SEXUALITY

and

Courtship
Romans 12:1-2

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world (do not
conform to the pattern of this world), but let God transform
you into a new person by changing the way you think.
Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is
good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2 (MBB)

Huwag kayong makiayon sa takbo ng mundong ito.

Mag-iba kayo sa pamamagitan ng pagbabago ng
inyong pag-iisip upang maunawaan ninyo ang
kalooban ng Diyos; kung ano ang mabuti, kalugud-
lugod at ganap na kalooban niya.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual
sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in
holiness and honor— not in lustful passion like the pagans who
do not know God and his ways.

1 Tesalonica 4:3, 7-8 (MBB)

Kalooban ng Diyos na kayo'y magpakabanal at lumayo sa lahat
ng uri ng kahalayan. Tayo'y tinawag ng Diyos upang mamuhay sa
kabanalan, hindi sa kahalayan.
 8,219
SOGIE BILL
SOGIE BILL

teenagers
contract sexually
transmitted
divorce diseases

2,795 teenage girls

get pregnant
 I. THE CREATION OF SEX (Genesis 2:22-24)
What is SEX?

Sex was a gift from God to be enjoyed exclusively

within the covenant of marriage – so that He might
magnify His covenant love for His people. Sex was
meant as wonderful experience between husband
and wife to provide physical, emotional and spiritual
bonding.
I. THE CREATION OF SEX (Genesis 2:22-24)
A. God created sex.
1. God directed that sex to stay within
the context of marriage.
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by everyone. And every marriage
should be kept pure between husband and wife. God will judge
guilty those who commit sexual sins and adultery.
 I. THE CREATION OF SEX (Genesis 2:22-24)
A. God created sex.
2. Sex is good; it’s not shameful or
gross.
Genesis 2:25
Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no
shame.
I. THE CREATION OF SEX (Genesis 2:22-24)
B. But Satan has perverted sex…
1. Outside marriage, sex is a sin.
(1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

Pre-marital sex is a hostile to God.

It’s a sin to God.
 “The human heart has an uncanny ability to
rationalize the evil it penetrates.”

To rationalize means: to justify, to explain one’s

own or another behavior with logical, believable
reasons, even if these are not true or appropriate.
I. THE CREATION OF SEX (Genesis 2:22-24)
B. But Satan has perverted sex…
2. Lust, pornography and masturbation
are sexual sins (Matt 5:27-28).
Ephesians 5:3-4
“But among you there must not be even a hint of
sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of
greed, because these are improper for God’s holy
people.”
 Sexual Immorality comes from the greek word “porneia”
(it’s where the word pornography derives) that means any
sexual activity outside of marriage is wrong from God’s
perspectives.

Efeso 5:4 (MBB)

Huwag din kayong gagamit ng anumang malaswa o walang
kabuluhang pananalita at pagbibirong di nararapat. Sa
halip, magpasalamat kayo sa Diyos.
Lust is a sinful longing; the inward sin which leads to the
falling away from God. It came from the word ‘sheriruth’
that means “evil imagination”, strong desire of sinful
pleasure.

Lust of the flesh - The lust of the flesh is that temptation to

feel physical (bodily) pleasure from some sinful activity—
to do something to make the flesh feel satisfied.
Lust of the eyes - The lust of the eyes is that temptation to
look upon things we shouldn’t look upon, or to have
things that we shouldn’t have.
Lust is both sinful and serious offense to God. And lust can
lead to sin that leads to death.

Santiago 1:14-15

Natutukso ang tao kapag siya'y naaakit at nagpapatangay

sa kanyang sariling pagnanasa. At ang pagnanasa kapag
naitanim sa puso ay nagbubunga ng kasalanan; at ang
kasalanan, sa hustong gulang ay nagbubunga ng
kamatayan.
Masturbation is also a sin. Masturbation outside of marital
relations commonly is sinful, being often accompanied by
wrong lustful thoughts, such as when
viewing pornography.

