How Guilt and Shame Block the Law of

Attraction
(The REAL reasons you sabotage your success)
By Carol Look, EFT Master
Part 1 of 4
In this 4 part series, I will demonstrate how to get underneath this common
problem of sabotage fueled by guilt and shame. For the purposes of this
series, I will define guilt as the feeling you have when you have done
something wrong, and the feeling of shame as more pervasive, a feeling of
actually being defective or wrong to your core.
There have been boatloads of complaints and questions about why the Law
of Attraction “isn’t working” or “doesn’t work” or even “backfires” when
applied in the way it is portrayed in the hit movie, “The Secret.” The Law
of Attraction DOES work, and does work all the time. The problem isn’t
the Law of Attraction, the problem is that we have so much resistance
and so many levels of negative feelings that our actual focus tends to be on
our lack of worthiness, belief that we don’t deserve abundance, or anxiety
about success in general. These are our “tail enders” as Gary would
describe it, and they are more powerful than visualization and focusing
exercises until we address and neutralize them with EFT. Strong feelings of
guilt and shame get in the way of the Law of Attraction working in your
favor, because the Law of Attraction hears your vibration, not your words.
When you feel guilty about something you did or said, or feel ashamed to
your core, you don’t feel deserving of success or abundance in your life,
no matter what people say or offer you. These feelings are often deep
within, and are far more powerful that any “positive thinking” or vision
boards. These “tail enders” (what we really believe) are the culprit and
eventually win out. Law of Attraction is in fact working, you’re getting
what you focus on. In these cases, you’re attracting the louder, more active
vibration, and it is often a feeling of guilt, shame or lack of worthiness.
When you don’t feel deserving of abundance, you engage in subtle and not
so subtle sabotage behavior to punish yourself. I will show you how to get
“specific” and collapse these real reasons you sabotage your abundance in
all areas of your life.
I don’t know anyone personally or professionally who couldn’t come up with
a few situations for which they feel guilty! There are 4 categories of guilt
that I will discuss in this series followed by some examples of shame:
(1) You did or said something nasty, hurtful, or untrue for which you feel
guilty now, even decades later.
(2) You didn’t do something or say something you could/should have to
correct a situation, and you feel guilty and regretful about what you
perceive as a blatant “omission” on your part.
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(3) You can clearly identify feelings of anger, resentment, or impatience
towards a loved one, but more importantly, you feel guilty about having
these feelings! And refrain from admitting or expressing them.
(4) You feel guilty for rebelling against authority figures and going with your
own gut feelings. Even though you made a choice that was best for you at
the time, the authority figure/ spouse/ family member “disapproved” and
you still feel guilty.--- translation being you are still punishing yourself.
Consider a short list of your own “guilts” before reading and tapping
through this article. Measure their “charge” on the intensity scale from 0-
10. For example, measure and scale incidents similar to the ones listed
below:
- The time I was sarcastic - The time I cheated and got
towards my friend away with it
- The time I gossiped about my - The time I had evil thoughts
colleague about _________________
- The time I was caught saying - The time I said no to the
something negative about my boss/my mother/my spouse
sibling - The time they accused me of
- The time I “took” something abandoning them
that wasn’t mine - The time I branched out on
- The time I protected myself my own and got his/her
rather than tell the truth disapproval
- The time I should have - The time I betrayed her
defended him/her
When we feel guilty about something we did or said, we tend to punish
ourselves in seemingly unrelated areas of our lives. Sabotage is by far one
of the biggest complaints and areas identified for improvement from
participants in my attracting abundance workshops. We could feel guilty
about something we did in high school, and sabotage our job promotion, or
feel guilty about something we did at our first job, and sabotage our adult
relationships.
Why would old feelings of guilt make you sabotage yourself? Why would
you apparently get “nowhere” when you are diligently applying the Law of
Attraction exercises you have learned? Because when you feel guilty,
you need to punish yourself in order to feel better. You won’t feel
right until you “get” the punishment your subconscious mind believes you
deserve. That’s why even people who are given special advantages,
handed money or given a new job, tend to sabotage – they don’t feel
deserving. When you feel adequately punished, you can now relax and feel
safe because you have less anxiety about “waiting for the other shoe to
drop.” Your world feels balanced again.

