The Definitive Guide to Success with Women!

By Liz Larsen

Copyright 2006 Liz Larsen

All Rights Reserved
Published by Youniverse LLC

Table of Contents:

Contents
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Chapter 12
Chapter 13

Introduction
30 Seconds
Confidence
Conversation
Flirting
Rejection
Looks
Where to Meet Girls
Picking the Right Girl
Romance
Kissing
What you Like
Get Inspired!

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30 Second Tip:
If youre one of these guys that says, Yeah, I want to be good with girls, but I
want it to happen naturallyIm not changing anything.
All I can say is, dont be a fool! Did you learn how to drive a car by simply
jumping behind the wheel and saying, I just want it to come naturally to
me?
Being good with girls is a skill. And like any other skill, it takes practice and a
willingness to listen to those who can teach you about it.
So put aside your pride and learn something. Then get out there and
practice. You will get there!

Introduction
So, let me guess: you cant get a date, you cant get laid or you cant even
say hi to a woman without blushing and stuttering? All of the above maybe?
Ok, not to worry, youre not the only one. There are plenty of guys out there
that have no idea how to talk to women and therefore never get a chance to
date the women they like.
I Know a lot of you have probably checked out different sites about how to
get laid in 30 days or how to use NLP or hypnosis to trick her into sleeping
with you(!) Maybe youve even bought pheromones in a bottle in order to
make her mad with passion and throw herself at you?
No shame in having tried any of this, we are all looking for the quick fix. In
my experience however, the quick fix rarely works, and (face it) are you
really so sad that you want a girl to sleep with you because you hypnotized
her?! Come on! You can do better than that. Much better!
And I can help you with this. I can teach you to be the guy women want to
get to know, without having to drastically change who you are or use
sleazy methods to trick women.
Why can I help you?
Two reasons:
1: I am a woman, I know what women like and dont like.
2: I have loads of female friends. Woman talk differently to each other when
there are no men around and we tell close friends things we would never
admit in public or in front of a man.
3: I have helped tons of male friends get a clue about women, and
although your mama probably told you that you are special (and you may
be!), when it comes to the dating game, you are just like every John, Jim
and Joe out thereWhat works for other guys, WILL work for you too!
Andwho do you think can teach you more about women? The fourty-five
year-old webmaster whos bragging about how much experience he has
with women and basing everything he knows on what a few girls have told
him (and we all know that girls are not honest about this things in front of
menyou do know that, right?), or would you rather learn from the twenty
something woman who knows from the inside how women think and feel,
what they dream about and what they really want from guys? Hmmmm.
So why do I want to help you?

This is the trickier question. But heres the 411:

The way I see it, dating is not a war between men and women. It is not the
guys job to do whatever he can to trick the girl into sleeping with him, and
its not the girls job to try to resist men and put them down every chance
they get.
Let me tell you a little secret: Most single girls are looking for a guy to hook
up with just as much as you are looking for a girl. Read that last sentence
again and REALLY think about it.
Thats right, you dont have to persuade a girl to hook up with someone,
she already wants that. All you need is to learn to be the guy she chooses
to hook up with. And with 30SS, its a no-brainer!

30 Second Tip:
Get used to smiling a little more often than you currently do. A relaxed,
confident smile will get you noticed by the ladies every time.

30 Seconds
Yup, thats right; on average, it takes a woman 30 seconds to decide
whether or not she could sleep with a man!
Now, I dont want you to get discouraged or over confident knowing this.
You see, 30 seconds is how long she takes to decide if you are on her
Maybe list or her Not a chance in hell list. This doesnt mean that shell
sleep with you right away; it simply means that she is able to see it as a
possibility. In other wordsit wouldnt gross her out and she is fairly sure
she would enjoy it!
What should you do with this knowledge? First, let me teach you how to be
the guy she wants to hook up with. And once you know the rules of the
game, its not as big a jump as you might think.
But before I get into to the specifics of how you get the girl, I want you to
get the following idea DEEP in your head: Most girls want the same thing
you do!
Thats right. Just like guys, the hot girls are out there looking. Some girls
are looking for a boyfriend or a long term partner. Others are looking for a
one night stand or a lover for a while.
Remember this as I teach you to become the guy she wants to be with.
Forget your preconceived ideas that shell only go home with the most
handsome dude in the room. Thats bullshit!
First of all, looks are far less important to women than it is to men, so dont
expect that she thinks like you, she doesnt.
Secondly, in a club for instance, there are plenty of pretty girls, and only
one of them will be going home with the most handsome guy there, all the
rest of them are still looking. I know from my own experience and what my
female friends tell me, that a lot of women tend to be a little put off by the
most attractive guy (unless you are Brad Pitt, that should make you feel
better!).
You see, it is common knowledge among women that the prettiest guys
have the biggest egos. They tend to be vain, not very interesting and
generally poor lovers.
Why is this? Its simple: the stunning guys never learn to develop an
interesting personality or skill as a lover because they never have to. Once

women get a little bit of experience and get past the high school
mentality they realize this.
Another important thing to notice is that this works the other way around
too. Quite often the prettiest girls are not the most interesting or the best
lovers. This is especially true for the ones that have been pretty their whole
life, the typical cheerleader or high school princess.
I have realized through doing a ton of research on this topic that many
guys, especially young guys who dont have much experience, tend to see
the pretty girl as the prize that they have to win. Wrong!
I want you to put this idea behind you straight away. It is not about
winning the princess. Remember what I just told you, girls are looking
too. Sure, there are girls out there that consider themselves princesses
and think that a man has to prove himself worthy before he can get her. If
you are interested in a girl like that, I advise you to slap yourself fairly hard
in the face, then go home and reconsider.
The princess is very high maintenance, and usually, even if you do get
her, shell make you work like a dog to keep her. And, even worse, shell
always have that crappy attitude like you should feel honored to be allowed
to date her. Can you say biotch?
Now, dont get me wrong, all beautiful girls do not have this attitude. There
are pretty girls who see themselves as lucky as the guy if they hook up
with someone they like.
You see thats the main point; women want to date guys they like. They
want someone that is interesting to talk to and someone who makes them
feel good. Preferably someone who is laid back and funny, and doesnt
take themselves OR HER too seriously. Re-read that last bit as well. It is
horribly important!
And heres the wisdom of the ages for youare you ready?
The main key to make her feel good is if you feel good about yourself.
One more time, and repeat after me:
The main key to make her feel good is if you feel good about yourself.
Got that? Good. Well move on for now, but well be coming back to this
point a lot, so get it firmly in you membrane!

The thing is, we all like to hang out with confident people. If you feel good
about yourself, it will shine through and make her feel good about you too.
If you are insecure about how you look or your social skills people will pick
up on that.
Likewise, if you are trying to hide you teeth, or dress in huge clothes trying
to hide that you are skinny, people around you will always notice this
especially the babes.
But if you can manage to be happy with who you are and how you look (or
at least give this appearance), other people will accept this at face value,
and your stock with the lay-dees will immediately rise!
So, how do you get confident enough to relax around girls, and become the
guy shes looking to hook up with? Well, thats what Im here to tell you.
Read on dear pupil and remember to only use this powerful information for
good (because it is indeed powerful).

30 Second Tip:
We all learn by modeling behavior. So if you want to be a babe magnet,
study someone who already is! Pick a celebrity--rich, famous and adored by
the ladies-- and buy a few DVDs to study his mannerisms, behavior and
attitude.
Watch these often, because the more you watch, the more you will begin to
mirror his behavior; His babe magnet personality will begin rub off on you!

Confidence
When it comes to success, any kind of success, it all comes down to your
own mental attitude. Look at top athletes for instance. They are all pretty
much in the same physical shape, but what separates the winner from the
loser is his or her mental attitude.
In order to make any change in life, be it small or huge, you need to be able
to visualize yourself succeeding, and this is especially true of success with
women. This means you have to keep a strong image in your mind of
yourself accomplishing what you want (being a babe-magnet for instance!).
Not only is it a good idea tell yourself that you will succeed; an even more
powerful exercise is to tell yourself that you already have succeeded, and
picture your success in vivid detail exactly as it happened.
Did you notice that I used the past tense on that last word? Thats because
in order to become a babe magnet, you need to already be a babe magnet
in your mind
In other words, if you want to be good at picking up girls, you need to see
yourself as someone who is already good at picking up girls. Dont tell
yourself that you will succeed, tell yourself that you already have
succeeded.
By imagining yourself succeeding, you are already doing it in your mind.
And everything that is accomplished in this world is FIRST accomplished
in the mind. You have to be able to see it to achieve it.

How you see yourself

You might think that when it comes to picking up women the most
important thing is how she sees you. Wrong; how she sees you is
important but, and this is the honest truth, it is entirely dependent of how
you see yourself!
If this sounds like new age mumbo jumbo, you need to take a step back
and really try to keep an open mind. Because heres the deal: you will
NEVER be a babe magnet (or whatever you want to call it) until you begin
to see yourself as a babe magnet.

