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Nurturing is the
skills of empathy
Nurturing comes from the
word nutritura which
means to promote, nurse
and nourish life.
The energy of nurturing is
non-discriminatory. Both
positive and negative
nurturing exist.
Negative nurturing is
abuse and
called
neglect
Abuse comes from the Latin
word abusus which
means to mistreat; cruel and
harsh treatment.
Neglect comes from the
Latin word neglegere.
Neg means “not” and legere
means “pick up.”
Positive nurturing is called
Empathy
Empathy is the
fundamental
“Parenting”
characteristic
Empathy comes from the
Greek word empatheia
which means "feeling
into.”
An empathic parenting
response is an attempt to
put ourselves in a child’s
place in order to perceive
the subjective experience of
the child.
Nature vs. Nurture
Nature of
the Human Being
Human beings are born
predisposed to form
and sustain long-term
positive nurturing
relationships.
Positive and
Negative Nurture
Positive Negative Dysfunctional Hours
20% 80% 126,221
30% 70% 110,443
50% 50% 78,888
70% 30% 47,333
80% 20% 31,555
90% 10% 15,778
95% 5% 7,889
99% 1% 1,578
100% 0% 0
Positive and negative life events carry
both cognitive and affective cellular
memories.
and affective
dimensions:
a cognitive attempt to
understand another’s
feelings and perspective
the affective capacity to
share in another’s
feelings.
There are four
critical attributes of
empathy:
1. Awareness of the
state of another.
2. Understanding of
this condition.
3. Personal
Identification with
the situation.
4. Appropriate affective
and cognitive response.
American psychologist E. B.
Titchner first used the word
in the 1920’s.
Motor mimicry observed in
one-year olds who imitated
the distress of another child.
“A sort of imitation of the
distress of another which
then evokes the same
feelings in oneself.”
Natural progression of
empathy:
At one, a child feels distress
when another child falls or
cries.
After one, infants become
more aware that they are
distinct from others and try
to soothe another crying
child.
Around two:
Someone else’s feelings differ
from their own
Become sensitive to cues
revealing what another child feels.
Late childhood, children can
understand distress beyond
the immediate situation.
Parental empathy forms a
positive bond at birth
between baby and parents
(bonding) …
… which continues as the
child grows older
(attachment).
Attachment is a reciprocal
relationship between parent
and child.
Attunement is the process of
being present and
responsive to the child’s
needs.
Empathic parents are:
Attuned to the subtle and overt signals of
children’s needs or wants.
Respond in empathic ways that maintain that
child’s dignity.
Consider the child an equal in respect to the
feelings
Interesting Facts:
Gender differences in
empathy:
Males have action oriented
empathy: ability to observe
others and situations and
problem solve.
Females have emotional
oriented empathy: being
aware of the feelings of
another.
Bavolek found females
express significantly
(P>.001) more empathic
parenting beliefs than males.
1. Identify your Family Morals
2. Morals become Family Values
3. Establish a set of Family Rules
4. Teach children to care for plants,
animals, and their belongings
Cooperation
5. Empathize the value of
6. Build Quality Time In
7. Practice massage daily as a night
time routine
8. Catch children behaving and use
express feelings
14. Treat your children with dignity
15. Tell “Power Stories”
16. Get your needs met
17. Help children get their needs met
18. Take time away from “doing” parenting
19. Have a family meal daily
20. Make “parenting” one of the most