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www.theletteronline.com VOLUME 22, ISSUE 3 • MARCH 2011

Obama Administration Will No Longer Defend DOMA

Attorney General Eric Holder
Meet Lady GaGa after her Louisville
concert & support Fairness!
Details on page 19!
In a bold move to advance the cause of marriage equality at the level of the
federal government, US Attorney General Eric Holder made the following
statement on February 23, regarding the Department of Justice’s course of action
in two lawsuits, Pedersen v. OPM and Windsor v. United States, challenging
Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which defines marriage for
federal purposes as only between a man and a woman.
“In the two years since this [Obama] Administration took office, the
Department of Justice has defended Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act
on several occasions in federal court. Each of those cases evaluating Section 3
was considered in jurisdictions in which binding circuit court precedents hold
that laws singling out people based on sexual orientation, as DOMA does, are
constitutional if there is a rational basis for their enactment. While the President
opposes DOMA and believes it should be repealed, the Department has defended
it in court because we were able to advance reasonable arguments under that
rational basis standard.
Section 3 of DOMA has now been challenged in the Second Circuit, however,
which has no established or binding standard for how laws concerning sexual
orientation should be treated. In these cases, the Administration faces for the
first time the question of whether laws regarding sexual orientation are subject
to the more permissive standard of review or whether a more rigorous standard,
under which laws targeting minority groups with a history of discrimination are
viewed with suspicion by the courts, should apply.
After careful consideration, including a review of my recommendation, the
President has concluded that given a number of factors, including a documented
(See DOMA, continued on page 19)

Daniel Mason
(502) 966-5178
4610 Outer Loop
Louisville
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Hawaii Legislature Approves Civil Union Bill
Last month a bill establishing civil unions easily passed
both chambers of the Hawaii legislature. As of press time
Gov. Neil Abercrombie was scheduled to sign the bill into
law. An enthusiastic supporter of equality, he even made
the law’s passage a major focus of his electioin campaign
last year.
Once enacted, the new law will take effect on January 1,
2012.
“This is a great day for all Hawaii families,” said Jennifer
Pizer, National Marriage Project Director for Lambda Legal.
“We commend and thank Hawaii’s legislators for deciding
it’s time for the state to take this important step."
Lambda Legal and the ACLU filed a lawsuit in July,
2010 after then-Governor Linda Lingle vetoed HB 444, the
previous civil union bill. The remedy requested in that suit Gov. Neil
will be provided by this bill, meaning there will be no need
Abercrombie
for the lawsuit to continue.
Hawaii’s constitution was amended in 1998 to allow
the legislature to restrict marriage to heterosexual couples, which it has done. This
means same-sex couples cannot ask Hawaii’s courts to require full equality through
marriage. Although civil unions are a lesser status than marriage, they will provide
a full range of state law protections and duties to gay and lesbian couples, such as
access to family court to dissolve the legal status in an orderly way, clear duties to
pay child support and alimony as spouses must, and other vital protections. Bills to
offer civil unions have been under steady consideration in the Hawai`i Legislature
each year since 2001.
With passage of Hawii's legislation, five states (CT, IA, MA, NH and VT) and the
District of Columbia allow same-sex couples to marry. Six states (CA, IL, NV, NJ, OR
and WA) offer broad state-law protection through civil union or registered domestic
(See Hawaii Legislature ,
continued on pg 14)

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Popular Gay Author, Movie Producer
Dies, Drug Overdose Suspected
Perry Moore, the openly gay author
of the Lamdba Award-winning gay teen
novel Hero and an executive producer
on The Chronicles of Narnia movie
series, was found dead in his New York
apartment on Thursday, February 17. His
body was discovered by his life partner.
As of press time, conflicting newspaper
and Internet news accounts claimed that
his death was suicide, while other reports
claim authorities had not announced
the nature of his death. Yet virtually all
media reports claimed that his death
was caused by a drug overdose and the
majority of media accounts claim his
death was caused by an overdose of the
pain killer OxyContrin.
According to a very emotional tribute
Lesbian Couple Sues Next-Door Neighbor For Alleged Arson
by Out & About Newspaper Staff
A lesbian couple in Tennessee whose
home was burned to the ground last
September has filed a lawsuit against a
next-door neighbor who they believe set
the fire.
The couple in question, Carol Ann
Stutte and partner Laura Stutte, were
on a visit to Nashville when the incident
happened on Saturday, September 4.
They returned to find their house was
burned to the ground and the word
"queers" spray painted on the side of
their garage.
According to a report published in the
Knoxville-based pulication Metro Pulse,
Hoosier Legislators Ignore Economic Concerns,
Preferring To Target Same-Sex Marriage
The future of Indiana’s economic
health and viability is the most important
issue facing all Indiana families, declared
leaders and allies of Indiana’s GLBT
communities while the Indiana General
Assembly contemplates the adoption
of House Joint Resolution 6, a marriage
discrimination amendment to Indiana’s
constitution.
In mid-February the Indiana House
of Representatives approved HJR-6
by a vote of 70 to 26. The proposed
amendment now moves to the Indiana
Senate for further consideration.
“We are greatly disappointed that
some members of the General Assembly
have decided to endorse an amendment
that would forever write discrimination
into the Indiana Constitution,” stated
Rick Sutton, President of Indiana
Equality Action. “Indiana is facing
a the effects of a crippling recession,
high unemployment, diminishing
job prospects, a significant budget
deficit and serious threats to Indiana’s
p o s t e d
by Brent
Hartinger on
the AfterElton
website, the
39 year old
Perry, “lived
an impressive
l i f e …
Whenever
we spoke,
I always
found him Perry Moore
to be enormously supportive and
encouraging.”
Moore had been working on a TV
adaptation of Hero for Showtime, which
had fallen through, although he had been
The complaint does allege taunts made
by Millsaps that specifically targeted the
Stuttes’ sexual orientation:
For example, a month before the fire,
on August 4, they allege, Millsaps,
whose double wide mobile home rests
about 20 feet from the gate leading to
the Stuttes’ property, approached them
as they stopped to close their front
gate. She poked at the Stuttes, alleges
the complaint, and asked them, “Do
you know what is better than one dead
queer? Two dead queers.” The complaint
notes that she then threatened to burn
their house down, laughed, and returned
public education system and social
services programs. A discriminatory
constitutional amendment appears to
be nothing more than a highly divisive
political ploy, distracting Indiana from
focusing on our state’s real problems.”
Sutton observed that House Joint
Resolution 6 would, for the first time, use
an amendment to Indiana’s Constitution
as a tool of exclusion. The effect of this
amendment is far-reaching, threatening
the access of unmarried couples to
benefits such as inheritance rights, health
care benefits and other legal protections
for their families.
“Hoosiers across the state are already
suffering from a battered economy.
Our elected legislators should concern
themselves with solutions to get people
back to work and not passing legislation
that would dampen Indiana’s recovery
from the current recession” stated
Josephine Hughes on behalf of the
National Association of Social Workers.
Explaining that any distraction from
in the process of bringing the project to
another network.
Moore was instrumental in the creation
of the Narnia movie franchise, based on
books that he loved with a passion. He
was also influential in the memorable
casting of Tilda Swinton as the White
Witch.
Moore has been out for years, even
once appearing in People magazine's
"Sexiest Man Alive" issue, as the Sexy
Man of the Week.
Considered by many addiction experts
to be the most abused prescription drug
on the market, OxyContin is highly
addictive. The pain killer also contributed
to the death of Brokback Mountain star
Health Ledger.
to her house.”
The Stuttes, who have been together
for more than 15 years, moved to Vonore,
Tenn. from Oklahoma in June 2005. Police
reports state that for years before the fire,
Carol Ann and Laura were harassed by
Millsaps, but no arrests were made.
In the complaint against Millsaps, the
Stuttes are seeking a total of $880,000,
which includes damages for intentional
infliction of emotional distress and
malicious harassment.
Copyright 2011, Out & About
Newspaper. All rights reserved.
Reprinted with permission.
the state’s stark economic situation is
damaging to Hoosier families, Hughes
continued “Instead of offering solutions
to the real problems Indiana families
are facing, proponents of House Joint
Resolution 6 are taking time on an
unnecessary and damaging amendment
to our Constitution, infringing on
people’s human dignity.”
Sutton urged Hoosiers across the
state to join in voicing opposition to the
Marriage Discrimination Amendment.
“This is politics at its worst. Hoosiers
demand real leadership from their
elected officials, especially when so many
struggle during these tough economic
times.”
“Equality and fairness are Hoosier
values” noted the Rev. Kevin Armstrong,
Senior Pastor of North United Methodist
Church and representative of the Interfaith
Coalition on Nondiscrimination.
“Discrimination of any kind should not
be tolerated and certainly has no place in
our state’s Constitution.”
Conference Focused On Making
Kentuckiana Safer For GLBTQ Youth
Kentuckiana residents, some from as with this knowledge.
far away as Indianapolis, came together More than 30 adult youth workers
on Saturday, February 12 to learn how attended a Safe Space Training where they
to create the region a safer place for brainstormed and made commitments
gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and to creating a safer learning environment
questioning youth. for their peers – including coming out
“This type of continuous training is as an ally via posters, signs and stickers.
important to ensure every child has the According to one participant, “We must
access to a safe learning environment become professionally courageous to
they deserve,” said Louisville Youth support these precious children.”
Group (LYG) Executive Director Donald Coordinated and presented by the
Taylor. Louisville Youth Group, other sponsors
In a strategic partnership with the included, University of Louisville
University of Louisville’s Lambda Legal Brandeis School of Law, PFLAG Louisville
Caucus, students and supportive youth and First Lutheran Church. Attendees
workers alike, attended sessions such as: ranged in age from 14 to 72.
Gay-Straight Alliances 101 to learn their Founded in 1990, LYG boosts the self-
legal rights to a safe learning environment. esteem of GLBT youth by providing a
“Many students and teachers simply do safe space that encourages positive life
not know about the Equal Access Act and choices, teaches healthy interactions with Kentucky & Indiana legislatures are
what it guarantees youth. So we partnered peers and adults, and develops activities
with those who had legal knowledge to in which youth are challenged to reach
considering legislation that will impact
equip our students and their educators their full potential. the GLBT community. Stay informed!
Visit KentuckyFairness.org or IndianaEquality.org
Popular Pageant Adds “Drag King” Category for regular updates throughout March.
The Entertainer Of the Year Pageantry System (EOY) has
announced a new category to it’s family of pageants. The
organizers of the “King Entertainer of the Year for Male
Impersonators” are seeking venues and participants for this
new competition.
The national finals for Drag King will take place the
Connection Theatre in downtown Louisville
July 27 – 30. While this will be an “open contest”, the event
sponsor is encouraging promoters to organize preliminary
pageants. Contestants will be judged on presentation,
creative evening wear, talent and their response to a
question posed to them during the contest.
For more information visit www.eoy.net or call (502) 807-1972.