If you feel good about yourself and have confidence in who you are and
what youre worth, shell see you that way. On the other hand, if all you can
think about when you chat to a girl is Im too skinny/ Im too short/ my
face is broken out/ Im not cool enough or all of the above, shell
immediately pick up on that. Immediately.
For example, have you ever noticed how some girls always cross their
arms over their belly, as if theyre trying to hide it? Have you also noticed
that when girls do this kind of thing it only draws your attention to the area
shes trying to hide? Another good example is the cover your ass with a
sweater trick. Have you ever failed to notice that a girl has a fat butt
because shes tied a sweater around her waist? I didnt think so.
Instead of hiding the problem, solutions like these draw extra attention to
it and make it an even bigger problem that it would have been. And its
exactly the same with guys. If you have bad skin and keep touching it
because youre self-conscious, shell notice. If you cover your mouth when
you laugh because you have bad teeth, shell notice that youre hiding
something.
The irony is, if your teeth are crooked but you dont have a problem with it,
neither will she. If YOU accept your imperfections and feel fine about
yourself, 99% of the time, she will too. Remember this the next time youre
talking to a girl; feel at ease about how you look and who you areand so
will she. The proper attitude is, I am what I am, and Im cool with that.
I know that the whole accept yourself and believe in yourself message
Im giving sounds like something your middle-aged mom might get into
when shes going through menopause, but that doesnt make it any less
true! Self confidence is absolute vital when it comes to attracting people
(both friends and lovers). Its as simple as this: Confident people are sexy.
And trust me, from a girls point of view, guys who feel good about
themselves are interesting. Theyre not desperate for attention or
recognition; they just accept themselves in a laid back way. And this laid
back acceptance is like cat-nip to girls.
Dont believe me? Check it out for yourself. I assure you every one of my
young attractive girlfriends agrees with this point. In fact, Ive never met a
girl who didnt think this way. Ever.
Think about it, which do you prefer; the girl who is constantly pointing out
to you how attractive and popular she is, telling you how the other chicks
are jealous of her and always fishing for compliments? Or the girl whos so
hot she simply knows shes attractive without needing to point it out or
have people confirm it all the time, because its obvious?

So your first step is. Thats right; boost your confidence. Tell yourself
positive things every day, and focus on whats good about you rather than
where you fall short. I would advise you to read everything you can get
your hands on about building confidence, especially the UltraConfidence
System included with 30Second Seduction.
Another great tip is to try guided visualization or self hypnosis. These tend
to be very efficient and they address your subconscious in a way that can
be difficult to do yourself. Remember that when it comes to feeling good
about yourself you need to convince your subconscious as much as your
conscious mind. Think of it as brainwashing. We have all heard the crazy
stories about cults that kill themselves (or others) after having been
brainwashed by a strong leader. We all know how well this works in a
negative way, so why not use this knowledge in a positive way to help
yourself. (No, Im not suggesting you try to brainwash girls you want to
sleep with, you idiot!).
The way to get a message through to your subconscious is through
extreme repetition. You see, no matter how smart you might be, your
subconscious is thick as mud. It does not understand irony, sarcasm or
complex ideas.
In other words: whatever your subconscious mind hears enough times, it
will believe. Even if it doesnt believe what you are saying, it doesnt matter
(thick as mud, remember?). You can picture your subconscious as a child,
its not that its stupid, its just a bit under developed. Use this to your
advantage, and it will help you tremendously in building confidence.
Make sure that the messages you send yourself are positive. When you
look in the mirror, tell yourself how good you look, rather than focusing on
your flaws. Send yourself positive messages every day, several times a day.
It doesnt matter if your conscious mind can obviously see that you are
lying, your subconscious is blissfully simple and will believe anything you
tell it. Just do this consistently and relentlessly; repetition is the key.

30 Second Tip:
Ask yourself the right questions! Good examples of these are, Why am I
confident? What is attractive and sexy about me? How does it feel to be
attractive and laid-back?
Repeating questions like these starts your mind thinking in a direction that
will directly influence your how you carry yourself.

Desperation
Let me establish one thing once and for all: desperation is not sexy. You
will find it very difficult to get a girl interested in you if what goes through
your head is Please let me sleep with you, please let me sleep with you,
please let me sleep with you...
You might think that she cant read your mind so she wont be able to tell if
youre thinking like this. Do yourself a favor and stop fooling yourself. If all
you can think of is how much you want to have sex with her (or anyone)
she will know.
Women cant read minds, you are right about that, but we can smell
desperation a mile away (the way a dog smells fear!--haha).
So by now you are probably asking, How can I hide what Im thinking?
The answer is easy; you cant! No matter how much you try to play it cool,
if all you can focus on is getting laid, shell know and will probably lose
interest.
You see, women (just like men) like the chase. If they know from the very
beginning that they can have you, they lose interest. Another important
reason is that girls like to feel special. Even if were not in love, and we
know youre sleeping with other women, we need to feel that right then and
there, its us you want and not just any girl whos willing.
I cant even begin to count how many times Ive turned guys down for this
reason. If I get the feeling that hes just out to score, and couldnt care less
if its me or any one of my girlfriends he takes home, Im just not interested.
Another big no-no to most women is if they see you hit on another woman
and get rejected before you approach them. No one wants to be second (or
third or fourth) choice. If you are trying to pick up a girl at a bar or club,
make sure she hasnt been watching you work your moves on someone
else.
There are ways which we will discuss later in the book to minimize the
damage of a rejection and even turn it to your advantage. But for now, just
remember, if its a small room youre in, it might be better to just move on
and start over in a fresh environment.

Social skills
I must admit, the absolute worst examples of poor social skills Ive ever
seen have been young guys trying to talk to (or avoid talking to) women.
Example: I few days ago I got on a long distance bus; as I entered the bus,
a young guy, about 19 or 20, moved from a seat he had alone to sit next to
the guy behind him.
Because I wasnt sure if he had given up his seat, I turned to the guy and
asked if the seat was taken. You should have seen his face. This poor guy
looked like a deer caught in the headlights of a speeding truck! Instead of
responding like any normal human being, this guy went mute. He made a
couple of guttural sounds and blushed before he decided to deal with me
by simply not saying anything at all.
The strange thing about this (well another strange thing anyway) is that for
the rest of the trip (four hours!) this guy was chatting away to another
young guy that he seemingly didnt know at all.
Another good example is a friend of mine that was really handsome, but
absolutely incapable of talking to girls. Even though I had known this guy
for years, the only way I could hold a conversation with him was through
asking non-stop questions, and forcing him to answer.
This guy was on a trip to Paris once with his friends. An absolutely
stunning young girl came up to him and asked him if he could tell her what
time it was. My friend, although he did have a wristwatch on, simply made
her aware that there was a church tower with a huge clock just behind him.
What was that!? This doesnt seem like odd behavior to you? Ok, boy, you
need help. First of all, if youre going to have any luck developing your
social skills at all, you need to learn how to be polite to people. It doesnt
matter if theres a clock right behind you, if someone asks you what time it
is, and you know, you tell them. Secondly, if a young and attractive woman
chooses you out of the dozens of people around to ask, youre probably
the one she likes the most of all the people present. Third, if there is a huge
clock right there, plainly visible to you, then its probably visible to her as
well. This means that her motivation for approaching you is not to find out
what time it is, but to talk to you.
Its not brain surgery; if a girl approaches you, you need to make the most
of it, not snub her. Even if youre not very attracted to her, think of it as
useful practice in talking to women. Its like the Do you have a light?
move. If a girl chooses you to ask for a light, especially if youre not
smoking and other people around are, she wants to talk to you.

Youve probably heard a zillion times that you should always carry a lighter,
even if you dont smoke. I know it sounds cheesy, but its actually good
advice. In most cases pretty girls probably wont fall into your lap, but if
they do, you need to learn to grab the opportunity.
I know it might seem like some guys can just walk up to a girl and smile,
and shell go all weak in the knees and want to sleep with him right away.
This might happen to you if youre a bigtime Hollywood celeb (but probably
not very often!), but I doubt it.
As I keep trying to tell you, looks are not as important to women as they are
to men. What she wants from you more than anything else is to feel good
with you and make her feel good about herself.
Now, in order to be good at talking to girls, you need two things:
confidence and social skills.
Social skills are something that some people seem to have in their blood
and others not at all. When I talk about social skills Im referring to the
ability to feel relaxed and confident around different kinds of people, to
communicate with pretty much anyone and make people feel so good that
they want to spend time with you. If you are not one of the fortunate ones
who can talk to anyone about anything, you need to learn these skills.
The first step in achieving good social skills is to boost your confidence;
Weve already talked about how to do this. But confidence alone (while
extremely important) is not enough. It doesnt matter how confident you
feel if you cant hold a conversation.
Before you can learn to talk to pretty women, you have to learn to talk to
people in general. Start practicing talking to strangers on the bus, at the
grocery store and when waiting in line in the bank. It doesnt matter if the
person you talk to is a 70 year old man or a 20 year old girl. The importance
here is that you get used to talking to people you dont know. Try to find
something you have in common with people that you can talk about, and
practice being genuinely interested in what strangers have to say, even if
its completely outside of our frame of reference.
Be polite, friendly and dont push your opinions on people. If you suspect
that the person you are talking to has radically different views on things
than you, find something neutral to talk about. Whatever you do, dont
preach. No one likes to talk to someone who can only talk about their own
special field.
Ask more than you tell. We all feel comfortable around people who ask us
questions about who we are and what we do; it makes us feel interesting.

Remember however, that its a conversation, not Who wants to be a

millionaire. Keep it light; most people are not comfortable telling you their
life secrets when they dont know you. If you ask someone a question and
they seem hesitant to answer, let it go and move on to something else.
Now lets talk about a more specific type of socializing. Remember the two
guys I just told you about? What they have in common is that theyre not
generally shy and have problems talking to other guys; its women they
dont know what to say to.
A lot of guys have the idea that women are mystical creatures that are only
interested in female subjects that men have no idea about. This is just
not right. There are a few things girls talk about that most men dont have a
clue about, but mostly you can talk to a woman the same way youd talk to
your friends.
Women are interested in a lot of different things. We talk about guys,
fashion and make up sometimes, but we also talk about news, current
affairs, movies, books and even computers and video games. You dont
need a map of the female mind in order to be able to talk to one. Find out
what shes interested in and take it from there. Use the experience you get
by talking to strangers and apply it to talking to a hot girl. At the end of the
day, thats all she is; a stranger that you want to get to know.

30 Second Tip:
Contrary to some guys beliefs, friendliness does not hurt your chances with
women! Women dislike men without a backbone; ass-kissers in other words.
But a man who is confident and friendly, but NOT a wimp, is incredibly sexy.

