Germane: Greetings to everyone. This is Germane.

We'd like to thank you all for

coming this night. The title of session is "Fourth-Density Relationships". We would
like to encourage you to feel free to ask any questions that are on your mind on
the topic. We are going to start out by talking about the transformation from third
to fourth density.

As you've heard us say many times, one of the characteristics of third density is
separation. Whether it be separation from the God source, from each other, or
separating aspects of yourselves within yourselves. This idea of separation has
been necessary in third density to keep you in the third density experience. We
are not saying in any way, shape or form, that the separation that you have been
a part of on your world for the last several thousand years is in any way wrong,
bad, negative. It is part of the experience that you have all chosen.

As you are moving from the 3D into the 4D reality, one of the main qualities of
fourth density reality is integration, or reintegration. Therefore, the laws or
premises that you have in 3D reality (based on separation) can no longer operate
successfully in 4D. If you attempt to carry the premises and beliefs of separation
into a 4D reality and refuse to let them go, you can literally tear yourself apart
emotionally. A lot of what many of you are feeling in your own growth (whether it
be relationships with lovers, family, friends or yourself) is almost a sense of
urgency about letting go of certain things that have been carried for quite some
time.

This feeling of urgency has to do with the idea, literally, that you are moving from
one vibrational reality to another. The set of beliefs and premises that were
operating in one reality cannot be sustained in the next. So you are feeling that
desire to shift beliefs, to shift premises, and therefore shift the way you live. To
some degree it is as if someone has handed you a tangled ball of yarn. There it is
in your lap, you don't know where to start to untangle it. The only thing you can
do is start where the easiest place is to start.

3D Relationships

Bringing this into the topic of relationships, the premises and beliefs of 3D
(separation) were necessary to maintain 3D relationships. Let us share with you
some of these principles.

Principles based on separation can be as follows:

Secrecy.

This has been a big one in your society. Secrecy is withholding information from
your partner or from yourself. Secrecy does not just operate on the level of your
interactions with others; secrecy keep you separated from the greater portion of
yourself, as well. The idea of secrecy has been very important to maintain
relationships in 3D reality, because it is an expression of separation.

Fear-based Monogamy.

Another expression of separation is the expression of what you would call

monogamy, fear-based monogamy. We are not talking about monogamy by
choice, we are talking about monogamy through fear. That has been an
expression based on separation. The premise basically is that if you can get
someone to commit to you, then you thus take yourself out of the flow of having
to deal with relationships and you are safe. You are separate from the rest of the
world. Separate and safe. This is monogamy based on fear.

Conditional Love.

Conditional love has been an expression which has been very vital to maintaining
3D-type relationships. Conditional love means that you will love someone only if
they fulfill your needs or conditions that you set out. If they do not fill this, you
will withdraw your love. There has been a noncomprehension in 3D reality of the
meaning of unconditional love. When you are dealing from a separative
framework, the only way you can view everything else is through that framework
of separation. And so love therefore (the old definition of love in 3D) is love based
on conditions.

Expectation.

This means that you go into a relationship with someone with expectations in
your mind that maybe you are not even aware of. If you are aware of these
expectations, you attempt to get the other person to fulfill those expectations.
Again, the person is used to satisfy the need of the person seeking the
relationship.

Manipulation.

This is another quality often inherent in 3D relationships. This can be very covert.
It is overt in some cases, as well. However, in the classic 3D relationship there
can be very deep-seated manipulation plays being done so that each person will
get their needs fulfilled or will be protected from their fears. So often the idea of
manipulation is carried out to protect you from your own fears. If you manipulate
the other person, you can thus not feel your fear.

The Need to Control

The Need to Control is also a quality inherent in very solidly anchored 3D

relationships. This is a mistrust in reality, that everything is happening the way it
needs to be, or for your greater good. The need to control says you do not accept
that idea. You thus must instead shape the relationship, force it, mold it, because
you do not trust it will be what it needs to be by itself. We will stop here because
there is literally a lot more we can say on this. It will come out later in the
session. Let us go to the 4D idea.