AIDS United Announces Grant To

Provide Expanded Care Programs
Thousands of individuals living with
HIV/AIDS in low-income and/or rural
areas will now receive local, high quality
care, thanks to new grants awarded by
AIDS United for its Access to Care (A2C)
initiative. The awards, supported by a
grant from the Social Innovation Fund
(SIF), will help fund the development
of 10 innovative community-based
programs to improve the lives of people
living with HIV/AIDS. Each grant
represents a collaboration of multiple
organizations in each community.
Some of the exciting and pioneering
approaches that SIF grantees will be
developing include:
• Mobile Engagement Teams: These
teams will reach the most complex,
chronically-ill HIV-positive New Yorkers
through street-based outreach and a
full spectrum of supportive services,
including psychiatric and housing
support.
• Handheld technology: For outreach
workers who need to record client data
and contact information, one program
will use handheld technology so that
data appears instantly in the project
database -- eliminating extra steps in
tracking and outcomes.
• Center of Excellence in HIV-
positive Women’s Care: Clinical care
for women living with HIV will be
integrated to address behavioral health
needs, bilingual information and care,
and childcare services. The Center of
Excellence will be linked to clinical
research, addressing a gap in existing
research specific to women living with
HIV/AIDS.
• Telemedicine: A ground-breaking
approach to serving people who have a
severe shortage of nearby HIV medical
providers, one program will use video
technology to allow local nurses to
communicate and collaborate with
(See AIDS United Announces GranT,
continued on pg 13)

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Michigan: Anti-Gay Counseling
Student Accused Of Violating Ethics
On February 11 Lambda Legal filed
a friend-of-the-court brief on behalf of
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians
and Gays (PFLAG), Gay, Lesbian and
Straight Education Network (GLSEN),
and the Detroit-based organizations
Affirmations and Ruth Ellis Center in
a case involving a counseling student
dismissed from Eastern Michigan
University (EMU) for violating ethics
related to treatment of GLBT patients.
The case is being heard by the United
States Court of Appeals for the Sixth
Circuit.
Julea Ward, a graduate student
pursuing a degree in school counseling,
claims her First Amendment rights were
violated when EMU dismissed her after
she demanded to refer a gay client she
had been
assigned
randomly
as part of
her course
work, and
refused to
counsel any gay or lesbian clients in the
future.
"It is cruel, dangerous and unethical
for a counselor to refuse services on a
discriminatory basis solely to lesbian or
gay youth who seek help and guidance
from a mental health professional," said
Camilla Taylor, Senior Staff Attorney
at the Midwest Regional Office of
Lambda Legal in Chicago. "LGBT
youth—a group specifically at risk for
bullying, depression, low self-esteem
and suicide—need to have access to
counselors who will support them, not
counselors who will abandon them
or worse—who will harm them by
injecting antigay proscriptions into the
counseling relationship in violation of
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the ethical rules and standards of care of
every major mental health professional
organization including the American
Counseling Association."
In 2006, Julea Ward was admitted to
Eastern Michigan University's masters
program for school counseling. In 2009,
as part of her practicum coursework,
Ward refused to counsel an assigned
client because he identified himself as
gay, saying she would not "affirm their
lifestyle." Ward then refused to participate
in a remediation plan that would help
her learn to counsel based on the client's
values, not her own. These actions
are a direct violation of the American
Counseling Association's code of ethics,
a code that Ward agreed to adhere to
when she
entered
into EMU's
masters
program.
Following
a formal
review, Ward was dismissed from the
program.
In April 2009, Ward sued EMU with the
help of a national anti-gay group based
in Arizona, saying her First Amendment
rights were violated. The Federal District
Court ruled in favor of EMU, and Ward
appealed to the United States Court of
Appeals for the Sixth Circuit.
The anti-gay group representing
Ward boasts a budget of nearly $20
million devoted solely to suing public
universities around the country in
similar cases. In fact, Lambda Legal
participated in a nearly identical lawsuit
brought by a counseling student against
a public university in Georgia less than
three months ago.
Pride Comes Early To Miami Beach:
April 16th
After a highly successful event in 2010 that
attracted more than 35,000 people, the City of
Miami Beach is gearing up for another historic Gay
Pride Parade and Festival on Saturday, April 16,
2011.
The largest single-day event of the year in
Miami Beach, the Pride Parade and Festival is an
extraordinary all-day event that features a loud and
colorful parade followed by an enormous festival
with exciting celebrities and musical performances,
LGBT-friendly vendors and businesses,
refreshments, food and a family-friendly play area.
Again for 2011, one of the highlights of Pride will
be a salute to “Legacy Couples” – committed LGBT
partners who have been together for 20 or more years
who will march and ride together in recognition of
their commitment and in affirmation of marriage
equality. To register as a Legacy Couple for the 2011
parade, email Pride Director Cindy Brown at: cindy@maimibeachgaypride.com.
Also returning for 2011 will be the 2nd Annual Miami Beach Pride Cruise to The
Bahamas, April 18 – 22. For more information on the Pride Cruise, visit www.
pridecruise.com.
Because of the overwhelming success of the last two Pride events, Miami Beach Gay
Pride has been expanded this year to five extraordinary days OUT. From Saturday
to Friday, exciting events leading up to the Pride Parade and Festival will include a
Women’s Art Conference, an Interfaith Service, a film night and more.
Events and activities will be posted as they are confirmed, so please check the
website at www.miamibeachgaypride.com for the most up-to-date information.
Tri-State Alliance Hosts
10th Annual GLBT Prom
The Tri-State Alliance of Evansville has
scheduled the 10th Annual GLBT Prom
for Saturday, April 9 from 7:00pm until
Midnight at the Evansville Holiday Inn
on US Highway 41 (formerly known as
the Evansville Airport Marriott).
A record turnout for the prom is
expected this year, since this will mark
the the first time the event has been
publicized in all of Evansville’s public
high schools. All community members
are welcome to attend. Security will be
provided.
Admission is $10.00 per person at
the door. To download a copy of the
event flyer, visit www.TSAGL.org. For
additional information contact Wally at
(812) 480-0204 or wallypaynter@aol.com.
Facebook Adds “Civil Union” and
“Domestic Partnership” Options
Same-sex couples and individuals on Facebook now can express their relationship
statuses more effectively – the social networking site has added “in a civil union” and
“in a domestic partnership” to its relationship status options. Facebook has over 600
million users worldwide – the move demonstrates the growing everyday acceptance
of LGBT couples and individuals.
The changes were made in consultation with Facebook’s Network of Support. HRC
was one of the founding members of the Network, which was formed in October 2010
in an effort to combat LGBT cyberbullying.
HRC spokesperson Michael Cole-Schwartz praised the move in a Huffington Post
article: “As LGBT people face a patchwork of relationship recognition laws, this gives
people more tools to adequately describe their relationship. “Facebook has been a
company that has tried to be inclusive of the LGBT community and this just one sign
of it.”
Cholesterol Medications May Slow
HIV Progression
Statin medications, commonly used to reduce high cholesterol, may also be able
to slow the progression of infection among HIV positive individuals, according to a
study recently published in the Journal of Infectious Diseases.
A team of researchers from the National Naval Medical Center said that statin
medications appear to inhibit cellular markers of immune activation and inflammation
among HIV positive individuals. The researchers were quick to stress that this
treatment is not the same thing as a cure. It simply means that statins may slow the
degradation of the immune system caused by HIV infection. This is often the leading
cause of complications and eventual death in individuals with the virus.
The primary objective of the study was actually to see if statins could lower the
amount of viral genetic material in the blood of HIV positive patients. This would
have been a major breakthrough. While their research failed to show this outcome, it
did indicate that there are other benefits to taking statins.
Statins are already among the most commonly prescribed medications in the world,
as millions of people take them to control their cholesterol levels.

