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Index

Foreword by Johnny Soporno ................................................. 3 Letter from Adam ..................................................................... 4 The Approach .......................................................................... 6 The Theory .............................................................................. 8 The Escalation ........................................................................ 10 The Future .............................................................................. 13 Glossary ................................................................................. 16 About the Author ..................................................................... 17

Foreword

AFC Adam is one of very few "professional coaches" in The Community whom I would feel comfortable introducing to my friends - or even giving him a friend's number, unannounced, if he were heading to a town where I'd established myself... And that's no small feat, considering that the overwhelming majority of my friends tend to be intelligent, well-adjusted, socially confident, highly attractive WOMEN, with whom I've developed enduring and rewarding nonpossessive relationships. (Yes, that means we have recreational sex ;) Now, I'm not suggesting I'd introduce him because I'm confident that Adam wouldn't seduce any of these friends! Quite the reverse! I'd be disappointed if they didn't take an immediate shine to him, and astonished if he didn't reciprocate. You see, Adam 'Gets it': He understands that women WILL do the things they want, IF THEY KNOW THEY WILL BE ACCEPTED REGARDLESS; and that they want to get a piece of a man who makes them feel excited, enthusiastic, and affirmed - even if it's just an occasional piece! Mark my words, women INTUITIVELY UNDERSTAND THIS: Part of a WINNER is better than ALL of a LOSER! The difference between being a 'winner' or a 'loser' in this context is ENTIRELY UP TO YOU -- and absorbing the insights, and following the steps Adam is outlining here, should give you the mindset and understanding necessary to elevate your Game to that 'Winner' category without delay. Life is a game - Play to win! Johnny Soporno Worthy Playboy
Johnny Soporno is a professional management consultant, a lifestyle coach, superintendent of the notorious Satan's School for Girls, co-producer of a late-night show covering the adult entertainment industry, and a crisis manager. A jealous girlfriend once objected to Soporno's platonic relationships with female friends so this encouraged him to become the voice of multiple long-term relationships. Soporno also offers tips on seduction and pick-up techniques. His relationship to the adult industry gives him a unique testing ground for seduction strategies. Soporno lives in Toronto for half the year and divides the remainder between Amsterdam, Los Angeles, New York City, and Miami. Johnny has a passion for this community and, more importantly, for women. He can be found at the Worthy Playboy Institute and has a motto on girls that every man should follow: take two, theyre small. worthyplayboys.com

I've been teaching game for a good few years now and I don't think there is anything I've ever enjoyed more. It must be said that there are times when I do get bored of teaching the same basic stuff. It's not that I don't like it; it's just that there isn't as much demand for the topics I really love teaching. With that in mind I thought I'd throw together this little guide which is designed for someone who is already getting pretty good results. The inspiration for this guide is based on some naturals whose paths have crossed with mine. They were your typical natural guys who didn't believe in game, are good looking and repeatedly slept with hot girls. I noticed they both had a serious problem. A problem that I'm sure plagues a lot of other people who are good at game, yet haven't managed to cross over into the realms of playboy heaven (or at least somewhere half way up the staircase). Their problem was that neither of them was capable of pleasing more than one girl at once (outside of the bedroom at least). They would inadvertently find themselves in relationships with more than one girl, where the girls would be constantly upset at other girls being around, or they would be trying to hide their relationships with the girls. It seemed that no matter what they did they always ended up hurting someone. After a while they had to concede that I did actually know what I was talking about when it came to women and dating and they both asked me to break down for them exactly how they could have a number of different girls at the same time without hurting any of them. What followed was a 3 hour discussion in the bar of a hotel in Dallas, where I broke down the key aspects of gaming multiple girls, speeding up sexual escalation and finally managing the relationships that follow. I'd never bothered to teach this to PUAs before as I spend most of my time running around teaching the basic aspects of game to help people overcome sticking points, but finally I've managed to get it down on paper. So the following pages represent my guide to finding, creating and maintaining Multiple Long Term relationships, or MLTR's. Whether you're a natural guy looking to add the icing on the cake of your love life or an intermediate PUA looking to push through that final boundary into the ultimate player nirvana, then hopefully this is the manual you've been looking for. This guide assumes you already know the basics of cold approaching and have a good understanding of social proof and propinquity. If not then go to www.attractionexplained.com and download the free articles and handbook before reading further. Game, the way it's meant to be played.

Adam Lyons (AFC Adam for those that know)

A lot of people within the pick up community would have you believe that the only way to get girls is to cold approach the beautiful ones you see in bars, clubs or even on the street using clever lines to seduce them into sleeping with you. However, there are a lot more people around the world currently sleeping with beautiful members of the opposite sex without actually cold approaching anyone.

