He’s A Stud, She’s A Slut and 49

Other Double Standards Every

Woman Should Know
Summary and Research

Warning: This presentation

includes slut shaming, fat
shaming, and self-harm threats.
Please view at your discretion
KYLIE NEGLEY
 Summary
TITLE: “HE’S A STUD, SHE’S A SLUT AND 49 OTHER DOUBLE
STANDARDS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW”
AUTHOR: JESSICA VALENTI

THE BOOK WAS WRITTEN IN AN INFORMATIVE STYLE THAT OUTLINES

50 DIFFERENT DOUBLE STANDARDS THAT WOMEN MUST DEAL WITH
IN THEIR LIVES. THOUGH THE LIST IS NOT EXHAUSTIVE, IT IS VERY
THOUGHT PROVOKING.
JESSICA VALENTI EXPLAINS THE DOUBLE STANDARD, WHY IT IS SO
ANNOYING TO DEAL WITH, AND WHAT TO DO IN ORDER TO HELP
FIGHT BACK AT IT.
SHE DOES THIS ALL WITH THE HELP OF SATIRE AND HUMOR.
All 50 Double Standards
IN ORDER TO NOT OVERWHELM VIEWERS WITH A SYNOPSIS OF ALL THE STANDARDS EXPLAINED
IN THE BOOK, I WILL JUST FOCUS ON A FEW. HOWEVER, LISTED BELOW ARE ALL 50 IN THE BOOK
He’s Chill, She’s on the Pill
WOMEN OVERSEE MAKING SURE THAT SAFE SEX IS BEING PRACTICED. THEY ARE
EXPECTED TO TAKE BIRTH CONTROL DAILY WHEN MEN ONLY HAVE TO WORRY
ABOUT REMEMBERING THE CONDOMS.
BIRTH CONTROL IS ALSO RIDICULOUSLY OVERPRICED, AND IT IS NOT UNCOMMON
FOR INSURANCES NOT TO COVER IT. THIS IS IF WOMEN ARE ABLE TO JUMP THROUGH
THE HOOPS THAT ARE IN PLACE BEFORE BEING PUT ON IT.
WHAT TO DO? MAKE SURE YOUR PARTNER IS BEING JUST AS PROACTIVE AS YOU ARE
WHEN IT COMES TO SAFE SEX.
He’s Manly, She’s Sasquatch
IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME, SHAVING DAY IS LITERALLY THE WORST DAY OF THE
WEEK. THE FIRST RAZOR COMMERCIAL WAS IN 1915 AND EVER SINCE, WOMEN HAVE
BEEN EXPECTED TO BE HAIR FREE WHILE MEN CAN BE AS HAIRY AS THEY WANT. A MAN
CAN HAVE A BEARD TO HIS CHEST THAT LOOKS LIKE PUBIC HAIR BUT IF A WOMAN
MISSES A SPOT ON HER LEG OR LETS HER ARMPIT HAIR GROW EVEN JUST A LITTLE, SHE
MUST BE DIRTY.
WHAT TO DO? RETHINK THE HAIR-AS-DIRTY PARADIGM AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST
WHETHER YOU ARE SILKY SMOOTH OR AS HAIRY AS A MAN!
He’s Fondling, She’s Feeding
WHILE THIS MIGHT NOT BE A COMPLETE DOUBLE STANDARD, IT DOES OUTLINE THE
VIEWPOINTS MEN HAVE OF WOMEN’S BREASTS. MEN LOOK AT BREASTS AS SEXUAL OBJECTS
WHEN THEIR TRUE JOB IS TO FEED BABIES.
PEOPLE LOOK AT PUBLIC BREAST FEEDING AS A LACK OF PLANNING. SOME PEOPLE EVEN
THINK THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT FEED THEIR BABIES INFRONT OF THEIR PARTNERS
BECAUSE THEN THE MAN WILL SEE HER AS A MOTHER, NOT A SEX OBJECT, AND IT MIGHT
TURN HIM OFF.
WHAT TO DO? IT’S HARD TO SAY, THE BEST ADVICE VALENTI HAD WAS TO SPREAD
INFORMATION ABOUT THE POSITIVES OF BREAST FEEDING AND TO REMIND WOMEN TO NOT
LET MEN THINK THEIR CHEST IS SOME SORT OF PUBLIC COMMODITY.
Research
DOUBLE STANDARD – A RULE OR PRINCIPLE WHICH IS UNFAIRLY
APPLIED IN DIFFERENT WAYS TO DIFFERENT PEOPLE OR GROUPS.