Israel’s First Openly Gay

Judge Appointed
Late last month attorney Dori Spivak was
appointed as a judge in the Tel Aviv Labor
Court. He is the first openly gay judge
appointed in Israel.
Spivak, the deputy director of the Tel
Aviv University's law clinics, is a veteran
activist for GLBT rights. He is also the former
chairman of the Association for Civil Rights
Israel (ACRI) and an esteemed legal advisor
to the GLBT community.
Dan Yakir, an attorney for the ACRI,
congratulated Spivak on his appointment. Dori Spivak
Yakir observed that “As a personal friend
and a partner in the civil rights struggle I
can say this is an excellent choice. Dori is an expert on equality at work and health
rights. He will contribute to developing human rights at the work place.”
Many other gay activists and academics also expressed support for Spivak’s
nomination, describing it as “a ray of sunshine, especially at a dark time like today
where human rights organizations are under attack.” They expressed their hope that
this appointment will be a sign of social change, particularly within the justice system.
“He is an experienced legalist when it comes to human rights and labor laws,” Spivak’s
colleague, Professor Eyal Gross from the Tel Aviv University said.
Another academic colleague at the University is Spivak’s partner Dr. Yishai Blank.
“I don’t think sexual preferences had anything to do with this appointment. It’s a
happy occasion for us personally and also for the State. I’m not objective, of course,
but I believe he is deserving in light of his skills, capabilities and his commitment to
justice and the law.”
Blank added that ”many lawyers see judicial appointments as the pinnacle of their
career, and I think they should understand that conducting a fair trial is both an
endowment and a social cause. Dori hasn’t always thought about this position, but
it’s something that’s very hard not to be drawn to considering he sees it as his mission
and destiny.”

THE COMMUNITY LETTER Salutes…

every member of the GLBT community who has ever been put down,
shunned, or otherwise marginalized by another member of our own
community for reasons of age, race, religion (or lack of religious
affiliation), style of hair (or lack of hair), weight, disability, social status,
family status, income or for any other reason. Remember that
you are OK just the way you are! It is about time that individuals
who are marginalized by society STOP marginalizing one another.

Know of a community member who deserves to be recognized?

Tell us WHO and WHY: editor@theletteronline.com.

