AN ATTENTIVE LISTNER STIMULATES BETTER SPEAKING BY
THE SPEAKER. A GOOD LISTENER CAN RESTRUCTURE VAGUE SPEAKING IN A WAY THAT PRODUCES CLEARER MEANING A GOOD LISETNER LEARNS MORE THAN AN INDIFFERENT LISTENER A GOOD LISTENER LEARNS TO DETECT PREJUDICES ,ASSUMPTIONS AND ATTITUDES MINIMISES CONFUSION AND MISUNDERSTANDING
THE THREE STAGES OF LISTENING
PROCESS
STAGE 1 RECEIVING YOU TAKE IN SPEAKERS MESSAGE
THROUGH YOUR HEARING OR SEEING STAGE 2 PROCESSING-THIS ACTIVITY TAKES PLACE IN YOUR MIND AND INVOLVES ANALYSING,EVALUATING AND SYNTHESISING STAGE 3- RESPONDING-THE SPEAKER HEARS AND SEES WHAT THE LISTNER HAS LEARNED , THE SPEAKER FEELS UNDERSTOOD BY THE LISTNER .
TYPES OF LISTENING
APPRECIATIVE LISTENING- LOOKING FOR WAYS TO ACCEPT
AND APPRECIATE THE OTHER PERSON THROUGH WHAT THEY SAY. EMPHETHETIC LISTENING-SEEKING TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS FEELING COMPREHENSIVE LISTENING- LISTENING TO UNDERSTAND, SEEKING MEANING CRITICAL LISTENING-LISTENING IN ORDER TO EVALUATE,CRITICISE,OR OTHERWISE PASS JUDGEMENT ON WHAT THE PERSON IS SAYING.
TIPS FOR BEING A GOOD LISTENER
GIVE YOUR FULL ATTENTION
MAKE SURE YOUR MIND ID FOCUSED MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT AVOID JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS REACT TO IDEAS NOT TO PERSONS LET THE SPEAKER FINISH BEFORE YOU BEGIN TO TALK LISTEN TO THE MAIN IDEAS ASK QUESTIONS GIVE ACCURATE FEEDBACK
YOU ARE PREJUDICED OR BIASED YOU HAVE PRECONCIEVED IDEAS ABOUT THE SUBJECT THE SPEAKER SPEAKS RAPIDLY WITH AN ACCENT HTAT IS NOT CLEAR THE RECIEVER OF THE MESSAGE DOES NOT CONSIDER THE SPEAKER TO BE WELL INFORMED