“Sexual sin like a great fire that begins with a spark, and if
left unchecked, devours everything in its path.” It gives
birth to a sin. Sin after another, until total blinded and
deceived.”
II. CONSEQUENCES OF SEXUAL SIN
1. Soul Ties (Matthew 19:4-6; 1 Corinthians 6:16)
‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and the two will become one
flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

Soul tie is a blessing for married couple but a destruction

for those who are having ungodly relationships with a
person.
II. CONSEQUENCES OF SEXUAL SIN
2. Pregnancy, abortion (murder)
3. Physical diseases
4. The wrath and judgment of God
(Rom 1:18, 24, 26-28; Heb 13:14)
It puts him under a curse! We can deduce from this that
sexual immorality, that is, sex outside of marriage (including
sex during the engagement period) begins the following
marriage under a curse.
III. PURITY: HOW TO CONTROL YOUR SEXUALITY
1. Repent (Eph 4:17-19)
2. Be Holy (1 Peter 1:13-16)
3. For those married, fulfill your marital
duties (1 Corinthians 7:2-5)
4. Avoid temptation (Proverbs 4:23-27)
5. Fall passionately in love with Jesus
I. DATING IS NOT DIRECTED BY GOD

1.
A large part of dating is flirting.
The object of flirting is to create a romantic
attachment with other person with no serious
intent on your part.
I. DATING IS NOT DIRECTED BY GOD

2.
Dating creates an artificial relationship.
Each person is trying so hard to impress
the other person.
I. DATING IS NOT DIRECTED BY GOD

3.
Dating often leads to intimacy.

Oftentimes, dating leads to sinning and committing

sexual sins.
 II. WHAT IS COURTSHIP?

Courtship is a relationship between a man

and a woman in which they seek to
determine if it is God’s will for them to marry
each other.
II. DATING VS COURTSHIP
DATING
Physical attraction prioritized.
Self-centered approach
(self-pleasure)
Casual
Can be done for fun
Can be casual and one-time
thing
COURTSHIP
Spiritual attraction prioritized.
(1 Tim 2:9-10,1 Peter 2:1-4)
God-centered approach.
(God’s pleasure) (Rom 6:11)
Purposeful, intentional and
eternal.
Was done with the purpose of
finding a spouse
Was official and involved the
parents
II. DATING VS COURTSHIP
DATING
Is done before a couple starts a
relationship
Can be dating more than one person
Can lead to confusion
May lead to unguarded physical
intimacy
Simply interested in “hanging out” or
“spending time”
“How can I find the one who will make
me happy?
Might end up in frustrations and
heartaches
COURTSHIP
Is done before becoming officially engaged
Committed to one person only
Provides clarity
Promotes self-control and purity
With sense of responsibility and sense of
readiness for marriage
How can I honor God and discern His
direction regarding my life partner?
Yes or No- still the courtship has not failed.
III. When am I ready for Christian Courtship?

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 reminds us that "to everything

there is a season, and a time to every purpose
under heaven...a time to embrace, and a time to
refrain from embracing...a time to love, and a time
to hate" There is a special beauty when Gods
timing is followed.
III. When am I ready for Christian Courtship?
Though it’s hard to put an age limit on when to begin Christian
courtship, it is useful to follow the following criteria:
1. Intention to get married.
2. Compatibility of faith and life
3. Parental consent
4. Mature Character
5. Financial responsibility
6. Who recognize their gift for marriage
IV. HOW DO I FIND THE RIGHT ONE?
1. You cannot be in a relationship with an unsaved person
2. Trust God that your mate will come from within the church
(Genesis 24:3-4)
3. God will bring the right one to you in His timing
4. Ask God to confirm the right one.
5. Don’t look for what you want. Instead, desire the will of God
above your own.
6. God knows what’s best for you. He desires to give you His best.
7. If you seek God and His will first, he’ll bring the one you will
truly love
 CONCLUSION
There are sexual sins in your lives that you need to
repent of and be delivered from. There may be hurts
in your life because of sexual or emotional scars in
the past. These are called “soul ties” and must be
broken. Jesus can heal you and set you free. Submit
your life to God and the devil will flee. Don’t keep
anything from Him. Give your passions and desires to
the Lord.