The Sacrament of

Matrimony 1
Bro. Jeffrey H. Perez
EMHC/FLA/LPT
 Christian Marriage—
”Intimate Union of two
Mature Persons of
opposite sex vivified by
dialogue sealed
by/with/thru/in/for
Christ”
 Christian Marriage—
”Intimate
(asADJ.)
”
involves the (as Verb) to
inner most of relate, narrate,
ones being to reveal hence
it involves
Man’s both
internal and
external
elements
 Christian Marriage—
Not just a
”Union”
simple co-
existence or An interaction
co-habitation of its
components
that causes a
change in them
to form….
New Being
When one element refuses to change –No UNION
 Christian Marriage—
“Two Mature Persons”
Only Mature
Person are able to
respond
adequately to
changing
situation
(Natural,
Social,Religious)

Atubangon ang problema

dili mudagan—Only
Mature Person can LOVE!
Christian Marriage—
”of Opposite sex”
Christian Marriage—
”of Opposite sex”
Christian Marriage—
”vivified ”
Made
Alive!!
Christian Marriage—
”vivified by dialogue”
Verbal and
Non-Verbal Feelings

“I "Message

Communicating
self in all levels—
 Christian Marriage
“Sealed ”
Made genuine by contract
Formal by ceremony
Lasting by VOW
Exclusively by Originality
Christian Marriage
“by/with/thru/in/for
Christ”

…To grow up in Life

…to grow up in Love
Christian Marriage
“Liturgy”
…Babaye ug
…Christ lalake
Matured
Person

…It takes Three(3) to

Marry—Couple and
Christ
 Secondary purpose of
Marriage
• Is to beget and Educate Children
 Secondary purpose of
Marriage
A.Fertility Control

1.To produce—
Inventions should
facilitate not
contradict
Nature.
 Secondary purpose of
Marriage
A.Fertility Control

1.To prevent—
a) Natural
(BBT,Natural)
b) Artificial
(Sinful)
 Secondary purpose of
Marriage
A.Abortion

a) Accidental—
Not sinful
b) Therapeutical
c) Intentional
(Mortal Sin
 Symbols Used in Wedding
Ceremonies
A.Ring– Eternity
B.Array—Common Property
C.Veil—Differences in personality
D.Cord—Fidelity
E. Candle-Christ
F. Bouquet-Fertility
 Christian Marriage
Ang
“Blessings” Below
18yo
Lalake
needs
mangayo
Parents
ug blessing
consent,
sa
above 25
Ginikanan
yo no
sa
need
Babaye
 Christian Marriage
“Entourage”

Ang Entourage iapil ug blessing sa Pari

para ma BEC pud ang bag-ong kasal
 Christian Marriage
“Entourage”

Ang Bag-ong kasal iintroduce sa BEC sa

Baranggay Level nga maoy entry point.
Christian Marriage
“Parents”

Ang mga Ginikanan maoy immediate

support sa bag-ong kinasal apan “at a
distance ra sila makabuot”.
 Christian Marriage
“Newly Weds and Parents”

Parents please“Let them walk and let

them make a story of their own lives”.
 Christian Marriage
“Sponsors”

Sponsors “Guide them but still Let

them walk and let them make a story
of their own lives”.
 Christian Marriage
“Brides maids”

“Not for socio-cultural ,for selfie only

or pageantry dapat mu-assist jud
unta sa kinhanglanun sa Kaslunon”.
Christian Marriage
“Signing”

“Ang kaslon nga nakapirma na,

nagpasabot naa na siyay misson sa
Kinabuhi”.
 Christian Marriage
“Candle”

“Ang pagdagkot sa Kandila buhaton kini

before sa Liturgy of the Word”.
 Christian Marriage
“Paschal Candle”

“Ang Bag-ong magti-ayon mudagkot sa

Paschal candle representing Christ
magsugod dire ilang bag-ong kinabuhi”.
Christian Marriage
“Paschal Candle”
“Ang Paschal
Candle nagrepresent
ni Kristo—si Kristo
anaa sa kasing-
kasing sa tawo so
SACRAMENT plus
WORD equals
Grasya sa
SIMBAHAN”.
Christian Marriage
“Baptismal Candle”
“Ang Babaye ug Lalake
magdala sa ilang
Baptismal Candle ug
mudagkot ngadto sa
Paschal Candle ug
mubalik sa ilang
gilingkuran pagngon
ang Candle—this means
this is the end of our
SINGLE Life”.
Christian Marriage
“Unity Candles”
“Ang duha ka kandila
nga Baptismal Candle
pagatawgon na ug
Unity Candles ,
dagkotan ni sa Bag-ong
Magtiayon symbolizing
Christ Presence in their
lives and the Union of
their two Families”.
 Christian Marriage
“Priest”