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People come in to my office and workshops and say “I keep sabotaging my
success. I don’t know what’s the matter with me…I want abundance, but I
keep getting in my own way, even though I’m using the Law of Attraction.”
This feeling and life experience, “I keep sabotaging myself” becomes the
“tabletop” in Gary’s perfect analogy of how to collapse issues with EFT.
Picture the “tabletop” as the broader more global issue – I’m not successful,
or I keep sabotaging myself. What are the “legs” (beliefs, events,
experiences, assumptions and comfort zones) supporting this tabletop?
The table legs always come in the form of specific events that made you
believe you aren’t worthy or aren’t deserving. Sometimes the table legs
are limiting beliefs you picked up during your life.
Being in a constant state of guilt doesn’t help you and doesn’t help the
person you feel you have offended! However, it is one of the most
prominent feelings underlying sabotage behavior and one of the least
suspected emotions that is responsible for blocking success and
abundance.
Ask yourself some important questions:
(1) How does it serve you to (4) Who will argue with you if you
continue feeling guilty? forgive yourself?
(2) How does it help you to stay (5) What are the consequences
mad at yourself? of feeling good about yourself?
(3) What are you afraid of if you
let go of the guilt?
BASIC GUILT
First you need to accept what you did or said and feel the feelings of
guilt before you try to neutralize them! Too often people try to neutralize
the guilt when they haven’t dealt with the reality of the situation. This
causes them to dissociate, or become so separated from their emotions,
they can’t access them to clear them with EFT. I always tell my clients you
can’t neutralize something you don’t feel. This is why we need to be
tuned in to our emotional issue for EFT to be effective.
Start on the karate chop point:
Even though I feel guilty for what I did during freshman year, I blame
myself, I choose to accept these feelings and what I did.
Even though I feel guilty for what I did back then, I don’t know what I was
thinking, I choose to accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though the guilt is right, I should feel guilty for what I did, I accept
what happened and accept my feelings.
(The above examples are just guidelines. I encourage you to be as specific
as possible in order to collapse the guilt, for example, “Even though I feel
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hurting him by rejecting him…Even though I feel guilty for telling her secret
to others…”)
EYEBROW: I feel so guilty. SIDE OF EYE: I’m embarrassed
SIDE OF EYE: I should feel guilty. about it.

UNDER EYE: I feel so guilty for UNDER EYE: I wasn’t trying to be

what I did. mean but it looked that way.

NOSE: I blame myself because it NOSE: I blame myself and always

was entirely my fault. will.

CHIN: It’s my fault. CHIN: It’s my fault.

COLLARBONE: I am to blame. COLLARBONE: I was just being

immature.
UNDER ARM: I should feel guilty.
UNDER ARM: But I shouldn’t have
HEAD: I am guilty for what done it.
happened
HEAD: I feel guilty and I appreciate
EYEBROW: I was doing the best I my feelings.
could.
Keep tapping on these above sequences until specific events and memories
are “cleared” of the negative charge.
Carol Look
EFT Master