4D Relationships

Since 4D is based on integration or reintegration, the characteristics that were

once status quo in 3D relationships can no longer be sustained in 4D. Literally,
the vibration cannot sustain separative ideas. Qualities inherent in 4D
relationships would be:

Honesty (Non-Secrecy).

The couple or the unit must have, at all costs, honesty instead of secrecy. This
means if you see in your friend or partner that they are doing something that is
sabotaging to themselves or to the relationship that you speak that observation
instead of withholding it (so you do not hurt the person's feelings), or so that you
can continue to control them being in the relationship. Literally we are talking
about polar opposites here. 3D is Secrecy, 4D is honesty. We cannot stress to you
enough how important honesty is in a 4D relationship. If there is no honesty,
there cannot be a continuation of that relationship in the 4D model. It is that
crucial.

When we say honesty, we are also talking about honesty with the self. Many of
you will at times keep things from yourself to keep you feeling safe. Within a 4D
reality, it is very difficult to keep things from the self. You may wake up one
morning, and you may suddenly realize that the relationship you are in no longer
serves you. That must be recognized for the flow to continue. We are in no way
saying, "You need to adopt these characteristics now!" Not at all. You will do this
naturally. However, in this transition period now between 3D and 4D, you are
being hit with qualities from both. As this happens, you will need to make some
choices about how you wish to continue in your relationships. We will state that if
you choose the integrative model (the 4D model) and you truly become that idea
(not try to become it) you will not feel the pain of loss in any situation, in any
relationship. You will only feel pain or loss if you are either in the 3D relationship,
or deluding yourself into thinking you are in a 4D relationship. That will be when
the pain of loss comes up. Again, we do want to stress to all of you that we are
not saying you must do this, and you must move into 4D relationships. Not at all.

You have choices. You can make the choices. It is entirely up to you. However,
we want to help illustrate for you the package deal you may be signing up for if
you make certain choices. It is a package deal. If you make a choice based on
separation (a 3D model), and then expect to live in a 4D relationship, it is not
going to happen. Recognize where your choices are based. Make your continuing
choices from there.

Let us go back to the qualities of 3D and 4D relationships. 3D relationships are

based on secrecy and 4D on honesty; 3D based on conditional love and 4D based
on unconditional love. Every being has the capability of experiencing more
unconditional love than they ever have from moment to moment. There is never
a limit to unconditional love. From this point, your experience of love has been
3D. Literally, you will need to build your own definitions of unconditional love
because it can only be conceived of by experiencing it. We know you've heard
definitions. We know that all of you can come up with definitions. But those
definitions are partially intellectual. They are not yet 100% brought down to the
emotions.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is another vital part of 4D relationships. That means loving

someone with no conditions. If they don't fulfill your needs, you still love them. If
they do not carry out your expectations, you still love them. You love them for
being who they are without attempting to change them. It is an in-the-moment
type of experience, whereas conditional love is always based on the past or
future, not in the present. Unconditional love is based in the present.

Absolute Trust.

This is the opposite of the 3D quality of the Need to Control. There is no need or
desire to control. It is not as if you must get up each day and say, "I must trust
today." It is a beingness. When you wake up each day you are not worried about
keeping your spirit in your body. You don't focus on that. It just happens. So, 4D
is like that. The trust is there, it just happens. Control vs. trust.
Allowingness.

This is the opposite of manipulation. Allow. Allow the other person to be who they
need to be. Because only then will you truly see, in fact, who they are. If you
attempt to manipulate them, you never see who they really are. You see who you
need them to be.

Relationships by Choice.

This is the opposite of Monogamy from Fear. This means that if you want
monogamy, it is by conscious choice. If you want polygamy or polyfidelity, it is by
conscious choice. It is perfectly acceptable for you to choose any of these things.
All of these things are inherently neutral. They do not have a built in meaning.
You ascribe them meaning by judgment. One is "better," one is "worse." All of
these choices are neutral, any that you choose can work for you. However, if your
conscious choice is to move into a 4D type relationship, you will not be able to do
that if you keep holding on to any of the premises from 3D. They will need to be
shifted and rearranged.

