THE NINTH COMMANDMENT

THE NINTH COMMANDMENT

1089. “You shall not covet your

neighbor’s wife” (Ex 20:17) completes the
Sixth Commandment by going to the
interior root and source of disorders of the
flesh: covetousness of the heart.
1090. Such has been the pattern down
through the ages: human covetousness has
been the radical source of sin that alienates
us from God and our fellowmen.
1092. Christ perfected this teaching in his
Sermon on the Mount. “You have heard the
commandment, ‘You shall not commit
adultery.’ What I say to you is: anyone who
looks at a woman lustfully has already
committed adultery with her in his thoughts”
(Mt 5:27f). To show how serious he was in
this, Jesus added: “If your right eye is your
trouble, gouge it out and throw it away” (Mt
5:29).
The Virtue of Chastity

1093. Positively, what is called for is purity

of heart, or the virtue of chastity. All
Christians have the vocation to chastity (cf.
CCC 2348). Chastity here refers to the
wholesome integration of one’s sexuality
within one’s person. This creates in us an
inner harmony and unity of body and spirit
that grounds our integrity as persons and in
our self-giving in love (cf. CCC 2337-47)
1094. Admittedly, chastity is a difficult virtue, but
it surely is not just a series of negative don’ts
which some pretend it to be. John Paul II wrote:

In the Christian view, chastity by no means

signifies rejection of human sexuality or lack of
esteem for it: rather, it signifies spiritual energy
capable of defending love from the perils of
selfishness and aggressiveness, and able to
advance it towards its full realization (FC 33).
Chastity puts order into our sexual drives,
much as telling the truth orders our speech.
This means, that it channels our sexual
energies toward a positive, affirmative
service of love and fostering of life. Toward
that goal, chastity seeks the limits in our
behavior within which our passions can be
directed so that they give rise to joy and
peace, not pain, guilt and heartbreak.
Education for Chastity
1099.But in order for the value of sexuality to
reach its full realization, education for
chastity is absolutely essential, for it is a
virtue that develops a person’s authentic
maturity and makes him or her capable of
respecting and fostering the “nuptial
meaning” of the body. . .
Fruit of the grace of God and of our
cooperation, chastity tends to harmonize the
different components of the human person,
and to overcome the frailty of human nature,
marked by sin, so that each person can
follow the vocation to which God has called
(EGHL 18).
1100. What is of utmost importance in the
education and practice of chastity is
motivation. This means taking seriously our
imagination, which is the key factor in
arousing or controlling the human sexual
drive.
It means focusing on the values of our
sexuality which ground the moral norms —
values such as: personal growth in
interpersonal dialogue and the gift of self in
love, creative fecundity and the transmission
of human life. Only when such values are
appreciated can personal responsibility in
controlling our sexuality be effectively
taught.
1103. Especially for the Filipino, this long
process of education in chastity ought to be
centered in the family. This is so because
chastity is FOR LOVE. It opens out
naturally in friendship (cf. CCC 2347).
Purity Calls for Self-Control

