INTRODUCTION

Janet and Bill were living in the conservative Midwest, and neither of
them had much education about sex. Their parents never talked about
sex, and they had very little “hands-on” experience when they came to
see me just three years into their marriage. Bill had been diagnosed with
prostate cancer a year earlier, and after surgery he found that he was
impotent. They loved each other but were very frustrated with their sex
lives. Neither Janet nor Bill was having orgasms, and secretly Janet was
thinking of having an affair. They had no idea that sex could be more
than just a penis in a vagina. They’d never really thought about sensual
massage or oral lovemaking as a way to stay intimately connected. I
thought they were both going to die when I mentioned strap-ons as an
alternative. I had to go slow with them on that idea.
Once Janet overcame her shame around receiving oral pleasure, she
had some of the best orgasms in her life. Bill was happy to feel like a
good lover again. Plus he received the benefits of Janet learning to enjoy
returning the favor. The smiles and blushes on their faces told me they
were having a fantastic time kissing, touching, and playing with mouths
on genitals. Bill started to get his erectile function back (maybe because
he finally learned how to relax about the whole deal). Janet swore I saved
their marriage.
I wrote this book for my many students like Janet and Bill, but also for
my students who just plain want to improve their already scintillating

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sex life. For example, David and Meg had both love and passion when
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they came to see me. It was a treat to watch them gush all over each
other, their love spilling into the air. Meg decided that she wanted to
give David multiple orgasms, and she wanted to master the art of fel-
latio. David just wanted to serve her. He derived so much pleasure from
watching her in ecstasy. They both wanted to give to the other, with no
expectation of getting anything in return. That made my job easy. I had
plenty of techniques to feed their hunger to please. If you already have
an amazing sex life but want to take it to the next level, there are plenty
of techniques here for you too!
Blow Each Other Away gives lovers . . .
• The opportunity to dive deep (no pun intended, okay maybe a little
pun) into unexplored pleasure through mastery of more than a
hundred techniques.
• Knowledge on how to kiss exquisitely and give orgasmic
cunnilingus, fellatio, and anilingus.
• Leading strategies for deeper connection and intimacy with your
partner while giving superb oral pleasures!

I expect you to drop this book to eagerly try out the techniques. These tips
are proven successful, so I guarantee you’ll be coming back for more.

What’s Unique About This Book?

the pleasure wave. I’ll present an innovative and original formula
that empowers you to invent and explore your own techniques.

a pleasure wave is
• A simple formula that helps couples create their own unique
techniques for mind-blowing pleasure.

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• An innovative way for you to develop touch skill—anyone who can

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wiggle a finger can do it!
• A proven method for optimal arousal, leading to optimal pleasure.

clinically proven techniques. I am an avid researcher. I like to

research, then practice, then teach. I believe experts must be students
first and always. In my private practice, I coach men, women, and couples
on the art of oral lovemaking. I teach only the techniques that I have
practiced and found most effective in getting the best results over and
over again.
Even more than all the effective techniques included here, this book
also teaches you how to make the techniques work. I could teach hun-
dreds of specific techniques, but for many couples it wouldn’t make a
difference. So what does make a difference? Having a framework to help
you enjoy performing and receiving each technique. It’s not actually the
technique that gets the results, it’s how you use it.

the joy of hand-and-mouth combos. Oral sex isn’t just about

mouths on genitals. It’s about hands, eyes, bodies, lips, tongues, and oh
so much more. The majority of techniques in this book are focused on
extraordinary combinations of body play for you and your lover to in-
dulge in.
When it comes to oral sex, most couples just think of their mouths,
and they leave one of the greatest sexual assets out of the equation
completely. Using your hands in combination with your mouth is what
creates really scintillating experiences that can knock your partner’s
socks off!

focus on your connection with your partner. Most books on

oral lovemaking are geared toward one gender or the other. They focus
on oral techniques for a woman or oral techniques for a man. This book

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is a comprehensive guide to oral lovemaking for couples. Your connection
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to your partner, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, is the foundation

from which great sex is born and relationships are sustained.

adaptation of ancient techniques. One of the most unique

qualities of the book is the adaptation of ancient techniques from female
sexual masters, called the “White Tigresses,” who believed that giving
oral sex could actually help them attain immortality. I studied the prac-
tices of these female masters for over a year and still dabble with them. I
have creatively adapted the techniques for the modern-day woman.
The inclusion of these ancient practices and techniques helps women
to understand the importance of giving oral pleasure to men. The White
Tigresses claim that oral sex is their “fountain of youth” and “secret to
female health.” Guys, when women read these benefits, they will be all
the more excited to give.
You have the opportunity to learn a lot within the pages of this book.
Feed your brain with great information, and it will help you improve your
sexual life . . . practice what you learn, and you might just change your
life!

how can a book on oral sex change your life?

• Maybe you’ve never had an orgasm, but by learning oral sex you
were able to experience the joys and wonders of your first big O!
• Maybe you’ve always wanted to experience a fantastic blow job,
but your partner is disgusted by the idea. Imagine that she comes to
love giving fellatio and is so turned on she begs you to let her give.
• Maybe you can’t have intercourse due to pain or disability, but
oral sex provides the opportunity for you and your lover to stay
physically connected.
• Maybe your entire relationship with someone you love is being
affected by your lack of sexual skill. Imagine that you can become

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your partner’s ultimate lover and have him or her writhing beneath

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your fingers and tongue.

