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From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Friday, 20 November 2009 6:52 a.m.
Subject: week 18, is it?

Hi,

Here are some photos from last week. One is a nice shot of the kitchen which gives a
good feel for it. We had Thomas' friend Freddie over for tea with his parents and you
can see the boys demonstrating their Highland Fling on the table.

There are a few shots of Thomas and Graham in the garden when we were having
lunch on the weekend.

I had a meeting with my various bosses today to discuss my return etc. It would seem
that however and whenever I like will be fine. Suzanne said she rather me back
sooner, but completely understands me taking the year. Thomas charmed the
secretaries and one or two of my patients. He has his first running snot nose like other
babies, and even this I delighted in.

love anna

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Sunday, 15 November 2009 1:45 a.m.
To: Robert Beaglehole; Ruth Bonita
Subject: thomas in kitchen

Hi,

Thomas is changing by the day. Last week he found his toes, yesterday he has been
developing his voice. It occurred in the context of his outrage about going
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swimming. Having enjoyed it the first few weeks, yesterday was in stark contrast.
He bellowed with indignation from the outset and continued through out. Even
screamed as he was put under water - i knew this as I saw the bubbles coming out his
mouth. I'm beginning to doubt the wisdom of persevering - on the one hand it is
important that he learns to swim and be confident in the water...but is this the only
way.

This morning he has developed his repertoire further and has been making high pitch
squeals which please him no end. I think he may be teething as he has started being a
little unpredictable and oscillating between crying and smiling for no apparent
reason. I have kept him happy by doing marathon singing sessions, complete with
actions. Interestingly, he has a clear preference for 'twinkle twinkle' over 'ba ba black
sheep'.

love Anna

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Friday, 13 November 2009 11:20 a.m.
To: Robert Beaglehole; Ruth Bonita; roby beaglehole; Sam Loe
Subject: massage

and finally...the massage. Thomas enjoys a full body massage, especially the back
and chest. I was looking at his new born pictures and astounded by how much he has
grown.

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Tuesday, 10 November 2009 9:52 p.m.
To: Ruth Bonita
Subject: Re: FW: [436906] Bookabach Enquiry - Ruth Bonita Beaglehole, arr:06-
Feb-10 dep:13-Feb-10

Hi,
It looks great and lets hope that it works out given that someone else has got in first?

Having porridge and getting ready for Thomas' third set of vaccinations Three
injections today. It has been a horrible experience so far and he is considerably more
alert now so I'm not looking forward to it. Hopefully Graham will be able to ome
back for them, but it depends on when the plasterers turn up.

Fingers crossed, on both counts, Anna

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you can see that he's fascinated by us eating and drinking!

First pram outing – up the Loan.

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]
Sent: Thursday, 5 November 2009 3:01 a.m.
To: Robert Beaglehole; Ruth Bonita; roby beaglehole; Sam Loe; Sally Greenhill
Subject: week 16 and 17

Hi,

We're just back from a Mini Music Maker's session which was great - see photos
attached. No photo of the tea and scones after which is an equally important part.

We've had some lovely crisp weather, the leaves have almost all fallen which has
made for some cracking bon fires. I've included some pics of Graham outside with
Thomas. He loves a roam in the garden and woods and is asleep by the end of it.

We went to a Halloween part at the neighbours with all the kids from The Loan.
Thomas went as a cat - you may recognise the pink ears that I knitted him for his
mouse outfit, but I made him a fresh tail and fashioned him a cat head out of my
maternity knickers. Edgy, and a talking point with the neighbours.

We're having a day in this afternoon - a four and a half hour drive to see Nell and
yesterday, a drive deep into the Boaders to a woman in our antenatal group who was
hosting this week's walk and lunch. The rain was remarkable so we sat by the fire
having soup and cake.

Looking forward to nz sun and sea.

love Anna

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Thursday, 5 November 2009 2:20 a.m.
To: Robert Beaglehole; Ruth Bonita
Subject: Re: Site for passport registration for US visit
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Super thanks. Amazing how quick the time is passing. I'll get on to it soon. I have
decided not to change the ticket in advance. Not entirely a decision of inactivity, but
also because I think it is a good opportunity that I have some ability to make good of.
So, if it's still ok with you both, Thomas and I'll be around in Feb and March.

=====================================================================

Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]
Sent: Tuesday, 3 November 2009 11:23 a.m.
To: Ruth Bonita
Cc: Robert Beaglehole
Subject: Re: Thomas and Max

HI,

That's quite a photo. He looks grown up and official or could that

be the effect of the marble statues?

