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So, I went situational. I casually walked slightly past her table with my coffee and then stopped and
looked at her for a moment.
Me: You’re not from LA are you?
Her: No... how did you know?
Me: You don’t tend to see a lot of people in their home towns reading USA Today. It’s kind of a hotel
thing. Unless you just really like small words and big pictures.
Her: I’m from New York.
Me: Oh, cool, why are you here? [ this is a boring, logical, rapport-seeking question that would not
necessarily be ideal at this stage in a nightclub with lots of energy distractions, but worked just fine in
this situation]
Her: Shooting a movie... etc., etc., etc.
And then off we went into a normal conversation (which I will explain below).
During this time, I was also doing something that was opposite from what I’d do during nightclub game.
I was deliberately being too quiet. This was only partly because we were in a quiet coffee shop, we’d
obviously just met, and I didn’t want to draw a lot of attention to us that might have made her feel
awkward or embarrassed. The bigger reason was that I was waiting for her to ask me to repeat myself.
That gave me an excuse to sit down with her so she could hear me better. Do not do this at clubs .
Within another minute, she was asking me what I do for work, where I’ve lived, and so on. She was
become attracted.
A normal conversation is what you’d have in any non-transactional conversation. It’s one where you are
free to talk about whatever you like and to move between conversation subjects. Someone you meet at a
cocktail party you’re pretty much already in a normal conversation with. But asking someone for the
time or using an opinion opener does not generally get you into a normal conversation. That’s why I
defined the Transitioning phase to get between Approaching and Attraction. A fuller description is also
available in the free download on the Magic Bullets page.
One of the big reasons I don’t tend to meet women during the day is I’m pretty busy. I used to use that as
an excuse not to approach women during the day at all. But then I realized that you don’t have to do Day
Game for a long time. I wasn’t going to try to pull her back to my apartment for a quickie. It might have
worked, it might not have, but I have things to do today and so does she and I’m far beyond the point of
wanting to sleep with every beautiful woman who wants to sleep with me. (The Savoy of a few years
ago would have been appalled by this statement.)
The cool thing about Day Game is that it’s like Social Circle Game. Women will always remember you.
They are almost always sober when you meet them, they don’t tend to meet a lot of people in the day, so
it’s unusual and memorable. You don’t need a lot of time to make an impression.
After about 10 minutes of conversation (which included very brief qualification), I started looking for the
“hook” that would let us see each other again. I talked about places to go out in Los Angeles, she asked a
lot of questions, and I mentioned that some friends and I are going to a special party at a well-known club
(sorry, I can’t put the specifics in the LSi) on Tuesday. She immediately offered her number. I told her
if we go, that she could come along.
And that’s it. There was almost no touching (not appropriate for the time or venue), no high-energy
games, no peacocking. She came out the next night, bringing a friend at first, but giving her the signal
that she could go home without her after she became comfortable with me and the idea that we were
going to have sex that night. I’ve written those kinds of “field reports” dozens of times and I want to
keep this article focused around Day Game.
The success was due to:
1. I was in position to meet women. I looked good. Some days I leave the house in “whatever”
clothes because I’m busy or don’t feel like getting ready or just am not in the mood. Those days
are usually missed opportunities to meet women. Always look and feel your best when you leave
your house.
2. I had time. If you’re constantly rushing around and late for everything, you’re not going to be
able to take advantage of opportunities to meet women on the way. I used to be a terrible
offender at this, because I really have a very busy life and am always rushing. But I just got it
into my mind to plan to be 15-30 minutes early for stuff. Sometimes all that means is that I’m
exactly on time instead of being late. Sometimes it means that I’m early, but so what? It’s not
wasted time – with my Blackberry I can make calls, write stuff, do email, just like I can
anywhere. And sometimes, like this morning, it gave me a chance to meet someone new.
3. Calibrating the approach for the environment. There’s a reason Magic Bullets has six types of
openers, four types of transitions, and seven attraction switches. That’s 168 unique
combinations. The Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 1 gives a map of what goes with
what and when you want to use different routines, and the Routines Manual Volume 2 builds
upon this even further with hundreds more advanced scripts.
Now, you’ll also notice that we’re not going on a date. She’s “coming along” to something I am doing
with my friends anyway. This is far better. First of all, it’s way more fun for me. Second, it puts her out
of “date frame” where she is evaluating me. Instead she is in the “compete for Savoy’s attention” frame,
which creates and sustains attraction.
Take care,
Savoy