START WITH CURIOSITY
Trauma-informed questions to help:
1) calm the body, 2) support disclosure, and
3) establish safety
Can we take a What does your
deep breath body need to do to
together? feel calm?
Can you help me What part of your
identify the side of this story
threat? has gone unheard?
Are you mostly Tell me about your
relationship with your
angry, sad, or
mom/dad... what’s that
hurt? like?
How can I
What can
help/support you
YOU do next?
in your next step?
EMPATHETIC WITNESS
Reminders to tell yourself as you enter into the
pain, suffering, and trauma of your student’s lives
I am unable to solve a I do not need to
problem that can only make a judgment
be solved at home or decision now
If he/she is in active Solidarity might be
fight or flight, he/she more important than
isn’t fully here yet solutions in the
moment
Silence is awkward Give it 30 seconds...
3 minutes...
but sometimes it’s
3 hours...
the only solution 3 days...
Apply the
Identify the active
appropriate care to
wound/threat
the wound/threat