As you shift from a 3D to a 4D perspective, many people will in fact experience

fear. Literally you are going through uncharted territory. You can't see necessarily
what is over the next ridge. So it is frightening for a lot of people. That is
perfectly fine. But if it is something you really want to pursue, let that fear be
okay. When you come out on the other side of the ridge, you are going to realize
that your identity is not based on another person. Your identity is based on you.
You are the only one with whom you can rely on. You will feel that power, that
clarity, and that liberation and release that comes form recognizing your own
power.

It is really interesting, because in 3D type relationships (separation), you have

the illusion of separation, but yet you create things that remind you that you are
still all connected. For instance, humans use enmeshment in 3D to remind
yourself you are still connected. However, the way you've interpreted the idea of
connectedness has come out in a way that is detrimental to you rather than
supportive. Enmeshment is the 3D version of connectedness in 4D. It really is a
matter of the way you look at it. When you feel enmeshed with another person in
your life and it hurts, stop for a minute. Take some deep breaths. Remind
yourself that the enmeshment is there to remind you that you are never separate
from the other person ultimately. Separation is an illusion. No matter how far
away you go, you are not separate from the person. If you can begin to
emotionally heal the fear that you will no longer be with a person, you are going
to start to feel the sense of connectedness that will then replace the 3D
enmeshment idea. You will no longer need to create fear through enmeshment.
You will thus create connectedness through your expressions in all of your
relationships. Many of the dysfunctional symptoms in 3D are your way of
reminding yourself of some of the qualities of 4D relationships. But they are
translated through the veil of separation. So they come out a little askew.
However, they are there as reminders and tools. They are there to help you ease
the pain in your interactions with others.

Comments or questions?

What is the energy standpoint from 3D and 4D? We know that integration is
occurring on all levels. Seams are coming apart, and other things are forming.
We are going to be seeing changes. What do you foresee?
For one thing, these things started in the 1960s of your time. You started to feel
the shift of 3D to 4D in terms of the expressions of your relationships, but you
haven't known what was happening. You haven't known that you could go with
the energy and heal it. Instead, you've tried to resist the change as a mass
consciousness. You've seen the great rise in divorce since the '60s. Much of this is
the resistance of the change until there is a snapping point. Divorce is a 3D
solution. Breaking. Separation. Divorce is the idea of separating oneself to
artificially create the illusion that you are not connected to that person. The 4D
version of "divorce" will be the recognition of two people that the relationship is
going in a different direction, and that is allowed. There is no separation, because
you can never be separate. You allow the other person to move in that direction.
Energetically, you are finding that everyone is touched by these energies. Each
person is reacting to them in the only way they know how. Some people are
denying them. Some people are swinging the pendulum in the opposite direction.
Some people are polarizing. Some people are going with the flow. But you are
going to find that this issue is not going to go away. It is going to challenge you,
and challenge you, and challenge you until you can come face to face with your
own feelings of inadequacy and aloneness and how you have sought relationships
to fill that gap. Energetically you will create less disharmony if you move with it.
If you create resistance, you will create more discomfort and pain.

When I talk about these ideas regarding relationships with others, they think all it
has to do with is sex. No one seems to really get the point.