1107. Since chastity or purity of heart is

directed towards love, it pertains directly to
all persons according to their different
states of life (cf. CCC 2349). This includes
both married and single persons. Chastity
for the married consists in fidelity to their
marriage vows, and to their respect and
reverence for what is good and lovely in
their marriage.
The chastity of the single person is seen in
both virginity chosen for the sake of the
Kingdom and single-blessedness. The single
person also has a vocation to love, not in the
form of marriage, but in love’s “dynamism,
inherent in sexuality, of self-giving openness
to others.”
This is how much a teenager sold her
virginity for
18-year-old Aleexandra from Romania hit headlines when
she appeared on This Morning back in November last year
to explain why she was selling her own virginity. And now,
five months later, Aleexandra has revealed how much she
auctioned her first sexual experience off for.
Speaking to Holly and Phil on the famous This Morning
sofa, Aleexandra told the presenters she was planning to
sell her virginity in order to pay for her university fees and
her parents' mortgage. She said she was worried about her
parents being evicted from their house unless she did
something to raise money quickly, and said she believed
she was making the controversial sale "for a really good
cause".
"I am thinking it is strictly business, not emotional," she said.
But despite claims that Aleexandra's story was untrue - that
her parents weren't in any financial trouble and that they
wouldn't talk to her again if she went through with it -
Aleexandra has revealed she did indeed sell her first time to
the highest bidder, a Hong Kong businessman.
The unnamed millionaire who secured the grim purchase
reportedly paid a staggering €2.3 million for the experience,
according to The Mirror. Aleexandra made her sale using a
German-based organisation called Cinderella Escorts, which
is run by 26-year-old Jan Zakobielski, who doesn't think
there's a problem with the service at all.
"No-one makes these young women do anything they
don't want to do," he said. "They have their own minds
and their own opinions on sexuality."
It's not known how Aleexandra's family has reacted to
her decision to sell her virginity, or whether she's
actually gone through with the deed yet. But if
Aleexandra's uncle's thoughts on it are anything to go
by, her mum and dad will be far from impressed with
this life choice.
"Her mother and father are simply disgusted and can't
understand why she is doing this," he told the
MailOnline. "They have begged her not to do it, but
she told them 'I'm 18 and I can do what I like with my
body'."
Offenses against Chastity
Lust – inordinate desire for sexual pleasure
Masturbation- solitary sexual pleasure.
Masturbation is an abuse of our sexual
powers because it lacks the sexuality’s
essential relationship which is ordered
towards self-giving love and the service of
life according to God’s design.
Homosexuality represents another grave
impediment to the integral sexual growth of
a person. But care must be taken to
distinguish between a condition of
homosexual orientation, for which the
homosexual cannot be held responsible, and
homosexual acts (cf. CCC 2357-59).
Fornication- carnal union between
unmarried man and unmarried woman.
Bang With Friends: Facebook Sex App
Creators Talk Controversial Product

Want to bang your Facebook friends? Now you

can! Anna Klassen talks with Bang With Friends
creators.
Want to have sex with your Facebook “friends?” Have
you already tried drunkenly messaging them, writing
suggestive posts on their “wall,” or poking them,
without a single poke back? Then Bang With Friends,
the new Facebook app created by three unidentified
college-aged males, may be for you.
The app, which launched a week ago and had already
gained more than 20,000 users in four days, is aimed at
matching users with potential partners who don’t want
to beat around the bush. (Sorry.) Designed to take
rejection out of the equation, the app only notifies
“couples” when both parties want to bang: just make
sure to click the “only me” privacy tab when installing
the app.
The creators of the app are a trio who, for now, would like
to remain unknown to the public. A Whois search for the
BangWithFriends.com domain name comes up with their
registration information blocked, revealing the creators are
web savvy and have taken the extra step to keep their
identities hidden. While they don’t want their names
attached to the BangWithFriends.com legacy in the
making just yet, they did open up about their first project
as a team.

“[Sex] should be something you’re expressive about, that

you’re comfortable with, and if there’s a beautiful woman
or a handsome man that you’re interested in, you shouldn’t
hold back,” said one of the app’s creators. “We’re just
giving you closer access to knowing the truth.”
However, early reviews of the hook-up tool haven’t
been kind. The Daily Dot suggests the app is an
indicator that society has forgotten how to
communicate verbally. The Inquisitr pointed at the
app’s contact email—pimpin@bangwithfriends.com—
as proof that “This app was created by a 7th grader.”

