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Breaking Daaatingg Yeeaahh
Breaking Daaatingg Yeeaahh
Spike Attraction
Build Comfort
SUMMARY
Sex is high-level investment for most women. Once sex has occurred, youre given
more room to maneuver and design the type of relationship that you want.
Unresolved sexual tension, if left too longgenerally two or more meet upscan make
things awkward.
When you lose momentum and investment dwindles. Life seems to get in the
way. And what couldve been a potentially life enhancing relationship, dies a
pathetic death.
However, youll find as you increase your options, youre less concerned with
having sex on the first date. Its a strange dynamic that youll understand with
There are a few things you should do over the course of the date:
1.
Emotional Stimulation
Stimulate her with the widest possible range of positive emotions (and even some contrasting
ones - more on this later). Use your words, actions and the environment youre in. This ensures
the time spent with you will have an impact on her and stick in her mind.
2.
You should become more intimate over the course of the date. Far too many dates end with
the awkward kiss on the doorstep or in the car due to a lack of physical progression throughout
the date.
Why is this important?
It makes it implicitly clear you have no intention of ending up in the friends zone. It also indicates youre a sexually confident and proactive man. Remember, a woman doesnt want to be
responsible for her own seduction.
You should both feel as if you have dug past the superficial level and have begun to discover
each other more intimately. There should be a sense of familiarity and a closeness that comes
from spending quality time with someone where youve shared and received insight to each
others world.
4.
Sexualization
This is where you verbally set the stage for a sexual relationship. By making her comfortable
with sexual topics you establish the frame sex isnt a big deal. Its the most natural thing in
the world. Like all of the steps above, this is a crucial one in developing a sexual relationship
and having a successful date.
Many of the problems men run into on dates stem from their acceptance of common dating
practices. They watch movies, read novels, hear one-off stories or worse listen to womens
romanticized advice or follow outdated or inaccurate information about how a date should be.
The nice guy gets the girl story, purported by Hollywood movies, feeds on our fantasy to just
be seen for who we really are without actually having to DO anything.
The reality is you have to be proactive on dates
If any magic is going to happen on the date, it will due to you whipping out and waving the
magic wand.
romance novels, clouded by past experience. Its never pure, normally comes
Women do like guys who are nice, but only after those guys have shown their attractive traits.
A guy who can display attractive traits (such as the attraction switches described in Magic Bullets) is a man in touch with his masculinity. If she knows he is in touch with his core nature,
she wont have to worry about him going soft on her later on. The nice guy adopts a feminine
Boyfriend/Provider
Excitement
Security
Fantasy
Provides Resources
Predictable
Abundance
Loyalty
Dominance
Safety
Danger
Protection
Unpredictability
Comfortable
Sexual Experience
Emotional/Financial Stability
Mystery
Social Conformity
Spontaneous
Acceptance
You fit in to the category of the average guy that she has rejected before
A spotlight is placed on every physical escalation attempt because it will be the only
boring youre going to have an unnecessary task of changing her emotional state.
Youre at the mercy of the movie to determine her mood, if the movie is bad/sad/
You fit into the clich dates category, so you have to fight to build attraction, but you
dont have an avenue to build it.
Need we say more? Save dinner and movie dates for girls that youre already sleeping with.
The exception to this is of course if these dates are taking place at your house. If she is coming
over for dinner or coming over to watch a movie, these are great logistically and have a different vibe.
1. Understand what function the rules are playing (usually a form of self-protection)
2. See yourself as the exception to any rule and reject any attempts to restrict you
3. Lead her comfortably to sex based on how well you both connect and through
sexual arousal.
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Qualifying hergetting her to demonstrate her value and showing appreciation for
These are the foundations needed to begin a sexual relationship in the fastest possible time.
For a more in depth look at the Triad Model, view the video companion. (We can throw in Hoss
video for SC 2011 and just cut the tails of it.)
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Teasing her
Start off with misinterpreting what she says as her being attracted to you
Playing games
This is counter intuitive, but it hits hard and its a great way to cloak your escalation
BUILD COMFORT
The amount of comfort and connection needed to build a long-term relationship is larger than
the amount needed for just sex.
