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Mycollegewasoneofthepoorerperformingschoolsthen.Many studentswerenthappystudyingthereasitwasnttheirfirstchoice. Theyoftendegradedthemselves,sayingweredoomedfor failure. Ifthatwasntenough,myteacherswerediscouraging,toobecause manyweredisgruntledaboutworkingthere.Theykeptcomparing uswiththestudentsfromschoolstheytaughtinbeforethebetter schoolssayingwednevergetanywhere. Idecidedtoignorethenegativityandspendmyenergyworkingon mygoals. Attheendofcollege,Iwasthetopstudentinmyclassandwon theMostImprovedStudentAwardbytheschool.Iwouldlater enteroneofthebestBusinessSchoolsinAsia,beaDeansLister inall3yearsofmystudy,andgraduateasthetopstudentinmy specialization. Ifyouhaveaspirations,youvedealtwithresistance,too,andwill dealwithmoreinthefuture.Hereare6personalprinciplestodeal withexternalresistanceandexcelinlife: 1.Thebiggertheresistance,thegreateryourpotential. NewtonsThirdLawofMotionstatesforeveryforce,thereisan equal,opposingforce.Itsthesameherenobigdreamsever cometruewithoutanequivalentformofresistance.Infact,the biggertheresistance,thegreateryourpotentialontheotherside. Thebiggestachieversintheworldgottowheretheyaretoday onlyafterovercomingendlessresistance. WheneverIfacearoadblock,ittellsmethisissomethingworth goingfor.Themoreroadblockstherearethebetter.Itjustmakes theendresultevensweeterwhenIovercometheseblocksand achievemygoals. 2.Obstaclesaretheretopreventyoufromgettingtothe otherside~RandyPausch InRandyPauschsTheLastLecture,hetalkedabouthow obstaclesexisttostopyoufromgettingtotheotherside.Theother sideiswhereyourgoalsanddreamsare.Justbecauseyouface
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obstaclesdoesntmeanyourgoalsarentfeasible.Itjustmeans youneedtotackletheseobstaclesfirsttogetthere. Theobstaclesareonlyatesttoweedoutpeoplewhodontwant theirgoalsenough,andguesswhatthatsnotyou.Youare betterthanthat. BackwhenIfacedresistances,Ineveroncethoughtmygoals wereimpossible.Iknewthiswasjusttemporaryanditwasa matteroftimebeforeIachievemygoals.Likewise,whatever resistanceyouexperienceisjustshortterm. 3.Obstaclesarethosefrightfulthingsyouseewhenyoutake youreyesoffyourgoals.~SydneySmith Areyouspendingmoretimestaringatyourobstacles?Ordoyou haveyoureyeslockedonyourdreams?Themoreyouspendtime thinkingaboutyourobstacles,themoreyouwillfeeloverwhelmed andnegative. Yourthoughtsareliketheseedsinyourmind.Thekindof thoughtsyouhavewillbearfruitsofthesamenature.Negative thoughtswillgiveyounegativefruits,whereaspositivethoughtswill giveyoupositivefruits.Doyouhavemorenegativeorpositive seeds? Spendmoretimethinkingaboutyourgoals,howtheyinspireyou, whyyouwantthemandwhattheymeantoyou.Thesewillgive youthefueltotakeaction. WhenIpursuemygoals,Idontthinkabouthowunfairtheworld is,whyIamfacingthis,orhowscaryanobstacleis.Theseareall disempoweringthoughts.IfocusonwhyIwanttodosomething andwhatitmeanstome.Theseempowermeandspurmeonto takeaction.
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Do I stay or go? Simple & complex 1 Everyone Has A Purpose In The Universe That Only They Can Fulfill. Been in love with my best friend for almost 4 years Can't Trust. Feeling Uncomfortable in a New Location What would I do if I knew I couldn't fail The High Art of Masterminding How to start over when there's no such thing What a mess!
4.Lookatthesourceofthecommentsbeforeyouconsider them. Itseasytoletourselvesbeaffectedbyotherpeoplescomments. Whileyoushouldbeopentofeedback,youshouldalsofactorin wheretheyarecomingfrom. Whoisthepersoncommenting?Isthispersonslifethekindoflife youaspiretolead?Ifthecommenterisntdoingsowellinthearea heisadvisingon,maybeyoushoulddiscountwhathesaystoyou. Forexample,backinschool,oneofmyteachersadvisedusto settleandstopaiminghighbecausewewouldbesetting ourselvesupforfailure.However,whenIlookedatherlife,she wasinher50s,hadbeenworkinginthesamejobforover decades(whichwasfine,exceptthatshedidntseempassionate aboutherwork),unmotivated,andnegativeasaperson. ThiswasntthelifeIwantedtoleadformyself,andhenceI decidednottoheedwhatshesaid.ImgladIdidntbecauseit workedoutextremelywellforme. 5.Youdonthavetopleaseeveryone.Tryingtodosoonly makesyoumiserable. Itsinourinnernaturetobeinclusiveandmakeeveryonehappy. However,itsnotpossibletopleaseeveryoneanditsnotworthit totry. Allofusarediversewithourownopinions,beliefsandvalues,and
tryingtoconformonlyresultsinyoucompromisingonyourbeliefs. Dontbeafraidtodisagreewhereyouneedtoandstandupfor yourself.Itsallaboutlearninghowtodealwiththesecritical people. Ifyoufacepeoplewhoareoverlyresistanttoyourdreams, considerreducingcontactwiththemandspendingmoretimewith thepeoplewhosupportyou.Yourtimeispreciousspenditwith peoplewhoelevateyou,notpeoplewhopullyoudown. 6.Firsttheyignoreyou.Thentheylaughatyou.Thenthey fightyou.Thenyouwin.~MahatmaGandhi Afteryearsofpursuingmygoalsanddreams,Irealizedonething: peopleresistbecausetheyareafraid. Whentheyhearaboutyourgoalsandtheyobject,itsbecause theyreafraidofwhoyouareandwhatyoucanbecome.More thanthat,theyreafraidthatyoumightactuallyberightandthey havebeenunderminingtheirownpotentialallalong. ToquoteMarianneWilliamson,Ourdeepestfearisnotthatwe areinadequate.Ourdeepestfearisthatwearepowerfulbeyond measure. Donttakeresistancespersonally.Peoplewhoignoreyou,laughat you,orevenfightyoudosobecausetheyarescareddeepdown inside.Takeyourstanceandgoforwhatyoubelievein.Fightfor whatyouwant.Goalloutinyourpursuits. Aslongasyoukeepatit,itsamatteroftimebeforeyouachieve whatyousetouttodo.Ididthat,andIcontinuetodosoevery day.Youcannevergowrongaslongasyoudowhatyouloveto doandsetouttoliveyourbestlife.
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