Conversation
Ok, so youve gotten close enough to a girl to talk to her, and she still
hasnt fled screaming to the other side of the room. Now its time to talk to
her.
We all know that first impressions are important. Its not absolutely vital
that the first thing that comes out of your mouth is the smartest or funniest
thing shes ever heard, but it sure will help you if it is. Nah, Im kidding.
Lets make one thing clear; what you say can be important, but even more
important is how you say it. Attitude and confidence will be the difference
between score and fail when you pull a line on a girl. Read what Ive told
you about these things in the chapters about confidence and rejection.
As Ive said before (and will continue to say), in order to succeed at
anything in life, you need to have the right attitude. This applies to getting
girls as much as anything else. Ive talked about this, but lets go over it
again anyway. Its that important.
If you are going to be a ladie-killer, you have to start seeing yourself as
someone who is good with women. Before walking up to a girl, take a
moment and picture it going smoothly. Dont waste time worrying about
being rejected. And here is the real secret to delivering your opening line
with confidence:
Before walking up to her, ask yourself this question: What does it feel like
to be a confident, successful guy? And then re-phrase the question, How
does it feel to be a laid-back attractive guy who all the girls desire? Now
take a little time to really think about these questionsrepeat them to
yourself several times until your mind is occupied with them. And then
walk up to her.
Asking the right questions is important. When you are asked a question,
you start your mind searching in a certain direction. This subtle shift in
your thinking can be clearly visible to those around you. How does this
work? Honestly, Ive know ideabut it works. Just try it and see for
yourself.
Pose questions to yourself, wondering about what it means to be someone
who is interesting to talk to, or a successful wealthy guy, or a natural babe
magnet. If this all feels a bit phony or childishGET OVER IT! Just take
this exercise seriously and really ponder these questions deeply. You WILL
see a change in your attitude, and so will the ladies!

And remember: Its not your job to persuade her to hook up with someone.
Shes already wants that. Your job is just to be laid-back and charming.
Asking yourself the right questions will put you squarely on the right path
to presenting the attitude she wants.
Before you start talking to her there are a couple of other things to mention;
although Ive told you that its important to make a good first impression,
try not to put too much pressure on yourself. What you say to her doesnt
have to be revolutionary; just try to avoid the worst pathetic lines. You
know, the come here often? type lines.
Ok, Casanova, what are you going to say to her then?
Regardless of what some so-called dating gurus may say, there actually
is no bullet proof line to make her like you. A lot of it comes down to your
attitude and how much confidence you portray.
As a pretty general rule, I can tell you that a lot of girls like cocky men. If
you have absolute confidence in yourself and a good portion of humor you
can deliver almost any line and shell find you interesting. If it is obvious
that you are joking you can dig up the worst clich or rude pickup lines and
still get laid.
Let me tell you a little story: A few years ago I started celebrating my
birthday the night before the actual day. The next morning I hung out at my
local caf, talking to some friends of mine, and a guy they knew was there
as well. I had never met this man before, but the first thing he said to me
was Are you really hung over or do you always look like this?
This was an incredibly cocky thing to say, and I found it absolutely
hilarious. It was refreshing to here something other than the usual flattery,
and it was cocky as hell. Long story short, it caught my attention. I invited
him to my birthday party later on that day. The guy showed up, but not to
party. He walked in, congratulated me, and said Well, you sure clean up
nice. and then left. Thats all it took. I was interested and immediately
wanted to know more about this guy.
So what exactly did this guy do right? Lets examine his technique:
1. He began with a rude but funny remark. This is definitely the way to
go. Rude + funny = sexy. But remember, rude without funny is just
annoying. Funny without rude is much better, but just be careful you
dont wind up in the lets just be friends category.
2. He showed up again, but only to make an appearance. He didnt hang
around too long which could cause him to look desperate. And by

not staying long he remained a bit mysterious. And in case you

didnt know, mysterious is good.
3. His second line was also rude/funny: you sure clean up nice. And
it was slightly flattering, but not in an obvious or cheesy way.
Therefore, he does not look desperate to get laid or like an ass-kisser.
He seems challenging.
Now lets put all these elements together: Rude/funny, mysterious, slightly
flattering and challenging. And this, dear reader, is the recipe for a babe
magnet.
So now you have the four basic elementsif there is one formula for
success with women, this is it. Memorize these and take careful notes as
we review once more:
1.
2.
3.
4.

Rude/funny
Mysterious
Slightly flattering
Challenging

Now, besides the basic elements weve just discussed, the guy I told you
about was also original. This is probably where you should put a lot of your
focus until you have enough confidence to pull off the cocky lines. It is
always more interesting if someone walks up to you and says something
unexpected. Use humor and tell her something shes not expecting.
And remember to have fun! Dating is not dead serious, the more you have
fun with it, the more shell have fun as well. We all tend to like people who
enjoy themselves. So have a laugh while youre out there. Thats what its
all about.

30 Second Tip:
Remember, rude + funny = sexy. But rude alone is just annoying!
Until you get the hang of the rude + funny routine, better to just work on being
funny and friendly. It takes time to get the proper rude + funny balance, so
dont rush it.

Flirting
You know what flirting is, dont you? Or maybe you just think you know.
Pulling her pigtails and telling her shes fat? Oh dear, lets start from the
very beginning then.
If you really break it down, flirting is just a way of communicating with
people around us. Some people use the word flirt only when referring to
talking to someone they might be interested in, but scientists will tell you
that we flirt with all sorts of different people, independent of sexual
attraction.
This means, that although you dont think of it like that, you are flirting with
both men and women of all ages. Flirting is a light way of communicating.
When we flirt we let people know that we like them and that we enjoy
talking to them.
Ok, thats the definition. Now, lets move on to what is important in this
context; flirting with women. Ill give you a few pointers on what to do (and
what not to do). Dont worry, you dont have to be a master of flirting to get
the girl. All you need is to learn what works and what doesnt
More than anything, when it comes to flirting its how you do it thats
important. You can deliver the cheesiest or rudest line you can think of and
still score if you know how to do it.
Eye contact
Lets start at the beginning. Flirting is a lot more than conversation; it
usually starts with body language and eye contact. Say you see a cute girl
across the room that youd like to talk to, what do you do? Nothing, you
just stand there and hope that shell come up to you? Uh, no.
Once in a blue moon that may happen, but more than likely it wont.
Women tend to start a flirt through eye-contact. Well look at you, meet
your eyes briefly and look away, repeat.
This might seem vague to you, but if a woman looks you in the eyes
several times and then looks away shes interested. Let me explain
something to you; most girls are still brought up to believe that the guy
should make the first move. Still, we know that in order for something to
happen we need to let him know we are interested, so we use our eyes.
There are different variations of the eye-flirt; some girls will meet your eyes
briefly several times, others will keep the eye contact so long that its
obvious they are flirting. Some girls smile, others are serious. Others yet

will look you seriously in the eyes and smile a little as they look away. It
really doesnt make any difference which approach she uses, the message
is the same; I like you.
There are of course girls out there that dont give a shit about this, who
have no problem walking up to a guy they like, but they tend to be the very
confident ones.
So, shes looking at you, signaling that she likes youWhat do you do next?
First of all, you flirt back. Look her in the eyes and smile or smirk, look
down before she does. Alternate between holding her gaze and being the
one who lets go first.
Eye contact often works as a sort of challenge so work with this. Use
your eyes to challenge her. Make it a competition. In between flirting you
should ignore her and talk to your friend for a while, this will make her
more interested, as she is not sure if you fancy her or not.
When youve been flirting across the room for a while, its time to make
contact. Tease her a little. Look her in the eyes and smile as you get up of
your seat and moves towards her. Then walk right past her to the
restrooms or bar. This will confuse her and maybe disappoint her a little.
After a few minutes, on your way back to your friends, stop and introduce
yourself. Watch her behavior; if she looks relieved that you came back and
seems very pleased to talk to you, you can stay and talk to her for a while
but only a short while (remember, be a little mysterious).
If she is still giving you challenging looks and playing little games, just
smile and go back to your friend after having introduced yourself and
ignore her for a little while longer.
Talk to other girls as well; every now and then, look at her and raise your
eyebrows or smile. Lift your glass at her and return to the conversation
your in. Try not to look smug; the idea is not I can find someone else if
you dont want me... Have fun with it, it is a game.
This kind of flirting usually leads to talking to her. Sometimes if, you keep it
up, shell eventually come to you. Dont lose your nerve; if she can be
bothered to flirt with you like this, she is interested. If the girls with her look
over to check you out youre definitely in, but dont worry if they dont, girls
sometimes like to have a little secret flirt as well.

30 Second Tip:
Try practicing your flirting skills by flirting with a few girls without making any
attempt to take things further. Just flirt for the sake of flirtingnothing else!
This may seem like a bizarre idea to guys, but girls love the occasional flirt
that goes no where. So turn the tables by trying this yourself; its great
practice, and you may find it confuses the girls in a very positive way!

Body language
When it comes to all kinds of interaction between humans, a lot is said
even before someone utters a word. This is true with flirting as well. It is
important for you to know about body language, both hers and your own.
You might not realize this, but your body language sends her a lot of
messages about you. The trick here is to be conscious about what you are
saying (conscious, not self conscious). Here are a few points to
remember:

Be confident.

Be relaxed and laid back.

Smile and laugh when you are talking to people.

Stand straight and relax your shoulders.

Dont cross your arms over your chest.

Dont fidget.

Talk with energy and passion but dont talk too fast.

Keep eye contact.

Dont lean forward and hover over the person youre talking to.