The buttons are pushed on sex because individuals will frequently ascribe another
reason to something as a distraction so they do not have to look at the pain. Sex,
being that it is an expression of vulnerability, pushes people's buttons because
they do not want to be vulnerable. If they are vulnerable, they believe, they are
weak and open to attack. That, at all costs, is to be avoided in their belief. So,
they will blame sex. It is not the issue, and never has been. It is a symptom.
Your points of view as a society on sex are symptoms of the greater dysfunction.
They have nothing to do with the problem. Energetically you are going to find
that as this change occurs, first and foremost internally you are all going to go
through changes. It may first manifest outside of you. You may think it is a
problem with your relationship. It is not. It is your change inside that you are
seeing reflected in your relationship. Always, first level, is inside of you. If you
are resisting change, you are going to start feeling pain, confusion, maybe even
manifest all sorts of physical symptoms. This will happen if you are not willing to
move with the changes that are occurring inside of you and in the mass
consciousness. If you are willing to move with it, then you are going to start to
see that maybe you will get more emotional for a while, let some things out, then
your relationships are going to start to change. Change does not mean they will
end. Change does not mean destroy or divorce. Change means change, and that
is all change means. You can then move with these changes and if there is a
partner in your life, you can seek to help them move through changes at the
same time as you do. Trust that the two of you are on the same path, no matter
what choice happens. We understand that many people in your society base
personal satisfaction or success on how their relationhips are going in their life.
That method of gauging can no longer to continue to exist. It is an artificial
construct that is giving you artificial data generated by you so you don't have to
face your fears. That was a tool in 3D. In 4D, it is going to be very different. You
will see that if you resist claiming your own power, you will continually seek
relationships to validate your own being. If relationships continue not to work and
have conflict all the time, the reason for that is that you are still using the
relationship to make you feel better. That cannot occur in a 4D type relationship.
You indicated that the new relationships are by conscious choice. All the other
issues that you've touched seem to be mutually accepting issues that people can
accept totally on their own and then share the fruits of those with another
person. That one seems to imply some sort of conditional acceptance by both
people of a mode to indicate a relationship in 4D.

No. If we have explained it incorrectly, we apologize. Let us give you an example

of conscious choice. Let us say that you are in a relationship with a man (or
woman) in 4D. Here is an example of what we are not talking about. You say to
the person, "I want a monogamous (or polygamous, whatever) relationship, and I
will continue this relationship with you only if you agree to that." No. The choices
are entirely for you. If you choose monogamy, then it is only you who chooses
not to have sex with others. You don't require the other person to make the same
choice. The choices are all for you. They have nothing to do with the other
person. If you choose to be non-monogamous, then that choice is for you. Your
mate can do whatever they want. You only make the choices for you and no one
else. You do not demand that the other person reciprocate. That is what we
meant by conscious choice.

In 4D you are acting in the moment. So you are trying to act on your excitement.
How do you act on your excitement and include future commitments? One could
decide they want to conceive a child because that is their excitement in the
moment. But that excitement includes a tremendous commitment with it over
time.

In 4D type relationships, the idea of commitment does not exist. Commitment

takes yourself out of the moment. If you stay totally in the moment you are
thinking of having a child, all of the principles we've outlined for 4D come into
play. Meaning absolute trust. You do not have to plan for the future. It is trust.
Do you understand? So the idea of commitment is a 3D illusion. What does it
really mean? How many people make commitments and they are not followed
through? A commitment never insures your security. It placates you into thinking
you are secure. That is the difference. In a 4D type relationship, with trust
instead of control, allowance instead of manipulation, there is no concern for the
future because there is a knowingness that it will all take care of itself. If you
have a 4D woman who wants to have a child, she will not have the child based on
the hope or desire that the father will be there. That brings him in to something
that is entirely her creation. That idea cannot exist in a 4D reality. Therefore, if a
4D woman wants to have a child, she has the child because she wants the child.
Because she wants the child, there is absolute trust and allowance that
everything will be perfectly fine. If the woman is Pleiadian, this is reflected in
their society's philosophy. They are all part of the same family anyway. It is
different from what you see here, although your society will change. Pay attention
to when you take yourself out of the moment.

So, if it is your excitement in the moment to conceive a child (and your true
excitement, not a compulsion), then in 4D thinking you would have absolute trust
that everything from there on out would work fine because you followed your
excitement in the moment.

Absolutely! If you continued to follow your excitement all the time from moment
to moment, there is no reason to think you could ever not trust.

So you wouldn't think that tomorrow it may not be my excitement to have this
child. You would just trust.
Exactly. If you are in the moment, totally and absolutely, then after the baby is
born, each day, in the moment, there is that child. In the moment, you can love
it. In the moment, whatever is there in your reality you recognize as a part of
your creation and who you are. There will never be a time where you will say,
"Oh, I made a mistake in having this child." Never.

