3. Your doctor dismisses all alternative treatments as quackery.
Are you hesitant to tell your doctorabout supplements you’ve been takingfor fear of the lecture you’ll re-ceive? Does your doctor make youfeel foolish if you inquire about an alter-native treatment like acupuncture ormassage therapy? It’s time…
4. Your doctor refuses to look at ANY information you find on the Internet.
Does your doctor reject anything foundon the Internet regardless of thesource? Is your doctor unaware of thefact that there is a great deal of quality,respected medical information availableon the Internet (for example, most majormedical journals, National Library of Medicine), or is anything found on theInternet dismissed without further inves-tigation? If so...it’s time...
5. Your doctor is unwilling to consider your ideas.
If you ask to have a lab test run or re-quest a new medication, does your doc-tor usually refuse without explainingwhy? When you express concern aboutsomething, such as a symptom or medi-cation side-effect, does your doctor tellyou not to worry about it without ad-dressing your concerns? If you say youthink you might have a particular dis-ease or condition, does your doctor say,“No, you don’t have that” without tell-ing you why that’s not a possibility?It’s time...
6. Your doctor refuses to refer you to a specialist.
If you ask for a referral to aspecialist, does your doctor refuse with-out explaining why? (It took my Docabout 4-5 months before he finally letme see a specialist) Is your doctor of-fended if you ask for a second opinion?It’s time...
7. Your doctor views each appointment as an isolated event.
Does your doctor fail to review yourchart at each appointment to refresh hismemory, look for symptom patterns,and observe treatment history? Do youget the feeling your doctor has no ideawho you are? Does your doctor treatyou like a new patient, asking you thesame questions you were asked at yourlast four appointments? It’s time...
8. Your doctor is rude, arrogant, orinconsiderate.
Is your doctor’s attitude one of “Dowhat I tell you to and don’t ask ques-tions”? Does your doctor make you feelas if you are wasting his valuabletime? Does your doctor talk to you in acondescending or patronizing man-ner? When you ask a question, doesyour doctor ever make you feel foolishor stupid? Does your doctor routinelykeep you in the waiting room for severalhours? Do you usually have to leavemultiple messages before getting a re-sponse? It’s time...ple of their questions that they mayhave.
4. If you are having mood swings, ex-plain yourself and that you don’t think you would make good company. It’sbetter than being a “brat” to someoneand they won’t resent you.5. Don’t tire out relationships with con-stant complaints. They want to be therefor you, but not if we are always com-plaining.6. Offer to help others when you can.That way they won’t feel that the helponly goes one way.I guess the best thing is to provide infor-mation. The more they understandabout FM, the more they will understandyou. Your relationships with friendsand family will be so much better. Your family is not sure what FM isand even worse they are not sure howit affects your life. What are yougoing to do? It can be frustrating onboth ends. Look at it from both viewpoints. You are thinking…”they need tounderstand you and what you are goingthrough”...They are thinking…”I don’tunderstand, she looks fine, why is shebeing this way?”…Well here are some short but sweet thingsyou can do for them: 1. There are brochures available withgreat info that you can give them. Alsoproviding them with some print outs fromthe internet can be helpful. However,don’t overwhelm them.2. Asking for help is not easy, but lettingyour friends and family know if you needhelp can be helpful to both you and them.3. Have one of them go to the doc withyou. Maybe if the doc has a couple min-utes he wouldn’t mind answering a cou-
Is It Time To Find A New Doc?
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Ok, now that you have learned tofind a new physician, and how tocommunicate with him, now weare going to learn when it’s time to give upthe doc you have and find a new one. Ishould know, I have had to do that.I know that once you have established arelationship with a doc, it is hard to decideif it is time to go looking for a new one.Our relationship with our docs is personaland if we have been with the same one foryears, it is even harder to make that call/ decision to find a new one. So, if you areunsatisfied or unsettled with your currentdoc, and not sure if it’s time to start look-ing for another, here are 10 signs to look for:
1. Your doctor doesn’t listen to you.
Does your doctor routinely interrupt youafter one or two sentences? Do you findyour doctor attending to other matterswhile you are trying to explain yoursymptoms? (i.e. answering his cellphone while with you) Does your doc-tor repeatedly ask you questions you’vealready answered? It’s time...
Your doctor doesn’t believe you’re really sick.
Do you find your doctor frequently at-tributing your symptoms to age, stressor hormones? If you have a chronicillness like fibromyalgia or chronic fa-tigue syndrome, does your doctor dis-miss it as either non-existent or a“wastebasket diagnosis”? (Minedid) Does your doctor imply that mostof your problems are psychosomatic?It’s time...
Helping your Family Help You
FAMILY & FRIENDS PLEDGE TO CARE:
ALWAYS STAND BESIDE LOVED ONESwith Fibromyalgia and support the patientsquest for a better quality of life.
ACT AS AN ADVOCATE to insure that lovedones receive the best possible medical care.
BE RESPECTFUL OF LOVED ONESPHYSICAL LIMITATIONS and help, or gethelp, when it is needed.
EDUCATE OTHERS about FM and encour-age them to provide people with FM supportand understanding.
ADVOCATE for improved treatments, ex-panded research and increased awareness andacceptance of FM.
UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE the people inmy life who have FM.