Ok, let me explain these a little; you might think that in order to look
confident you need to feel confident. This is not necessarily true. Sure, it
helps if you feel great, but even if you dont, you can pretend. Its a matter

of fake it till you make it. If you keep your back straight, head held high
and your shoulders relaxed you will automatically look more confident.
And remember to ask yourself the right questions, as we have already
discussed. Thinking about the answers to these questions will definitely
change the vibe you are sending out, and give you a boost in status.
When you look more confident, people will think you are confident and
treat you that way. Try it out, the more people respond to your
confidence the more confident youll feel.
Smile and laugh both when you are talking to girls and when you are
talking to your friends. Women notice body language, so even if you
havent noticed anything, it is very likely that several of the women in the
room have scanned you for potential. Guys who laugh and smile look
comfortable and seem fun to talk to.
Never underestimate girls attention to detail. If you cross your arms youll
looks unapproachable, closed and potentially insecure (people often cross
their arms across their chest to protect themselves.) If you fidget you
look nervous and insecure as well. If you talk very fast, it can be difficult for
people to follow and you can look like youre trying a bit too hard.
And it is absolutely vital to make eye contact; if your eyes flicker here and
there youll come across as insecure or even worse, untrustworthy. Never
look over her shoulder at whats going on behind her. This will make her
feel like youre not really listening to what shes saying, and shell think
you are checking out other girls.
Youre confused arent you? Yes, I did say earlier to talk to other girls when
eye flirting, and Ive mentioned before to make yourself a little less
available. I know this probably doesnt make sense to you, but hear me out;
women are different from men. We are not necessarily more complicated,
and try to never make the mistake to say that women are less logical than
men.
You see, even if you dont get it, womens behavior is just as logical to
them as mens behavior is to you. Its different, thats all. Let me explain
this specific situation to you; if a woman is checking you out, it will make
you a lot more interesting if shes not quite sure if you are interested or not.
Also, if you are seen with another attractive woman, this raises the value of
your stock tremendously. Women are competitive just like men. We like
the chase and we like to feel that we won the guys attention.
If a guy is seen with an attractive woman, two things happen:

1. The womans competitive instinct kicks in, and she wants to prove
that she is just as attractive as the other one.
2. The woman looks at the other girl and thinks that if the guy can get a
girl like that interested there must be something about him.
Even though men tend to not pay as much attention to body language,
women are signaling just as much. You see, this is not a conscious thing;
its subconscious and we are often not aware of sending out or picking up
these signals. When you talk to her, you can learn a lot by just reading the
signs. The next time you have a conversation with a girl, notice if shes
doing any of these things:

Leaning towards you.

Has her upper body facing you.

Plays with her hair or jewelry.

Smiles a lot.

Mirrors your facial expressions and movements.

Keeps eye contact

Ignores whats going on around you.

Touches herself (no, not like that, Bozo!)

Laughs politely when what you say isnt very funny.

Looks at your mouth when you are talking.

All of these are signs that shes attracted to you. If a woman is sitting on
the end of her chair (towards you, not trying to get as far away as
possible), and facing you with her whole upper body, it is a typical sign
that she likes you enough to want to be closer. Also, in a crowded place,
this means that she is interested in actually hearing what you have to say.
When a woman plays with her hair or jewelry, its a subconscious way of
drawing your attention to what shes playing with. Unlike with dogs, in
human behavior, smiling and laughing is a way to show people that we like
them and to get them to like us.

Have you ever heard of mirroring? Its something we all do when

socializing with other people. Smiling is a good example; if we are talking
to someone and they smile, we smile too.
This goes for other things as well. Two people who are attracted to each
other tend to do this automatically, but it can also be used to signal
attraction and make people very comfortable with you. If she frowns, you
frown. If she places her hands on the table, so do you. If she takes a sip of
her drink, you take a sip of yours. It is important here to do this casually,
you dont want her to think you are playing copycat (this will either make
her think you are mocking her or a complete psycho).
Use this both to read her signals and send her some of your own. Talk to
her in a slow pace (Not retarded slow, just calm slow), she will probably
copy this and adjust her speed of speaking to yours. A little tip for you:
people tend to be attracted to other people who speak at the same past and
volume as themselves.
If the girl you are talking to keeps eye contact and ignores whats going on
around you, its a definite sign she likes talking to you and finds you
interesting. No, it doesnt necessarily mean shes getting horny, but you
dont need that yet. Women are usually attracted to guys they feel a
connection with. If she is obviously interested in talking to you like this,
its most likely because she feels the connection. Women who like
talking to you but are not into you will normally be quite easily distracted
from the conversation.
Ok, so youre talking and she starts rubbing her upper arm like shes cold,
softly strokes the skin on her chest (chest, not breast!), or gently trails her
fingers up her leg. What is she signaling? If all of the above happens, she
is responding to you physically. Talking to you makes her aware of her own
physical presence. Be aware: the first one alone might just mean that shes
cold. Watch her movements; is she warming herself with rapid movements,
or are her movements more slow and sensual? Just like playing with their
hair, women are usually not aware of doing these things, it is subconscious.
Dont let that keep you from noticing tough, it means the same as if she
had done it purposely.
Ok, this one is obvious isnt it? If she laughs when you are not very funny
she is trying to make you feel good. Why would she try to make you feel
good if she didnt like you? Try not to get to this one too often, if you
deliver lame jokes one after another she might very well get tired of it and
no longer find you very interesting.

You are talking and shes looking at your lips. Or, she is talking and
looking at your lips. Only one answer for this one; kiss her! It is very
common use of body language to look at our partners lips before we kiss
them, whether its our spouse or someone we just met. This is a real
opportunity and definitely the right time to go for the lip lock.

30 Second Tip:
If you get the slightest feeling the girl you are talking to is not interested,
stand up and smile, and then say, well, its been nice talking to you; you
seem like friendly girl. And then immediately walk away and busy yourself
in another conversation or go to the bathroom.
The key word here is friendly. When you smile and call her friendly as you
leave, it suggests that you see her only as a friend. Women hate that! They
want to know that they can have you in a minute if they want you. If they are
not sure of thisyour stock goes way up!
Use words like friend, friendly, nice often in your conversations with women
(when talking about them). These words will start her wonderingdoesnt
this guy like me? Remember, women love a challenge too!

Rejection
Ok, heres another little secret for you: Girls get rejected too.
Yeah thats right, even attractive, sexy girls get rejected sometimes. The
reasons why someone might reject you are very often not personal. Its not
that theres something wrong with you. The girl who rejects you might have
a boyfriend, she could be heartbroken or in love with someone else. And
has it occurred to you that some girls are not into boys at all?
There are a lot of different reasons why a girl might reject you. Yes, it is
possible that she only falls for a certain look and you dont fit the mold, but
this is not important. If youre just not her type, theres still nothing wrong
with you, shes just into something else. Its pretty much like with guys;
some guys prefer blondes, others brunettes. Some guys like skinny girls;
others get off on a big butt. To some guys it is vital that the girl they date
have big boobs in order for them to be interested. Other guys dont have a
specific type they go for and can be attracted to a lot of different kinds of
women.
Girls are exactly the same. Many of us havent got a checklist when it
comes to how a guy looks, but a few women dothats just life. But usually
the female checklist is all about what you say and do, and of course about
how you make us feel.
Its no big deal if a few girls turn you down. Your parents are actually right
when they say things like Theres plenty of fish in the sea. It doesnt
matter if you get rejected. Try to see what you do wrong and learn from it.
In fact, there is a way to turn this negative into a positive by doing a simple
exercise
I want you to go out with your friends with the intention of getting rejected
by as many girls as possible in one night. Make it a competition and go as
far as you dare to put girls off. Try being rude and obnoxious, use the
lamest pickup lines you can think of and make sure you put all your effort
into putting the girls off. Sit down later and compare notes. Have a good
laugh and realize that being turned down by a pretty girl is not so bad when
you know that you are the one who made her turn you down. Thats right
you controlled the situation. Empowering isnt it?
Try this exercise, have fun with it, and learn that its not the end of the
world if a girl turns you down. Try to learn from these rejections; if you fuck
up and act like a retard, she wont have anything to do with you. What does
this mean? It doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you, it just means
that in order to get the girl you need to change your tactics.

If your behavior can put her off, it can also turn her on (think about that a
minuteIll wait.). Remember this exercise the next time you go out.
Knowing what not to do is half the battle. And if one particular girl doesnt
seem to want to talk to you, dont give it a second thought; just move on to
someone else.
One more important tip: in my experience, if a girl goes out of her way to be
rude to you or obviously ignore you for no good reason, its very likely
shes attracted to you. Some girls feel intimidated when they like someone,
they dont want other people to know and they dont know how to act, so
they try to avoid you or put you down.
If you want to pursue a girl like this, you have to go to her; she wont come
to you. The best thing you can do in this situation is to try do disarm her by
being friendly but laid back. Dont try too hard, just let her know that you
like her and see how she reacts.
Remember, however, that this girl might be embarrassed because you
dont fit the profile of who she and her friends usually like or she might be
taken and therefore not want anyone to know that she likes you for that
reason. My advice is to think twice about it before you decide to approach
her; she could be more trouble than she is worth.

30 Second Tip:
Getting rejected sometimes is part of being a man. And all men experience
this from time to time.
Even movie stars like Brad Pitt and Jude Law get rejected. In a recent
interview, George Clooney talked about how often he has been rejected
and NOT when he was an unknown actor, but after he was rich and famous!
Remember that if you should get rejected. Its simply part of being a man.

Looks
Ok, so Ive told you that looks are not as important to most women as they
are to men, and that women dont necessarily even want to go home with
the most handsome man in the room. All of this is true, but that doesnt
mean that how you look doesnt matter at all.
Its not that you have to have a certain look for women to like you, but there
are a few mistakes that can keep you from even being considered.
Ok, so you want women to like you for who you are? I get that, women are
the same way. This doesnt keep us from living up to our potential though,
and you should do the same thing. Before going out, most women invest a
lot of time, money and effort on how they look. They put on make-up, do
their hair and pick out the outfit that looks the most flattering on them. We
make an effort, not because we cant be ourselves but because we want to
be ourselves at our best.
Some men have learned that this goes for them as well, but unfortunately,
most havent. Just like you probably wouldnt want to bee seen talking all
night to the girl that looks like shes borrowed her grandmas dress and not
washed her hair for a month, a girl doesnt want to be seen with the guy
who looks like hes been dressed by his mum and never heard of running
water. In this chapter I intend to give you a few tips on how to dress and
carry yourself. There is no promise that this alone will get you laid, but in
dating (as in life) you have to play the percentages, and these tips should
increase your odds substantially.