Part 2 of 4
In part 2 of this series on guilt and shame, I will be discussing and
hopefully helping you collapse the guilt you have over things you did NOT
do or did NOT say to correct a situation. Feeling guilty about something
you didn’t do or say can be as powerful and crippling as having said or done
something you regret.
Remember, these feelings may not be overwhelming or terribly “loud” in
your consciousness. But if you are one of those people scratching your
head wondering why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for you, I
encourage you to identify and neutralize these issues around guilt. To get
the Law of Attraction pointed in the right direction for you, you need to first
clear the blocks and resistance you have to receiving abundance. Until
then, there will be no room for the positive manifestations.
You might wish to write a list of your sabotage behaviors, notice when they
happen, how easily they happen, and how baffled you are about their
reoccurrence. It could be eye-opening! On the one hand, you claim, “I do
want abundance” and yet your behavior shows that you clearly aren’t in
alignment or ready to accept/ embrace abundance when it’s offered to you.
Maybe you practice one of the recommended exercises to hasten
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changes in your life, no good comes of it. This is another form of
sabotage…you then get to tell the world, “see, nothing works for me!”
When you feel guilty, you’ll punish yourself in many ways, and a key area
for punishment is in attracting success and abundance with your
professional and financial success.
Again, ask yourself the questions I posed in part 1 of this series:
(1) How does it serve you to (4) Who will argue with you if you
continue feeling guilty? forgive yourself?
(2) How does it help you to stay (5) What are the consequences of
mad at yourself? feeling good about yourself?
(3) What are you afraid of if you let (6) What do you like about being a
go of the guilt? “tough case”?
Suppose you didn’t protect your colleague when the boss blamed him/her
for something. How do you feel about it now? Measure the “charge” you
feel about this incident (of omission) on the 0-10 point intensity scale.
Suppose you let one of your siblings take the blame for something you did
as a child, and he got severely punished, and you never “corrected” the
situation. How guilty do you feel about it when you think about it now?
What’s the charge on this issue for you? Measure the “charge” on the 0-10
point scale.
Karate chop point: Even though I should have corrected their
impressions, and I didn’t, I deeply and completely love and accept myself
anyway…Even though I feel guilty for not correcting the situation, I accept
who I am and what happened in the past…Even though I haven’t been able
to forgive myself for what I left out, I accept and love myself anyway.
EYEBROW: I feel so guilty for EYEBROW: I feel so guilty, and
staying quiet. can’t get over it.
SIDE OF EYE: I feel so guilty that I SIDE OF EYE: What if I forgave
didn’t correct him/her. myself?
UNDER EYE: I feel so guilty on a UNDER EYE: What if I didn’t?
deep level. NOSE: I still feel guilty, and I
NOSE: I did it on purpose. accept that.
CHIN: I don’t deserve to have all CHIN: I accept what I did back
that I want. then.
COLLARBONE: I am taking the COLLARBONE: I am so relieved I
punishment I deserve. have changed.
UNDER ARM: I should feel guilty, I UNDER ARM: I would do it
deserve it. differently now.
HEAD: I feel guilty and it’s too late. HEAD: I am willing to release some
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Measure the emotional charge on your chosen issue again on the 0-10 point
intensity scale.
Karate chop point: Even though I still have some of this remaining guilt, I
choose to accept and appreciate who I am right now…Even though I still
have some guilt about what I held back, I accept who I am and how I feel…
Even though I still blame myself because I didn’t tell the truth, I am going to
consider letting some of this guilt go.
EYEBROW: I am going to consider EYEBROW: I feel ready to get
releasing some of this guilt. over this problem.
SIDE OF EYE: It was a long time SIDE OF EYE: I know it’s time.
ago. UNDER EYE: I’m using the guilt to
UNDER EYE: I feel so sorry about punish myself.
what I didn’t say/do. NOSE: I am afraid of moving
NOSE: I am older and wiser now. ahead.
CHIN: I have punished myself long CHIN: I’m using the guilt for the
enough. wrong reasons.
COLLARBONE: It’s time to let go COLLARBONE: I am ready to let
even if I don’t fully forgive myself go.
yet. UNDER ARM: I should feel guilty,
UNDER ARM: I appreciate the shouldn’t I?
situation and am ready to move HEAD: It’s time to let go and
on. appreciate who I am right now.
HEAD: I am worthy of abundance
even though I didn’t say what I
should have said.
AFRAID TO FORGIVE
There is a common fear that the act of forgiving someone (or yourself)
equates to “letting them off the hook.” This topic always surfaces in
workshops and internally. If I forgive myself, does that make it ok? If I
forgive myself, will I do it again? If I forgive him, does that give him
permission to hurt someone else? I always hear students say they are afraid
to forgive themselves, as it doesn’t seem “right.” This feeling continues the
cycle of punishment.
Karate chop point:
Even though I feel guilty for the affair, and I don’t think I should forgive
myself, I accept who I am and what happened.
Even though I really hurt him/her so I don’t deserve to be forgiven, I accept
who I am and how I feel.
Even though I’m afraid to forgive myself, what if I do it again, I accept who I
am and what happened.

