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Presented by:
Dr Ayman Metwally
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The Big Five Model of Personality Dimensions
THE
THINK THEY The super agreeable The negativist
KNOW IT
ALL
The
The silent unresponsive THE NO PERSON complainer
1) “The Tank” person
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Regular behaviors people do to face
the “Tank Person”
• To counter attack with the same strength
• Attempt to always defend your situation
• Say nothing and stay away from the barrel of the gun
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Your new target
1) Breath slowly, don’t sit if you are standing and leave the
“tank” person say what he wants to say.
2) Stop the attack if it became more than a certain level
(without using any aggressive tone or movement)
3) Repeat his notes quickly to make him feel that you are
listening to and understanding his words
4) Use short sentences to defend your position mentioning that
this is your personal view
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2. The “Sniper” person
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Regular behaviors people do to
face the “Sniper” person
Avoid these behaviors with the “sniper”
Don’t show that you feel embarrassed
Don’t try to respond in the same way
Don’t run away from the “sniper”
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Your new target
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3.The “KNOW-IT-ALL” person
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Your new target
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4. “The Think-they-Know-it-all”
Person:
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Coping strategies:
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5. “ The Grenade” Person
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Coping strategies:
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6. The “complainer” person
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Coping strategies:
• Break the self-fulfilling cycle of passivity, blaming, and
powerlessness by insisting on a problem solving approach.
Ask for complaints in writing, ask open-ended questions,
and assign them to fact-finding tasks.
• Listen attentively. They may just need to blow off steam,
which could provide information that's important to you.
• Be prepared to interrupt and take control. Pin them down to
the specifics.
• Don't agree. Agreeing only validates for them that it is your
fault and they are blameless.
• If all else fails, ask them how they would like the discussion
to end; what results do they want to achieve?
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7. “The NO Person”
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Coping strategies
NOOOOOO
OOOOOO !!
!!!!!!!!
• Go with the flow
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8. “Silent/Unresponsive” person
• These people limit risk and seek safety by refusing to
respond, and are often non-committal despite the fact that
something is definitely wrong.
• They use this form of calculated aggression to avoid
facing their fears.
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Coping strategies
•Get
them to talk by asking open-ended questions beginning with "how" and
"what."
•Apply a friendly, silent stare toward the person and hold it. Don't be tempted to
fill the space with words to ease your own discomfort. Comment on the fact you
find it interesting they're refusing to communicate, then ask:
•Are you concerned about my reaction? How do you think I'll react?
•You look distressed/worried/concerned. Am I misinterpreting?
•Am I wrong that you're feeling uncomfortable, annoyed, angry, or impatient?
•Settime limits and be prepared for an "I don't know" response. You may either
assume it's genuine or it's a stalling tactic and reply, "It appears our meeting is at
an impasse." Return to the friendly, silent stare and wait for a response.
•If
the clam opens up, be attentive, demonstrate active listening, and allow them
be vague (it may lead to their main issue). If they don't respond, avoid a polite
ending by stating you intend to revisit the issue again. State you assume their
lack of response means X to you, and list the actions you will take if effective
communication doesn't occur.
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9. The “Negativist” person
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Coping strategies
• Recognize your own vulnerability to discouragement. The
impact these people have on others can be contagious
unless you meet it directly with confident, assertive
optimism.
• Don't argue with them or embarrass them. You won't get
far by making it a "win/lose" battle.
• Allow them to play the role of "reality checker" by analyzing
what could go wrong.
• Require them to cite specifics rather than make sweeping
generalizations.
• Offer examples of past successes. Show that some
alternatives are worth trying by saying, "I have faith that
we haven't tried everything."
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10. “The super agreeable” person
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Coping strategies
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How Successful People
Overcome Toxic Bosses
Studies show that bosses are:
• Self-oriented (60%)
• Stubborn (49%)
• Overly demanding (43%)
• Impulsive (41%)
• Interruptive (39%)
Worst thing in Life is to have a bad boss
Multiple studies have found that working for a bad boss
increases your chance of having a heart attack by as much
as 50%.