Clothes
The absolute most important advice I can give you when it comes to
clothes is this: dress to your advantage. Dont look at other guys and
decide to copy their style if they are of a completely different build and look
than you. What works for David Beckham might not work for Brad Pitt,
even if they are both attractive men. Take the time to figure out what your
strong points are and work with this.
If you are like most guys, my guess is that you have very little idea about
fashion and style, and that is O.K. My advice is to get some help, and this is
surprisingly easy to do.

The best way to learn how to dress is to get a female to help you pick out
clothes. This female can be a friend, your sister or maybe your cousin, but
it can NOT be your mum! Unfortunately in most cases your mums
intentions when dressing you are not to help you score with women.
Accept this, and say thanks but no thanks. when your mum offers you
that lovely knitted sweater with the reindeer on it.
Make sure the girl you choose to help you out is someone you can trust,
someone who is honest and someone who knows that your intention is to
dress to your advantage in order to attract girls. Remember that the shop
assistant might be female, but shes not dedicated to make you look
attractive, shes dedicated to getting you to buy as much as possible. This
means that she might give you a lot of positive feedback that is absolute
bullshit.
In order to get a good style youll probably have to spend some money. In
most cases this is both worth it and absolutely necessary. Go for high
quality clothes that are classic in style, then you wont have to go shopping
again so soon. And dont think women wont notice either. Status is very
important to many womenand nothing says status like a mans
wardrobe.
When picking your style, it is best to go with something that is trendy but
not too extreme. Make sure you get at least a couple of good shirts for
going out, a couple of well fitted pairs of jeans, some nice but casual tshirts and a coat that looks cool but not too funky or dressed up.
If you get clothes that are the absolute latest fashion trend, you might
end up a little ahead of you time, or you might look like your trying to hard
(desperate, in other words!). Go with what is already established as a
fashion that works. Make sure the cut of the clothes and the size is right for
you, a cool pair of jeans can easily look really lame if they are far too big or
too short.
Remember to get a pair if nice shoes and a belt that matches while you are
at it. No woman will sleep with you because you have good shoes, but
quite a few might not sleep with you if you have bad shoes. Women are all
about detail, and little things like this can make a big difference.
Grooming
Absolute most important rule: Be clean! I know there are rumors out there
that what women really go for is the masculine smell of man sweat, but Id
advice you to forget about that straight away. Sure, there are probably girls
out there that get off on sweaty, stinking men, but the vast majority doesnt.

You need to aim to attract as many girls as possible, not target a small
niche group that you might only encounter every once in a full moon. For
most women cleanliness is a must. Even if we find you attractive, strong
body odor can keep us from getting close. So make sure that you always
shower before you go out to meet the girls.
One other sadly ignored area of male grooming is the skin. Dry, flaky skin
is not sexy; neither is red sore skin from shaving or spots. Every time you
have shaved or showered you should use a moisturizer on your face. Dont
panic, you dont have to use girly products. Ask at the drugstore for a
moisturizer that is especially for men, or buy one that is unscented and can
be used by both sexes.
If you have a skin problem, like spots or shaving rash, you should do what
you can to take care of it. Invest in good products that can help the
situation, or if this doesnt help, see your doctor about the problem.
The next important step when it comes to grooming is your haircut. As with
clothes it is best to go with something that is modern but not too extreme.
Choose a cut that suits your face and your type of hair. If you have long
hair Ill tell you straight out: cut it! Yes, there are guys out there that look
really good with long hair, but most dont. There are also girls who like long
hair on guys, but most prefer short hair, just like most guys prefer their
girls to have long hair. Why exactly this is I dont know, but theres no point
in arguing about it, this is just the way it works.
Make sure you get a haircut that doesnt demand too much work at home.
Theres no point in having a good haircut if its too difficult for you to style
on your own.
If you are visibly losing your hair, the absolute best way to go is to cut it
really short or shave your head. Fortunately for you, many women find bald
men sexy, as long as theyre not trying something desperate to cover up
their lack of hair. So dont sweat itit could actually be a bigger plus to
women than you think.
When it comes to other kinds of body hair the general rule is less is
better. If you have hairs sticking out of your nose or ears you need to
remove it. If you have a hairy back, the best way to go is to have it waxed.
Chest hair varies, younger girls tend to prefer a hairless chest, other
women like hairy chests. Pubic hair needs to be under control. Most girls
wont expect you to shave it all off, but a big bush is no more sexy on men
than it is on women, so a good trim will help you out.

These tips about body hair are especially important if you hope to get a girl
to sleep with you more than once, but even on a one night stand you could
miss out if something puts her off as soon as you remove your clothes.

30 Second Tip:
You dont have to be a fashion whore to get noticed by the ladies, but it does
help to pay special attention to a few items:
Make absolutely certain you have a few pairs of jeans that fit you perfectly.
Spending the extra time to make sure you have jeans you look good in will be
worth all the trouble.
Also, a nice pair of expensive-ish shoes will get you noticed. But not too
flashy or ultra trendy (you dont want to appear youre trying too hard!). Think
classic style made modern.

Smell
Ok, as Ive already mentioned, the first rule is to be clean. Next you have to
choose the scent youll be using. Here as well, the best thing you can do is
get a woman to help you. Ask your friend, or go the shop and get a young
girl who works there to help you choose a sexy smell. Dont be
embarrassed to tell her exactly what you want; its her job to help you out.
And, go ahead and use this opportunity to flirt a little. Her job is also to be
nice to you, so let it boost your confidence.
Try the smell on your skin and have the girl choose which one works better
on you. Remember that perfumes react with our skin, so the one that works
really well for your friend might not work so well for you. Smell is also
under the influence of fashion, so what worked for your dad in the
seventies probably wont work todaydig it?
When you put on a smell its important to get the dosage right. General rule:
less is more. She is supposed to smell you from a couple of feet away, but
not from the other side of the room. Make sure you always use a deodorant,
but choose one that doesnt have too strong a smell; you dont want it to
compete with your aftershave for attention.
Ok, Ive given you some tips and pointed you in the right direction. If you
go through all of these steps and invest the time and money necessary on
how you look, you should be just about ready to get out there.

30 Second Tip:
Less is often more with cologne! So go easy on it.

Where to meet girls

In this system I talk a lot about picking up girls in bars. There are a couple
of reasons behind this:

A bar is a scene where most of the people there are out to meet new
people.
A bar serves alcohol and you are likely too much of a coward to even
think of chatting up a girl without having a few drinks first (!)

Theres nothing wrong with chatting up girls in bars. It can take a lot of
pressure off if you have a couple of drinks before you approach a girl you
like, just remember that the key words here are a couple.
If you get really drunk, then the chances of you pulling are about the same
as if you just walked up to a the girl and stood there looking at her for 15
minutes without saying a word. It might work, but its highly unlikely.
I know a lot of people say that youll never meet someone in a bar. I
disagree with this. First of all, it depends who it is you want to meet. If you
are looking for someone to have sex with the first night you meet her, the
chances of meeting her in a bar are quite high. If you are looking for a
girlfriend or your future wife, there are other places you can meet her, but
that doesnt mean you cant find her in a bar too. The idea that you cant
meet someone youre serious about in a bar is in my opinion absolute crap.
I know plenty of people, including myself, whos met their partner out on
the town.
Anyway, I talk about bars in the other chapters, so lets look at some
different places to meet women.
One thing you should realize is that women are romantic creatures. We
grow up hearing stories about girls meeting the love of their life in
supermarkets, on airplanes or at the post office. Remember this knowledge
and use it to your advantage. You see, most single girls are more or less
always open to meet a guy. We check out the cute guy next to us on the
bus and at the cinema. We are actually looking when we go grocery
shopping or are waiting in line in the bank. If you can muster up the
courage to talk to a girl when you are both sober, in an everyday situation,
it is quite likely that shell appreciate it and give her the time of day.
Remember, the big, bold and/or cheesy lines probably wont do the trick
here. There are very few women who are interested in the vulgar approach
we they get from construction workers shouting at them on the way to
work, or the sicko who gropes them on the crowded subway.

I know it takes a bit more courage to approach a girl during the day when
youre both sober, but so does she. Since most girls would never dare to
walk up to a handsome guy in the supermarket, we realize how brave you
have to be to do this.
Because we realize this, and because we are usually not crowded by guys
who want to talk to us when were not out on the town, we tend to expect
less of your pickup skills in this situation. In most cases, all you have to do
is say Hi and be friendly. Ask her a question and start the conversation
from there. Use humor and smile a lot. Make sure you dont push too much
when you are trying to pick up girls sober. Keep it casual, if you are too
intense she might think youre a weirdo and potential stalker (believe me,
they do exist outside the movie screen).

30 Second Tip:
Body posture is important. Stand (or sit) up straight and keep an open
posture: arms to the side, shoulders relaxed.

Places to meet women sober

Cafs

A good place to meet women sober is in cafs. A lot of girls go to cafs

alone and this is an excellent opportunity for you to approach her. Pick a
caf with no free tables. And ask if you can sit at her table. Ask her a
question and see how she reacts. If she is cold and barely answers you, let
her be and focus on yourself. Its a good idea to carry a book or a
newspaper; if she turns you down, directly or indirectly, you can turn to
your reading and act like nothing happened at all.
The best thing about meeting a girl in a caf is that you are already in a
good setting for a date. If you approach her and things go well, you have
the opportunity to get to know each other a little without having the
pressure of actually asking for a date. Also, after chatting over a cup of
coffee or two, youll know if you want to meet her again, and have a fair
idea if shed like to see more of you.