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EYEBROW: I feel so guilty, how CHIN: I choose to release my guilt.
could I forgive myself? COLLARBONE: I am older and
SIDE OF EYE: I have felt guilty wiser and appreciate why I did
long enough. what I did.
UNDER EYE: It’s over now and I UNDER ARM: It’s time to let this
want to move on. go now.
NOSE: The guilt isn’t doing anyone HEAD: I do deserve success and
any good! abundance in my life, no matter
what.
Do as many rounds of EFT on your guilts as necessary to reduce the
intensity level and allow peace into your life after all these years.
Stay tuned for parts 3 and 4 of this article on how to neutralize and
release additional feelings of guilt and shame that block your allowing
success and abundance into your life.
Carol Look,
EFT Master

Part 3 of 4
Since we are human, we all have millions of feelings a day. Sometimes our
feelings are blown out of proportion because of the writings on our walls,
sometimes they aren’t. The point is, we won’t heal if we aren’t allowed to
express our feelings and accept them first, before we try to make any
changes. This is the incredible beauty of EFT --- we are encouraged to
accept every emotion we feel rather than trying to get rid of them. Again,
this is one of the reasons the Law of Attraction backfires or apparently
doesn’t work for so many people. They have somehow interpreted it as
“ignoring or denying” real emotions, and in their effort to run from or
pretend they don’t have them, these emotions are in fact strengthened.
I often find that a client’s core issue is anger or resentment, but they don’t
feel free to express it, so they haven’t “let” their therapy go there before.
As a result, they continue to harbor anger and resentment on a profoundly
deep level, but don’t feel right expressing it even to their counselor. These
feelings, while initially clear to them, eventually get buried because it feels
so “wrong” to have them. This creates quite a troubling cycle, although it is
often underground and doesn’t get noticed. The emotions then never get
resolved, and in fact in some cases, it makes someone’s life worse and less
free as a great deal of energy is bound up in their minds and bodies as they
try hard to repress the emotions that are unacceptable. Many an illness
has its foundation in unexpressed feelings that have been “cut off” from
the person’s awareness because the person believes they’re not
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Considering the topic of how guilt and shame block the Law of Attraction,
can you see why it doesn’t “work” for you if you are harboring deep-seated
anger towards someone but won’t even let yourself feel it? These feelings
are literally “vibrating” in your body, and you are sending these signals to
the Universe, even while you are trying to be “positive” or work with your
vision board. Maybe you write or recite your daily gratitude list, while
reviewing another list of wrongs in your head…this “other list” will win.
I have a client who is angry and frustrated about her 6 year old who is
mildly learning disabled. The child is acting out in school and is causing a
lot of chaos at home. The mother feels so guilty about being angry at her
little girl, (“it’s not her fault that she doesn’t learn as quickly as the others”)
that she refuses to discipline her around the house, gives her many
advantages over the other siblings, spoils her, and stuffs her own legitimate
feelings of impatience. In other words, this mother’s genuine feelings need
to be expressed somewhere, but her overwhelming guilt about even having
negative feelings in the first place stops her in her tracks. Neighbors and
other family members have pointed out how she seems to go out of her
way to let this child get “extras” and get away with certain behaviors that
the other kids don’t, but my client was unable to see it because she didn’t
want to admit her real emotions of anger and frustration.
Another client was a primary caretaker for her mother with alzheimer’s
disease. She would frequently get impatient and angry when her mother
would shout, be disoriented or wander off. However, she felt so guilty for
feeling these emotions, she would stuff them and instead, sabotaged her
professional career and picked fights in her new relationship. She
experienced herself as “a bad person” for feeling angry at her elderly
mother who was sick.
Substitute your own family member or colleague in these tapping
sequences, and don’t be surprised if the negative feelings get a little louder
before they start to subside. Remember, you have been keeping them
quiet for way too long!
- Is there someone you’re - Do you feel guilty feeling
protecting from your anger? impatient when “they” are trying
- Do you feel guilty feeling hard?
angry towards someone older or - Where are your feelings