If that is the case then where are they meeting these beautiful women? In short, they're doing it through their own social circle by meeting friends of friends of friends. Now, this may be great when it comes to being able to get a girl as your pre-selection is so high, however, it does not help you when it comes down to running multiple relationships. Your reputation will soon end up overshadowing your super cool vibe, and suddenly you'll go from being the cool guy in the group who can sleep with any girl he wants to the loser that sleeps with whoever he can.

What you need is a way to keep the credibility and pre-selection, yet not develop the reputation of a player.

The majority of the community may not have this problem. You may be one of those guys who only meets girls through cold approach so you don't have to be too worried about the girls finding out about each other. However, you may be missing a trick or two. Firstly, preselection is one of the biggest triggers in attraction, as shown in the Benedict Jones Study*. Secondly, there is always the chance that one of your girls may find a stray text message, e-mail
*The Principles of Attraction, 2007, Attraction Explained 5

or even just turn up in time to catch you in the middle of the dirty deed with one of your other girls.

It is true that all this could be avoided by hiding the girls better, not allowing them to visit you at your house, or even just plain lying and denying it all, but this doesn't allow you to exploit the true benefits of having multiple long term relationships. The ability to have women over your house to cook while you get ready for a date with the next girl is a right every guy should have. The days of feeling trapped in a relationship and thinking you can't do any better are over. Its time to experience the holy grail of most aspiring PUA's career by having several girls on call at any given time. If you manage the relationship correctly you can have this over and over again. Literally living the Playboy lifestyle.

Though as with everything in game, it all starts with your approach. Lets look at that to start with.

The Approach

There are a number of different approaches you can use to open a girl. A brief summary of the different types is included below just for convenience. It should be said that each opener probably deserves it's own book or two, so these really just give an example and assume the reader already has a good understanding of the structure and application of opening.

Opinion opener: A simple open-ended question designed to get the other person to invest in the answer without dodging it with a simple yes or no. Most successful one's are based on girly topics, relationships, fashion, celebrities, etc. Hey guys, quick question. Should a man still pay for a meal on the first date, or do you think things have moved on since then?

Functional opener: A plausible question designed to go completely under the radar, though needs a quick transition to hook the set. Sorry to bother you, do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?

Compliment Opener: A genuine compliment given with a justified reason in order to make it believable. I have to tell you, I honestly think you have a killer sense of style. I love the way you've actually managed to match your dress to your shoes and accessorized the bag. Thats really commendable, I bet you put a lot of thought into it.

Situational Opener: A statement made based on an observation of the area, people, or person you're talking to. You spend ages waiting for the bus and then 3 come along at once. Typical! Sure takes forever to get a beer around here, huh?

Direct Opener: Stating your intentions completely I have to stop you just to tell you I think you look interesting, I don't have much time to talk now but what's the best way of staying in touch?

Routine: A structured opener, typically an opinion based question, designed to illicit a decent amount of conversation. Do you know you can't tickle yourself? Except for one small point on the roof of your mouth. Go on give it a try.
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While these are all perfectly acceptable forms of opening there is one that isn't really spoken about, and this is the one the naturals tend to use. It is opening via a social circle.

In a situation where we're looking to develop a MLTR then the best one you can really hope for is the one where you get approached, either directly because you've built up enough social proof in the venue or indirectly through a social circle.

A lot of people won't believe this is actually achievable. Think of your best friend. How did you meet them? It's highly unlikely you met them from a cold approach on the street. No, most people meet their best friends through similar activities, hobbies, work or social groups. Really what we're looking at doing is engineering a situation where we expose ourselves to more and more people. To be more specific, were looking for large groups of hot girls.

The question is, where do these groups come from?

The answer is simple. They come from other hot girls. Ever noticed how groups of hot girls in clubs and malls seem to hang around together and guys seem incapable of entering the group? Well this is because beautiful girls tend to stick together. This is the border of social game. However, we're only going to look at it from the point of view of MLTR's. This group dynamic happens to be the centre of MLTR game.

You see, if you've managed your relationships correctly you should be getting introduced to these girls. But what should we do to manage them correctly?

The Theory

Maintaining multiple relationships can be summed up as truth telling. The more truthful you are the easier you'll find the situations to handle. Lets start by looking at the entire dynamic of your relationship with a hot girl.

Now, a lot of PUAs will see an attractive girl, go up to them and approach. This approach will either succeed or not. If it succeeds then the PUA will have managed to get a new girl. If it fails he will then move onto the next one. Though he may have missed something that is essential to help him succeed. That key is her social group.

You will be introduced to that group as the guy who hit on me in the street, or worse still as a potential date. Either way, your ability to turn this into a multiple relationship with her friends at least has been diminished. Think of it as a tree. If you take down the trunk of the tree then you never get to live off the fruit. Let the tree grow and you can live off the fruit forever.

