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expression
on
my
face
every
time
I
heard
this
question.
Were
they
being
serious,
or
were
they
trying
to
be
funny?
These
are
the
moments
that
began
to
shape
my
views
of
what
people
thought
of
Sikhism
and
my
cultural
beliefs.
As I had just moved to a new school in October 1997, the teachers already
had
the
assumption
that
I
needed
ESL,
which
I
did
not.
It
was
already
hard
to
make
friends
being
new,
but
even
harder
because
kids
would
pick
on
me.
I
used
to
bring
Indian
food
to
school
because
that
is
what
my
grandmother
would
make
for
me,
while
my
mother
was
at
work.
Every
day,
it
was
a
variation
of
different
veggie
sandwiches
and
they
would
give
off
such
a
strong
smell
that
lingered
in
my
backpack,
and
near
the
students
around
me.
It
was
a
very
distinct
smell
that
consisted
of
warm
spiced
cauliflower
and
potatoes,
also
known
as
a-loo
go-bi.
Eww,
what
is
that
and
why
does
it
smell
like
that?
said
the
kids
who
had
their
desks
next
to
mine.
As
I
discretely
took
bites
of
my
smelly
sandwich,
I
looked
around
the
room
and
was
jealous
of
the
kids
who
would
get
McDonalds
or
fast
food
lunches.
I
thought
that
was
the
norm,
and
I
thought
to
myself,
why
doesnt
my
lunch
look
like
that?
At
such
a
young
age,
I
felt
like
an
outsider
that
was
being
judged
in
every
way
possible.
Was
I
giving
the
students
a
reason
to
think
this
way,
or
did
they
already
have
these
thoughts
about
Indian
people?
What made these people think that Indians bathed in milk, or went through a
jug
a
day?
Why
would
they
laugh
at
Indian
people
at
the
supermarket?
Was
I
on
the
outside
of
some
inside
joke?
As
these
questions
ran
through
my
mind,
I
was
being
asked
why
I
could
not
cut
my
hair
or
why
I
had
to
keep
it
tied
up.
I
felt
like
Rapunzel,
minus
the
whole
being
locked
in
a
tower
part.
However,
that
is
how
I
started
to
feel
because
I
felt
imprisoned
in
my
thoughts.
How
could
I
answer
questions
about
Sikhism,
when
I
did
not
even
know
much
about
it
myself?
I
just
did
what
was
asked
of
me,
and
whenever
I
asked
why,
the
response
would
be:
because
we
have
to.
For
a
curious
7
year
old,
this
was
the
worst
reasoning
to
hear,
and
that
is
why
I
began
to
question
my
values,
and
the
traditions
that
became
so
intertwined
within
Sikhism.
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Was
I
aiming
to
please
my
family,
the
Sikh
community,
or
myself?
I
do
not
know.
At
this
point,
I
knew
that
if
I
continued
to
do
things
based
on
what
my
family
was
telling
me
without
reason,
I
would
continue
to
feel
incomplete,
or
different
from
everyone
around
me.
Toward the end of my elementary years, I was being asked questions and
they
were
no
longer
about
milk,
or
what
I
was
eating.
This
time,
the
questions
were
about
my
parents.
In
2003,
my
parents
were
no
longer
together
and
at
this
time,
it
was
uncommon
in
the
Sikh
community,
and
my
family
specifically.
Sikhs
dont
get
divorced,
do
they?
What,
your
parents
are
divorced?
Thats
different.
A
new
wave
of
questions
had
started,
and
these
questions
would
make
me
ask
more
questions
about
Sikhism
and
faith.
This
was
the
moment
that
something
changed
in
me,
and
in
a
bittersweet
way,
for
the
better.
If
faith
and
religion
could
not
restore
what
was
lost,
I
needed
to
re-examine
what
the
role
of
religion
was
in
my
life,
and
what
I
felt
was
more
important
traditionally,
and
what
would
ensure
balance
in
my
life.
And so it began, I was beginning to find myself, and what I stood for. The
mold
was
being
broken,
and
the
first
step
was
to
cut
my
hair.
This
was
a
decision
I
made
for
myself,
and
it
did
not
make
my
parents
happy,
but
it
felt
like
all
the
weight
of
the
expectations
that
were
placed
on
me
were
cut
loose.
After
this
change,
it
was
clear
that
it
did
not
matter
what
I
looked
like,
what
I
was
eating,
or
if
I
looked
traditional
because
by
this
time
students
were
more
aware
of
Sikhism
and
open
to
new
ways
of
thinking.
Although
I
did
not
fit
the
ideals
of
my
religion,
I
found
a
way
to
balance
my
beliefs,
the
customs
within
my
family,
and
the
type
of
person
I
wanted
to
be.
To this day, I am still discovering more about myself, and the religion I have
grown
to
respect
and
show
pride
in.
My
religion
strengthens
the
bond
between
my
grandparents
and
me,
and
also
allows
me
to
enlighten
others
when
they
ask
questions
out
of
uncertainty.
Although
I
question
many
aspects
of
the
religion,
it
is
what
has
made
not
only
my
family,
but
also
the
Sikh
community
as
connected
as
it
is
today.
It is human nature to question what cannot be seen, and the traditions that
become intertwined between culture and religion. Those kids in my class were
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doing
what
all
kids
do,
asking
questions,
questions
that
I
could
not
answer.
Those
people
making
fun
of
what
I
would
eat
were
now
asking
me
to
bring
Indian
food
for
them.
They
now
know
that
milk
is
purchased
for
the
communal
kitchens
in
temples,
to
make
yogurt,
and
even
for
cleansing
rituals.
Nowadays,
the
questions
asked
of
me
are
out
of
interest,
and
not
out
of
judgment.
Now,
it
is
my
job
to
answer
those
questions,
so
that
people
will
not
feel
like
how
I
felt
when
I
was
younger.