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Christ Church Cathedral (Episcopal)
Journeying Together In Christ
421 South 2nd Street (Downtown)
(502) 587-1354
Sundays: 8:15am (Rite I); 10:00am (Choral Rite II)
Concert & Choral Evensong: 2nd Sundays at 5:00pm
www.christchurchlouky.org
Central Presbyterian Church
Celebrating God’s Wildly Inclusive Love
4th & Kentucky Streets (Old Louisville)
Church School: 9:30am
Sunday Worship: 11:00am (Nursery Provided)
Pastors: D. Mark Baridon & Ann J. Deibert
(502) 587-6935 • www.CentralChurchKY.org
Clifton Universalist Unitarian Church
We Need Not Think Alike To Love Alike
2231 Payne Street, Louisville (40206)
(502) 895-3189 | www.cliftonuu.org
Rev. Todd Eklof, Minister
Sunday Services: 11:00ish to 12:00ish,
Social Hour, Vegetarian Lunch follows services
Metropolitan Community Church
ALL People Are Welcome at the Table
1432 Highland Avenue (Louisville)
(502) 587-6225 • www.mcclouisville.org
Rev. Dee Dale, Pastor
Sunday Morning Worship: 10:30am
Wednesday Evening Worship: 6:00pm
New Beginnings Church
Defined By FAITH, Not Orientation!
1710 East 10th Street, Jeffersonville, IN
Pastor Tracy Patton/ (812) 595-0571
Sunday Worship: 10:30am
www.newbeginnings4u.net
Open Door Community Fellowship
Reaching Out to ALL People
3938 Southern Parkway, Louisville
(502) 893-6323 / Pastor Sherry Roby
www.opendoorcommunityfellowship.com
Sunday: 10:30am & Wednesday: 7:00pm
St. Andrew United Church of Christ
Wherever you are on life’s journey,
you are welcome here
2608 Browns Lane; Louisville, KY 40220
(502) 452-1777 / www.saintandrewucc.org
Sunday Service: 10:30 am
2nd Sunday Taize: 7:00 pm
Thomas Jefferson Unitarian Church
A Welcoming Congregation,
Standing On The Side Of LOVE!
4936 Brownsboro Road
Louisville, KY 40222
(502) 425-6943 • www.tjuc.org
Sunday Service: 11:00am
These are PAID LISTINGS.
For more information
call (502) 419-2597.
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3rd Sundays
3:00pm. Metro Louisville chapter of Parents, Family &
Friends of Lesbians and Gays. First Lutheran Church,
417 East Broadway. For more information call (502) 233-
1323 or visit www.pflaglouisville.org.
Confidentiality respected.
Every Monday
7:00pm. Movie Mania at Gay & Lesbian Community
Center of Cincinnati, 4119 Hamilton Avenue. Free. For
movie titles click on the icon for the GLBT Calendar
page at www.glbtcentercincinnati.com.
Every Monday
7:00;pm. Dayton Gay Men's Chorus practice at
Eternal Joy Metropolitan Community Church,
2382 Kennedy Avenue. For more information write
DtnGayMensChorus@aol.com.
Every Tuesday
2:45pm. GLBT Mental Health Issues Support Group at
The Recovery Center, 2340 Auburn Avenue, Cincinnati.
(513) 241-1411.
6:00 - 8:00pm
Louisville Fairness Campaign Volunteer Meet-Up at
2263 Frankfort Avenue. For more information call Kyle
(502) 893-0788 or write fairness@fairness.org.
6:30pm. Triangle Martial Arts Association: Tae Kwon Do
training for GLBT community. Beginners & experienced
welcome. For location write: m_fearnow@yahoo.com.
7:30pm. Women's Tuesday Night Coming Out Group at
Off The Avenue, 1546 Knowlton Street, Cincinnati. (513)
535-2517.
1st & 3rd Thursdays
7:00pm. Gay Men’s Support Group meets at
Metropolitan Community Church of Louisville, 1432
Highland Avenue.
Every 3rd Friday
7:30pm. “Family-Friendly” Coffeehouse at Day’s
Coffee Shop, Bardstown Road at Edenside Avenue in
Louisville. Music and readings, organized by Marie
Davis, cartoonist for THE COMMUNITY LETTER.
SAVE THE DATE!!!
Saturday, May 7 @ 8:00pm.
3rd Annual DOWN & DERBY Benefit for the WINGS Clinic,
At the Water Tower on River Road, Louisville.
Details on page 20 of this issue.
Mark England www.LouisvilleGayInfo.com
Selling Louisville's Most DIVERSE Neighborhoods
sponsored by Mark England
Wednesdays: March 2 & April 6
7:00pm. Crossport Crossdresser Support Group,
Cincinnati. (513) 919-4850.
Sundays: March 6 & April 3
3:00pm. Monthly meeting of Owensboro chapter
of Parents & Friends of Lesbians & Gays. Journey
Fellowship, located at the corner of Alexander Avenue &
18th Street. For information: pflagowensboro@hotmail.
com or call (270) 929-1399.
Mondays: March 7 & April 4
7:00pm. Christian Men’s Fellowship Dinner. Organized
by New Beginnings Church. Location: KT’s Restaurant,
2300 Lexington Road, Louisville. More information:
(812) 595-0571.
Monday March 7
11:00am - Close. Dining OUT for Youth benefiting
Louisville Youth Group. Lunch, Dinner or just drinks.
Flanagan's Ale House, 934 Baxter Avenue.
Tuesdays: March 8 & April 12
7:00pm. Cincinnati PFLAG meeting. Mount Auburn
Presbyterian Church, 103 William Howard Taft Road.
For more information call (513) 721-7900.
Tuesdays: March 8 & April 12
7:30pm Dayton PFLAG Monthly Meeting. 667
Miamisburg-Centerville Road (Centerville). For more
information call: (937) 640-3333.
Wednesdays: March 16 & April 20
6:30pm. Indy Bi-Versity, confidential discussion group.
For more information, including the meeting location,
write: indybiversity@yahoo.com.
March 18 - 20
St. Patrick’s Weekend Bash at Timberfell Lodge,
Greenville, TN. For details or to make reservations
for this or other upcoming special events visit www.
timberfell.com. Seasonal 50% discount available on
weekend room rates. Reservations: (800) 437-0118.
Saturday, March 19
8:00pm. Monthly meeting of Sienna, transgender
support group in Louisville. For location leave a
message: (502) 894-1048. For more information about the
group visit www.tg-sienna.org.
Saturday, April 9
7:00pm - Midnight. 10th Annual GLBT Prom, sponsored
by the Tri-State Alliance of Evansville. Evansville
Holiday Inn on US Highway 41. All community
members welcome. Admission: $10.00 per person at the
door. For more information visit www.TSAGL.org or
call (812) 480-0204 or write wallypaynter@aol.com.
 OUT  SPOKEN
Paradise?
I seem to get stuck on a new song every
few weeks. I’m constantly adding new
music to my various playlists, however,
one song always seem to catch my
attention. I will then listen to that song
every day, sometimes several times a day,
sometimes for several weeks. I dissect
everything about the song. I try to
listen to each instrument separately and
together within the song. And I always
“Google the lyrics”, read them over and
over, while I try understand what the
writer is saying or could be saying.
I have no idea why I do this; it is just
something I have gotten into the habit of
doing. I especially like finding new or
remade versions, of old songs. Most of
these songs have had a humble simple
beginning but have been transformed
into something much larger, something
stronger, that now carries a louder sound,
but with the same simple message.
For me this song during the past
month has been a childhood song that
was remade a couple years ago. I heard
it once, but had not been able to find
it again. Well, I found it. And yes the
words remain the same, but the song
is something much louder and larger.
While the first version could not be
ignored because of its simple message,
the later version retains the message and
has transformed it into something much
more complex and boisterous. There is
one lyric in the song that says, "If you want
to view paradise, simply look around
and view it." For some reason, this line
has been stuck in my head. Really? That
is all I have to do? Just look around? I'm
looking. Yes, I see areas that are nice, but
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so far I have not found paradise. Am I
actually supposed to find it now?
I guess as an architect, I am programmed
to evaluate and critique the built
environment around me, I did not even
consider other meanings of paradise. I
only thought to consider my version of
paradise. For me, that would include
a built environment of architectural
variety and style, in which the buildings
created a fabric so that one building only
strengthened the importance of other
adjacent structures. No electrical wires
or poles, or anything that would clutter
or junk the landscape. That would be
my paradise. But, my definition only
encompassed a small range of what we
should consider when moving to or
relocating to paradise.
Paradise is meant to encompass
everything. And for many, a place of
paradise, in this day and time, would
be a place in which they could find
employment. A place where they would
be treated fairly. A place without crime or
violence. A place where they did not feel
alone or lonely. Or maybe just simply a
place where they felt they could be who
they are. But where is this place?
I am sorry to say, but on this planet,
by Ren Scheuerman
at this moment, paradise might be very
hard to find, if not impossible. We
simply cannot control the world around
us. Every week we are bombarded with
sad and horrible stories that further
demonstrate that paradise is either closed
or under extensive renovation. However,
I do think paradise has a good friend that
in some way must be present for paradise
to exist. That friend is hope.
Yes, we recognize all the problems that
exist. They are often not able to be felt
or touched, but it does not make them
any less real. However, hope presents
a projection, a future goal, a bet, even a
dream. A dream that one day we can and
will realize a paradise, that maybe at this
moment, is not tangible, but is possible.
So keep looking around. Shrink your
scale. Observe the small things that are
working. You can and will find glimpses
of paradise every day. The hard part is
trying to figure out how to combine these
glimpses into your life so that all you
begin to see are these small snapshots of
what is good in the world. It’s a process.
And I am certainly no closer to this goal
than you. But I do have hope. And, I
think you do too.
Ren Scheuerman and
his partner, Travis Lay,
enjoy living in the luxury
of Indian Hills (Northeast
Louisville). where they
enjoy building bridges
of understanding with
their neighbors (the vast
majority of which are
rumored to heterosexual).
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 TRANS FATTY

Louisville AIDS Walk: A Fundraiser In Need Of Some New Ideas by Dave VanderPol, Executive Editor
Brad Hampton announced in early February that he
had decided to no longer continue to serve as Director of
the Louisville AIDS Walk. The annual event is the region’s
longest-running HIV/AIDS fund raiser. I suppose I’m
prejudiced here, but Brad’s decision to step down makes
me sad and very concerned. I can’t imagine anyone
more passionate about this cause, let alone anyone more
knowledgeable in our community who could step into
this important role. Indeed Brad leaves some mighty big
shoes to fill.
Let me make it crystal clear: I have nothing less than
the utmost respect for all of Brad’s hard work on behalf
of the Walk over the past several years. When it comes to
all of his work to promote safe sex as well as fund raising
and advocacy on the part HIV/AIDS, Brad Hampton is
the best of the best in Metro Louisville. Period.
At the same time it is no secret that the Louisville AIDS
Walk, like most AIDS Walks elsewhere in the United
States, has experienced a decline in financial support in
recent years. Among the reasons making it harder for
Walks to raise money include the lingering effect that the
deep economic recession continues to have on most non-
profit organizations. I’ve also witnessed a growing sense
of apathy towards anything to do with HIV/AIDS (including support of HIV/AIDS
fundraising events), coupled with an increased level of denial among younger gay
men about the very real growing (NOT declining) numbers of individuals affected
and infected by HIV. In 2010 one Louisville-based provider of medical care for person
infected with HIV added an average of 10 new clients per month. By the last few
months of 2010 they were averaging an increase of 10 new patients per week! So the
need for assistance is not only very real, it is growing by astronomical proportions
here in Kentuckiana!
Here are a few suggestions that I believe will help the AIDS Service Center Coalition
(ASCC), the sponsor of the Walk, to experience an increase in financial support from
the community.
First, it is time to “Think Outside The Walk”. Fundraising walks for any number
of non-profit organizations and causes, not just those that benefit HIV/AIDS services,
are no longer as successful as they were 10 or 20 years ago when they were considered
new and novel. So it is time to “diversify” the means used to raise money. I would
encourage ASCC to offer the community several (at least three or four) fund raising
events throughout the year in addition to the Walk. Since the Walk no longer seems
capable of supplying all of the funds needed by member agencies, it seems to me that
more events are needed to make up the shortfall.
THE COMMUNITY LETTER, the longest-running media sponsor of the Louisville
AIDS Walk, will be glad to step up and host at least two new annual events to support
the ASCC. Specifically this newspaper is willing to organize and offer the community
a Chili Cook-Off fundraiser and an Art Show.
The second suggestion I have is that the Louisville AIDS Walk, in order to increase
the profitability of the event, should no longer include the Clark Memorial Bridge
as part of its route. Sure, the official slogan of the fundraiser is “A Bridge of Hope
Since 1993”, but it is time for the “bridge” to go!
I’ve been told that it costs several thousands of dollars to use the bridge. I’ve also
heard that the Walk has to pay several hundreds of dollars to both Metro Louisville
and Jeffersonville to cover the cost of police security at both ends of the bridge. Is the
bridge really necessary to the success of the Walk? Other annual fund raising Walks
that take place in Louisville – some of them raising more money than traditionally
raised by the Louisville AIDS Walk – do not include the bridge as part of their route.
So is this expensive piece of overhead really need to assure a successful event?
By holding the Walk in just downtown Louisville (or Cherokee Park or elsewhere
the Highlands neighborhood?) more money raised by the Walk would be made
available to member agencies, meaning more money could go for the growing need
to fund client services. I realize that at least one ASCC agency is based in southeastern
Indiana, so use of the bridge certainly has symbolic significance. But the high cost
involved in using the bridge likely outweighs the value of this symbolism.
Agree or disagree, Dave VanderPol would love to know your thoughts! Write to him at editor@
theletteronline.com or call (502) 419-2597.