Okay. And also there is an inherent love for your creation, and therefore always
an excitement for your creation? It is just a matter of recognizing always in the
moment that it is your creation. Not just a child, but any reality that you create.

Yes. One of the reasons why you've had difficulty owning your creations is
because you are not in the moment, you are in the past or the future. It is very
hard to see what it is you've created when you are not in the present. If you are
totally 100% in the present, you clearly and consciously can own every creation
that you've ever had. Very simple. No effort.

In 3D we've been living in polarities and extremes. As near as I can see those
extremes have led us into addictions and dependency. The dependency we feel is
that we want someone to fulfill our needs. Therefore, we become dependent on
the other person. Then in 4D, is all dependency gone?

Yes. Dependency cannot exist in 4D because 4D is integration and not separation.

Dependency is a quality of separation depending on something outside of you. In
4D, there is a recognition of yourself as the creator, and so when that recognition
is there, you cannot put that outside of yourself. It is an equation that doesn't
work.

I'll have to state the analogy and then find the question. We stuff our issues in a
box and seal the box with a lid called "sex." This is why the issue of sex
frequently brings up our issues. Because we open the box and have to lift the lid,
so all the issue come crawling out. Is there a way to get at the issues without
using sex to trigger them?

Sex is only one symptom. Recognize that there are many lids that cover that box.
Sex is just one of those lids. Each person will be able to get at those issues
through whatever lid they have that triggers it. For some people it is sex. For
others it is money. Some people's issues are not triggered by sex. For others, sex
is a really good trigger. It really depends on the individual.

I always find myself not making certain choices because I am sensitive to others.
I would rather not cause problems for them. I don't want to hurt other people.

This is a very good question. You have voiced the mass consciousness here. One
of the greatest gifts that you can give the people in your life is being 100% you.
This means that you be absolutely honest in all interactions and not take
responsibility for their pain. We know this is a big one for most people on your
world. You cannot ever be responsible for other people's pain. Some of you have
walked down the street and you've seen your friend. You say, "Oh, you got a
haircut. It looks nice." The friend then freaks out and think you are patronizing
them. You've all had experiences like this where you've been totally
misunderstood. You must, at all costs, express yourself while not taking
responsibility for the reaction. You can say nice things all the time, and still push
people's buttons.

That is what I've been finding out. I've finally been making choices for myself,
and people have been getting upset. But I still want these people as friends.
You cannot sacrifice your own growth and the growth of others for a relationship
based on illusion.

Well, most of these people have been part time meta-fizzlers. They like the
concepts, but they don't want to apply them in their lives.

Good term. We might borrow that one. This is another one of those topics where
we can't stress enough to you that the greatest service you can provide to your
neighbor is being fully who you are. Let us give you an example using a fictional
model. Let's say that a woman is afraid of heights. And let's say that she came
into this life to resolve a lifetime where she jumped off a cliff. Let us also say that
her husband recognizes that she is afraid of heights. So he makes sure she never
is around anything high. How is she easily going to be able to face what she came
here to face if the husband keeps steering her away from the heights? It makes it
more difficult. It prolongs the pain. If, in the husband's excitement he says, "I
want to go hot air ballooning. Do you want to come with me?" She may just say
yes because she recognizes it is something to move through. She cannot do that
unless the husband gives her the opportunity to face those issues. This is what
we mean by enmeshment. You've lost the boundaries between you and other
people. You try to protect other people. But in reality, you are really only trying
to protect yourself from their anger, disapproval or invalidation. So the husband
thinks he is protecting his wife from her fear. What he is really doing is protecting
himself from being witness to her pain, or from guilt that maybe he caused her
pain. He is protecting himself. At the same time, he is enabling the wife to
continue being afraid and avoid her fears, when that is what she came here to
face! The biggest gift you can give anyone in your life is to be fully 100% who
you are. It is then that each person will be challenged. It is then that each person
can take responsibility for their lives, fears, and emotions. Those emotions and
reactions are never caused by someone else. They all come from you. The
greatest gift you can give in a relationship is to not hold back who you really are.

