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All of us have come across the old adage, “We have two ears and one mouth so we may
listen more and talk less”. Yet organizations most often would consider ability to speak
well as a more important prerequisite in appointing senior managers. “Improving
presentation skills”, “How to be assertive in your speech”, “Effective Public speaking
skills” etc. are considered important enough in organizations of today, for them to impart
some of these skills in-house. Not many organizations have paid attention to the flip side
of the coin and asked themselves the questions – “Do we have leaders that listen and
manage or do they barely manage to listen?” and “Would we benefit more if we trained
our managers to be better and active listeners?”.
Perhaps it is because we are a country of a billion people and if we wait for the others to
finish speaking, it could be forever. The cultural conditioning is so strong that people
most often do not realize that they are poor listeners. What does this mean for
organizations of today that function in a multi-cultural environment and with many
Indian companies aiming to go global? Can we convert a generation of culturally
conditioned Indians to become not just ‘listeners’ but ‘active listeners’?
Research indicates that managers spend close to half their time listening to people talk.
One suspects, most of this would just be ‘hearing’ as opposed to ‘active listening’. Active
listening means we are processing the information that we are hearing – our mind is
working not only our ears. One of the troubles is that most of us can think faster than the
other person can speak, and get distracted by our own thoughts about what we intend to
say next. There is also a possibility that most of what managers have to listen to are
unappealing enough – excuses, complaints, outright lies and expressions of frustration –
for them to want to “switch off”.
An effective manager has learnt the art of ‘active listening’ – which means he / she is
hearing, interpreting and evaluating, in short, processing what is being said as well as the
way it is being said. He / she is then able to even perceive what is often times left unsaid
and derive the larger issue hiding behind the wall of words.
Incomplete listening can lead to festering of unsolved problems and avoidable conflicts in
an organizational setting. Ideas can get severely distorted as they travel through the
organizational chain of command resulting in wasted time, effort and money. Employees
will feel more and more distant & finally alienated from the senior management. Poor
listening has been the culprit for many an organizational strife that could have been
avoided if we had clearly understood the reason.
Depending on where you are on the listening scale, your predominant listening style
could range from simply ignoring people that are speaking to you, pretending to listen,
selective listening, attentive listening to actively & empathetically listening. Active and
empathetic listeners make the best man-managers. Some of the barriers to active listening
are:
• Stop talking! Do not interrupt: Let the speaker get a chance to present his piece
• Remove distractions: Eyes off your laptop, the phone off the hook if necessary
• Maintain eye contact: Look into the eyes of the speaker, watch body language
• Put the speaker at ease: Make it comfortable for the speaker to share
• Sit in a receptive posture: Lean forward, show interest, don’t strike a judgmental pose
• Look and act interested: make the speaker want to share the entire story
• Don’t criticize, judge: Maybe the speaker only wants a patient hearing
• Empathize: Put yourself in the speaker’s shoes for better understanding
• Ask questions: Keep yourself & the speaker engaged by asking the right questions
• Look for non-verbal cues: Is the speech & body language in consonance?
• Have patience: However uninteresting, hold your patience and listen actively
• Paraphrase: Occasionally summarize, to ensure complete & common understanding