younger? going?
- Where are you hiding them?
Karate chop point: Even though I feel so angry because I feel
manipulated, but I’m not supposed to feel this way towards my kids, I
choose to love and accept myself anyway…Even though I’m angry but don’t
know where to put it, I accept and appreciate who I am…Even though I feel
guilty for being angry towards my child, I accept that these are my real
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EYEBROW: I feel so angry. EYEBROW: I feel guilty for feeling
SIDE OF EYE: I feel so guilty for this anger at her.
being angry. SIDE OF EYE: I don’t think I should
UNDER EYE: I’m not supposed to have these feelings.
be angry with her. UNDER EYE: I feel so angry
NOSE: I’m not allowed to feel though, what do I do with it?
angry, I could get into trouble. NOSE: I want to get over it.
CHIN: I don’t want to be angry. CHIN: I’m afraid to express it.
COLLARBONE: I can’t help it, it COLLARBONE: I am trying to
keeps coming out. ignore it but it won’t go away.
UNDER ARM: I should feel guilty UNDER ARM: I should feel guilty
for being angry. for having these feelings.
HEAD: I am trying not to feel my HEAD: I am going to pretend I
feelings. don’t have them.
Karate chop point: Even though I feel guilty for having these feelings, I
choose to accept them anyway…Even though I’m afraid of what I might do
with these feelings, I accept who I am and how I feel…Even though I’ve
never been allowed to express these feelings, I choose to express them
safely now.
EYEBROW: I feel so angry and it’s EYEBROW: I finally feel free
ok. enough to express my anger.
SIDE OF EYE: I feel so angry and SIDE OF EYE: I appreciate these
it’s time to let it out. feelings for the first time in my life.
UNDER EYE: I feel guilty feeling UNDER EYE: I didn’t realize I could
angry. just express these feelings.
NOSE: I could get into trouble, but NOSE: I can release some of my
I still need to express my feelings. guilt.
CHIN: I don’t want to be angry any CHIN: I’m ready to release my
more. guilt about these feelings of anger.
COLLARBONE: I choose to accept COLLARBONE: I am angry and
myself even though I’m angry. that’s ok.
UNDER ARM: I still feel guilty for UNDER ARM: I release the guilt
being angry. about these feelings.
HEAD: But I need to express my HEAD: I am allowed to feel ALL my
feelings anyway. feelings.
Continue tapping for these unexpressed feelings. Just accept that you have
them, and identify where you got the idea that you “shouldn’t” have them.
These will provide more specific events (comments from an authority
figure, experiences where you learned it was dangerous to express anger
etc.) as tapping targets.
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Carol Look,
EFT Master

Part 4 of 4
Maybe you have found yourself disagreeing with an authority figure --- your
coach, a parent, a teacher etc. Ask yourself the following questions and
measure the intensity level on a scale of 0-10 for each answer.
- How do you feel about it - Do you remember being
when you think about that incident scared, worried about their
now? reaction?
- Do you remember saying - Did you expect to get
“no” for the first time? “punished”?
- What other incident does it
remind you of?
Think of an incident or event when you clearly said “no” to an authority
figure. Remember how you felt, the look on their face, their reaction, your
reaction, where you felt it in your body. Go back there in your mind, and
measure the intensity of your feelings on the 0-10 point scale. Use this
incident and any aspects of it for this article’s tapping sequences. If you
are being specific enough, there will likely be a significant decrease in the
intensity of the fear, regret or whatever else you felt back then.
Being punished for saying “no” can stay lodged in your energy system,
coming out years or even decades later in the form of sabotage. Maybe
you are following and using the powerful principles of the Law of
Attraction, but they never seem to work for you. Consider the possibility
that your success might scare you and bring you “trouble” or that standing
up for yourself so many years ago still makes you feel guilty, and you are
punishing yourself by blocking your abundance or health.
Karate chop point: Even though I shouldn’t have said no, she was so mad,
I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway…Even though I got
into trouble when I said no, and I’ve been punishing myself ever since, I
accept who I am right now…Even though I was punished for saying no, I
accept who I am and how I feel about the incident.
EYEBROW: I feel guilty for saying HEAD: I am still punishing myself.
no. EYEBROW: I feel like a bad
SIDE OF EYE: I had to say no. person.
UNDER EYE: No I didn’t. SIDE OF EYE: Other people did
NOSE: I shouldn’t have said no. what she said, why couldn’t I?

