Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Skills
UKWF Conference
Fall 2008
Developing Assertiveness Skills
Understand your real contributions to the team.
Describe communication styles that sabotage a
confident image.
Describe non-verbal communication that sabotage a
confident image.
Assert yourself through use of language.
Accept praise graciously
Develop strategies to build a positive self-image.
Participate positively in performance reviews
Assertiveness Quiz
1. Do you buy things you do not want because you are afraid to say no to the salesperson?
2. When you do not understand the meaning of a word, do you ask about it?
3. Do you feel responsible when things go wrong, even if it is not your fault?
Tag Lines
A tag is a short question added to the end of a statement or a command. Tags weaken your statements
because they admit doubt. Here are a couple of examples.
“This is the best proposal, isn’t it?” OR “That’s a good idea, don’t you think?”
Saying “No” Nicely
When you are confident and positive, you say no without being hostile/ negative.
You have alternatives when you want to resist pleasantly.
“Thank you.”
“I couldn’t have done it without your cooperation and support.”
Participating Positively At Your
Next Performance Review
Prepare for the review by collecting evidence about your accomplishments/goals
Collect your thoughts and write out what you want to make sure gets recognized in the
conversation.
Plan how you will introduce your accomplishments gracefully. Practice saying it out loud.
Use positive visualization. Expect a great session. Assume that you will get feedback
that will compliment you and help you improve.
Use positive body language to show your leader you are engaged in the process and
enthusiastic about your job and how to do it better.
Take every compliment given warmly. Accept credit without deflecting it. Don’t make
your leader wonder if it was wrong to give you the credit in the first place.
Accept constructive feedback with an open mind and ask questions that clarify and help
you improve.
Shine
What does it take to shine?
Be enthusiastic.
Vitality and energy attracts people. It encourages your leaders to give you opportunities.