Thomas and I are just back from a day trip to visit Nell who is,
quite literally, heavily pregnant. It was a four and a half hour
drive all up and Thomas managed it well. He slept for much of it and
enjoyed entertainment by the Jelly Kitten when awake. There were
tears only for the last stretch. Who could blame him - it was
getting tedious by then. We only had one baby tape which ran for 25
minutes before requiring to be rewound.

Nell was grand. In the middle of a lot of house changes. The timing
of which seems to be cutting it fine. She's changing her colour
scheme from all white to shades of grey which is more significant
than it sounds. She has 11 days left til her due date. I tried to
make reassuring sounds by drawing parallels to us moving house 3 days
before our due date, but just ended up sounding reckless.

This week Thomas has moved from random grasping of passing light
weight toys to determined and effective picking them up. He can pass
a Jelly Kitten from one hand to another with relative ease. This
evening he was quivering with excitement as he looked at vintage
fabrics in a design magazine that Nell gave me. He even managed to
turn a page, but Graham thought this was a by product of trying to
put it in his mouth.

Graham's work on Fiona's extension is going well. He's making good

progress and it is looking great. Long hours though. We're looking
forward to our holiday together.

And yes, sound like a good idea to book a place for Megan's wedding.

Anna

On 11/2/09, Ruth Bonita <r.bonita@auckland.ac.nz> wrote:

> Hi Anna
>
>
>
> Back from Te Henga and spent the weekend with Max (de Courten) and
> Barbora and their little 2 yr old, Lara.
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>
> We were talking about Thomas (Truelsen) and his little boy
Cristoffer - > and I thought you'd be interested in the attached.
>
>
>
> Max has just accepted a new post setting up a Centre for Global
Health
> in Copenhagen (starting next March) and may engage one of the other
of
> us, or both, to have some involvement - to be discussed. It was
> interesting talking to Barbora and her views about her career and
> juggling children; she would like a second one soon. Is close to
> becoming consultant physician in Australia, and this move may set
her
> back. Also the issue of starting afresh building support networks
with
> other new parents etc. Glad it's working out for you so well.
>
>
>
> Hope you all had a good weekend too. What is Thomas' latest
milestone?
>
> Cheers
>
> Ruth
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From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]
Sent: Tuesday, 27 October 2009 10:52 p.m.
To: Robert Beaglehole-----Original Message-----
Subject: Re: Child care options

HI,

We had a quiet weekend. Saturday we had friends out for burning of leaves followed
by soup. Got 10 around the kitchen table fairly easily. Long breakfast on Sunday
with Thomas on Graham's knee fixated with everything that was going in his mouth -
will send photos when I down load them, camera upstairs now. Can't remember what
else - Graham worked on the pantry - plastering and putting up shelves. Thomas and
I had more songs, books and he had a full body massage which he loves. He now has
considerable strength on his tummy.

Graham and I have talked again about child care options. Last week we had
considered sharing child care with Lindsay - I'd work 3 days, look after Thomas on
one day and after Freddie and Thomas on another, Lindsay would look after them
both another day, graham with Thomas on a 4th and nursery on the 5th day. Seems a
bit complicated.

Then it occurred to us...Graham could look after Thomas full time and I go back to
work full time in the summer. It feels good. That way Thomas and Graham will have
the benefit of spending a year together and I can put in some good hours at work to
feel like I've pulled my weight before I take another year off if we have a second
baby. Course, it'll be tough and with my long hours, I may not him much during the
week - though Graham suggested they get up early, have breakfast with me and join
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me on the cycle over the Pentlands. Nevertheless, my priority is that Thomas has a
good infancy with plenty of time with us. So even though I'd rather go back part time,
it's a great opportunity for Thomas and Graham. And it makes good financial sense
as my next lot of maternity leave would be calculated on my full time consultant's
salary. This plan fits in well enough with Graham's work - it would follow on neatly
from his break in work (our house, Fiona's house then the Antarctic). When he got
back, he could start a fresh (maybe out here) or making High Fashion Jewellery
(another story).

love Anna

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Tuesday, 27 October 2009 10:07 a.m.
To: Ruth Bonita
Subject: Re: modified silvercross

Yes, the fist in the mouth photo does indicate a certain penchant for putting things in.
Watching him though, it seems that he likes the feel of his tongue and he often puts
fingers into his mouth and sort of licks them.