LIBERAL ON THE SAUCE

The Facebook Revolution by David Williams

We've all known the power of the
Internet for some time now: its ability
to create as well as destroy. Like some
reincarnated Shiva, it's been wreaking
havoc in our peaceful neighborhoods
since the Clinton Era. Back then, though,
we had no clue what a wonderful and
terrifying machine it could become.
The first hint I had came in 1995 when
I realized I could send the same message
to 100 different people with just a couple
of clicks of a mouse. Suddenly I could
save $25 in postage. Right then I knew
the postal service was going to be in big
trouble.
Seven years later I started to see how
the Internet was affecting magazines
and newspapers. Then I saw how books
might begin to look as quaint as papyrus
scrolls. Star Wars was no longer science
fiction but real and present. I wasn't sure
how I felt about all that until I realized
how many trees might be saved, so I
went along with it.
But it wasn't until I signed onto
Facebook last year and heard about all
the things that were being done there
that I understood just how awesome the
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Internet could
be.
Last year's
Betty White
phenomenon
was a fun
diversion. It
revived the
career of one
of my favorite
Hollywood
starlets (yes,
in my mind, she's still a starlet). Last fall
here in Louisville, Tony Allison was able
to organize a great evening of nostalgia
at Q for all of us survivors of the 70s and
80s bar scene. He didn't even have to
send invitations through the mail. News
of the event bounced around the city by
satellite.
But when Egypt erupted in revolt this
past January, I knew things were getting
serious. Turns out an Egyptian Google
executive, through his Facebook page,
urged his countrymen to show up for a
little demonstration against his country's
brutal dictator. The message went viral.
As protests grew over the next two weeks,
suddenly one of the worst dictatorships
in the world was on the brink of collapse.
Finally, today, as I write, it's gone. Wow!
What next, Oh Great Facebook?
Twenty years ago, nay, 17, none of us
even knew what the Internet was. That
1994 Katie Couric clip where she asks
"What's an Internet?" may seem comical,
but any one of us could have asked the
same question back then. Even 10 years
ago, most of us outside Silicon Valley
could barely glimpse what the Internet has
become: a globalized communications
system where anything is possible from
messing up Iran's nuclear reactors to
taking down Hosni Mubarak.
In the 60s when I was in the army at Ft.
Lee, Virginia and facing deployment to
Vietnam, my buddies and I heard a rumor
there was a computer at the Pentagon that
made assignments at random. It was an
old punch card system, probably made
by Honeywell (remember them?), and
only one young sergeant was in charge of
it. It was thought that if you got in good
with him, you could probably convince
him to pull your card out of the Vietnam
stack and put it in the Germany or South
Korea stack instead. Life's randomness
was never so apparent. I don't know
how true the rumor was, but I suspect it
was pretty close.
The way things used to work in the
world may be gone, a victim of modern
technology. But in one sense not much
has changed. Just as that lone army
sergeant may have had the power of life
or death over hundreds of thousands
of GIs, so too, this year, did one man
have the power to change the course of
a nation. For that matter, so do we all,
given the right circumstances.
The awesome power of the Internet was
never more evident than in the events
that transpired in Egypt this winter. Let's
just hope we continue to use it for good
and not evil, or else we're all in danger.
David Williams is the founder of the
Williams-Nichols Institute and the Kentucky
Gay & Lesbian Library and Archives, which
are housed at the University of Louisville’s
Ekstrom Library.
 GAY LOVE DOCTOR
"I Want Him Back . . . NOW!"
Q: I tend to be a possessive person and
have a hard time trusting my partners. I’m
not sure where this insecurity comes from, but
I’ve been burned pretty badly in the past from
prior lovers who cheated on me. I’ve recently
started dating someone new for the past couple
of months. Between me not being able to trust
him and his own religious beliefs of not having
sex until marriage (we’d been having it all
along), he decided he needed a break. It’s been
a week now and I still haven’t heard from him.
I told him I would wait for him to contact me,
but I really miss him and want this to work
out. What should I do?
A: I’m sorry to hear about the parting of
the ways between you and your boyfriend
but want to applaud you for having the
maturity, insight, and self-awareness to
recognize issues within yourself about
some of your own personal contributions
to some of the issues that were present in
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these projections pop out.
As far as your current separation
from your boyfriend, it’s important to
realize that we can’t “make” someone do
something; we only have control over our
own behavior. His decision about whether
to reconcile with you is not within your
control and any efforts on your part to
try and exert too much influence might
be met with resistance. If he doesn’t want
to be together at this time, it’s important
to respect his request for space so as not
to alienate him and blow any chances for
the two of you to work things out if that
possibility exists.
So one option is to do nothing and wait
for him to contact you. Don’t pine for him,
however, as you are then placing all your
hopes and expectations for happiness on
the fate of whatever happens with him
and that certainly is not a dependency you
want to have, particularly if you never
Each Office Is Independently Owned & Operated
AIDS United Announces Grant,
cont’d from pg 5
medical providers at permanent HIV
treatment sites.
The Social Innovation Fund, an
initiative of the Corporation for National
and Community Service (CNCS), was
enacted under the Edward M. Kennedy
Serve America Act, and targets millions
of public-private dollars to expand
effective solutions across three issue
areas: economic opportunity, healthy
futures and youth development and
school support. AIDS United’s recent
$3.6 million SIF award is in support of
the “healthy futures” issue area, and
requires a 2-to-1 match from the private
sector to create a funding pool of more
than $10 million annually.
“This is a game-changing opportunity
for our grantee communities and the
private sector to come together to make
a real difference in the lives of people
living with HIV/AIDS,” said Mark
Ishaug, AIDS United President and
actually hear from him again. Instead,
start living your life and moving on—
don’t put it on hold. And if you happen to
hear from him…bonus!
Another option would be to send him
an e-mail or give him a call as a way to
check-in since some time has gone by
and he’s been on your mind. Use this as
an opportunity to express how much the
relationship meant to you and that you
miss spending time with him. Ask how
he’s doing and acknowledge the challenges
that existed in the relationship before,
acknowledging and taking responsibility
for your part in the difficulties.
You could also express a validation and
respect for his value in holding off on sex
to help him feel acknowledged, heard, and
understood. If you’re feeling particularly
daring, you could solicit his feedback and
(See GAY LOVE DOCTOR,
continued on pg 14)
Century 21 Joe Guy Hagan
CEO. “The 2:1 match requirement of
the SIF makes this a significant—and
expanding—investment in the “healthy
futures” of our nation’s communities
hardest hit by the HIV/AIDS epidemic.
These new partnerships enable
strategic, innovative, community-driven
interventions that change how we invest
in improving the health outcomes of the
people living with HIV/AIDS in the
United States.”
Approximately 640,000 people living
with HIV/AIDS in the United States are
not receiving the life-saving care they
need due to a host of issues that can
include HIV-denial, stigma, poverty and
limited access to appropriate care. In
addition to the specific objectives of the
Social Innovation Fund, AIDS United’s
A2C partnership with SIF is contributing
to the successful implementation of the
“Increasing Access to Care” pillar of
National HIV/AIDS Strategy (NHAS).
For more information about AIDS
United’s A2C Initiative, visit www.
aidsunited.org.
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 GAY & FEMINIST
Don’t Blame Me, I Voted Pro-Choice!
Despite a co-mingled Congress during
President Obama's State of the Union,
Republicans and Democrats are as divided
as ever as House Speaker Boehner (R-8th-
OH) moves to push America to the right
at rapid speed. And after voting to repeal
the Affordable Care Act, the next target
on the House Republicans' chopping
block is: taxpayer funded abortion?
I was not aware that my tax dollars
were being used to abort fetuses. In fact, I
was pretty sure they weren't. And didn't
Obama sign an executive order last year
reaffirming the ban on taxpayer funded
abortions? In fact, I believe the Hyde
Amendment pretty much takes care of
this issue each year when Congress votes
on it. Ooh! The No Taxpayer Funding
for Abortion Act would make the Hyde
Amendment permanent! Well then it
must be enacted immediately!
Less than two months after
Republicans gained control of the House
and they've already broken campaign
promises and gone against the public's
will. Banning so-called taxpayer-funded
abortions is only the first of many battles
House Republicans are starting to wage.
They are also looking to defund the
Title X family planning program (which
provides assistance to reproductive health
clinics like Planned Parenthood, and
gives lower income individuals access
to contraception) and make budget cuts
by effectively eliminating the EPA and
any of our country’s renewable energy
initiatives.
Despite what some in the GOP believe,
their victory in November was not a sign
that America wanted to ban same-sex
marriage, make condoms illegal, and
Hawaii Legislature, cont’d from pg 3
partnership; Hawaii will make it
seven. Five more states (Hawaii
plus CO, ME, MD and WI) offer
more limited protections through
a non-marriage status (the Hawaii
bill does not change the state’s
GAY LOVE DOCTOR, cont’d from pg 13
thoughts on the possibility of the
two of you spending time together
with a prohibition against sex so
you can work on building other
foundational parts of a relationship
while respecting his value on
holding off on intimacy. Offer this as
a gentle invitation, putting the ball in
his court. If he bites, great! Proceed
slowly from there on out if he wants
to give it a second chance.
If you choose the latter option, it’s
very important that you not place
any expectation of outcome on your
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outlaw abortion. The Republican win was
almost entirely economically motivated,
as every single voter poll indicated. But
despite Boehner's promise that they
would focus on the economy, the repeal of
reciprocal beneficiaries law). Others
(including at least MD and NY,
and probably NM and, for some
purposes RI) respect marriages
and/or non-marriage statuses that
same-sex couples entered into in
other states. Consequently, based on
effort. If you bank too much on this
and you don’t hear from him or if
you receive a “no” or a negative
response, this could actually do
more harm than good for yourself
by triggering more anger and hurt
and reinforcing your patterns of
mistrust in men. Make sure your
motives are in the right place and
that you’re emotionally in a good
place to handle a rejection if it were
to possibly come your way, otherwise
it might be best to just keep moving
forward and view this relationship
opportunity that you had had
with him as a valuable learning
health care reform, attempts to reinstate
Don't Ask Don't Tell, and now a focus on
abortion goes to show that Republicans
are quick to betray the moderates and
independent voters who elected them not
population estimates from the 2010
U.S. Census, as of February 2011,
more than 40% of the United States
population resides in a jurisdiction
offering same-sex couples at least
some form of state-level legal
protection.
lesson and get some counseling for
working through these issues to help
maximize your chances of success
next time.
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out of a similar social ideology, but out of
(a misguided) concern for the economy.
It’s disheartening to know that the
officials elected on the hope of economic
reform have so quickly and vehemently
shown their true colors. But really, should
we have expected anything different?
The Tea Party might downplay social
issues, but at the end of the day these so-
called freedom fighters are all too ready
to restrict reproductive freedom and
choice.
Similar to when Democrats took
control of Congress (both houses) in 2006,
I'm sure Republicans were ecstatic to get
the chance to force their social ideology
onto the people, but they were not
elected in 2010 to ban abortion. In a time
of economic upheaval, I believe abortion
-- even these mysterious taxpayer-funded
abortions -- is pretty far from most
people's minds. If I was struggling to pay
my mortgage and feed my family, I'm
pretty sure what someone else does with
their body is the least of my concerns.
And with the Republicans so quickly
acting against the will of the people by
focusing on petty social issues, it shows
us they are less concerned with voters
and more concerned with exercising their
political might.
Eric Jost is a freelance writer
living in Washington, DC. His
work ranges from first-person
narratives to commentaries on
pop culture and politics. You
can check out more of his work
at www.eric-jost.com.
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 OUTLOOK WITHIN

