RKGS 2020 (PARENTING)

SECTION 2
INSTRUCTOR: MDM NORASIAH JUSOH

TOPIC:
“DILEMMA OF WORKING MOTHER”

MEMBERS: FARRAH WAHEEDAH BT SABRI (0431750)

FARAH WAHIDA BT MIOR YUSUP (0431610)
INTAN NADIAH BT MUHD.YUSOP (0439558)
RUGAIYA BT AHMAD (0433858)
ENAWATI TIANSEN (0411026)
LILIS DIANA ZAINAL ABIDIN (0416656)
 Roles of wife in the 21st century:

 Career women with married status

 Complete Homemaker
 Career women with single parent status by
choice
 Multiple roles of career and married women:

 Mother
 Wife
 Career
 Impacts of career woman on family units:
Positive impacts:
The impact of career on families has its strengths and
weaknesses. The following are the positive effects of
career on families:

 Trains child to be independent and enhances cognitive

maturity
 Reduce financial constraints in family
 Sharing and shouldering of parenting responsibility between
spouses
 Strengthening of spousal relationships
 Effective time management skills by working mothers
 Quality time and affordable child care program
 Impacts of career woman on family units:
Negative impacts:

 Child neglected
 Strained spousal relationships
 Breakdown in family communication
 Bad time management
 Separation and divorce
 Role-overload ( The extent to which an individual is
not able to psychologically handle the number of
roles and tasks assigned)
 Lets look this situation!
When Monisha quit her job to be with her
children, she missed work, and now that
she's rejoined work, she wonders if she's
neglecting her kids.

What do you think happened to Monisha?

Is she facing the role-overload?
 To work or not? A dilemma for many moms

Many mothers are torn between their jobs

and staying home with the children.

Dr. Gail Saltz has advice on making a

decision
 Q: I’m toying with the idea of quitting my job and becoming a
stay-at-home mom. How do I decide?

 A: This is a decision very few women — or men, for that

matter — are comfortable making. Adding to their confusion,
there’s no lack of “experts” to tell them which is better. (In
addition, of course, many parents, for financial reasons, have
no choice but to work.)

 In the final analysis, it’s an individual choice. It should be

based on what’s best for you and your family.
A couple or three guidelines before getting to some more nitty
gritty issues:
 Avoid decisions based on other people’s “shoulds.” A mother
feeling obligated to stay home “for the sake of the children”
won’t be an ideal parental presence. (Conversely, a mother
tortured over spending the workday away from her children
won’t be a great employee.)
 Beware of unrealistic expectations. When things get rocky,
stay-at-home mothers sometimes feel like failures, while
mothers in the office feel guilty. Parenthood is not a smooth
ride, no matter what you do or don’t do.
 Remember, your decision is not written in stone. You can
change your mind later — and revise it as your children grow.
Women should not feel locked into their decisions but rather
should view their roles in life as changing and evolving. This
could, of course, involve doing part-time work.
 Women in the Qur’an and Sunnah:

In Islam there is absolutely no difference between

men and women as far as their relationship to
Allah is concerned, as both are promised the same
reward for good conduct and the same punishment
for evil conduct. The Qur'an says:

“And for women are rights over men similar to

those of men over women.” (2:226)
The Prophet of Islam (peace be upon him) said:
"Women are the twin halves of men."

The Qur'an emphasizes the essential unity of men and

women in a most beautiful simile:
“They (your wives) are your garment and you are a
garment for them”. (2:187)
 SOLUTIONS
 Work in the house
 Shift work
 Part-time work
 Choose less competitive occupation