EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS

Evaluative Word
Abandoned Abused

Giraffe Feeling(s)
Terrified, hurt, bewildered, sad, frightened, lonely Angry, frustrated, frightened

Giraffe Need(s)
Nurturing, connection, belonging, support, caring Caring, nurturing, support, emotional safety, physical safety, consideration, for livings things to flourish Inclusion, connection, community, belonging, contribution, respect Safety, consideration Respect, autonomy, seen for true self, acknowledgement, appreciation Trust, dependability, honesty, honor, commitment, clarity Accountability, causality, fairness, justice

(Un) accepted

Scared, lonely, hurt, anxious

Attacked Belittled

Scared, angry, defiant, hostile Angry, frustrated, tense, distressed Angry, hurt, disappointed, enraged Angry, scared, confused, antagonistic, hostile, bewildered, hurt Angry, scared, pressured

Betrayed Blamed

Bullied

Autonomy, choice, safety, consideration Caged/boxed in Angry, thwarted, scared, anxious Autonomy, choice, freedom Cheated Resentful, hurt, angry Honesty, fairness, justice, trust, reliability Coerced Angry, frustrated, frightened, Autonomy, choice, freedom thwarted, scared Cornered Angry, scared, anxious, thwarted Autonomy, freedom Criticized In pain, scared, anxious, Understanding, frustrated, humiliated, angry, acknowledgement, recognition, embarrassed accountability, respectful communication Discounted/diminished Hurt, angry, embarrassed, Acknowledgement, inclusion, frustrated recognition, respect Disliked Sad, lonely, hurt Connection, appreciation, understanding, acknowledgement, friendship, inclusion Distrusted Sad, frustrated Trust, honesty Dumped on Angry, overwhelmed Respect, consideration Harassed Angry, frustrated, pressured, Respect, space, consideration, frightened peace Hassled Irritated, distressed, angry, Serenity, autonomy, choice of frustrated pace and method, calm, space

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EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS

Ignored Insulted Interrupted Intimidated Invalidated Invisible Lonely, scared, hurt, sad, embarrassed Angry, embarrassed Angry, frustrated, resentful, hurt Scared, anxious Angry, hurt, resentful Sad, angry, lonely, scared Connection, belonging, inclusion, community, participation Respect, consideration, acknowledgement, recognition Respect, to be heard, consideration Safety, equality, empowerment Appreciation, respect, acknowledgement, recognition To be seen and heard, inclusion, belonging, companionship, community Community, inclusion, belonging, contribution To be seen, consideration, fairness, equality, justice Inclusion, belonging, community, connection Trust, dependability Autonomy, empowerment, trust, equality, freedom, connection, authenticity Trust To be heard, understanding, clarity Connection, inclusion, contribution, community, care, consideration Equality, justice, autonomy, freedom Respect, consideration, rest, nurturing Recognition, equality, respect, mutuality Relaxation, clarity, space, consideration Respect, consideration Respect, acknowledgement, understanding Belonging, inclusion, closeness, to be seen, acknowledgement, connection Consideration, justice, acknowledgement, trust

Isolated Judged Left out Let down Manipulated

Lonely, afraid, scared Resentful, scared, hurt, angry Sad, lonely, anxious Sad, disappointed, frightened Angry, scared, powerless, thwarted, frustrated Sad, angry Upset, angry, frustrated Lonely, scared

Mistrusted Misunderstood Neglected

Overpowered Overworked Patronized Pressured Provoked Put down Rejected

Angry, helpless, confused Angry, tired, frustrated, exhausted Angry, frustrated, resentful Anxious, resentful, overwhelmed Angry, frustrated, hostile, antagonistic, resentful Angry, sad, embarrassed Hurt, scared, angry, defiant

Ripped off/screwed

Anger, resentment, disappointed

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Smothered/suffocated Taken for granted Threatened Trampled/walked on Frustrated, desperate, fear Sad, angry, hurt, disappointed Scared, frightened, alarmed, agitated, defiant Angry, frustrated overwhelmed Space, freedom, autonomy, authenticity, self-expression Appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, consideration Safety, autonomy Empowerment, connection, community, to be seen, consideration, equality, respect, acknowledgement Integrity, honesty, trust Appreciation, respect, acknowledgement, consideration Understanding, consideration, empathy Love, appreciation, empathy, connection, community, compassion Acknowledgement, to be seen, appreciation, to be heard Support, understanding Belonging, inclusion, caring, nurturing Autonomy, equality, consideration, mutuality Empowerment, mutuality, safety, justice Privacy, safety, trust, space, respect Respect, justice, trust, safety, fairness, equality

Tricked Unappreciated Unheard Unloved

Embarrassed, angry, resentful Sad, angry, hostile, hurt Sad, hostile, frustrated Sad, bewildered, frustrated

Unseen Unsupported Unwanted Used Victimized Violated Wronged

Sad, anxious, frustrated Sad, hurt, resentful Sad, anxious, frustrated Sad, angry, resentful Frightened, helpless Sad, anxious, agitated Angry, hurt, resentful, irritated

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