Supermarkets

As I mentioned before, its absolutely possible to meet women at the

supermarket. Because we are told over an over that well meet the one
somewhere we dont expect to, like the supermarket, this has turned out to
be the place where we absolutely expect to meet the man of our dreams. I
cant even begin to tell you how many times Ive been pushing my
shopping chart around looking for potential dates. The tricky part about
supermarkets is how to actually get talking. It requires a bit of originality to
chat up a girl like this, so my advice is sit down and make a battle plan.
The easiest way to get in touch would be to ask her a question. If shes
hanging over the cheese counter smelling cheeses you have never even
heard of, you can randomly pick one up and ask her a question about
cheese. Dont be scared to let her know that you have no knowledge in this
area. Men dont always have to know everything; we quite like it if youre
confident enough to admit what you dont know. By the way, never assume
that because shes a girl she knows how to cook. If her chart is filled with
frozen pizza and ready meals, she probably isnt much of a cook.

Dancing classes

It is an eternal problem in dancing classes that there are far more women
then men who sign up. Some dancing classes even require that you bring a
guy to dance with if youre female. This is an excellent opportunity for you
to meet girls. Dont worry if you couldnt waltz to save your life. If you cant
dance, use humor and self irony to charm the girls. In a dancing class you
wont just get the chance to talk to girl, you are also allowed (even required)
to touch them. If your mum forced you to take dancing lessons as a kid,
you can now stop resenting her for it and start thanking her instead. Girls
love and admire guys who can dance. Dancing is sexy, so put on your
shiny shoes and give it everything youve got.

Airports/ planes

You may never have thought of this, but airports are good places to
practice your skills with the women. If you are looking for someone long
term, airports can be tricky, but there are still some opportunities. If you
are far from home, make sure that the girl you talk to is going to the same
destination you are. If youre at your local airport, make sure shes going
away, not home when she gets on her plane.
If you are lucky enough to sit next to an attractive girl on the plane, make
sure you make the most of it. Be friendly and make small talk. If shes
scared of flying, try to make her feel safe and comfortable. If you are scared

of flying, tell her and ask jokingly if she would be so kind to hold your hand
(if youre not afraid of flying you can always pretend in order to get in
contact with her). The best thing about picking up girls in airports is the
practice value. If you are out traveling, use the opportunity to talk to
attractive girls without being scared of rejection. Have it as your goal to
talk to her, flirt and have fun, knowing that the likelihood of ever meeting
her again is slim. Keep this in mind if she turns you down as well. It
doesnt matter, no one will ever know. Try different techniques. Most
airports are big, so if you embarrass yourself just move on to another part
of the airport and try something else.

Libraries

You heard me right; libraries are a potential place to meet girls. Women in
general read a lot more than men, and therefore libraries (and bookstores)
are filled with women and very few men. Seek out the sections with
womens literature and the reading areas. If you see a girl you like, notice
what sort of books shes interested in and ask her advice. Since libraries
are not the best place to have long conversations, if she seems responsive
you can quite quickly ask her if she would like to continue the conversation
in the caf across the road.

Universities

Any university campus in the world is pretty much filled with young single
girls. The best way to meet these girls is if you go to the university yourself.
You can meet girls in class, at the cafeteria, on the campus grounds and at
college parties. The opportunities are countless; its up to you to grab them.
Take what you have learned form this system and adapt it to your exact
situation. If you dont go to university yourself, there are always events
going on that are open to outsiders. Check out the university website or
bulletin board to find out whats going on. If you are many years past
college age, you might want to be careful hanging around 19- 20 year old
girls. Its not that you have no chance at hooking up with someone that age,
but older guys who hang out at college events tend to look pathetic and
desperate more than anything else. Although a lot of women go for older
guys, the dirty old man look is never attractive.

Work

If you work in an environment that contains both men and women, theres
usually dating potential. If you work with a woman you like, there are
usually a lot of opportunities to coincidentally run into her and exchange

a couple of words. Notice her routine and try to fit your routine to match
hers. You can accidentally meet her at the coffee machine, where she has
lunch or in the elevator on the way to/ from the office. If you do this you
have to take one of two strategies:
1. Make sure it seems completely random; you dont want her
to suspect that you are following her.
2. Make it absolutely obvious that you are following her
around. Joke about it and try to make her laugh.
If you decide to chat up someone at work it is important to be aware that
there might be consequences. It may be better to approach a woman on
another floor of your building that the one you share an office with. It is
also my advice to not get involved with someone at work unless you have
serious intentions or are absolutely sure that neither of you are looking for
more than a good timethink about it first.

The gym

The gym is usually a place where you find women in good shape, and they
tend to go for guys who also take care of their bodies. You dont have to
have the body of a roman God, but if its obvious that you have never set
our foot in a gym before you might want to actually work out for a while
before you attempt to chat up the fittest girl in the room. The other way you
can do it is through honestly admit that this is your first time and ask her to
help you out.
I know there are a lot of guys who try to use the gym as their pick up
arena. Personally I have never quite got that, and a lot of my female
friends are just as puzzled as me.
When were working out, we dont feel the least bit attractive; we are
sweaty, we are huffing and puffing we have hardly any make up on; our
faces are bright read. I have heard theories from guys that theres an
association between sweaty girls who are working out and sweaty girls
who are having sex. Maybe this is true, I have no idea, but that is
completely beside the point. If you are comfortable chatting up girls at the
gym, go ahead!
There are some general tips that might come in handy when you decide to
approach a girl I broad daylight:

When talking to her, try to find out what shes interested in. Listen carefully
to what she reveals about herself and remember it for later. If a girls tells
you something in a bar and you forget, it can be excused because you have
had a few drinks. If however she tells you something over a coffee and you
forget she might loose some interest.
Women tend to have better memories than men, and we remember more
detail. If she has to repeat herself several times, shell get the impression
that youre not very interested, and she might go cool on you. Another
good reason to pay attention to what she says is to get to know her. When
she tell you about her life, about whats important to her and what she
dislikes, you can learn a lot about her. Use what she reveals when you
need to figure out what film to take her to see and what to buy her for
Christmas or her birthday.
If you dont feel quite bold enough to ask a girl to out to dinner with you,
you can try to invite her to something a little more casual. A cup of coffee
or a walk in the park puts a lot less pressure on both of you. Its easier for
you to ask and her to say yes if you are talking about spending half an hour
together rather than a whole evening.
The downside is that the chance of ending up in bed after an afternoon
walk is a lot less than after a dinner with wine and romantic lighting.
Another way to get to spend some time with her without too much pressure
is to invite her to an event that more people you know will be going to. Tell
her that you are going on a picnic/ party/ play/ football match with some of
our friends and ask her if she wants to come along. This kind of date has a
lot of potential; its casual, you dont have to worry so much about the
conversation and keeping her entertained, you get to see straight away if
she gets along with your friends, and she gets to see what you are really
like when you relax and enjoy yourself.
These are just a few ideas about where you can meet girls in your everyday
life. Use your imagination and your everyday routine to come up with more.
I would advice you to save the sober pulling for trying to get a date rather
than get laid. Of course, a date may very well lead to sex, but the chances
of approaching a girl and getting laid on a Monday at noon are next to none.
Another good reason to chat women up when you are sober is as practice.
If you get used to talking to girls you are attracted to when you are sober
and in daylight, you will have no problem at all doing it at night in a bar.

30 Second Tip:
When you socialize in bars, it is important to hang out, laugh and have a
good time with the guys there as well! This presents you as a mans man,
and gives you a certain status.
Women love guys like this.

Picking the right girl

Ok, I know that you are desperate to get laid, so this concept might be
difficult for you to grasp, but bear over with me.
There are beautiful girls out there that are just not good enough!
Yes, thats right; they are not good enough for you. You see, some girls are
just not worth the trouble, no matter how good looking they are; theyre
just not worthy of your attention.
The Princess
Previously I have mentioned, the princess, and now its time to learn
more about these creatures. The typical princess is spoilt. Her whole life
she has been told that no man out there could possibly be good enough for
her, and she believes it. This girl will make you work 24/7 to keep her happy.
And the odds of getting her to come home with you on the first night are
next to zero. Even after dating her several times you might very well find
that all she wanted was the attention and admiration.
When you meet a new woman, try to raise your attention from her cleavage
for a second and notice how she treats other people. Does she have
girlfriends? Does she treat them as equals or slaves?
You might find it flattering if the girl you talk to is competitive and bitchy
towards other women, after all she must really like you then, right? Wrong!
Watch out for women who have no female friends. They usually say things
like Women dont like me, I dont understand why. or I get along so
much better with guys, women tend to feel threatened by me. Believe me;
pretty women can have close girlfriends as much as anyone else. I know
plenty of stunning girls who have never had a problem connecting with
other women. Most normal girls are not threatened because another girl is
prettier than them, but they do react to the girls that walk around with the
attitude that other women should feel threatened by them.
If you meet a girl like this, let me tell you right now: she has no female
friends because she is too catty for any woman to want to be friends with
her. So why do guys still want to be friends with her? Use the head on top
of your body and think about it
A guy once told me that there is no straight man in the world who is best
friends with an attractive girl without wanting to sleep with her. Was he
right? Men can sometime choose to be blind to obnoxious behavior from
attractive women. Unfortunately, the reality is that if she is mean and bitchy

to other people, she will eventually be mean and bitchy to you too. So
repeat after me: shes just not good enough!
Notice how important attention is to the girl you are talking to and how
much she makes out of other people acknowledging her. Is she ok if no
one talks to her or gives her any attention for a little while, or is she only
happy if all eyes are on her and nobody steals her spotlight? An attention
craving woman will drive you crazy. Shell expect your whole life to revolve
around her, and for you to tend to her every need and want. Now, is that
what you want?
Although the princess wants your attention, it doesnt mean that she wants
you. Quite often, these girls want you to admire them but then they despise
you for doing so. The princess has no respect for a guy that gives her what
she wants, at the same time she wont have much time for you if you dont
play by her rules. This girl is impossible to please, so take my advice and
run in the opposite direction if meet one.
Let me just briefly make you aware of a couple of other categories of
women out there that you might need to be aware of;
The Old Fashioned/ Religious Girl
The Old Fashioned or religious girl is usually not up for sex on the first
date or any date that follows after that. This girl actually believes in all the
crap shes been told about saving herself for someone special or how its
bad to have sex outside of wedlock.
Im not gonna tell you that girls like this will never have sex with you,
because they are only human, and sometimes they give in to lust or
pressure. The tricky bit with this girl is that your troubles are not over when
you get her to sleep with you. In most cases she will feel a lot of guilt about
giving up her principles; not only do you have to work hard to get her to
bed the first time, you probably have to continue to persuade her every
time you want a bit of action.
As if this isnt bad enough, when Old Fashioned girl feels guilty, you will be
the one either having to comfort her, or put up with her blaming you for
leading her astray. Not to mention Old Fashion girl associates sex with
marriage, so be careful or you might end up as the groom in a shot-gun
wedding.
The Co-dependent Girl