Each girl you meet should really be added to your circle of friend first, so that you can observe her group of friends and decide whether she is a tree to be nurtured or one to be taken down and used (excuse the pun). Besides, one of her fruit may be more appealing to the eye. Therefore we understand our best chance of a) finding the hottest target in a set of friends and b) ensuring we have the best possible introduction to a group is to do the opposite of everything you're taught as a beginner and to NOT attempt to close the first girl in a group. Instead, spend time getting to know her as a person. Her friends might be hotter.

This is where the truth telling comes in. What you're looking to do is to get a fun, flirty vibe going without actually closing her. If you manage to pull this off correctly you should find yourself in a situation where the girl is visibly flirting with you, yet because you don't allow the situation to ever escalate into anything deeper (at least not for now) you end up with a tremendous amount of pre-selection and, more importantly, if the girl is asked about you she will have nothing but good things to say.

Bingo! You've passed the first stage. You have managed to meet her friends, you can then spiral further with all of them and find yourself in a nice happy situation where you have a new
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group of girls to hang out with and benefit from the pre-selection. You have access to a bunch of girls who will happily flirt with you, introduce you to any new friends from their own respective groups, and, in short, boost your access to the female group tremendously.

Up until now we're still not getting laid, so something has to be put into place if you're going to actually escalate things further. What you need to do now is to choose the target. The target is one of the easiest things to decide upon. Essentially, she is the girl that you choose you want to be with. It sounds easy but there are some key considerations you should bare in mind.

1) Girls don't accept upgrades. You need to close the hottest girl in a group first. If a girl perceives herself as better looking than a girl she knows you've had previously within the group it almost makes you off limits. 2) Stay away from girls in relationship. Just like the other situations, you end up getting a reputation you really don't want to possess. Keep your nose clean and mind how the group views you. Remember, you can always close someone in a completely different group while you're waiting for the perfect time to make your move. 3) Watch for girls with reputations themselves. Sometimes the hottest girl has a reputation for being a) psycho b) a player or c) tainted. Try and learn the lay of the land before making a move based purely on the aesthetic value of a girl.

Once you've decided whom you want to make a move on, it's time to begin the escalation and head towards the close.

The Escalation

This is where the start of the real MLTR game begins. The key here is to build up a healthy balance of both sexual energy and escalation, whilst being clear about your overall intentions. The real key to pulling this off is to ensure that you keep the sexual energy running high. In order to do that effectively without interruption you need to be thinking of isolation.

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Isolation serves an additional purpose for you in these situations beyond the normal understanding of isolation in game. Your isolating not only needs to ensure that escalation is easier so the social group doesn't judge her for being to promiscuous but you also need to protect your own social value. In many ways you're acting like a high value girl who needs to be wary of the social implications of her actions.

Once in isolation you can begin to really increase the sexual tension between you. Without this youre really going to struggle to pull this of as easy as otherwise possible Again, there are a number of methods to doing this correctly and far too many to include here. What you're seeking to do is build up the situation between you to a place where you know the kiss is almost guaranteed. Then this is where the gamble comes into play.

As mentioned several times earlier, being truthful is a key aspect to MLTR's. One of the biggest truths is about to come out.

A lot of natural guys will say almost anything to secure the close with a girl, and unfortunately a lot of PUA's are the same. Theyre willing to say almost anything in order to get laid that night. If you really want to have MLTR's you need to be thinking of yourself as having much higher value. The kind of person that has a lot of women would hardly care about one individual girl, right?

Unfortunately, for you to pull off this feat you will have to display the characteristics of someone in this position, namely the willingness to lose the person you're with.

So in the middle of or before sexual escalation, though directly after the first kiss, you need to make it incredibly clear that you're not looking for an exclusive relationship. Its not really my style to break down exactly what to say, as I really don't agree with routines, so instead I'm going to leave you with a list of guidelines of topics that really should be included in this breakdown.

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1) You're not interested in an exclusive relationship, but more importantly a realistic and logical reason why. Good examples include: Concentrating on work/studying; waiting to find someone that you really want to begin a relationship with but don't want to rush into anything as it takes time to get to know someone properly; just come out of a relationship and don't want to rush into anything else yet. 2) You don't believe in one night stands, because they are just too impersonal and unsafe. 3) You really like the girl as a person, and would love to spend time with her beyond this night, that you think the two of you would cause a lot of trouble, go to some amazing restaurants, party harder than anyone, have great sex and still be good friends years into the future, with no strings or pressure.

Throughout these topics you're essentially describing the ideal situation for an MLTR. Essentially. a good friend with benefits. Add that you're only telling her these facts as you believe in telling the truth completely and then everything is set for her to accept the frame of the MLTR.