That is one of my button-pushers here. I don't think you have the right to
emotionally hurt another person. If they don't ask you to be completely honest
and hurt them, why do you have the right to hurt them?

There is a big difference between deliberately hurting someone and being who
you know yourself to be. If the husband dragged the wife to the top of the cliff
and forced her to look over the edge, that is deliberately hurting her. Being who
he is naturally is not hurting her. If she chooses to be hurt, it is her choice. But
there are no victims. There cannot ever be victims. If you ever believe in any
instant that someone else can hurt another person, then you polarize between
victims and hurters. That is then the way you will see the universe. There is a big
difference between deliberately hurting someone and being fully who you know
yourself to be. You may not ever know what will hurt your mate. In your
innocence and excitement, you may take her to one of those cliffs not knowing
about that fear. How can you protect yourself from doing that? You can't. The
outcome is the same. The only thing you can be is fully who you are. That is
empowerment. That is disengaging yourself from the covert connections you have
with people, and recognizing the greater spiritual connections that you all have
that you have always had. You can never hurt another person. Never!

If you are not being your 100% natural self, then you are manipulating people
around you. I don't see there is an exception to that. I've examined times in my
communications with others where I've "softened the blow." My partner and I
have thought that our excitement would be too much for the other person. In
second guessing what the other person's reaction would be and then altering our
natural self expression, we've always screwed up the communication.

You compromise your integrity when you withhold. If you do not express who you
are, you are lying. You are lying to yourself. You are lying to the other person.
That is an even greater hurt than the truth. Then they only know you through
your lies. They do not know who you are. They cannot ever love you for who you
are, because they don't know who you are. Withholding your excitement for fear
of hurting another is a 3D idea. You cannot carry this into 4D if you want to truly
express who you are. If you look at a Pleiadian, they would never be hurt by the
comment of another. This is because they recognize that they create all
comments that happen. They are the ones generating their reality. They cannot
be victim of hurt. If you are continually protected from the anger of another (just
like if you are continually protected from the cold), someday you are going to
have to go outside and because you've never felt the cold, it is going to be
devastating to you. It is, in one way, honorable that you care about the feelings
of another. But in one way, it is also insulting. This is because you do not allow
them to ever fully be who they are. You protect them from the things that you
fear, not necessarily the things they fear. This is a no win situation.

What if you find yourself wanting to express following your excitement 100%,
and yet you find that others are telling you that it would hurt them? How do you
deal with those situations in the transition we are in now between 3D and 4D?

