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BY MEGHA CHAUDHARY
OVERVIEW
Specific purpose ‘PUTRATHE KRIYATE BHARYA’ meaning a man takes a wife to beget sons
Agrarian society – man considered to be more useful
Scriptures : only son can offer sustenance ;spiritual salvation
Eg 1.poet Michael Madhusudan Dutta's father 2.Bipinchadra pal’s father
Memoirs of a Brahmo lady
A mother of a son was valued by husband
While polygamy was not widely practiced ;Taking a second wife to give birth to a son
importance of extended family
E.g. Bankim’s heroin Debi chudhrani and Tagore's essay mentioning about Uma
Ideal bride ;earned praise of husband’s family
To learn to subject to extended family ; girls married early
Motives behind child marriage –feminine sexuality and anxiety to control it
Male domination
Manusmriti conduct of Brahmins
Man considered to be lord
These norms not conspicuous in Bengali (medieval literature)
A set passage in Panchali describing dissatisfaction of wives
Example of Bidyasundar and Sakta tradition
Critics- women under authority of men
Phenomena of kulinism
Abode of misery
Memoir of NISTARINI DEBI: throws unusual light on the emotive effects of
kulin polygamy
She describes her incidence of meeting a co wife after which the co wife
broke down to tears after hearing the new of the death of their husband by
Nistarini Debi
Memoirs written by men on marital
experiences
Were quite explicit
Represented image of marital happiness
DEWAN KARTIKEYA writes about intense emotional attachment which wives
felt for their husband
PANDIT GIRISH BIDYARATNA described his married life with joy
But on contrary PRASANNAMAY mentions advice given by an uncle to his
nephew (comparing dead wife to a pair of slippers)
TRANTICISM AND MYSTICAL RIGHTS
Bhairavi chakra and sects like kartabhajas
Immorality had more surreptitious outlets
HOMOSEXUALITY –unmentioned in Bengali culture
Exceptions –RADHAKANTA DEV’S famous letter
Changes….
Changes traceable to various facets of the colonial encounter began to modify the
attitudes conduct and emotive effects associated with man and woman
relationship
Modalities discussed so far can be judged and changed very slowly
First indication of changes in the attitude ;found in life of hindu college
Bishop Heber response of Raja Radhakant Deb
K.M Banerji left Hindu fold
D Mukherji marries a widow maharani of burdwan
Poet Madhusudan denied marrying a little girl selected by his parents
But still vast majority adhered to inherited practices
(tagore family accepted teenage bride)
Rational skepticism a factor which induced rejection of tradition
The agenda for social reforms in 19th century Bengal derived partly from mood pf introspection informed by new
sensibilities
Western romantic literature had major impact on aesthetic sensibilities of western educated Bengalis in the area of
relationship between men and women
Brahmo enthusiast and preachers introduced new dimensions in their marriage :wife expected to be a companion
Education system for women
Purdah became a major issue; breaking all odds Satyen Tagore taking out her wife in open carriage
Women in public spaces ;great issue
Nabin Sen's memoirs: pattern of social conduct among functionaries in Bengal
Quest for consensual marriage
Change in the age of marriage ;1920s;12 years
Romantic love was a persuasive theme in Bengali literature (1860s onwards)
Prostitution flourished
Many more intellectual and emotional changes started bourgeoning
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