“Ang Pari representing Kingship---Service to

the Community (BEC) so that we will have a
Priestly,Kingly and Prophetic People karon
ERODED na wa na tay seminar sa bridesmaid
ug sponsor.
 Christian Marriage
“Priest”

“Itugot Ginoo nga kami mahi-usa sa kasing-

kasing ug huna huna bisag unsay mahitabo
hangtud ang kamatayon maoy mubulag
kanamo”
 Christian Marriage
“Ring(Eternity)”

“Isul-ob kining Sing-sing timaan nga ako

maoy tag iya sa imong kinabuhi (External
love ) Kinabuhi akong gihatag kanimo”
 Christian Marriage
“Ring(Eternity)”

“Made of Gold , platinum or Silver symbolizes

Everlasting Love and Fidelity of the spouses”
 Christian Marriage
“Arrhae/Aras”

“Common Property—Ako maghatag kanimo

niining aras (ihatag tanan way itago) ug ang
Babaye mutubag “ug akong dawaton”
meaning with all Honesty”
 Christian Marriage
“Veil/Belo”

“Ulo sa Babaye ug abaga sa lalake to show

Opposite Sex this means also New Life”
 Christian Marriage
“MarriageVeil/Belo”

“The Bride reserves her beauty exclusively

for her husband”
 Christian Marriage
“Cord”

“Nganong i-Otso?– This means Faithfulness sa

usag -usa—Fidelity --Responsibilities should be
carried together”
 Christian Marriage
“Bouquet”

“Fertility sa Babaye—dad-on ni kang Mama

Mary aron mablessingan imong pagka
inahan replica ang iitsa”
 Christian Marriage
“Blessing (After)”

“Human sa Kasal ang babaye managayo ug

blessing sa ginikanan sa Lalake aron
madawat ang panalangin”
 Christian Marriage
“Home Liturgy”

“Rice-Abundance—Sudlay—Hapsay nga
pagpuyo, Water is Life Treasure Box mao ni
butangan sa Belo ug Candle”
 Christian Marriage
“Paschal Candle”

“Ang Paschal Candle hipuson ug dagkutan

kada Anniversary—naa si Christ He is the
strength when we are down”.
 Christian Marriage
“Garter”

“Myth ra ni siya para ni equal sila –sa una ang

bag-ong magti-ayon muhatag ug mga gamit sa
Simbahan ug Kumbento sama sa Kutsara ,Tinidor
Sounds para magamit sa BEC sa karon wa nay
effort buotan ra ta ani kung Biernes Santo”.
 Christian Marriage
“Garter”

“Bisag Myth ni siya , symbol ni of Modesty usually

this is color Blue in association with the Virgin
Mary with reference to an Ancient Nuptial
Rhyme that every Bride should wear “ Something
old, something new, something Borrowed,
something blue with a sixpence on your shoe”.
 Christian Marriage
“Wedding Cake”

“A custom inherited by
Ancient Romans
symbolizes Prosperity
and Fortunes,
Originally it was made
of seeds and grains to
signify Fertility”.
 Christian Marriage
“White Doves”

“Are symbol of purity and Innocence as well as

sign of peace being announce to the World”.
 Myths in Marriages
“Stronger Sex Myth”

“A belief that Man is stronger sex leads husband to

over assert and wives to recoil----The TRUTH is the
opposite—it is only a socio –cultural invention”.
 Myths in Marriages
“Decision Maker Myth”

“A belief that the husband should have the last say-

--the fact is it is a community affair”.—if Husband
decides he is a Lion of wife only decides Shes a
Tiger
 Myths in Marriages
“Manism/HE/She Myth”

“Don’t make me a sissy” “Don’t make me a tomboy

attitude
 Myths in Marriages
“End of Courtship Myth”

“End of the desires to attract little courtesies—this

can dullen communication—Death of Love
 Myths in Marriages
“Discipline Myth”

“Scolding physical punishment (fear) to correct—

Facts better let the child understand(Love) by both
not just either Father or Mother.
 Myths in Marriages
“My Bluebirds of happiness
Myth”

“But my dear this is my Happiness” attitude Fact:

Both promised to be together—for better or for
worse
 Christian Marriage
“Sacrament of Matrimony”

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