THE TRUTH BOX

Lets imagine that The Truth lives inside a box

and throughout the ages, people have been trying
to see and understand The Truth. But the best any
of us can do is to figuratively drill a small hole from
where we happen to be standing outside the box.
So each of us only sees The Truth from our own point
of view through our tiny peek hole.
Our Peek Hole
Now consider all the influences that affect that point of view including where and in what
generation we were born, the cultural norms and messages we were given, family
dynamics, birth order, formal and informal education, etc. Additionally, our point of view
is shaped by the impact of how we may be regarded and treated by others according to
our gender, ethnicity, skin color, religion, culture, economic circumstances, etc.
Our individual journey through life affects not
just how we see the world around us, but what
we actually do see, what we do not see, and
the meaning we make of it all. Even in the
same moments together, we are operating in
what are literally different realities from each
other. As Anais Nin said, We dont see things
as they are; we see things as we are.
Our peek hole shapes our values, what means the most to us, and the things we will
defend to the end. After all, for us they are The Truth.
The Big Picture
No one has the one right or better peek hole. Just as having two eyes gives us depth
perception, seeing through anothers peek hole gives our view added dimension. The
more peek holes we strive to see through and fit together like pieces of a puzzle, the
more accurate the map we have to navigate the complexity of our relationships. Rather
than becoming adamant and defensive about our peek hole, we can aspire to
continually ask ourselves: What else could be true?

Dirk & Jane Velten

Evolutionary Partnership / Women & Men