Looking for the

Significant Other
Group 1
Balagat, Rikki Shaine
Bautista, Janine Bernadette C.
Castro, Erika Mae
Gonzales, Keith
Luyun, Kristin Maye
Pondevida, Genevieve
Punzalan, Ma. Angel
Visaya, Alyssa Fatima A.
Introducti
on
What to
expect in a
prospective
lifetime
partner?
 Incidental
Factors

1. Geographical and residential

propinquity
2. Homogamy
3. Sharing of similar cultural values
 Other Factors

1. Peer, family, cultural pressures,

together
2. The only path of action to get out of
an unpleasant situation
3. Marriage as a solution to neurotic
problems
 Real Criteria for the
Choice (Garcia, 1990)

Qualities that attract a woman to a man and vice versa:

Physical Psychological Ethical Religious

Qualities Qualities Qualities Qualities
Dating and
Courtship
 Datin
g

Fr. Excelso Garcia O.P., in his book, Your Way To

Marriage defines dating as:

“The occasional spending of time together by

a boy and a girl for the purpose of
companionship, of getting acquainted, and for
some kind of entertainment, usually without
any intention of marriage.”
Datin
g

So what does it
mean to be dating
somebody?
 Datin
g

If you can check these off your list, you are, in fact, dating someone:
 You like someone and you’re trying to get to know them better.
 You’re spending time with a person (or persons) in hopes of finding a
committed relationship.
 You can see yourself settling down (or at least entertain the idea) with
the person or persons you see regularly.
 Functions of
Dating

Adolescents who have fun

and enjoy each other’s
company are dating as a
form of recreation. Other
regard it as a means of
gaining status or prestige.
In this case the dating
game functions as status
seeking
 Functions of
Dating

In this last case dating

functions as socialization.
Dating involves getting to
know each other better
and serves as an
opportunity to establish a
unique, meaningful,
relationship with a person
of the opposite sex.
 Kinds of
Dating

Friendship Dating
A group of two or more
friends hanging out with no
intentions of
any romantic feelings coming
into play. They do things such
as eat lunch dinner, hang out,
watch movies, etc.
 Kinds of
Dating

Random Dating or Casual Dating

is sought only for
recreational purposes; it serves
only to tide one over between
relationship, and usually there is
no intention of marriage.
 Kinds of
Dating

Group Dating
is where several girls
and boys, usually in
pairs, go to party, picnic,
movie or just “drive
around”.
 Kinds of
Dating

Double Dating
may include two couples,
usually friends of one or both of the
other party in which the presence of
the other pair provide some mutual
security in keeping their activities
friendly and within in the bounds of
decorum and enables the sharing of
unfamiliar (and often scary)
situations.
 Courtship

 Preparation for marriage

 “Getting to know” stage
 Human relationship
developed through
different and gradual
stages
Courtship

Marriage is the
visualized goal and
destination of
courtship.
Role of
Parents
 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship
TRADITIONAL PATTERN MODERN COURTSHIP

Man visits woman at home Man is calling up woman

 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship

Traditional Pattern Modern Courtship

Women were not allowed Women can call men and

to call on men ask them for a date
 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship
Traditional Pattern Modern Courtship

Serenading is a popular Serenading was out of

means for men to date
express his feelings
 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship

Traditional Pattern Modern Courtship

Long letters were long and “Like” is often used than

colorful “love” and the language is
more direct
 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship

Traditional Pattern Modern Courtship

Dates required parental Dates happened without

consent and chaperons the knowledge of the
were indispensable parents
 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship

Traditional Pattern Modern Courtship

Date destinations were Date destinations were

picnics, church, etc. malls, bars, etc.
 Traditional Pattern vs. Modern
Courtship

Traditional Pattern Modern Courtship

Dates were serious Date is merely meeting

people
Other Requisites of Courtship

Courtship
prepares couples
for a holy and
happy marriage.
Other Requisites of Courtship

Openness and
sincerity is
essential.
Other Requisites of Courtship

Mutual
Understanding
Other Requisites of Courtship

Know how to
express affection
in a dignified way
Other Requisites of Courtship

Determine
whether you truly
love each other.
Other Requisites of Courtship

Decide matters if
they want to
pursue marriage
Engagement
Engagement
means that the man
has proposed or asked
the woman to marry
him and she has given
him an affirmative
answer.
 Purpose of Engagement

1. Period to discover 2. The preparation for

and study the couple’s marriage, which needs
comparability with time.
each other.
 2 Kinds of Engagement

Informal Engagement
is where a mutual
verbal agreement is made by
man and woman and they
continue to examine their
feelings for each other, to be
better acquainted and to
discover areas of
comparability.
 2 Kinds of Engagement

Formal Engagement or Betrothal

is usually executed in
writing in the form of quasi-
judicial contract, signed by both
parents and the parish priest or
witnesses; usually a formal party
is held in either the bride or the
groom’s house. The
announcement is made public in
this kind of engagement.
 What is the length of time for
engagement?

It varies depending on
the couple or their families.
A period of from six months
to one year is enough for
them to be able to prepare
for their wedding and settle
whatever problems that may
affect their marriage.
Important Matters to Settle During the
Engagement

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