CHIN: It was bad to disobey her. UNDER EYE: I feel so guilty.

COLLARBONE: I feel so guilty. NOSE: I should have said yes.

UNDER ARM: I should feel guilty.

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CHIN: I should have done what UNDER ARM: I don’t want to carry
everyone else did. this around.
COLLARBONE: I still feel guilty HEAD: I did what I thought was
and it was years ago. right and I got into trouble.
Often, saying no was truly in alignment with what was right for you, but if
a teacher, coach, parent, or supervisor is somehow threatened by it, there
might have been unfair or terrible consequences for you. A client of mine
didn’t comply with outrageous requests from his boss who was engaged in
unethical practices. He suffered for years on the job as a result. Even
though he maintained his integrity, he felt he got punished for “saying no.”
SHAME
No child is ever born feeling deeply ashamed even if it is in their parents’
cells. We are taught energetically how to feel ashamed of ourselves by
our caretakers and the events and circumstances in our life. Sometimes
the lesson comes through abuse, sometimes through words, looks in the
eye, circumstances that couldn’t be prevented, or other issues. But we
never start out feeling ashamed for who we are as tiny babies.
Shame is harder to identify than guilt because it is a more pervasive
feeling. It’s a bit like the difference between generalized anxiety about life
– you can’t quite put your finger on the cause -- rather than specific anxiety
about an upcoming meeting or speech. If you feel guilty because you broke
your mother’s favorite dish, you can identify the cause of the problem, and
therefore address it. Shame means YOU ARE THE PROBLEM, not
something you did.
How does this get in the way of using Law of Attraction to your
advantage? When you feel ashamed, you are convinced in every cell in
your body that you don’t deserve success and abundance in any area of
your life. So even though you use visualization, written exercises, vision
boards etc, it seems to backfire and you end up right where you started.
That’s because the “tail enders” (The truth is I’m NOT good enough, I really
DON’T deserve more, I should be punished) are so powerful, they cancel
out your momentary positive feelings or your temporary clear focus on
what you want. While you are focusing on a beautiful house, the subtext is
“Who am I kidding, I don’t deserve it and I’ll never get it!”
When you are ashamed, it means you think you are “no good” or feel
“defective.” The reason so many physically or emotionally abused people
feel ashamed is because their translation of their life’s circumstances is:
If my own mother spoke to me that If my caretaker said I was “no
way, I must be a lousy person. good” he must have been right.
If my own father hit me when he If they looked at me that way,
was drunk, I must have deserved there must be something wrong
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If the neighbors treated us that If I got punished that often, I must
way, it must have been my fault. be a bad person.
Needless to say, the caretakers who abused their children are carrying
generations of untreated shame and low self-esteem.
How to get specific:
Ask yourself some of the following questions to find more identifiable
tappable issues:
(1) Why do I feel ashamed of (6) Who taught me that I wasn’t
myself? enough?
(2) What did they say that made (7) Where exactly did I get this
me feel this way? idea?
(3) What evidence do I have that (8) What event from my childhood
I am no good? made me feel ashamed?
(4) Why am I convinced that I (9) What phrases come to mind
don’t measure up? when I think of being ashamed?
(5) How do I know I’m not
deserving yet others are?