A woman needs to know enough about you to trust that you are who you say you are. Do this
and she will be safe going back to your house or bringing you back to hers.
She will be assessing over the course of the dateconsciously and sub-consciouslyto see:
1. If you remain consistent with the attractive image that you portrayed in the initial
meeting
3. Whether or not she can see you as a part of her life and if so, what type of role will
you play. Most of the time shell be sizing up your relationship potential and going too
deep into comfort will increase your relationship potential and hinder the speed at
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The best comfort builder in this sense is revealing your passions and your purpose. These are
the things that get you to jump out of bed in the morning. When you talk about them, there
should be passion in your voicenot because youre trying to seem enthused, but because you
cant help but be enthused. Its controlled and genuine. Your passion/purpose should be the
driving force of your life.
As youre weaving the above into your conversation, use it as an opportunity to show both sides
of your personality. If you were high-energy and witty during your first meet, sprinkle in bits of
your intellectual side. Shell love the intrigue, and she wants to see your full emotional range.
By seeing this range, she can better gauge who you are away from her.
An interesting comfort builder is giving your unique view of the world. This means you tell her
how you see the world, as you filter it through the attraction switches in your stories. Here is
an example from Vercetti:
For example:
Sylvia: What?
Vercetti: Youre adorable, I mean in your life This guy said something really interesting
he said its ok to be scared, when taking on something new being a little scared is natural
and can inspire you to prepare well and do your best. Its Fear that we have to watch out for.
Fear is paralyzing and stops you from taking chances in life. I thought that was a great
way to look at it and when I think back to the crazy things Ive done recently, Ive been
scared but taken action anyway and its always pushed me to stay sharp and work even
These are the active comfort builders, ones you steer the conversation toward. However, just as
much comfort can be built passively.
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Tell me more about why you do X. I find it intriguing, even if I wasnt trying to get
into your pants Id still want to know.
Just listening to you explain why you X, I can feel how passionate you are about
it thats sexytell me morein fact lets change topic youre making think naughty
thoughts
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You look incredible, I love women who dress up for me (hug her then
release with) ok, dont get carried away, stop trying to seduce me
Note: These frames are set in a playful way, if you are too forceful in your attempt to set a frame
or overt youll come up against resistance. Women have egos too, and being accused outright
of trying to impress someone will cause her ego defense to kick in.
Shes sexual and dangerous
Example 1:
Vercetti: I dont feel safe around you
Gabi: Why, what have I done?
Vercetti: Its the way you walk Its sexy, but its dangerous. Next thing I know Ill be stripped
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Here are a few areas you can start leading to develop the Leadership muscle:
Physical
If youre going through a crowded place, lightly take her hand behind you as
you lead her through the crowd.
When opening a door for her, placing you hand on her lower back and guide
her through.
When crossing the road take her by the hand to escort her across then
As a rule of thumb, initiate physical contact but also be the one to break
contact first.
Emotional
See yourself as a master of her emotional state. Over the course of the date
you will be leading her emotionally through the topics and themes you bring
up, but mainly by cycling her through the key stages of the emotional progression
model.
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Conversational
The responsibility of leading the conversation falls on you. This doesnt mean
you spend the whole date talking about yourself but it does mean you some
what control the topics you talk about. Its necessary to avoid negative topics
or topics which arent helpful to the seduction while leading her on to topics
Passions
Likes
Dislikes
Fears
Fantasies
Hobbies
Early Influences
Family
Challenges
Interests
The Future
Changing topics
way.
Logistical
Progress toward your place on the date and have a plan of where to go. Be decisive.
If you can sense the environment getting stale and youre struggling with
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Takeaways
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If youre at an art exhibition, wonder off and look at artwork without waiting for her.
Boundaries
Breaking rapport
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I dont know you well enough, Ill tell you later once we trust each other
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more I will tell you that Im very close with my family, Im very protective of
Playful Disqualificationfind a reason why the two of you wont work that can be
overcome
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SUMMARY
Dating Myths place awkward and unnatural pressure on women. However, if you adopt your
own non-judgmental beliefs about dating, you can liberate a woman from the awkward social
pressure she faces.
Before you start this book. Go to the Introduction workbook and complete the exercises on
prior dates.
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