Urho & Me: Two Peas In A Pod? Two Grasshoppers On A Stick?
Every March 16 when I was a teen,
my mother and I went all out. We
strung streamers in Nile green and
royal purple from doorways. We feasted
on liver pudding, cranberry whip and
other Finnish delicacies. We exchanged
homemade greeting cards. We donned
purple and green ribbons; clothing in that
color combination was hard to come by
in the 1970s. I made posters for the wall,
grasshoppers holding signs that read,
“Hoppy St. Urho's Day.?
I carried my celebrations over to
school. Shoving my Finnish heritage in
the face of anyone who stood near was
one way I tried to explain myself. I knew
I was not like others; St. Urho's Day gave
me opportunity to celebrate my being
different, to pretend this quality was
rooted in my ethnic heritage. The rest
of the time, I used being the best-ever
church boy as lid and lever to repress any
hint that I was attracted to the “wrong?
gender. I did not wish to know this about
myself.
At the Christian college I attended I
roomed with a man who was as rabidly
Swiss as I was Finnish. We got into a
knock-down-drag-out wrestling match
when he stole my Finnish flag. On March
16 I made a big poster, “Proud to be
Finnish,? and plastered it over his bed.
When my children were born, I often
sang them the Finnish lullaby my mother
sang to me. They'd have to get used to
having a father who was not run-of-the-
mill. I hoped they'd like liver. And church.
My wife and I took them to Sunday
School, Sunday services, Wednesday
night prayer meetings and more.
From my earliest years, religion had
helped me make sense of life, of who I
was, where I was headed. My religious
faith and Finnish heritage were part of
me, blood and bone.
No one was more surprised than me
when I came out in middle age, in mid-
marriage, in the midst of the religious,
conservative rural Midwest. Identifying
as gay helped me understand why I
had felt so different all my life. This was
insight of a depth not offered by my ethnic
background or religious upbringing.
Who was I? How was I to know? One
after another, I watched the touchstones
of my life topple.
Down went my identity as husband,
every-day father to my children, church
leader, church member, employed
professional, good son, beloved brother,
tacit believer in the legal system, qualified
renter, upstanding citizen, acceptable
person.
I came to see myself in new ways, as
a member of an oppressed minority,
part of a creative wellspring of people
who as long as life have lived on the
fringe, outside the pale, and added to the
richness and texture of society. This on a
good day. Some mornings I swallowed
whole the message that I was outcast,
other, a worthless piece of crap, repulsive,
dirty, loser, liar, sick-o, sinner, a threat to
my children.
Talk about identity crisis.
Who am I, anyway? Who are you?
Are we all and only what and who we
say we are, who others tell us we are?
What comprises our identity? I live these
questions every day –
Sundays, Wednesday nights and March
16 included.
I never thought I'd identity as anything
other than Christian, never dreamed
I'd live outside the church's embrace,
yet I have developed a deep mistrust of
organized religion. I thought my Finnish
roots would always be front and center.
by Bryn Marlow
But it's been a long time since I made
liver pudding, waved the white flag
with the light blue cross, bought another
grasshopper figurine.
According to legend, St. Urho drove
the grasshoppers out of the vineyards of
Finland, saving the grape harvest and
securing a name for himself. In Menaga,
Minnesota stands a huge statue of the
fearsome saint, a grasshopper speared
on his pitchfork. I have often enough
made pilgrimage there. The town holds
an annual St. Urho's Day festival parade.
Some participants dress up like the saint;
others go as grasshoppers.
Saint Urho's story parallels that of
Patrick, who reputedly drove the snakes
out of Ireland, and for good reason. Folks
in northern Minnesota dreamed up the
legend of St. Urho as a kind of spoof. Why
should the Irish have all the fun? The
story caught on—any excuse for a party,
for ethnic pride, for another mid-March
celebration in a cold climate.
Even as I'm wearing my purple and
green sweater this March 16, I'll wonder
to what degree St. Urho and I are
constituted of the same stuff. How real are
we? How useful the identities we attach
to ourselves? How long-lasting?
Bryn Marlow (gayfeather.blogspot.com) lives
with his husband Dave on a 1930s Indiana
farmstead where they raise chickens and
flowers.