He had a bath this morning and floated like an angel until he discovered that he could
slam both feet into the water to make remarkable waves. Later in the day he a
massage, a walk to the post office and a long sleep in the sling.

He's currently getting his evening change and songs and chat from Graham. I can
hear that it's time for his feed.

From: Ruth Bonita

Sent: Sunday, 25 October 2009 9:14 p.m.
To: 'Anna Beaglehole'
Subject: RE: modified silvercross

Just lovely, lovely photos!

The hand grasping is a great stage – I guess he is also into putting everything in reach into
his mouth as well – or close to. I see from the other swimming photos that he still has a
proclivity for whole hand exploration. Cute adaptation of the pram as well; that Silver Cross is
turning out to be very flexible; and it seems such a short time ago that he was so small, he
was almost lost in it.

xx
From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]
Sent: Saturday, 24 October 2009 8:48 a.m.
To: Ruth Bonita; Robert Beaglehole; roby beaglehole; Sam Loe; Sally Greenhill
Subject: modified silvercross

and a couple more from yesterday - you can see that we have modified the silvercross
to accommodate Thomas' desire to sit up and look about. You can also see that he has
found his hands!

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Saturday, 24 October 2009 8:36 a.m.
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To: Ruth Bonita; Robert Beaglehole; roby beaglehole; Sam Loe

Subject: The Swimmer, 15 weeks old

Hi,

We had a super day today. Thomas had his first swimming lesson in a posh hotel in
the middle of The Borders. We met Freddie and Lindsay there and had tea before
hand. The boys loved the water. Thomas was relaxed and floated peacefully - aided
by his plastic nappy which ballooned his bottom to the surface. He was unaffected by
water on his face or in his ears and loved being trailed through the water. The woman
taking the session was lovely and showed us safe ways of holding them and moving
them about - and she led the singing. It was just the four of us and perfect. The pool
was otherwise empty and was nicely heated. Lindsay bought us surprise underwater
cameras. I've included a few pics from the changing rooms.

Love Anna

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Thursday, 22 October 2009 9:02 a.m.
To: Ruth Bonita; Robert Beaglehole; roby beaglehole; Sam Loe
Subject: week 15

Hi,

Here are some photos from this (15th) week –

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• me and Thomas in mum's outfit,

• us raking leaves prior to his first bonfire

• Grandma Mary during recent visit when she helped de-mice the pantry which
was pretty horrific.

• Thomas and Nell during a day out in Newcastle. Nell's due in 3 weeks and is
huge and tired.

Did baby massage today and have now completed the whole body. Also went to
mini music makers this morning which was fantastic. It is run by a woman in the
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Scottish coral society who is brilliant and imaginative and the babies and kids love
it. Thomas shouted and flapped his arms in the exciting bits and looked pleased
when his name was sung and ecstatic when the ball was bounced towards him on
the magic stretchy silver material.

Love Anna

Some MILESTONES

From: Ruth Bonita

Sent: Tuesday, 13 October 2009 9:06 p.m.
To: 'Anna Beaglehole'
Subject: RE: from Viet Nam

Hi Anna

Yes, back and a bit stuffed from the travel; burst a front tyre on the car the first day and had a
nasty fall off my bike today, so am suffering more than the jet lag.

The photo of the red suit is lovely – and so pleased to see that there is plenty of room for
growth – right up until when you leave and there for him when you return as well.

I’m glad we already have an inkling of your devotion and amazement with Thomas; and pikkis
also help a lot. Interesting to see him in his mouse ears – and I love the one where his eyes

are like possums – big and beautiful..

Graham looking as devoted as ever.

Looking forward to the milestones.

Much love
Ruth
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PS Thanks for the reminder of Nell’s date. Jack and Sian are due tomorrow but they have
both come down with heavy flu so are hoping it will be late; she is already exhausted.
From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]
Sent: Tuesday, 13 October 2009 7:19 a.m.
To: Ruth Bonita
Subject: Re: from Viet Nam

Hi,

Sounds like you are having an interesting time. Things are great here too. Thomas is
more lovely than I can possibly describe. I've just put a card in the post to you with
all his new milestones plus a few pics.

I'll attach a series of pictures from the last week or two, starting with the fab Santa
suit that you sent him. Many thanks, and perfect timing as it arrived in the cold snap
before the heating was connected.

