Characteristics of a Maturing Person

prayerful and humble

morally upright: prudent, self-disciplined,
just and courageous
responsible: competent, committed,
decisive, faces consequences, penitent
loving: forgiving, compassionate, respectful,
helpful
self-sacrificing: patient, perseveres in doing
good
full of Christian hope: exerts effort for
excellence but leaves the rest to God's
mercy.
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“Ito ay isang tanong na dapat bigyan ng
importansya lalo na ito’y isang bahagi ng
buhay ng tao na magsasalarawan ng
kapayapaan o kabiguan.”
THINGS TO REMEMBER
Every human person stands
according to the strength of his
foundation. This foundation is his
family. How the parents carry on
their lives is very vital to their
children. They are the living
examples. Their children either
learn good things or bad things, or
nothing at all.
A family rooted in the true love of
husband and wife and love of God
who called them His co-creators of life,
can never fail. Thus parents can only
be loving persons, when they are able
to image God’s love for their children.
THINGS TO REMEMBER
A loving relationship between and
among family members initiated by
husband and wife and the children is
the critical factor in the growth of
every person. His healthy transition
and development from one stage of
growth to another, is largely
dependent on the climate and the
quality of relationship of the persons
who take care of him.
In short, only a “love ground” can a person
really grow in the grace of integration and
total well-being, the way Jesus did.
THINGS TO REMEMBER

 Man can never be without God. All of

his know-how, discoveries,
achievements in the sciences, in
psychology even in spirituality, are
nothing, if there is no love. If he has to
be a real image of God, then he has to
be born of, nurtured and sustained by
love
Thus, man’s final stage of development
ending in death is not the end of loving.
His entry to God’s Kingdom will be
determined by the measure of love in his
life. His final glory is to come face to face
with God who will see his image in him.
 Becoming Ready for
Marriage
A. Attaining psychological and
sociological maturity.
B. Being confident of accepting one’s
sexuality.
C. Discovering one’s attraction to
persons of the opposite sex.
D. Learning to develop true friendship
and genuine love for a particular
“someone”.
BECOMING READY FOR MARRIAGE

“It is with maturity that the person

sufficiently develops powers of the
body and mind to understand the
implications of what he or she wants.
In doing so, one calls to mind the
important and serious steps in life in
order to make necessary decisions.”
BECOMING READY FOR MARRIAGE

“It is also nice to know

beforehand the practicability and
value of the processes of finding
one’s significant other and the
requirements and arrangements
for the wedding and the
beginning of married life.”
BECOMING READY FOR MARRIAGE

“For Christians, a man and woman is

not just two persons relating to and
loving each other but becoming a
Christian man and woman loving each
other like the love of Christ for the
church and the way Jesus Christ loves
them. Thus, becoming Christian
husband and wife and to-be Christian
parents.”
FACTORS AFFECTING MATURITY:

Heredity

“What we are going to be like will be the

result of what we know about ourselves,
what we want to change and not change
in us and what can be and can’t be
altered.”
FACTORS AFFECTING MATURITY:

Environment

“We are conditioned by the people

around us.”
FACTORS AFFECTING MATURITY:

Education

“It provides opportunity to be inculcated

with the right knowledge and influence
that contribute to the correct
development of personality.”
FACTORS AFFECTING MATURITY:

The Gift of Grace

“A transformation to become a better

person.”
DIMENSIONS OF MATURE PERSON:

Financial Physical

Spiritual CHURCH Emotional

Social Intellectual
DIMENSIONS OF MATURE PERSON:
 Physical Maturity
Pituitary gland:functions to signal the significant
changes in body of a male & female in the process
of its maturity.
FEMALE SEX ORGAN: An indicator that a girl has
turned into a woman when she is already capable of
bearing a child, i.e., when her ovaries start
producing and egg/ovum (this happens once a
month).
MALE SEX ORGAN: An indicator that a boy has
already turned into a man is when he is capable of
becoming a father. This happens when his sex organ
can already produce a sperm cell to fertilize an egg
coming from the woman.
DIMENSIONS OF MATURE PERSON:

Emotional Maturity
• Ability to control feelings
• Acceptance of one’s self
• Ability to face difficult situations
calmly
• Ability to settle differences
Amicably
DIMENSIONS OF MATURE PERSON:
Intellectual Maturity
 Being dependable

 Being orderly

 Being able to undergo present difficulty

to achieve future goals
DIMENSIONS OF MATURE PERSON:
Social Maturity
 Being able to resist group pressures when you
believe you are right
 Being able to admit you were wrong
and can manage to say sorry
 Being able to keep promises
DIMENSIONS OF MATURE PERSON:
Spiritual Maturity
 Being willing to work to improve what
you can change
 Being unselfish
 Taking time regularly to think about the
meaning of life
 Setting goals that put faith in a greater
power than yourself
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How to help yourself mature
 Emotionally Intellectually
 Learn to view problems  Appreciate your good
objectively qualities

 Learn to accept criticisms  Set realistic goals & work

graciously towards them gradually

 Learn to express anger and  Be positive, think of

frustrations constructively yourself as successful

 Learn from your mistakes

and enjoy your success

 Failure is just learning

experiences
 Socially
 Learn to express
appreciation for others
 Be willing to help others
 Develop friendship where
your interest can be shared
Spiritually
 Value the sanctifying grace
you receive from the
sacraments
 Pray constantly
 Attend the Holy Mass or
religious services regularly
 Seek out friends who have
strong moral values
 Set yourself high ideals to
work for
 THINGS TO REMEMBER!!!
“EVERY ONE HAS A ROOM
FOR IMPROVEMENT. MANY
OF US STILL HAVE A LONG
WAY TO GO TOWARDS
CHRISTIAN MATURITY. WE
CANNOT HOPE TO ATTAIN
PERFECTION, BUT WE CAN
BECOME A LITTLE LESS
IMPERFECT AND YET A
LITTLE LESS PERFECT –
WORKING STEP BY STEP.”