WHAT IS RESILIENCE?

the ability to bounce back from adversity. It involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed.

WHAT IS RESILIENCE?

FACTORS THAT STRENGTHEN RESILIENCE

1. Strength of the parental bond established in the 1st 3 years of life 2. Easy-going temperament Positive attitude positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities Optimism Emotion management able to manage strong feelings and impulses Ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback 3. Certain amount of intelligence Skills in communication and problem solving 4. The capacity to make realistic plans and carry them out

DR. SANDRA PARKER COPING & RESILIENCE

FACTORS THAT WEAKEN THE DEVELOPMENT OF RESILIENCE IN CHILDREN

Violence Physical or sexual abuse Direct exposure to alcoholism Removal from the home

FACTORS THAT WEAKEN THE DEVELOPMENT OF RESILIENCE IN ADULTS

1. School or work stresses Deadlines 2. Social stresses Peer pressure 3. Physical stresses Violence

HOW TO IMPROVE EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE

1. Hone a talent find something that you can do the best 2. Find a champion have someone who motivates you and provides that positive role model 3. Look within understand that problems happen because of choices made 4. Be your own recruiter be outgoing and find people that can help you and who will be a good influence on your life.

HOW TO IMPROVE EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE (CONTINUED)

5. Help others - participation in service projects puts your own problems in perspective. It allows you to see that you are not the only one with a problem 6. Make better parents parents who understand their kids and how to talk to them improves the resilience of the kids 7. Maintain flexibility and balance experience strong emotions and put them aside when you need to function; take action to meet your problems and be able to step back to reenergize; spend time with loved ones and be able to be alone; rely on others and also on yourself

DR ANDREW WEIL ON EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE

COMPETENCE
The feeling of knowing that you can handle a situation effectively. We can help the development of competence by: Helping children focus on individual strengths Focusing any identified mistakes on specific incidents Empowering children to make decisions Being careful that your desire to protect your child doesnt mistakenly send a message that you dont think he or she is competent Recognizing the competencies of siblings individually and avoid comparisons

CONFIDENCE
A childs belief in his own abilities is derived from competence. Build confidence by: Focusing on the best in each child so that he or she can see that as well Clearly expressing the best qualities, such as fairness, integrity, persistence, and kindness Recognizing when he or she has done well Praising honestly about specific achievements; not diffusing praise that make lack authenticity Not pushing the child to take on more than he or she can realistically handle

CONNECTION
Close ties to family and community creates a solid sense of security that helps lead to strong values and prevents alternative destructive paths to love and attention. You can help your child connect with others by: Building a sense of physical safety and emotional security within your home Allowing the expression of all emotions, so that kids will feel comfortable reaching out during difficult times Addressing conflict openly in the family to resolve problems Creating a common area where the family can share time (not necessarily TV time) Fostering healthy relationships that will reinforce positive messages

CHARACTER
A solid set of moral and values to determine right from wrong and to demonstrate a caring attitude toward others. To strengthen your childs character, start by: Demonstrating how behaviors affect others Helping your child recognize himself or herself as a caring person Demonstrating the importance of community Encouraging the development of spirituality Avoiding racist or hateful statements or stereotypes

CONTRIBUTION
The childs realization that the world is a better place because they are in it. Understanding the importance of personal contribution can serve as a source of purpose and motivation. Teach your children how to contribute by: Communicating to children that many people in the world do not have what they need Stressing the importance of serving others by modeling generosity Creating opportunities for each child to contribute in some specific way

COPING
Learning to cope effectively with stress will help your child be better prepared to overcome lifes challenges. Positive coping lessons include: Modeling positive coping strategies on a consistent basis Guiding your child to develop positive and effective coping strategies Realizing that telling him or her to stop the negative behavior will not be effective Understanding that many risky behaviors are attempts to alleviate the stress and pain in kids daily lives Not condemning your child for negative behaviors and, potentially, increasing his or her sense of shame

CONTROL
Children who realized that they can control the outcomes of their decisions are more likely to realize that they have the ability to bounce back. Your childs understanding that he or she can make a difference further promotes competence and confidence. You can try to empower your child by: Helping your child to understand that lifes events are not purely random and that most things that happen are the result of another individuals choices and actions Learning that discipline is about teaching, not punishing or controlling; using discipline to help your child to understand that his actions produce certain consequences

STUDYING RESILIENCE IN CHILDREN

AUTHORITARIAN
Children are expected to follow strict rules Parents fail to explain the reasoning behind these rules Because I said so. Failure to follow the rules usually results in punishment The parents have high demands, but are not responsive to their children.

AUTHORITATIVE
Parents establish rules and guidelines that the children are expected to follow When children fail to meet the expectations, the parents are more nurturing and forgiving rather than punishing Disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive Parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions Want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative

PERMISSIVE
Parents are sometimes referred to as indulgent parents Have very few demands to make of their children Children are rarely disciplined because the parents have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control Parents try to be more of a friend than a parent

UNINVOLVED
Characterized by few demands, low responsiveness, and little communication Childs basic needs are fulfilled, but the parents are generally detached from the childs life In extreme cases, the parents may even reject or neglect the needs of their children

PARENTING STYLES AND CHILD RESILIENCE - LATEST RESEARCH FATHERS' RIGHTS

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