Naturally, anyone well versed in game will understand that there is a chance she will not buy into this frame and instead opt to lose the interaction completely. This is something you have to be willing to accept and if you lose it, so be it. Though bare in mind a couple of factors.

The first is that even if she says no, she will still continue to spread the news of how great you are, the kiss was there, and she'll also be preaching about how honest and upfront you are which further increases your standing in the group.

The second is the fact that you are in the middle of sexual escalation. If you've done it correctly, she really shouldn't be thinking to logically. In fact, if you've managed to do things correctly in terms of timing then she really shouldn't be thinking of anything other than how much she wants you. Females get turned on in a different way to men. Although it may take them longer to be ready for it, when they are ready they don't tend to back out.

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This should have her completely set for the rest of the night with you and, providing you live up to your bedroom hype, many more nights in the future.

The Future

Ok, so you've managed to get a few girls to accept the idea of a no strings attached relationship, but how do you maintain them over time? Well, providing you've laid down the ground work correctly you really shouldn't find them too difficult to manage. Keep honest; don't rub the other girls in their face and you should really find things run quit smoothly.

Naturally things won't work well forever though. After a while you may find that they try to either leave the relationship or turn it into something more serious. A few things may slow this process down.

1) Don't meet up with them too often. Any girl you see only once a week is unlikely to try and claim you as theirs. 2) Make sure you don't just contact them for sex. It's important to do things beyond just sex even if it's only a meal or to go have a drink with friends. 3) Avoid the deep conversations. Keep things fun and friendly without ever dipping into the realms of getting them to help you with personal problems or vice versa. Although this is possible to do, it can make things incredibly messy and is probably best to be avoided when you first start running MLTR's

Eventually, however, things are likely to fall apart with a girl. When they do simply remember to tell the truth.

If they're looking to remove themselves from the situation, tell them you're cool with it and would love to keep them as a friend with no further sexual contact. This will ensure that you come across as a cool, laid back guy, which of course is how you painted yourself, and keeps her

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building you up with extreme social proof. Well, how much more flirty do you want, you slept with her!

If they're looking to make the situation a little more one on one, then simply repeat the fact that you need things to stay the same, and if they aren't happy with that then maybe it would be better to just let the relationship end. You will probably find they change their mind. Though again, if you do lose out, don't stress over it. Let it go and instead enjoy the fact that they're still in your life.

Now these things sound easy in print but when it actually comes to doing them it can be a lot harder. Losing a girl you've been intimate with for a good few months can seem almost devastating, especially if you've been through those situations before.

With proper MLTR's you may find things a little different. If carried out correctly you will find it's actually a lot more manageable as you have something you probably didn't have before. That is abundance. By having a number of girls to fall back on, no individual girl should carry too much importance. When one leaves you still have the others.

As long as you understand that from time to time you will lose one or two and need to keep topping up the number, you should find the entire process is incredibly easy to manage. It is arguably easier than just one girl, because the girls realise that none of them has any control over you individually.

Once again, if you really do run this correctly you will find many other benefits. Notably is the ability to invite a number of them to the same event and enjoy watching them play and flirt

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with each other. Or if you casually forget that you've invited two of them to sleep over on the same night. I wonder what would happen in that situation?

I hope you've found this guide helpful. I've been desperate to get a large number of topics off my chest in the past few months and have finally worked out how I'm going to be releasing them. This is really just a teaser of some of the stuff I have planned; the rest of it will be announced on my new blog. The details of which can be found below.

www.AttractionExplained.com/Blog

Until then, keep practicing. Game, the way it's meant to be played.

AFC Adam.com

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Glossary MLTR: Multiple Long-Term Relationship Hook: Getting the other person to actively participate in the conversation Transition: Changing the topic of conversation as a means to keep the interaction going Isolation: Moving your target away from her friends so you can escalate without fear of judgement from her friends Frame: Defining the packaging of an element of speech in such a way as to encourage certain interpretations and to discourage others.

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About the Author

Featured in FHM, Maxim and the BBC, Adam Lyons is known as one of the top experts in dating and attraction. Lyons has worked as an instructor, given talks and done seminars for some of the most prestigious and wellknown companies within the community, such as PUATraining, the Mystery Method and the School of Seduction. Lyons realised that the trick to getting women was not to spend time hanging around other males. Instead, he focused his attention on building lifestyle abundance with women, which gave him a solid understanding of them. This forced him to understand the intricacies of multiple long-term relationships. Because of that, his sudden rise in the pick up society has been acknowledged by some of the most well respected members of the community, giving him a twice-earned world ranking as one of the top 3 experts on attraction and dating. Adam and his girlfriend, Amanda, are currently living and working throughout the United States teaching boot camps with PUATraining. He is a weekly columnist for the leading online mens magazine, AskMen, and is easily recognisable as having a hot girl attached to his arm at all times.

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