But the creators, who graduated from middle school

(and beyond), have loftier goals than one might
imagine. “By being honest and forward, we’re taking
the no bullshit approach [to sex].” But who would use
such an honest tool? “It’s mostly our demographic,”
said one creator, “people in their twenties, recent
college graduates and people in college.”
The California-based group thought of the idea as a way
to improve standard online dating sites like eHarmony
or Match.com. “One night, we were shooting the shit
about how online dating is broken,” said one creator.
“What a lot of people want is just to skip all the shit and
get to the sex.” The conversation evolved to Facebook,
a social media platform used mainly by 18-34 years
olds, many of whom are in college and use social media
to connect with pals. “It would be great, as guys, if you
could find out which girls are actually into you and not
dance around anything,” he said.
But would women, who exceed males in Facebook’s users by
nearly 9 percent, want to know which guys want to “bang”
them too? The creators claim the app, which displays a partially
naked woman lying on a bed as its homepage image, isn’t just
for men. BangWithFriends.com is laden with imagery targeted
at the heterosexual male (for example, the “doggy style” icon
cutout, and a “how it works” tab that showcases an illustration
of a man rolling on a condom), but just four days into its
inception, the app had already matched 1,000 couples who
mutually want to bang, so perhaps there is some method to the
seemingly male-oriented madness.

“The crowd that we’re looking for is forward and straight about
their sexuality.” And straight they are, as the app currently
doesn’t take sexual orientation into consideration. But
according to the boys, this wasn’t a jab at the LGBT
community.
“We’ll be honest with you, we made this in two hours… with a lot
of Red Bull and vodka … and it took off on its own,” one of the
creators said. “What we’re working on right now is building sexual
preferences. I personally am completely towards gay rights. We
want to give everyone this awesome access to finding people who
want to bang.”

But lack of customized sexual preferences is just one of the

problems the team initially encountered. An earlier version of the
app didn’t take into account the presence of family members among
a user’s Facebook friends, displaying anyone from grandfathers to
siblings as potential “bang” buddies. This has since been fixed, and
while you can’t be matched with your uncle, the BWF team doesn’t
want to limit user’s pairings too much—for example, your
relationship status will likely not be taken into consideration.
“We’re not too [sic] objective to hooking up with that cute secretary
across the office if she has a boyfriend already,” said one creator.
According to the 20-something founders, hooking up
—with the “cute secretary” or anyone else—shouldn’t
be something to whisper about. BangWithFriends.com
makes use of many slang words for sex: click on the
“how it works” tab and the URL includes the words
“fuck” and “how.”
“Sex is such an awkward thing to bring up in our
society, and we don’t think it should be,” one of his
cohorts said. “ Our philosophy is that sex shouldn’t be
taboo. We should be able to say ‘bang’ and ‘fuck’ on
our site because that’s how we talk in real life.”
And in real life, sex often blossoms into a relationship,
according to the founders, and not the other way around.
By helping users “anonymously find friends who are
down for the night,” the app may be selling you the idea
of a genuine relationship. “It’s less about one-night stands
and more about getting people to be more blunt with the
way they’re approaching each other,” said a creator. “We
believe relationships really evolve after you have sex with
one another.” Another creator added, “There aren’t many
people who haven’t had sex with their loved one, and we
believe that it’s crucial to have that intimate first moment
to get things going.”
Whether they’re building relationships or simply pairing up mutually
attracted couples for one night of play, the theme of their application
undoubtedly revolves around sex. And at some point, the creators had
to have “The Talk” with their parents. “I spoke with my folks the
other day… I wouldn’t have told them unless it took off,” said one
creator. “I told my father to go check out Buzzfeed and look at the
home page. He was cracking up hysterically. I grew up in a household
where there wasn’t much taboo around sex. It was all fun and games.”

But even for the founders of BangWithFriends.com, their product

warrants some limitations. When asked if they would let their younger
siblings use the app, there were a few seconds of hesitation.

“I would definitely block [my little sister] from using it,” said one
creator eventually. “We should actually create custom alerts if any of
our younger siblings log on,” he said to the others. “And then just
completely shut down the site for them. Be like, “Sorry, we know
Pornography – propagates the sexually
obscene and licentious in a dehumanizing
and exploitative manner.
Prostitution- robbing a person of his/her
dignity as a person by being reduced to a
mere means for selfish pleasure of the
buyer.
Rape