LCDM – Love, Courtship,

Dating and Marriage

PTR. JOFREY R. CAMPOS

WORD SEIZE
• Q. Is it possible to love a person without
liking that person?
• A. Yes. The Bible tells us that God’s will is for
us to love other people with godly love. (Luke
10:27 – “love your neighbor as yourself.”
• Q. What is the difference between dating and
courting?
• A. Courtship will not spend any time together
unless family members (parents) acknowledge
the relationship – courting is a point to see if
the other person is a suitable potential
partner.
• A. Christians see dating as little more than
friendship and maintain the friendship aspect
under both are ready to commit to a marriage
– during this time there should be little or no
physical contact.
• Q. How young is too young to be in a
romantic relationship?
• A. Relationship requires maturity – there are
people who are old enough, yet highly
immature.
• Being in a relationship puts one in almost
constant temptation.
• Q. Is it possible to marry the wrong person?
• A. Yes, it is possible, in a time of disobedience
to marry someone whom He did not desire
you to marry.
• Even if a marriage was not God’s desire, it is
still within His will and plan – God hates
separation (divorce).
• “I married the wrong person and will never be
happy unless I find my true soul mate” – is
disastrous!
• Q. How can I overcome feelings of rejection?
• A. We are prone to disappointment and
feelings of rejection especially after broken
relationship. However, God can bring us
comfort – rejection / disappointment does
not mean your unlovable, instead God is
framing someone that you deserve best!
• Q. What is an appropriate level of intimacy
before marriage?
• A. If there is any doubt whatsoever whether
an activity is right for an unmarried couple – it
should be avoided (Rom. 14:23).
• Any and all sexual and pre-sexual activity
should be restricted to married couples.
• Q. Should I date anyone? Anyway, it’s just a
date.
• A. No! Your friends will make or break you. (1
Cor. 15:33 – Do not be fooled. “Bad
companions ruin good character.”)
• Q. Should I follow the trending of young
men/women today?
• A. No! Be an example. (1 Tim. 4:12 – Do not
let anyone look down on you because you are
young, but be an example . . . In your speech,
your conduct, your love, faith, and purity.)
• Q. Should I give in to the sexual desire of my
boyfriend/girlfriend considering that were
not yet marry?
• A. No! Temptation is avoidable. 1 Cor. 10;13 –
“. . . God keeps his promise, and he will not
allow you to be tested beyond your power to
remain firm; at the time you are put to the
test, he will give you the strength to endure
it.”
• Q. Should I allow others to hold/touch my
body with sexual desire?
• A. No! Honor God with your body. (1 Cor. 6:19-
20 – “Don’t you know that your body is the
temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you . . .
So use your bodies for God’s glory.”)
• Q. Should I read or watch phonographic
magazine or film?
• A. No. Please avoid! (Phil. 4:8 – “. . . Fill your
minds with those things that are good and
that deserve praise: things that are true,
noble, right, pure, lovely, and honorable.)
 TRUE OR FALSE
• There is no problem with having sex with
someone you plan to marry.
• FALSE
• Kissing can lead to further sexual activity.
• TRUE
• The movies magazines, Web sites, and books
you consume can directly affect your sexual
purity.
• TRUE
• Remaining abstinent helps you have a clear
conscience before God.
• TRUE
• You can do anything in a dating relationship
except sexual intercourse and still be sexually
pure.
• FALSE
• Remaining sexually pure is God’s plan for your
life.
• TRUE
• Everyone is having sex.
• FALSE
• It is impossible for teenagers to remain pure
in the 21st century.
• FALSE
• If you never have sex but you look at
pornography, you have remained sexually
pure.
• FALSE
• If you already had sex, you can never be
sexually pure; you might as well give up.
• FALSE
Imagine that you are about to date
your ultimate person . . .
One day while discussing life, this
person reveals that he/she is
sexually active . . .

As the conversation continues,

he/she expresses a desire to have
sex with you.
• What is your response?

• How does that change

your opinion of
him/her?
• Not just that . . .
• Finally, he/she explains that there is
something you should know . . .
• He/she reveals a hidden secret . . .
• He/she tells you he/she has a sexually
transmitted disease.

• THIS IS YOUR ULTIMATE DATE ! ! !

Imagine that you are dating your
ultimate date . . .
You are dating your ultimate date . . .
During the discussion one day, you
find out this person had made a
commitment to sexual purity . . .

After talking further, you reveal to

him/her that you are sexually active.
• After talking further, you reveal to
him/her that you are sexually active . . .

• What , if anything, has changed?

• Jesus Christ designed you to be more
than an ultimate date . . .
• He intends you to be someone’s
ultimate mate.
• Keeping your self pure for that special
person is a difficult calling, but no one
should risk God’s best in life for
momentary pleasures that have a
lifelong impact.
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