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BESC1528 Lect 6 Friendship Formation 2023
BESC1528 Lect 6 Friendship Formation 2023
Lecture 6
1. Friendship formation
2. Cultural differences
Psychology of Social Life
Pre lecture exercise
Who is your best friend?
Give them a code name
2. People live and work with others who have similar interests and
experiences
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B. Similarity 1b
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B. Similarity 2a
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B. Similarity 2c
• Preference for at least one neighbour of the same colour
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B. Similarity 2d
• Strong preference to live beside someone of the same colour
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B. Similarity 2e
• People do not need to be consciously racist to create neighbourhood
segregation – just a preference to live close to one other who are similar to
themselves, creates this
• This can explain all forms of segregation – for instance, if most people
preferred to have a best friend who was the same gender as them, what
friendship networks would “we”, as a society, create
• Go to the following web site to play the simulation making sure you
read the first two pages to understand the logic
• There is also more detail on segregation [and its negative effects]
http://www.understandingprejudice.org/segregation/
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B. Similarity 3
o Gender
• Your best friend will have same values as you have on the following:
being
o Trustworthy
o Loyal
o Supportive
o Honest
o Fun-loving
o If one trait differs, you will admire that trait in your best friend
• Prediction – most in
top box
• In summary, more
similar than
different:
• Two weeks after a social gathering where they met this “person”:
o Group 1: 9% willing to pursue friendship
o Group 2: 76% willing to pursue friendship
• Why?
o Mere exposure – proximity
o Similar = attractive [social comparison]
A. Proximity
D. Physical attractiveness
E. Social exchange/balance
1. Reciprocal liking
2. Attractiveness
Pause
Lecture 6
1. Friendship formation
2. Cultural differences
Learning objectives
1. Discuss the relationship between affiliation and loneliness.
2. Does being alone equate with being lonely? What are the
two forms of loneliness?
2. Does being alone equate with being lonely? What are the
two forms of loneliness?
Affiliation
• Is there an inherent desire to seek out others?
• individual reactions quite variable: averaged two days but varied from
twenty minutes to eight days when the study finished
Experiencing loneliness
• To the last general question – over 60% indicate yes [sometimes or often]
• correlated with
• Anxiety/worry/neuroticism (0.49)
• Extraversion (- 0.40) [that is, more likely to be introverted]
• Depression [current loss/sadness] (0.52)
Pause
That is as we get to know more people, our group of intimate friends appears to
be shrinking – see Milgram’s urban overload and Dunbar’s number
80 79
71
70 69
60
60
53
Percent
50
40 37
30
20
10
0
Under 18 18-24 25-34 35-44 45-54 Over 54
Age Group
• Has not included a very old category (80+ years) where friends/spouse
have died
• The statistics tend to indicate that as people age they develop more stable
social networks
• gender
o females – greater emphasis on relationships, hence more
o males – failure to disclose/admit loneliness
• culture
o individualistic – pressure to make friends – loneliness blamed on self –
internal attribution – lack social skills (poor ability), low self-esteem,
depression
• mobility
o frequently moving place of residence
o starting new job, beginning University, failing grades and repeating year
o studies show lonely people use internet rather than internet causes
people to become lonely, isolated
• Lonely people are more likely to become depressed and more likely to
have other mental and physical health problems and have higher mortality
rates (effect greater in males) – for instance, married males live longer than
widowered or divorced males – no difference in females
Pause
2. Does being alone equate with being lonely? What are the
two forms of loneliness?
Quantity [number of
friends] is important
But quality of
friendship is the
most important
BUT
o think about the aspect of your friend that you most admire or attracts
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Friendship formation 2
There are two paradoxes associated with friendships?
Friendship paradox 1: most people believe that they have more friends than
their friends have
• explained using egocentric bias – see attribution lecture
Definition – people select people who are different from them in traits [traits
they personally do not have] and to learn from and experience different
perspective [social stimulation]
• Close friends
o 41% next door [flat 1 with flat 2]
• Other research
• similarity with proximity: dormitory studies over' time ‑ found that after six
months, similar personality traits better predicted longer lasting ‑friendships
• Arranged marriages
– Historical (pre 1850s)
– Cultural (eg, collectivist - India, China, etc) – decisions
associated with what is good for the family, not just the
individual [see attribution theory]
• Permanent relationships
– Involves social comparison processes
– Regulated by notion of equity [not equality]
• Proximity
• Similarity
• Physical appearance
All
collectivist
Mainly
individualistic
[See slide 54]
1. Stigma –
– Not natural/not “organic”
– Only for people without social skills
– Only for people who are desperate
Response
– Normative: currently estimated that 2 out 5 singles use dating sites
– In a survey of couples who married between 2005 and 2012, 35% of
19,000 people met their partner online
– Discriminates the people who are out enjoying themselves socially from
those who are wishing to develop relationships
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Relationships 8: Online dating
2. Deception –
Response
o Typical of all relationships [face to face and online]
o More focus online as there is limited information provided:
• Face to face – all person perception information available to form
first impressions
• Online – limited information, and much more thought and control
over first impression information
Statistics
o Overall 81% of people were found to be deceptive
o Males for deceptive regarding their height [55%] and age [24%]
o Females more deceptive regarding their weight [59%]
http://www.redbookmag.com/cm/redbook/images/neil-warren-de.jpg http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Onewestbankheadquarters.jpg
– Negatives
• After a one hour, 258 question profile, can be rejected without
explanation
• Claims and lawsuits re discrimination (eg ageist and sexual
orientation)
• About 20% of cases, there was no (statistical) match
Pause
2. Does being alone equate with being lonely? What are the
two forms of loneliness?
Note:
• Related to social comparison theory in that constant comparisons are made
to ensure equity
• Not equality – that is partners do not have to be equal
Findings:
Findings:
• balanced (equitable) couples have no need for affairs and had least
affairs
Findings:
[see also attribution theory – internal versus external]
Findings:
Pause
2. Does being alone equate with being lonely? What are the
two forms of loneliness?
• Is the culture?
• same as your descendants
• speak a common language
• same level of industrialization
• individualistic versus collectivist culture
• more similar than different from your own culture
Hofstede (1980)
• Studied 22 countries
• that is, the more individualistic cultures had higher needs for affiliation [or
the need to make “new” friends]
• Tourists from Western nations (eg, Australia, Canada, New Zealand, UK,
USA) primarily visited countries which have similar cultures [each other]
• These tourists have a high affiliation need to meet other tourists and hosts
(and similarity makes it easier)
• These findings confirm findings from Western‑based research that the best
predictor of affiliation and friendship formation is similarity
• People from collectivist cultures do not have a high affiliation need and
therefore do not need to meet hosts
Pause
2. There are two forms of loneliness [emotional and social] and while
being alone does not equate with being lonely – social isolation
[social setting] is more likely to trigger loneliness