Talk soon, love Anna

On Fri, Oct 9, 2009 at 3:35 PM, Ruth Bonita <r.bonita@auckland.ac.nz> wrote:

Hi Anna and Graham

Greetings from Vietnam – Hoi An in Danang province, to be precise. It’s a beachside place
and the signs of the recent big storms are everywhere – the sludge on the walls about chest
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high, the mountains of sand piled on either side of the road (a bit like snow!), great gobs of
green blobs floating down the river outside the hotel room etc. Walking under the coconut
trees is dangerous; a falling coconut hit a guest and since then, there has been a mass rush
on the trees to remove coconuts and damaged fronds.

It’s been a good meeting – interesting bunch of people from ASEAN countries, all trying to
work together to produce some papers in the region for the Lancet; an interesting process, to
say the least. My role is as adviser to one of the papers and I have lucked out with a chap
from the Philippines who will do a great job as lead author.

One of the interesting spin offs of the meeting was the suggestion that Robert and I try to
organise a meeting in Bellagio next year of people who want to take the idea we discussed
with Richard in Edinburgh a little further (yet to be discussed with Robert; contact has been
very erratic). If this goes ahead, I thought it would be great if you 3 could slip across! It is a
truly magical small Italian town on a lake.

We seem to be a bit out of synch since leaving UK; I have been in Australia and Nelson and
now here since then, and of course, you have been in France Thanks for the wedding photos;
you all looked very glam indeed. Looking forward to some more recent ones of Thomas H.

Can you let me know Nell’s due date?

Much love

Ruth

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Sunday, 4 October 2009 9:59 a.m.
To: roby beaglehole; Sam Loe; Ruth Bonita; Robert Beaglehole
Subject: flight details

All booked! As per last minute thought by Rob, I've booked one way tickets for the
three of us - out 27th Dec 14:55. Tomorrow will book a return for Graham - either on
the 10th (he flys at 1800) or the day before. Thomas and I will stay on in Nelson for a
bit longer and will book a return later.

Here's a picture of Thomas doing what he loves: nappy off and sucking his whole fist.

love Anna
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From: Robert Beaglehole

Sent: Friday, 25 September 2009 9:18 p.m.
To: Anna Beaglehole
Cc: Ruth Bonita
Subject: RE: for crying out loud

Dear Anna,

Sounds like a lot of fun – and a good deal - but what was the film?

We are now back home, after the first half.

Began with a pick up of Rob at the airport, after Ruth had been to the Suffragette breakfast.

A couple of hours at Whale Bay with Jim and the family – all there and a practice of our
songs. Then to the local marae for a send off from the school kids, rather good performance,
and a change over to the hearse which couldn’t get down the drive. A slow drive into
Ngarauwhahia and the Turangawaewae marae. A formal welcome and speeches (21/2 hours)
from locals with responses from University people and an appearance by the King – a huge
honour for Jim and Jane. Then “tea” and another karakia. Rob was staying overnight in the
tent with Jim, also Jenny, Helen, Sarah and the two babies and other kids. Jane, David and
Stephen went home to the Bay; David, Bhagee and Vidi went to a local motel.

It starts again at 10.30 am or so with a more public service. Then to the local endowed school
and then a drive by the University and Cambridge Tce before the cremation at 3pm. We will
then come back and drop Rob off for the 7pm plane to Nelson.

Best wishes

Robert
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From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Friday, 25 September 2009 9:30 a.m.
To: Robert Beaglehole
Subject: for crying out loud

Sorry I missed your call this am - I had left the house already to catch the 9am bus
into town. I met Lindsay and Freddie en route and we went to the Cameo cinema for
a screening for mum's and babies. the session is called 'for crying out loud' and for
£4.50 you get a movie ticket for you and bub and a cup of tea! It was brilliant - about
60 mums, lots of swaying in the isles, but surprisingly little commotion/distraction.
Thomas watched the first half, cooing in appropriate places, fed and gurned for the
rest. then lunch out before the bus ride home. Hope the funeral goes well. love Anna

From: Ruth Bonita

Sent: Tuesday, 18 August 2009 7:01 a.m.
To: 'Ruth Beaglehole'; Bhagee Ramanathan; 'David Beaglehole'; Jane Ritchie;
'roby beaglehole'; 'Sam Loe'
Cc: Robert Beaglehole; Anna Beaglehole
Subject: RE: Update

Dear all

It has been a wonderful day- Anna had the interview this morning and within an hour, was
offered the position as consultant psychiatrist in old age medicine – a job that is ideal for her
and which she can have as long as she wishes.