At the risk of sounding really rude, to hell with what the others think. You may
tell others that you understand what they are saying, but to hold it in would eat
you up inside. Be truthful. To hold this in will be lying to the other person. You
can tell them that. If they don't agree with you, that is their choice. But we don't
believe that most of you really know what happens to you inside when you hold
back truth. When you hold back that which you are, it submerges itself. It buries
itself into your cells. It starts building painful toxins first on the emotional level,
and then actually on the physical level. If you do not express who you are 100%,
you must store those judgments of who you are inside of you. Those judgments
eat you up. Cancer, heart disease, and all of those lovely things you have on your
planet are a result of your own judgment that you are not worthy to be fully who
you know yourself to be. You stuff it. The more you stuff it, the more diseased
you get. Literally. Stuffing these things can cause tremendous pain throughout
your life. Releasing these things will cause ecstasy. You can retrain yourself to
know who you are and the first step is that in a confrontive situation, first think
what it is you want to say. Let yourself think it first. Many of you don't let
yourself think about what you really want to say. You stuff it before you can
really cognize the idea. Write it down. Say it into a tape recorder. Get
comfortable with who you are. This will naturally teach you to express yourself
without the heavy judgment you've had in the past. But if you are not even
allowing yourself to think these thoughts, you are not going to be able to train
yourself to speak them. You won't know what the thoughts are. Let it be okay to
start thinking them. Write them down. Externalize them. Get them outside of
your energy field so they don't lodge in your energy body. You are all divine
portions of the creator. Your design is built to 100% every moment channel the
energy of All That Is. All That Is is neutral. All That Is is neither positive nor
negative. It is stasis, balance. When you deny and shut off any part of yourself,
you shut off the very foundation of the energy of your creation. You judge that
only parts of you are worthy and the other parts are not. It throws you into
disharmony. Therefore all of your relationships to some degree have disharmony,
reflecting that which you feel within. You cannot withhold any portion of you. You
will be able to learn to tell when what you have to say is balanced an integrated
compared to when what you have to say is an attack or is a manipulation. You
will learn how to tell the difference. The more you practice, the more you will be
able to tell. If you feel you want to take gradual steps into this idea of expressing
who you are, then before you express get yourself centered and feel if what you
have to say is balanced and integrated or do you have a desire to be fulfilled by
your expression to that person. If you do (to get them to do something, for
instance), then there is a hidden motivation and the expression may not be clean.
But by all means at least express it to yourself. Know who you are. Listen to your
thoughts and feelings. Get out that pent-up energy. Your relationships are going
to blossom and change when you stop taking responsibility for the other person's
reaction. Before you express something, ask yourself what desire you have in the
expression. Sometimes you may find that the desire is to change the other
person. That is not a clean idea. Sometimes you can see that. Other times you
cannot. There are times when you cannot see it, times when you say to yourself,
"It is clean as a whistle," and you express your thought. If that expression is an
attack, you are expressing it to someone who has a belief system that they can
be attacked. So what you are doing is providing for the other person a way for
them to heal their belief systems by providing that stimuli. In the expression,
whether it is attacking or not attacking, you provide a way for the other person
(the recipient) to learn and to grow. If they have no issue about being attacked,
they are not going to feel attacked. If they believe they can be attacked and that
is one of their issues, they will feel attacked. Again, you cannot take responsibility
for how the person reacts. You don't know how they are going to react! They may
not be triggered at all. Your interactions with each other are choreographed in
perfect synchronicity. There is no reaction that doesn't belong. All expressions
belong in the context they are expressed. It cannot be any other way. There are
not mistakes in creation. There are no wrong things. There is only neutral
expression, and the synchronicity of All That Is. If your wife walks up to you and
says, "You are a jerk," if you feel hurt, then that's part of the synchronicity for
your own growth.

I understand that. That wasn't my question. Let's say my wife walks up to me

and says I'm a jerk, and she does it after she has thought about it and believes it
is clean and is not an attack. Let's also say I have no emotional reaction to it, so
it's fine. She can tell me I'm a jerk, and that's cool. If she has perceived that she
is clean on it, and if it is indeed an attack...

Then she will eventually make the recognition because your lack of reaction will
not satisfy her needs. So it's essential for her to express that, whether she thinks
it's clean or not.

Okay, I was just picking hairs because I thought you were saying that we all will
be able to discern all the time whether what we wanted to say was clean or not,
and I don't agree with that. In fact, I'm not saying that it has to be clean. I'm
just saying that it is our experience that we will not be able to discern. In the
addictive state, we will not be able to discern what is clean and what is not. One
of the things I think is so wonderful about relationships is that we can love each
other enough to be mirrors for that discernment.

Yes. All right, let us clarify. We apologize if the language was misleading. We
suggest that as you're training yourself to express that you first ask yourself if it's
clean or not clean. If it's not clean and you can recognize it, then go ahead and
process it however way you want to do it. If you think it's clean, then express it,
because that in itself is part of the growth process. We did not mean to imply that
every time you analyze it you'll have the answer. That is not what was implied.
What if it is your excitement to do something (like go to the movies) that your
mate is not excited about?