“You do an eclectic celebration of the dance! You do Fosse, Fosse, Fosse! You do Martha Graham, Martha Graham,
Martha Graham! Or Twyla, Twyla, Twyla! Or Michael Kidd, Michael Kidd, Michael Kidd, Michael Kidd!
Or Madonna, Madonna, Madonna!. . . but you keep it all inside.”
-- Armand Goldman (portrayed by Robin Williams in the 1996 film THE BIRDCAGE)

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 LIFE BEYOND THERAPY
Unlearning Jealousy
“Let jealousy be your teacher. Jealousy can lead you
to the very places where you most need healing. It can
be your guide into your own dark side and show you
the way to total self-realization. Jealousy can teach
you how to live in peace with yourself and with the
whole world if you let it.” — Deborah Anapol, Love
without Limits
Jealousy feels lousy; most of us do whatever we can
not to go there. Why do we give it so much power
to make us miserable? Why do some people use
jealousy as an “excuse” to go berserk? Ask yourself:
what is jealousy to me? For many of my clients, it’s an
expression of insecurity, fear, rejection, abandonment,
feeling inadequate, etc. Unlearning jealousy is a
wonderful thing. I help clients with this all the time.
It’s a gradual process that takes time and introspection,
but the results are always worth it.
To unlearn jealousy, I help clients establish within
themselves a strong foundation of internal security
that is not dependent on having or possessing people
or things. If we think we own someone or something,
we’re stuck in jealousy. We don’t own our partners,
jobs, kids, looks, or health…we’re really just “renting”
them. We can’t make people stay with us, nor can we
hold onto something good forever. It’s in the nature
of people and phenomena to be impermanent…ideally,
we’ll enjoy them while they’re here and gracefully let
go when it’s time. Sounds good, hard to do.
One of the keys to unlearning jealousy is self-
validation. Slowly, we can begin the process of looking
to ourselves for our own happiness (an internal
orientation) and needing less and less from other
people, places or things (an external orientation). Start
small…begin to develop your own internal compass.
For example, when you do something well, don’t call
your best friend right away to blurt it out. Instead, give
yourself praise and encouragement. People who take
loving care of themselves are seldom jealous.
Jealous people need other people to do as they say.
Because they don’t have strong internal compasses,
they cling to people and situations to feel okay. Jealous
people usually feel out of control, so they want to control
their partners, friends and everyone in their path. This
isn’t because they’re cruel; it’s because they’re scared.
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relationships. It can’t always be about you. For jealous
people, it is all about them, because they’re so insecure
and unstable they need you to do what they say and
not “upset” them.
When I work with clients who feel stuck in their
jealousy, I ask them if they are WILLING to not act
out their jealousy (no more screaming, name-calling or
throwing things). Instead, we work together so they
can sit with their jealous feelings, identify and analyze
them; this strips the jealous feelings of their power. I
encourage my clients to feel their jealousy rather than
act it out. This is initially uncomfortable, and many
people tell me things like “it’ll kill me to feel this bad”.
But, It won’t. However, habitually acting out from
jealousy will kill your friendships, romances, careers
and even your own aliveness.
I encourage my clients to OWN their jealousy, “I feel
jealous because my boyfriend was checking that guy
out” or “I think my girlfriend is cheating on me because
she was at the grocery store longer than usual.” Intense
jealousy reeks of paranoia, and that brings us nothing
but misery and craziness. But, there is good news: if
you are willing to sit still and listen to your jealous
little self with compassion, you quickly discover that
jealousy is survivable. That alone is shocking to lots of
people. Unlearning jealousy isn’t easy, but, it sure feels
good the more you do it.
I’ll close with a quote from the wonderful book,
Ethical Sluts (authors: D. Easton & C. Liszt):
“I notice that jealousy comes and goes, depending
on how good I feel about myself. When I’m not taking
care of getting what I want, it’s easy to get jealous and
think that someone else is getting what I‘m not. I need
to remember that it’s my job to get my needs met. I
feel the jealousy, but I’m not willing to act on it, so it
mostly goes away.”
And that, dear readers, is how it works.
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 BREEDER THOUGHT
The Sanctity Of Equality
In 2004, President George W. Bush
made what he called, “the sanctity of
marriage,” a major reelection issue,
calling for a Constitutional ban on all
same-sex marriages. “Marriage cannot
be severed from its cultural, religious
and natural roots without weakening
the good influence of society,” he said.
He also asked Congress to draft an
amendment, “defining and protecting
marriage as a union of a man and a
woman as a husband and wife.” Not
only did he narrowly win a second term
that year, but eleven states, including
Kentucky, also passed their own
constitutional laws officially prohibiting
gay marriage.
What’s most disturbing about this to
me, as an American, is that it’s entirely
unconstitutional for our Government,
State or Federal, to pass laws protecting
the “sanctity” of anything! “Congress
shall make no law respecting an
establishment of religion!” Given the
expensive, ““One Man, One Woman:
God’s Plan for Marriage,” campaign
funded by religious conservatives
across the land, its seems our nation’s
top Executive, along with many other
elected officials, decided to disregard
the Constitution in favor of mob-rule.
Although I do not question the value
of marriage for those who freely choose
it, I cannot comprehend where this
belief in its “sanctity” comes from. In
Western theology God is a “single male”
whose most intimate relationship is with
another man, Jesus. Jesus himself did
not marry and, in fact, suggested that
ideally people, “will neither marry nor
be given in marriage, they will be like the
angles in heaven.” [Mark 12:25] And we
all know that Jesus’ vision was to create
Heaven here on Earth, among us, which,
apparently he saw as being egalitarian
and androgynous. Likewise, Paul, the
most influential founder of Christianity,
discouraged marriage because those
who do, “will have trouble in this life,
and I am trying to spare you.” [I Cor.
7:28] Although he did not advocated
divorce for those who were already
married, he did say, “from now on those
who have wives should live as though
they had none.” [I Cor. 7:28]
As for God’s “One Man, One Woman,”
plan for marriage, tell it to Abraham, the
founder of Israel, who was married to
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Sarah and Hagar; to Jacob, its favorite
son, who married both Rachel and her
sister Leah; to David, its most revered
King who had six wives; to Solomon,
considered its wisest ruler, who had 700
wives; and his grandson, Rehoboam,
the nation’s greatest reformer, who
had a modest number of only 18 wives.
Historically speaking, marriage has been
but a one-sided social contract arranged
between males exchanging females, and
has been mostly polygamous (one male,
many wives). Both Jesus and Paul favored
more egalitarian arrangements in which
men and women were considered the
same, in which, as Paul put it “there is
no longer Jew nor Greek, slave nor free,
male nor female.”
But equality is difficult for those
dominator cultures that thrive on the
very few exploiting everyone else. So,
after Rome made Christianity its official
State religion, the first thing its legislator-
priests did was to take control of marriage
by maintaining exclusive authority over
all social contracts. By the 16th century,
just 500 years ago, the Council of Trent
made it necessary for every marriage to
be performed in the presence of a priest
and only then defined it as the union of
a man and woman who were obligated
to live together for the rest of their lives.
In doing so, they usurped Paul’s vision
of a society without ethnic, economic, or
gender divisions, adhering, rather, to a
verse of scripture illegitimately forged in
his name; “the husband is the head of the
house as Christ is head of the church.”
[Eph. 5:23] Those who could not handle
living in an egalitarian society made
the nuclear family the nucleus of its
hierarchal, patriarchal culture.
For years in our country conservatives
have been promoting traditional “family
values” for this very reason, although the
only families they’re really in favor of are
those that reflect this dominator model.
As linguist George Lakoff has noted,
“The strict father is moral authority and
master of the household, dominating
by Rev. Todd F. Eklof
the mother and children and imposing
needed discipline. Contemporary
conservative politics turns these family
values into political values: hierarchical
authority, individual discipline, military
might.” And the one thing certain
about this model, he continues, is that,
“Marriage in the strict father family
must be heterosexual marriage.”
Jesus, by contrast, in whose name
such bigotry is somehow being justified,
clearly said, “Call no one on earth your
father.” [Matt. 23-9] He challenged the
patriarchal structures of his day and
ended up paying with his life. In their
place he promoted an egalitarian society
in which everyone shared what they
had in common, and loved one another
as their equals, as themselves. The early
Christians took this so seriously, in fact,
that they actually began cross-dressing
in church. That’s right, some of the first
Christians were gender-benders! The
controversy over men appearing as
women and women as men is explicitly
mentioned in I Corinthians, chapter 7.
Paul supposedly ends up criticizing
such behavior as “disgraceful,” although
many scholars consider these words
to have been inserted into the text by
someone else, since they contradict his
other egalitarian, free-spirited, “all things
are lawful for you,” teachings. But that
this controversy existed at all shows just
how seriously the first Christians took
equality! Thus, according to the biblical
evidence, it’s not really the “sanctity of
marriage” believers should be worrying
about, but the “sanctity of equality,” and
the unholy marriage between Church
and State that continues to have a
foothold in our own government.
Todd Eklof is the minister at
Clifton Universalist Unitarian
Church in Louisville. A native
of San Francisco (yet proudly
heterosexual), he moved here
over 20 years ago to be a
student at The Southern Baptist
Theological Seminary. Despite his
Southern Baptist background, Eklof is an outspoken
supporter of marriage equality and a number of
other progressive causes, Eklof has written A
Gospel For Liberals, which is for sale online at www.
agospelforliberals.com.
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 VIDEO RECOMMENDATION
BY CUBBIE BRITCHES