We have all been exuberant all day – and after a celebratory lunch, returned to W Linton and
went for a walk in the area which enters a rough track at the start of a 10 mile bike ride over
the Pentland hills to get to the job – in a year’s time , that is. Wild wild country with highland
cattle and sheep that have crumpled horns.

We have just been celebrating with prosecco and salmond blinis – and now a simple meal to
seal the day.

Thomas managed to play a crucial role – long (5 hour) sleeps over the past 2 nights and slept
throughout the morning’s excitement.

We may now be able to relax and start to enjoy the Edinburgh festival, starting tomorrow with
the history of Scotland over the past 8 centuries!

Lots of love to all

Ruth

From: Robert Beaglehole

Sent: Monday, 17 August 2009 12:27 a.m.
To: Ruth Beaglehole; Bhagee Ramanathan; David Beaglehole; Jane Ritchie; roby
beaglehole; Sam Loe
Cc: Ruth Bonita
Subject: Update

Dear Ruth, Rob, Sam, Bhagee, David and Jane,

We have the opportunity of a three hour Easy jet delay here at Amsterdam airport to make
contact with you.
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We have just finished our week of teaching at Erasmus and are heading, slowly, back to
Edinburgh to spend a little more time with Anna, Graham and wee Thomas, now five weeks
old. The teaching went well, 60 students, hard work but rewarding. The evenings out at our
favourite local restaurants were fun – mostly seafood for me.

Anna is doing well, very happy as a new mum with plenty of confidence and a very relaxed
attitude. She is enjoying the early stages of her year off on maternity leave. On Monday she
has an important job interview for a position as a consultant old age psychiatrist – actually the
job she was filling in for the three months before delivery. She seems confident although
hasn’t been able to do much last minute preparation.

Their house, The Heddles, is progressing slowly. I hope that by the time summer ends the
heating will be working. The decorators are meant to be in the first week of September when
they are off in Switzerland for a short holiday. Lovely grounds just over a hectare,, sloping
lawn and woods, all situated in a nice village 15 miles south of Edinburgh.

We are back in Devonport on September 6,

Trust all is well with you all.

Love

Robert

From: Anna Beaglehole [mailto:annabeaglehole@googlemail.com]

Sent: Tuesday, 4 August 2009 4:06 a.m.
To: Ruth Bonita
Subject: Re: Draft outline Naming Ceremony for discussion

thanks. just one or two changes. Graham doesn't wan to sprinkle water on thomas.
Mary and dick will say their own thing – I could cover the connection with the
ground/house instead. And obviously nell won't be there. Anna

On Sat, Aug 1, 2009 at 10:37 AM, Ruth Bonita <r.bonita@auckland.ac.nz> wrote:

Hi Anna
Did you have a chance to look - and are there changes you would like to
see?
It's only a guideline....
It shd be fun!
Xx
R/M

From: Ruth Bonita

Sent: Tuesday, 21 July 2009 12:20 a.m.
To: 'Sally Greenhill'
Subject: FW: Thomas Harvey Gillie update
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Dear family and friends,

.
THG is now one week old, actually 8 days old. He was born at 8.30pm on Friday 10 July after
a very easy pregnancy and an even easier delivery.

He went home the next morning. We met him on day 4 after coming from our London
meetings. He is an easy, calm and relaxed baby – sleeps most of the night and day and
wakes only to feed. He lost only an ounce of weight and his now back above his birth weight
(7lbs 3 oz). His parents have taken to their new roles in the most natural way. They are both
enjoying every moment with THG and find it hard to believe their good fortune.
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Meanwhile their house (The Heddles) is a work in progress. It is rapidly showing its potential
and once the decorating is finished, the bathrooms connected and the heating installed – all
in the next couple of months – it will be a house transformed. My main contribution so far has
been mowing the lawns – 2 1/2 hours worth. In all there is 1.25 acres with plenty of mature
trees and woods as well as a large vege garden with glass house. Ruth has done a huge
amount of cooking (lots for the freezer) as well as tacking some of the garden – a lost cause
as it is so huge.

The village of West Linton is very cute, and the Loan – their lane – leads up onto the Pentland
hills, a great place for walking and running.

Today we moved into Edinburgh and are staying in a flat in the converted stables of old
friends who have very generously allowed this to be a second base; they have gone sailing
for the next three weeks. We will visit Anna and THG most days. He is still a tiny baby (after
Sol Harvey Beaglehole)

All good wishes

Robert and Ruth