Teach your child how to deal with frustration before an incident occurs using techniques such as role-play. * Give more attention to the injured child rather than the one who did the hitting. * Teach your child positive touch, such as how to hold hands or give a back rub. Page 3

babyhittingface.txt * Tell your child to clap his hands whenever he feels an urge to hitthis gives him an outlet for his emotions. * If you have a child who has trouble controlling his physical acts, avoid wrestling and other physical play at home. Related stories * 1. * 2. * 3. * 4. * 5. Getting your Toddler to Listen to You Coping with Baby Tantrums Handling Temper Tantrums Help Toddlers Cope with Separation Anxiety Introducing Baby to the Family Dog

Children resort to aggressive behaviors because of a lack of wisdom and self-controlit is not a sign that they are hateful or mean. Here's how to teach your child to handle his frustration and anger in appropriate ways. 1. Intercede Before Your Child Acts Out Watch your child during playtime. When you see him becoming frustrated or angryintervene. Coach him through the issue by teaching him what to do, or modeling what he should say to his friend as opposed to lashing out. If he seems too upset to learn, redirect his attention to another activity until his emotions level out. 2. Teach Your Child How to React It's one thing to step into an argument and solve it yourself, but it's another thing entirely to teach him what to do in advance of the next problem. This can be done through role-play, discussion, and reading a few children's books about angry emotions. 3. Examine Hidden Causes Is your child hungry, tired, sick, jealous, frustrated, bored, or scared? If you can identify any feelings driving his actions, then you can address those along with the aggressive behavior. 4. Don't Reward Bad Behavior with Extra Attention Often the child who hits gets so much attention that the action becomes a way of gaining the spotlight. Instead, give more attention to the child who was hurt. Simply say: "No hitting!" Then, turn and give attention to the child who was wronged. 5. Teach Positive Physical Touching Show your child how to hold hands during a walk, or how to give a back rub or foot massage. 6. Clap Off Tell a child to clap his hands whenever he feels an urge to hit. This gives him an immediate outlet for his emotions and helps him learn to keep his hands to himself. 7. Give your Child a Time Out Page 4

babyhittingface.txt When a child acts out aggressively, immediately and gently take him by the shoulders, look him in the eye and say: "No hurting others-time out." Guide the child to a chair and tell him: "You may get up when you can play without hitting." By telling him that he can get up when he's ready, you let him know he is responsible for controlling his own behavior. If he gets up and hits again, say: "You are not ready to get up yet," and direct him back to time out. 8. Avoid Play Hitting and Wrestling Young children who roughhouse with a parent or sibling during playtime may be tempted to use these same actions during non-wrestling times. It can be hard for them to draw the line between the two. If you have a child who has trouble controlling his physical acts, then avoid this kind of play. 9. Don't lose control It's easy to get angry when you see your child hurting another child. This won't teach your child what he needs to learn: i.e. how to control his emotions when others are making him mad. When you're mad, your child will be watching how you handle your anger. 10. Don't focus on punishment More than anything your child needs instructions on how to treat other human beings, particularly during moments of anger or frustration.

Correcting Toddler Behavior - Biting, Hitting, & Throwing by Danielle Haines (22 Comments) Shocking as it may be, aggressive behaviors, such as biting, hitting, and throwing things are a normal part of your toddler's development. It is a part of a child learning self-control. Usually, toddlers phase out of bad behaviors by age four. Still-emerging language skills, a fierce desire to become independent, and undeveloped impulse control make children this age prime candidates for getting physical. That doesn't mean you should ignore it, of course. Let your toddler know that aggressive behavior is unacceptable and show him other ways to express his feelings. Biting While it is crucial to accept the premise that biting is an age-appropriate behavior for toddlers, it Page 5

babyhittingface.txt is just as important to accept that biting is not an acceptable behavior. Adults must help toddlers control their urge to bite other children by responding quickly and firmly. article continued below...

First, the biting child should be stopped with a firm no!. At the same time that the adult speaks, the adult should act. Ideally, one adult steps in to help the victim while another stops the biting child. Where this is not possible, the biting child should usually be dealt with first. Discipline for toddlers is most effective when it occurs immediately after the unacceptable action. The biting child should be removed from the situation in the form of redirection of attention or time-out. Preventing biting before it happens is better than dealing with it after it occurs. Consequently, adults should carefully observe the moods and needs of toddlers. When a child is exhibiting low tolerance for frustration, or when a child has a history of biting, or when a child is teething, adults must pay especially close attention to the potential-biting child. Hitting Toddlers are fascinated with what they can make happen over and over and they are also curious about how people react in different situations. Hitting people satisfies both of these interests. Furthermore, toddlers see the world only from their own point of view and therefore dont understand that other people have different ideas and feelings than they do. Don't be afraid to let your child know you are angry. Use it as a teaching moment. You are not trying to frighten or browbeat the child into submission. You are trying to express anger constructively, so your child will know how it's managed. 1. Stop the physical aggression immediately. If your child has hit you, don't let him/her hit you repeatedly. Grip their wrist firmly, and say with equal firmness, "No hitting. You do not hit me. You can be angry, but you may not hit." 2. Expect compliance. Do not let go of the wrist until you can feel the tension leave the child. If you misjudge, and they swing at you again when you let go, repeat the step above, and hold longer. Wait for him/her to relax. Repeat your words. Keep this up for as long as it takes. Be gentle, be firm, but be unyielding. 3. When they begin to relax, praise/encourage them. 4. When the child is no longer coiled to strike, praise them again. Give, and receive, a hug with the child. This is not letting them away with it. They need to know it's all right to be angry, that they can be angry, they can express it in other ways, and that they're still loved, even if they experience anger. Page 6