Sex is part of your life, part of being alive, and a big part of being in a
relationship. Sex is you.

About Me
I have been teaching sex through unconventional methods for almost fif-
teen years. I’m a sexological bodyworker, which means that I have worked
“hands on” with many of my students. When a couple comes to see me,
we don’t just talk about sex; we dive into practices that will help them
move past their blocks. For example, we don’t always sit in my office. We
go on field trips: to the adult toy store, to a striptease class for her, to a
massage class for him. Learning about sexuality is an experiential activity.
I’m an award-winning sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the
founder of New World Sex Education, a company dedicated to using
“real” sex education to help men and women get the sex lives they de-
sire. I understand that throughout life sexuality changes, and I strive to
meet my students wherever they are on their personal path to greater
pleasure. My mission in the world is to shift the cultural view of sex as
something bad or wrong to something that is cultivated and celebrated.
I am passionate about helping women and men overcome sexual issues,
usually stemming from a lack of education, that may hold them back
from exquisite sex as their birthright. You may have seen me on Good
Morning America, Nightline, Anderson Cooper, The Tyra Banks Show, TLC,
CNN, the Oxygen Network, or Playboy TV.
The tips and techniques in this book come from a variety of resources
and personal experience. As a sex expert who actually makes the time to
have sex (not with my clients, with my loves), I practice what I preach.
I’ve tried out every technique in this book!

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I believe that releasing shame around our sexuality and learning about
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sex can change a person’s life. At the very least, it can help a person have
a happier, more fulfilling existence. Every week, almost daily, I get an
e-mail, a tweet, a call, or even a handwritten letter from someone telling
me how much their life has changed since they started to apply what
they learned from my books or DVDs. Just recently I got a letter from an
organic farmer. It was one of those letters that brought tears to my eyes.
I was so touched by his story.
He wrote:

Now I share this with you because I want you to know how much
you have helped me in the past . . . six years ago when the kids had
grown and gone I found out I had cancer—a tumor in my right kid-
ney. They told me that the kidney had to be removed. I had never
been in the hospital before—my wife . . . couldn’t deal with this so
she filed for divorce . . . I made it through the surgery but ended up
with an infection to my right testicle, which made sex painful and
impossible for almost two years. Plus when they took my kidney
they took something else—all my feeling and passion were gone. I
did not feel bad or good. I just did not feel.
A year ago I heard about you and ordered the DVD (Red Hot
Touch) on erotic massage. Then I began to feel again—I later or-
dered your DVD on oral sex. I thought that if sex was painful to
me I could at least learn how to please someone else. I guess it has
helped because a few months ago a girlfriend told me that I have a
lesbian tongue, so for this I can thank you.
Your work helped give back the passion I had lost so please keep
doing what you are doing. I am a gardener and learned long ago
that when you garden with your heart you never garden alone . . .

Take care and thanks again for what you do,

Keith

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This book will help you learn how to enjoy giving and receiving oral

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sex with a deeper connection to your partner. Shame and guilt are out.
Longer-lasting orgasms are in. Relationships are strengthened, and the journey
to get there is fun.
My mantra is—“Pleasure is your birthright.” However, the truth is—
shame, fear, and lack of education about our sexuality inhibit us from
claiming this basic desire.
This book will help you not only improve your pleasure and relation-
ships but also change the way you feel about oral sex and sexuality. I
want to give you permission to have more pleasure in your life, to ask
for what you want in the bedroom, and to overcome obstacles that may
hold you back from exquisite pleasure.
Hot sex is wonderful, and many books are available on how to have
better, hotter sex. This book too has techniques for how, but I am inter-
ested in something more, something that really works. I am interested
in the emotion, the thoughts, and the hearts of people like Keith, who
want to find their passion and reconnection to their aliveness; like David
and Meg, who want to take pleasure to the next level; and like Janet and
Bill, who needed support to reclaim their sexuality together.
I want you to use this book 99 percent of the time to focus on your
thoughts and emotions about oral sex. This 99 percent will help you to
create what you desire. The remaining 1 percent is the techniques and
actions that you take. This may be different from what you have heard
in the past, but your thoughts about sex, love, and your relationships
are what makes them great or makes them miserable. Instead of flipping
straight to the techniques in this book, you start at the beginning and
analyze your thoughts.
As for practicing the techniques in this book, I highly recommend
that you set aside time for them. You don’t have to do all of them. Find
the techniques that work, and practice them over and over again. This

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is superfun practice, and the more you practice, the more pleasure is
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derived!
Allow the rich and explicit stories in this book to inspire you, as they
have greatly inspired me.
Won’t you join me in claiming the pleasure, orgasms, and connection
that are your birthright? Won’t you join me in strengthening relation-
ships through strong physical and emotional connections? Won’t you
join me in shifting the world’s view about sex? This is a mission, and it
starts one orgasm at a time!
Let’s get to it!

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