ONE OF THE DOUBLE STANDARDS MENTIONED IN THE BOOK WAS THE

“HE IS A STUD, AND SHE IS A SLUT DOUBLE STANDARD.” THIS DOUBLE
STANDARD CAN LEAD TO SLUT SHAMING.

SLUT SHAMING – WHEN A WOMAN IS SHAMED FOR SEXUAL

EXPERIENCES, REAL OR INVENTED, BECAUSE OF PERCEIVED
VIOLATION OF IDEALS IN PURITY AND MORALITY.
Slut Shaming
SLUT SHAMING IS ONE OF THE FIRST AND MOST COMMON FORMS OF
SEXUAL HARASSMENT THAT MIDDLE SCHOOL AND HIGH SCHOOL
STUDENTS FACE
ACCORDING TO A STUDY BY THE AMERICAN ASSOCIATION OF
UNIVERSITY WOMEN, 46% OF GIRLS HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS
Slut Shaming and Social Media
SLUT SHAMING IS MOST COMMONLY FOUND ONLINE DUE TO SOCIAL
MEDIA BEING SO COMMONLY USED.
#MENCALLMETHINGS IS A TWITTER HASHTAG USED TO SHARE
EXAMPLES OF HARASSMENTS WOMEN HAVE RECEIVED. THEY
CONTAIN SLUT SHAMING, DEATH AND RAPE THREATS, AND
APPEARANCE-RELATED INSULTS.
Impacts of slut shaming
VARY FROM WOMAN TO WOMAN
AGE IS NOT A FACTOR – THE AUTHOR WAS FIRST CALLED A SLUT IN
FIFTH GRADE. I WAS IN 9TH GRADE. FOR OTHERS IT COULD BE
DIFFERENT
MOST WOMEN THOUGH FIRST EXPERIENCE IT WITH SCHOOL DRESS
CODES.
THIS CREATES A BREAK IN THEIR EDUCATION EXPERIENCE BECAUSE
THEY ARE OFTEN TIMES SENT TO THE OFFICE TO CHANGE, OR ASKED
TO LEAVE SCHOOL ALL TOGETHER.
Slut Shaming in Schools
HTTPS://WWW.YOUTUBE.COM/WATCH?V=Y63Q7VLXEJS
FOLLOW THIS LINK. IT IS A QUICK 2 MINUTE VIDEO ABOUT A SEATTLE
SCHOOL THAT IS ALLOWING THEIR STUDENTS TO DRESS HOW THEY
WANT. WITH HOPES IN A “NO BODY SHAMING” ENVIRONMENT FOR
STUDENTS.
DO YOU THINK MORE SCHOOLS NEED TO BE LIKE THIS? WHAT ARE
YOUR THOUGHTS WITH THE IDEA THAT SLUT SHAMING STARTS IN
SCHOOL?
Impacts of slut shaming (Cont.)
ISOLATION
SHAMING SOMEONE CAN CAUSE A THREAT TO THEIR REPUTATION
RESULTING IN THEM TO SEPARATE FROM THOSE AROUND THEM. DUE
TO ISOLATION, SELF-HARM RATES INCREASE FOR VICTIMS

LOWERED SELF WORTH

BECAUSE HUMANS, ESPECIALLY WOMEN, ARE SOCIAL CREATURES, WE
RECEIVE MUCH OF OUR INFORMATION ABOUT OURSELVES FROM
OTHERS. WHEN WE HEAR THE BAD STUFF, IT CAUSES A HIGHER LEVEL
OF CORTISOL IN OUR BRAINS WHICH IS THE STRESS HORMONE. DUE
TO THIS, OUR LEVEL OF SELF WORTH DEPLETES. LOW SELF WORTH
CAN CREATE LASTING SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES THAT CAN EXTEND
THOUGH OUT ONE’S LIFE