Let me just tell you that co-dependent girl might turn out to be your biggest
nightmare. This girl is usually very insecure (no matter how attractive she
is, dont be fooled by good looks) and she needs a guy in her life in order
to feel good about herself.
Co-dependent Girl defines herself by the success of her relationship, and
once shes got a foot in the door, she not easy to get rid off. Unfortunately,
a girl who is so insecure that she doesnt see her self as worth anything
unless she is in a relationship is usually pretty messed up, and this is
where the nightmare part comes in.. Remember Fatal Attraction?
The Virgin
Yes, thats right! Lets get it over with straight away: Forget about the
bloody virgin (no pun intended)! I know youve watched porn, and you may
have the idea that what real macho men do is go to bed with women who
have never had sex before. OK, I can see the appeal; go where no man has
ever been etc, but reallylet it go.
Not only is the virgin an endangered species (if youre over eighteen
anyway), she is often just not worth the trouble. Virgins are virgins for a
reason; they are good at crossing their legs! The problem is that even if
you do manage to get a virgin to sleep with you, it isnt much fun. Why?
Because theyve never done it before, virgins suck in bed! There, I said it.
And trust me, my info comes straight from many guy-friends who have
assured me that a woman who has never had sex, is just as crappy at in
bed as a man whos never had sex (and I know full well how lousy that is!)
Not to worry; there are loads of girls out there that are both pretty and nice,
the trick is just to recognize on when you see her. I want to make you
aware of one type of girl you can have a lot of good times with:
The Independent/Liberal Girl
This girl knows who she is and what she wants. She is not a stranger to
having sex, and more importantly, she doesnt feel bad about it. The
Independent Girl feels good about herself and shes even comfortable with
the sides of her that arent perfect. This type of girl tends to be very sexy
even if she is not a 10 on the babe scale, because she radiates confidence.
I will strongly advise you to get over the intimidation you might feel when
you meet a girl like this, and see if you can get to know her. The

independent girl is an excellent playmate, because she sees things the

same way you do.
The one thing I want to warn you about is that this girl actually means it
when she says shes not looking for a boyfriend! If you are looking for a
girlfriend I would advise you to be sure that she wants the same thing,
otherwise you might wake up one day and realize that she was the one who
played you

30 Second Tip:
Its an old clich, but opposites do often attract. When scoping out the
talent, look for a girl who seems physically very different from you (hair
color, skin tone, features, etc.).
A girl who looks like she could be your sister(!), is not likely to find you very
exotic or mysterious!

Romance
When it comes to being romantic a lot of guys get confused, because
what girls say quite often doesnt relate to what they actually want.
Dont be mistaken; no matter what they might say if put on the spot, girls
like romance. Our problem is that most guys havent got the faintest idea
about what being romantic really means. Being romantic is not all about
buying expensive presents and taking her out to candlelight dinners. Its
not about how much money you spend, its the effort that counts. Most
girls Ive talked to prefer little everyday gestures to the grand ones on
Valentines Day.
If you have managed to get a girlfriend, well done, now lets try to keep her.
As Ive already mentioned, women notice details, and thats your key to
becoming the considerate and romantic boyfriend. Remember, its the little
things that count the most.
Make her breakfast in bed, leave her a nice post it note on the bathroom
mirror, draw her a bath when she comes home and its cold outside. Let her
have the remote when her favorite show is on and cook her dinner every
once in a while. Bring her cold remedies and soft tissues when shes sick,
or make her a cup of coffee when shes tired in the morning. Little gestures
like these show her that you care about her.
You dont have to tell your girlfriend that you love every day, sometimes if
you say it too much it can become a habit and not mean so much. Tell her
you love her on the days when you really feel it, you know; when you
become painfully aware of it yourself. Tell her when you appreciate
something she does, focus on what youre happy with rather than
complaining. If she makes an effort and dresses up for you, let her know
that you like it.
How about the bedroom? Are you a romantic there? Im not necessarily
talking about rooms filled with hundreds of candle lights and soft, slow,
love making to the tones of Celine Dion. A romantic setting can be nice,
but there are other things that might make her happier.
A very typical situation when it comes to sex is that its mainly about the
guy; what I mean by this is that it usually takes a lot longer for a woman to
both get turned on and to orgasm. On average it takes a woman 20-30
minutes to get as turned on as a man gets in 3 minutes. Also, on average, it
takes a woman 20 minutes of direct, non stop stimulation to orgasm.

If you dont already know, try to find out what she really wants in bed. If
shes not shy about these things, ask her what she likes and fantasizes
about. If she is shy, remember that women tend to hint at things rather then
tell you straight out. Pay attention to what she is signaling when you are
having sex. Usually you can tell by her reactions what youre doing right
and what she doesnt enjoy so much.
Remember that all girls are different, so dont assume that what worked on
your ex will work on her. This is why it is important for you to find out what
she wants.
Why dont you make the effort to focus on her every once in a while. There
is nothing more romantic than a guy who sometimes puts his own needs
and preferences aside and makes it all about her.
Ok, lets talk about gifts. As I told you before; romance is not something
that should be kept for special occasions. However, there are special
occasions every once in a while, and they do require presents. I know
dozens of girls whos told me that their boyfriend think its fun and sexy to
give them a round in the sack as a birthday present. Nothing wrong with
sex, but if thats all youve got planned for her, Im sorry to say, you are
cheap.
No, Im not suggesting you have to buy her diamonds. You see, its not
about money. Yes, girls like to get nice things, so do guys (remember that
iPod or x-box youre hoping someone will get you?).
Flowers are nice every once in a while, but giving her a dozen roses on
birthdays and Valentines Day is more that anything else a clich. You dont
have to spend a lot of money and buy her the most expensive gift anyone
has ever given her.
Try to pay attention to what she tells you about her interests. If shes been
talking about a certain author or film she loves you have something to go
by. Does she have a hobby, or do a sport. Presents that refer to something
she has talked about and is interested in are much more personal than
flowers or jewelry.
Roses and champagne can be sweet, but save it for occasions that are
special to you and her, not the days that you are expected to be romantic.
What is important to women, much more than how much money you spend,
is the effort you put behind being romantic, and that youre doing it
because you appreciate her, not because its what youre expected to do.
What you have to remember when it comes to being romantic is that there
are no rules as to what to do and when to do it. Romantic gestures are kind

of little statements. Make a statement when you feel like it, thats when it
means something.

30 Second Tip:
One key to being romantic is being a bit unpredictable.
Surprising her with a compliment or a small gift when she least expects it are
good examples of this.

Kissing
Ok, I want you to listen carefully, what Im about to tell you is important. If
you dont master the art of kissing, there is very little chance of you getting
any further.
It seems like a lot of guys that are inexperienced with women (and quite a
few that are experienced) have the idea that the right way to kiss a woman
is through attack. They throw themselves forwards and press their mouth
against the girls with all the force they can muster. Then they stick their
tongue deep in her throat, in a desperate search for her tonsils. This
passionate kiss continues with a lot of intensity and slurping until one of
them has to come up for air.
Im not sure where guys learn to kiss like this, my hunch is a little too much
time alone on the internet, but I do know that this is not the way to go.
There is a time and place for intense, deep and raw kissing; usually its the
bedroom during passionate sex.
For a first kiss or as a nice seductive kiss this is not what you need to do.
You should hold back on the rough, forceful tongue in her throat kiss
until she has clearly signaled through doing the same thing that thats what
she wants.
As a general rule when you first kiss someone it is good to start out soft.
Not too much force, tongue or saliva. In fact, your very first kiss doesnt
need tongue at all. Try kissing her gently with your lips slightly separated
not your mouth wide open, nor tightly shut. Make sure you take good care
of your lips; chipped, dry or sore lips are not nice to kiss. If you have a cold
sore, its best if you get it treated before you attempt any kissing as she
can contract it from you.
A good way to look after your lips is to get a lip balm and use it. Make sure
you dont get one that is tinted, and it wont show that youre wearing any.
If youre afraid to look a little to feminine putting on lip balm, just put it on
when no one sees you.
If youre not quite sure if she wants you to kiss her or not, you can try
leaning forward very slowly and watch her reaction. If she leans forward as
well, and maybe lifts her face towards you it is pretty safe to kiss her. If she
is closing her eyes shes definitely expecting a kiss. If youre not sure, you
can kiss her on the cheek, on the corner of her mouth or just give her a hug.