babyhittingface.txt 5. Quickly move on to the next thing. Remember, that just as your child has the right to expect you to treat them respectfully, you have the right to be treated respectfully by your child. If this is your consistent response, you will greatly reduce or even entirely eliminate hitting in a matter of weeks. When Your Toddler Says No Saying the word no is a necessary part of being a toddler. Kids this age are driven by the need to make their own decisions, to be autonomous, and to control their world, and the way they express these needs is through the word no. If you're the parent of a toddler, you'll hear it morning, noon, and night. Don't try to talk your little one out of it, and don't forbid it. No is not optional. Kids this age can be worked with, however. If you encourage their feelings of autonomy and power, you'll lessen the number of no's in your family. Here are a few suggestions: * Give your child choices so she feels a sense of control over her world. Apple juice or carrot juice? Would you like me to help you into your stroller, or do you want to do it yourself? * Encourage independence by letting them do things for themselves, and setting up their environment so they can. This may mean putting toys in bins, keeping cups for water on low shelves, putting stools near sinks, and generally making your home more child-friendly. Enroll your child as your assistant. Let your child be a participant in family work and she'll feel needed and powerful in her ability to help. * Don't expect your child to always be nice, and don't take her no personally. Your child is not defiant, angry, or negative-she's a toddler saying no.

When Your Toddler Throws Things Toddlers are delighted by cause-and-effect relationships. By dropping and throwing objects, your budding scientist is discovering gravity just as Sir Isaac Newton did some 300 years ago. Spoons clatter, cups crash, but Cheerios make almost no sound at all. Each of these revelations is magical to your little one. Part of his delight comes from being able to relive the discovery over and over. Here's what to keep in mind so you survive this stage: He's not acting out. Your pitcher-in-training's predilection for tossing is not an act of defiance or aggression. Sometimes it's your preverbal toddler's only means of communication. An empty sippy cup thrown on the floor could mean he's still thirsty and wants more. Become attuned to what's being thrown and you might learn to better understand his needs. You can set limits. Tell him what may and may not be thrown (balls good, food bad), and where throwing is okay, preferably outdoors and not from his high chair. Gently say "No throwing," and shake your head firmly with a serious look on your face. If he persists, tell him: "If you want to Page 7

babyhittingface.txt throw, I'll take you out of the high chair and we'll go in the backyard and play catch." Then follow through. As long as you're calm and consistent, he will learn. All toddlers will exhibit all of these inappropriate behaviors, so do not feel like you are alone. Your toddler is beginning to express himself, show independence, and experiment with limits. Your job is to redirect the behavior, and show him that these bad behaviors are not appropriate and will not be tolerated. With time, patience, and by following through your toddler will eventually outgrow this phase.

How Can We Stop Our Toddler From Hitting? Quantcast Hitting is a common problem among toddlers. However, it is important to understand why a child hits before trying to stop your toddler from hitting. Toddlers are still developing their concept of themselves and their concept of others. At that stage of development, it is difficult for a toddler to understand exactly how hitting might harm another child or another person. Often times, a hit is not made out of aggression on the part of your toddler; it is more often a way for your toddler to try to make their point, or to express themselves. In some cases, hitting is just a part of toddler experimentation with ideas about cause and effect. If he hits his sister, your toddler gets to hear her scream, for example. For other toddlers, hitting is often just the result of regular playing gone bad. Some tips to help stop your toddler from hitting include: Dont hit your child back. Generally, your toddler isnt trying to hurt his playmate. He needs to be told that the action is wrong, and if you hit your toddler back, it sends a mixed message to him that hitting is OK sometimes. Page 8

babyhittingface.txt Give her the benefit of the doubt. Again, your toddler may not be trying to misbehave. Explain that it is wrong to hit someone and offer a time out or other appropriate punishment. If your toddler is hitting to make a point or out of frustration, help him explore other options to solve the problem. If he hits a playmate that takes a toy, show him how to use words to get the toy back rather than his fist. Give him alternatives to hitting. Be aware of the signs. Your toddler will often repeat certain patterns; if you see that your toddler is getting angry or frustrated, stop him and redirect him before he gets to the hitting stage. Explain why biting is wrong. Do it simply and firmly. Look her in they eye and tell her that hitting hurts. We dont hit. Tell your friend that you are sorry. Dont reward hitting with attention. Give more attention to the child who has been hit. Toddlers are at a difficult state in their lives. They are experiencing new freedoms, independence and abilities, but they also have a strong need for security. The way that you handle hitting and other inappropriate behaviors can make the difference on whether they continue the inappropriate behavior.

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