THE “TRUTH”
Many people who feel ashamed will not let you talk them out of it. It is very
important to meet the person where they are energetically and emotionally,
and let them feel this conviction that they are no good, their “truth” before
neutralizing it with EFT.
Start on the karate chop point:
Even though I’m convinced I’m not worthy, I accept this feeling and my
truth.
Even though I know I’m not worthy, I have proof, I accept who I am anyway.
Even though I don’t accept myself because I’m defective, I accept my
feelings and remain convinced of who I am.
Even though they taught me I wasn’t valuable, I accept these feelings and
who I am
EYEBROW: I’m no good and I CHIN: I’m not worth the attention.
know it. COLLARBONE: I don’t deserve
SIDE OF EYE: Everyone knows attention.
this. UNDER ARM: I feel ashamed
UNDER EYE: They can see it in because I am “less than.”
me. HEAD: I am not worthy in any way.
NOSE: I show it on my face and in EYEBROW: What if they were
my words. wrong?
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SIDE OF EYE: I think they were COLLARBONE: I’ve always been
right. inferior.
UNDER EYE: My own parents UNDER ARM: I’ve always been
treated me poorly. inadequate.
NOSE: It must have been me. HEAD: It’s not a feeling, it’s the
CHIN: It’s because I’m not good truth.
enough.
When you get some of the “evidence” for why you feel ashamed of
yourself, incorporate it into your tapping sequences to see if you can shift
the intensity. Warning: You are likely to get considerable resistance to
loosening this feeling up, so take it from all angles.
Start on the karate chop point:
Even though their words are proof that I’m not valuable, I accept who I am
anyway.
Even though he told me I was not acceptable, I accept my feelings.
Even though I’m convinced they were right --- I’m not acceptable --- I
accept these uncomfortable feelings and who I am.
EYEBROW: I’m not acceptable. SIDE OF EYE: I choose to feel
SIDE OF EYE: I’ll never fit in. acceptable.

UNDER EYE: I’m never enough. UNDER EYE: I feel valuable.

NOSE: I don’t belong here. NOSE: No I don’t.

CHIN: It’s true – I’m not lovable. CHIN: I am valuable.

COLLARBONE: I’m not enough. COLLARBONE: I am worth being

valued.
UNDER ARM: I don’t fit in.
UNDER ARM: I am enough.
HEAD: I am defective.
HEAD: I accept who I am.
EYEBROW: I feel accepting that
I’m not acceptable.
Karate chop point: Even though he told me I was “a nobody” and I
believed him, I accept who I am anyway…Even though I thought he was
right all along, I accept the possibility that he was wrong…Even though he
said I was “rotten to the core” I accept that there might be some good in
me.
EYEBROW: I’m rotten to the core. CHIN: I assume he was right.
SIDE OF EYE: I’ll never be COLLARBONE: I have always been
enough. “a nobody” just like he said.
UNDER EYE: I’m never going to UNDER ARM: I don’t have any
get over this. value.
NOSE: I know I’m no good. HEAD: I’m not worthy of success.
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EYEBROW: What if I could get CHIN: What if I’ve had value all
over this feeling? along?
SIDE OF EYE: But it’s who I am. COLLARBONE: I am worth as
UNDER EYE: What if he was much as you are.
wrong? UNDER ARM: I am enough.
NOSE: Maybe I do have value. HEAD: I accept who I am.
I encourage you to continue finding specific events and “table legs”
underneath your “tabletop” --- your sabotage behavior. There may be
hundreds of times that someone looked at you in a particularly shaming
way, dozens of negative comments about your lack of worth in your family.
Look for phrases and attitudes from parents, caregivers, teachers, coaches,
siblings, babysitters and society. Look at when you first felt this way, what
subsequent events cemented the feeling for you. It is worth collapsing
these events and circumstances one by one, and allowing abundance into
your personal and professional life.
The Law of Attraction works beautifully and systematically. But when
your negative feelings about your worth and what you’ve done in the past
are so loud, the universe can’t hear (and therefore can’t deliver) your
desires!
Carol Look,
EFT Master

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