Back to the actual kiss: Kiss her gently to begin with, and if she responds
to you, you can go at bit further. Now you can kiss her a little more firmly
and maybe let your tongue give her mouth a quick visit. Read her signals; if
she responds by doing the same thing you are doing, go with that. If she
tries do something completely different (or pulls away), its a hint and you
need to follow her lead.
Kissing is important to women; a bad kiss can put them off, an O.K. kiss
can be nice but wont make much difference. A really good kiss however,
can turn her on and make her ache for more of you. Think of the key word
here to be sensual, the idea is to turn her on gradually and not jump her
like a hormone ridden retriever.
The most important thing to remember when youre kissing someone is to
relax. Its not brain surgery, and its not a talent you have to be born with.
Anyone can learn to be a good kisser. It all comes down to practice. If you
have a close female friend, you might be able to bribe her into teaching you
how to kiss. If you dont, youll have to experiment on girls you meet. Dont
be afraid to make some mistakes. The first few girls you kiss probably
wont be the one you end up with anyway.
Try to chat up some girls with the intention to kiss them and nothing else.
Its quite likely that youll have a better chance at succeeding if you dont
put too much pressure on yourself in the beginning.

30 Second Tip:
Try the psych-out move! When kissing a girl, try going in as if you are about
to kiss her, and then turning away and perhaps just smelling her hair.
This sort of unresolved action builds tension (ahemsexual tension).
Women love teasing, and you can create a powerful desire within her by
gently teasing her in this way.

What you like

Do you collect coins, spend most of your time playing chess, or attend
yearly star trek conventions? No? Ok, how about bugs, computer games,
and science fares? You get my point, if you are extremely into any of these
things, or something else that requires a lot of specific knowledge and
usually a well developed brain; you are most likely a geek.
Im sure people have told you over and over that if you let a girl find out
that youre a Trekkie, youll never ever get laid. Fortunately for you, this
is your lucky day (no, not that lucky, youre not getting laid yet). You see,
even though there is some truth to what youve been told, it is also very
misunderstood.
Most people know that the geeks tend to lose the battle of the girl in High
School. Even if it wasnt originally so, weve all seen so many Hollywood
movies establishing this that it is now pretty much a fact. The good news is
that as soon as you get out of High School, the world changes.
As an example, look at the typical reunion ten years after High School. The
High School princess has three kids, lives in a trailer and is pregnant again.
The captain of the football team is fat, drinks and works at the local factory
where hes still bullying people who are smaller than himself. The geek
however, moved away to go to university, where he did really well, smart as
he is.
The geek is the one that comes back with success, money in his bank
account and a beautiful woman by his side. Ok, this is a bit of a clich, but
so is High School. Besides, this kind of scenario happens a lot more often
than youd think.
A famous example for you: Bill Gates. We all know theres no chance in hell
that Bill Gates was anything but a geek in High School. A computer geek at
that, and now an incredibly rich computer geek. The thing is, if you have a
special field of interest, something you know a lot about, this can be your
ticket to both money and women.
The first thing to remember is that you dont have to hide or feel ashamed
of your hobbies. In fact you need to do quite the contrary. If you are proud
of what you do, this will shine through as confidence in your attitude. Let
me tell you a little secret: women love men who are good at something, and
it doesnt necessarily matter what it is theyre good at.
One of my best friends was a rock chick, who hated all kinds of
electronic music. Now, she is quite the expert on drum and bass. Why? She
fell in love with a DJ. Other girls I know have taken up anything from rock

climbing to chess or computer games because some guy they dated was
into just that.
The trick for you is to be absolutely unapologetic about your hobbies. You
dont have to go on and on about it. If your special field is something
narrow and usually requires a special interest, dont talk too much about it.
If she asks, let her know that thats your thing. If she keeps asking
questions, its because shed like to know more. It is very attractive when a
guy is good at something, almost no matter what it is.
Usually when someone has a special interest, they also have a passion for
what they do. Passion, as long as you know how not to run people over
with your knowledge, is attractive.
So keep your hobbies, and let the girls know what you like. If you are not
afraid to admit that you are into building model airplanes, then well respect
you even more. Remember, a lot of women also have interests that are not
cool or mainstream, so we know how confident you have to be in order to
be completely open about this. One last tip: use humor; if your hobby is
weird or geeky, let her know that you are aware of that, but still not afraid of
looking foolish. Trust me, shell be impressed.

Get inspired!
OK, this tip might seem insignificant but youre just gonna have to trust me.
I know it can be difficult to just come up with confident things to say and
do, especially if you really have no clue about women. Because of this you
need to get inspired. How can you learn what women like? Go to the source;
you need to get deeply clued up on chick lit and chick flicks. What do I
mean? Yes, I actually mean that you should go out and by books that girls
read and rent movies they watch.
There is a reason why Hollywood makes sooo many romantic comedies
and the publishing industry sells millions of books about single, slightly
messed up women. Here are a few of the best ones:
Books/Magazines

Bridget Jones diary and Bridget Jones, the edge of reason

Watermelon or anything else written by Marian Keyes

Any book at all that sells to women in millions.

Cosmo or any other womens magazine that sells to the age group
you are targeting.

Films/ TV

Sex and the City

How to lose a guy in 10 days

Bridget Jones Diary and Bridget Jones, the edge of reason

Dirty Dancing

Any other TV show or film that women love

30 Second Tip:
Pay special attention to the male characters on chick shows. These
characters are there for a reason: the represent what women desperately
want!
Model the behavior and attitude of these men, by studying them closely
what they wear, how they talk, posture/body language, etc.
Not quite convinced? Ok, you are a guy. You dont like girly films and stuff?
Too bad! If you are going to get anywhere you need to learn two things:
1. How women think.
2. What kind of behavior women want from a guy.
Reading and watching chick stuff can teach you a lot. Let me guide you
through the few tips and tell you why its important that you get into the
chick stuff.
Lets start with the books. If you dont like to read, a lot of the chick lit
books are available on film, but unfortunately you wont learn half as much,
as so much of what they cut out in the movie are the thoughts and feelings
described in the book.

Books
The books Bridget Jones books sold millions of copies all over the world
(almost entirely to women!) and the films with Rene Zelwegger were huge
box office hits. Not only do girls find it amusing to read about and watch
the Bridget character, so many of them feel like Bridget Jones.
Take the hint; women feel like Bridget Jones, and there is a book out there
called The Bridget Jones Diary. Do you see a possibility here for you to
get inside the heads of young attractive women and find out what they
really want? Hmmm
Yeah thats right; the Bridget Jones books are written in the style of a
young womans diary, with personal thoughts all through it. Women
associate with this girl. We recognize her feelings, thoughts and actions.

Use this for all its worth! If you want to pick-up any girl between 16 and 40,
chances are she has a little Bridget Jones in her. Reading the diary can
give you tons of info about her deepest hopes, fears, desires, etc. This is
powerful stuff.
Marian Keyes wrote the very first novel in the chick lit genre. Her books are
not so different from the Bridget Jones ones and they are equally
informative. Read them and learn, thats all I can say.
Go online and find out what sort of books women buy and get one for
yourself. I dont care if it is a book about finding your inner goddess; if
women read it and if you want to understand how we work, then you
should read it too.
Cosmo is packed with articles for girls about sex, how to get a guy, how to
keep a guy and so on. These magazines can be lethal weapons in your
hands. Not only do they tell you a lot about what women want from men,
they also have special sections for men to get tips about what to do (or not
do). Go buy one and hide it under your bed with the magazines you can no
longer separate the pages in.
Films/ TV
Sex and the City is one of the ultimate guides to understanding women.
Women love this show. Why do we love it? We recognize ourselves in it.
I just happen to know that a lot of guys also like Sex and the City. This
show allows guys to learn things about women that their girlfriends would
never tell them. All over the planet girls are discussing with their friends
who in their group is which of the characters from Sex and the City. Id
say that about 90% wants to be Carrie. OK, it might be a stretch to claim
that we are just like her, but she is the kind of woman so many girls would
like to be.
I strongly advise you to watch this show and pay attention Take notes if
you have to. I know, I know; the women are hot and they talk openly about
sex, but try to leave your fly alone and actually listen to what they have to
say. Not only can you learn a lot about how women think, you can also
learn a lot about what women think about sex.
The Bridget Jones films I want you to watch for a different reason than
reading the books. I want you to watch the films and notice the male
characters. Pay attention to the behavior of Hugh Grants character. He is
the typical confident male rogue who knows what to say and how to act
to get a woman in to bed.

In How to lose a guy I want you to study Matthew McConnelys

character. Not only is this guy the kind of man that most women wish they
were dating (and not because of his looks), in the movie he is actually step
by step going through a routine to get the girl. Did you get that? A step by
step routine to get a hot girl! Do you think this info might be useful? Duh!
Watch the female lead as well; you can get some tips about what girls not
to get within twenty feet of.
And finally, Dirty Dancing. Yes, I know, Dirty dancing is not a great film, but
women all over the world love it. This is the romantic movie women who
are in their twenties now grew up with, and a lot of us know pretty much
every line of it. If you can deliver a line like Nobody puts Baby in the
corner to a girl when you are out on the town, she will find it funny and
incredibly sweet. Take some pointers from Patrick Swayzie; yes hes over
the top now, but back then he was cool and sexy, and his misunderstood
bad boy act got women week in the knees all over the world.
Watch the chick flicks and womens shows on TV. Eavesdrop when girls
you know talk about their favorite shows. Dont let the girls know you
watch their shows, (thats too much like spying on the enemy) but watch
them all and learn.

30 Second Tip:
There is a wise, old saying, The hungry dont get fed.
Do you see what this means? People who are desperate for something, dont
get itthe people who get the food are those who are already fat!
This is exactly how it works with dating and getting laid. The guys who
already have lots of girls, just keep getting more. The guys who cant get a
datecontinue to get nothing.
But the beauty of this is, when you become a babe magnet in your mind, you
have begun a process that will lead to it being true in real life as well. Every
single time.
Sound like new age hooey? I challenge you to try it for yourself. Visualize
yourself as you want to be every single day. See all the small details, and
feel what it feels like. You will be amazed at the results!