Strapped
A routine trick at a man’s apartment propels a cynical hustler into a series of strange and life-
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prostitute – handsome in body, amiable in personality and efficient in sex. While he’s just out to
make a buck, one guy at a time, this coldly efficient rent boy begins to look at himself in a different
way one stormy night when he finds himself lost in a maze-like apartment building.
The evening begins with a tryst with a beefy but timid man unused to gay sex. Their “session”
becomes surprisingly tender for both. But time is money, and he’s off – that is, he’d be off if he
could find the exit. His unexpected odyssey leads him to a series of encounters: there is one with a
“straight” guy with issues; a cocaine-fueled queen who thinks he knows him; an older man, hidden
away in a leaky attic apartment who assists him on his journey; and a lonely young man who thinks
he’s finally found a connection with someone. Sex is the commonality, but out of that commodity
comes raw, unguarded emotions for all, even for the hustler.
Sad, funny, sexy and touching, Strapped is an unforgettable look into one young man’s moving
journey to understanding.
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DINING OUT

Treat Yourself To A Meal At Varanese by Beth Ann Rubin

[Varanese; 2106 Frankfort Avenue,
Louisville, KY 40206. (502) 899-9904.
Online www.varanese.com.]
Chef John Varanese defines the cuisine
of his namesake restaurant as “modern
Mediterranean.” And Varanese, located
on Frankfort Avenue in the Clifton
neighborhood does not disappoint
diners expecting a delicious meal by
the acclaimed chef. The menu includes
nightly specials in addition to its regular
selection, both with an emphasis on local
products. And the menu allows the patron
to choose whether he or she is up for a
casual meal or a fine dining experience.
One could enjoy a sandwich or select
appetizers with a cocktail or order a five
course meal with a complementing bottle
of wine.
Varanese is located in what was once
the Red Lounge. The building dates
back to the late 19th century and was at
one point an auto repair shop. There is
nothing to remind one of the restaurant’s
past history with its décor now. The
dining area reflects the restaurant’s
modern approach to food. The lines are
clean and uncluttered, tables are simply
covered in white and the walls painted in
calming tones.
The restaurant does accept reservations
special Wine on Wednesdays or WOW
which promotes ½ off bottles of wine.
But I was with some serious drinkers
so cocktails were de rigueur. As we
perused the menu, several items stood
out as sounding particularly delectable.
It was nice to dining with more than one
companion because that gave me a greater
opportunity to sample everyone’s dishes.
After another round of cocktails, we
started with appetizers and salads. One
friend selected the Fried Green Tomato
Salad ($7), another opted for the Romaine
Salad ($6) and I shared the Crispy
Fried Calamari ($9) with another. The
tomatoes on the one salad were topped
with a buttermilk dressing and adorned
with goat cheese and crispy prosciutto.
The contrast of flavors was superb. The
romaine on the other salad was tossed with
roasted garlic and parmesan dressing and
fried polenta croutons. And the calamari
was served with a variety of peppers
and a sweet chili sauce. The squid was
cooked perfectly and the accompanying
sauce enhanced its flavor.
We were all there for more than a
sandwich although some of those choices
sounded terrific. The emphasis with
the sandwiches was definitely more
Mediterranean with a Chicken with Feta
Cheese wrapped in Flatbread with a
Two of the nightly specials
appealed to my companions
who selected the Seafood Pasta
and the Grouper. My other
friend stuck to the regular menu
and ordered the Flat Iron Steak
($18) and I picked the Beef Tips
with Tortellini ($16).
The Seafood Pasta was full
of tasty seafood and al dente
pasta. The piece de resistance
was the large shrimp perched
atop the pasta. The Grouper
was nicely cooked and served
with a saffron rice and squash
medley.
The Flat Iron Steak was are tired, have nothing in the pantry or just
grilled and drizzled with garlic Boursin don’t want to cook. Sometimes it is not
cheese sauce and served with a potato so easy to treat yourself to a special night
gratin. My friend declared his steak one out. You need to decide whether you are
of the most tender he had ever eaten. I actually going out for a dining experience
also enjoyed my beef tips cooked with or simply as a meal substitute. Any basic
cheese tortellini with creamy gorgonzola spot can be visited for a meal substitute.
sauce, baby spinach, grape tomatoes and But when you set aside the time for a true
pine nuts and was embellished with strips dining experience, I recommend Varanese
of crispy prosciutto. I loved the pairing of for its comfortable atmosphere, good
the rich gorgonzola with the beef. service and modern yet approachable and
We passed on desserts since our meals affordable cuisine.
were rich and we had eaten so much of
ours as well as the others. There are,
however, some tasty sounding sweets Beth Ann Rubin has been reviewing restaurants
such as Fried Banana with Oatmeal for THE LETTER for nearly four years. A Chicago

but our party of four was lucky enough Yogurt dipping sauce ($9) and a Hummus Cookie Dough Ice Cream ($6), Peaches
native, Beth Ann and her family live just south of
Louisville's Highlands neighborhood. A talented
to walk in on a Saturday night without a and Roasted Vegetable Sandwich also and Crème Crepes ($6) and a Chocolate cook in her own right, over the years her baked

wait. But the restaurant was still bustling. served in Flatbread ($9) among some of Lava Cake served with Ice Cream ($7).
goods have earned her numerous awards at the
Kentucky State Fair.
Varanese has an extensive wine list and a the selections. It is easy to decide to eat out when you
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DOMA, cont’d from pg 1
history of discrimination,
classifications based on sexual
orientation should be subject to a
more heightened standard of scrutiny.
The President has also concluded
that Section 3 of DOMA, as applied
to legally married same-sex couples,
fails to meet that standard and is
therefore unconstitutional. Given
that conclusion, the President has
instructed the Department not to
defend the statute in such cases. I
fully concur with the President’s
determination.
Consequently, the Department will
not defend the constitutionality of
Section 3 of DOMA as applied to same-
sex married couples in the two cases
filed in the Second Circuit. We will,
however, remain parties to the cases
and continue to represent the interests
of the United States throughout the
litigation. I have informed Members of
Congress of this decision, so Members
who wish to defend the statute may
pursue that option. The Department
will also work closely with the courts
to ensure that Congress has a full and
fair opportunity to participate in
pending litigation.
Furthermore, pursuant to the
President’s instructions, and upon
further notification to Congress, I
will instruct Department attorneys
to advise courts in other pending
DOMA litigation of the President's
and my conclusions that a heightened
standard should apply, that Section
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3 is unconstitutional under that
standard and that the Department
will cease defense of Section 3.
The Department has a longstanding
practice of defending the
constitutionality of duly-enacted
statutes if reasonable arguments can
be made in their defense. At the same
time, the Department in the past has
declined to defend statutes despite
the availability of professionally
responsible arguments, in part because
– as here – the Department does not
consider every such argument to be
a “reasonable” one. Moreover, the
Department has declined to defend a
statute in cases, like this one, where
the President has concluded that the
statute is unconstitutional.
Much of the legal landscape
has changed in the 15 years since
Congress passed DOMA. The
Supreme Court has ruled that laws
criminalizing homosexual conduct
are unconstitutional. Congress has
repealed the military’s Don’t Ask,
Don’t Tell policy. Several lower
courts have ruled DOMA itself to be
unconstitutional. Section 3 of DOMA
will continue to remain in effect
unless Congress repeals it or there is
a final judicial finding that strikes it
down, and the President has informed
me that the Executive Branch will
continue to enforce the law. But while
both the wisdom and the legality of
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