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The Art of Listening
The Art of Listening
— Charles C.
Finn
The speaker is presenting his talk from
Constructivist perspective and his own
position and values influence his choice
of material and the way he present it. It
is neither possible nor desirable to be
value-free in such an important area of
human endeavor as education.
However, it is up to you, the listener,
to engage with the ideas
presented from
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the
country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.
They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be
considered a very poor family.
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the
trip?"
"It was great, Dad.“ "Did you see how poor people live?" the father
asked.
"Oh yeah," said the son. "So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?"
asked the father.
The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We
have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a
creek that has no end.
We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go
beyond our sight.
We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.
We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to
protect them."
The boy's father was speechless.
Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we
are."
Isn't perspective a wonderful thing?
What is Listening?
Definition
(Mehrabian, 1981).
Spoken words only account for 3 0
-3 5 % of the meaning. The rest is
transmitted through nonverbal
communication that only can be
detected through visual and
auditory listening
(Birdwhistell, 1970).
LISTENING AND SPEECH RATES
The average persontalks at a rate of
about 1 2 5 – 1 7 5 words per
minute, while we can listen at
a rate of up to 4 5 0 words per
minute
(Carver, Johnson, & Friedman, 1970).
LISTENING AND MEMORY
On average, viewers who
just watched and listened
to theeveningnews could
only recall 1 7 . 2 % of the
content when not cued,
and the cued group never
exceeded 2 5 %
(Stauffer, Frost, & Rybolt,
LISTENING AND LEADERS
Listening is tied to effective
leadership
(Bechler & Johnson, 1995;
Johnson & Bechler, 1998).
…a way of saying,
“You are important.”
Listening builds stronger
relationships
— Ralph Nichols
"Listening looks easy,
but it's not simple.
Every head is a world.“
-- Cuban Proverb
“When you listen to somebody else,
whether you like it or not, what
they say becomes part of you.”
-- David Bohm
If in all our practices of life we could learn
to listen . . . . if we could grasp what the
other persons are saying as they them-
selves understand what they are saying,
the major hostilities of life would
disappear for the simplest reason
that misunderstanding would disappear.
— Harry Overstreet
Listening means an awareness, an
openness to learning something new
about another person. Interrupting,
even for clarification, can seem to be
rude, but listening with the intent to
learn is an approach to a different type
of conversation. — Elizabeth Debold
Listening promotes being heard
Barriers to listening?
Bad/poor listening habits?
What interferes with listening?
Barriers to Listening
• Equate With Hearing • Listening for Facts
• Uninteresting Topics • Personal Concerns
• Speaker’s Delivery • Personal Bias
• External Distractions • Language/Culture
• Mentally Preparing Differences
Response • Faking Attention
• Finishing the speaker’s • Getting tuned out
sentences.
• letting your ego get in the
way.
Bad Listening Habits
• Criticizing the subject or the speaker
• Getting over-stimulated
• Listening only for facts
• Not taking notes OR outlining everything
• Tolerating or creating distraction
• Letting emotional words block message
• Wasting time difference between speed of
speech and speed of thought
Bad Listening Habits
• Pretending to pay attention when you are not
• Trying to do other things while listening
• Deciding the subject is uninteresting
• Getting distracted by the speaker’s way of speech, or other
mannerisms
• Getting over-involved and thus losing the main thread of the
arguments or thoughts
• Letting emotion-filled words arouse personal anger and
antagonism
• Concentrating on any distractions instead of what is being sai
• Avoiding anything that is complex or difficult
So Far:
•We covered the facts of listening
•Importance of listening from different perspective
through quotes of great people and proverbs
•You also know the barriers and bad habits.
• Pseudo listening: A way of "faking it" where the receiver feels obligated to
listen even though they are preoccupied unable or unwilling to at that particular time.
• Listening with Empathy: A style that teaches an individual to enter fully into
the world of the other and truly comprehend their thoughts and feelings.
• Selective Listening: A style where the listener only responds to the parts of the
message that directly interests him.
• Informational Listening: A style that is used when the listener is seeking out
specific information.
• Resist distractions.
The Poor Listener: Is distracted easily.
The Good Listener: Fights or avoids distractions; tolerates bad habits in
others; knows how to concentrate.
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