If your excitement is based on another person's cooperation, it's not true

excitement. If it's your excitement to take your wife to a dance, but your
excitement is based on her cooperation, it's not clean. If it's your excitement to
go dancing for the sake of dancing (not based on anyone else's excitement), then
it's clean, and in your excitement if she is truly excited, then you will have
matched your vibrations.

What is the fine line of deliberately hurting another individual? If you talk about
something with your mate, knowing that it will hurt that person emotionally, do
you have the right to hurt that person or could you just channel that energy of
excitement in another direction?

You will never 100% always know what will hurt someone.

But if you do.

But you can't know. It is not possible. You may walk up to your husband one day.
He may be feeling absolutely joyous and ecstatic, and you may say, "You look like
a pig today." And if he feels really good about himself, that's not going to hurt
him in the least. You cannot ever know what will hurt another person. So stop
trying to take responsibility for the other person's reactions!

Is all this based on a concept of victimhood? I don't think you mentioned

victimhood per se in the third- to fourth-density relationships model.

Well, third-density relationships often express victimhood. Fourth-density

expresses self-responsibility and self-empowerment. Victimhood would come into
it, but we didn't make it a major point. We are not sure that you are
understanding or accepting the concept that we are saying. If your husband is
100% in his Godself and in his joy and excitement, you could say the nastiest
thing to him in the world, and it will not hurt him. You can never hurt another
person. They can choose to feel hurt. You cannot hurt another person, ever,
because each of you (like it or not) are totally responsible for your own emotions
and reactions. This in and of itself can be a great freedom, because it's the way
to take your power back. Recognize that the bottomline intention is never to
destroy but always to love. Even the most heinous acts are an outcry to learn
love. That is the bottomline intention of creation, underneath everything else.
And every action is based on that intention of learning to love. Examine your
beliefs. If you really believe that Creation is Love, if you really, really believe that,
then every action, every instance must support ultimately that belief. If you
believe that actions can actually hurt, then there's got to be a belief somewhere
in there which says that God or Creation can be hurtful.

Maybe I can help clarify things for the questioner. No other person knows what is
going to hurt me. And to withhold a comment because it will hurt someone is
assuming responsibility for their emotions and thus for their growth. No one else
in this room is prepared to accept responsibility for another human being's
growth. To do so will actively (if they're in a weakened or unempowered state),
inhibit that growth and actually sabotage their own life's growth and the things
their chosen to confront. It will lock your relationship into third density, also. This
was something I was going to ask in direct relation to the earlier question. Let's
say I'm in my relationship with my husband and I say to him, "If you have dinner
with another woman, that hurts me, so don't tell me about it if you do that
because that hurts me and I don't want to hear about it." That's okay to ask for
that, but that's secrecy and it's third density. Right?

Yes!

So it's fine, but it's choosing third density instead of fourth.

Yes, there's nothing wrong with it, but recognize that's what you're choosing, so
you can't expect a fourth-density relationship if you are choosing third-density
interactions.

If you choose third density, then you're right, he has no right to tell me that or to
force that upon me. But isn't that also expecting conditional love? [Everyone in
unison] Third density!

You're making a choice based on third density, secrecy, so all the other parts of
the package deal go with it.

Where does the hurt come from and why is it still there if we're in this transition
and we should be looking at these fourth-dimensional relationships? Why do we
feel third-dimensional hurt?

You are looking at the fourth-density relationships. In letting go from the third
density to the fourth density, many people are choosing to feel the hurt. Almost
in the same way as when you're frostbite, and you start getting the feeling back
in your feet that it really hurts. It's a significator. Many people are using it that
way, to remind you that you can still feel. So it is quite all right to continue to
choose third-density principles. Absolutely, it's fine. It's all equal anyway.
However, do not expect to choose third-density principles and expect the package
deal that comes with fourth density, because the cruise control does not come
with third density. It's one package or another package. You cannot mix the
packages! In all honesty, those in the room, reading this, and listening to the
tape are groundbreaking these ideas. These are threatening ideas for a lot of
people, and those who do choose to embrace the fourth-density principles are
going to choose to be exposed to the ground breakers. You all must start
identifying yourselves and sticking together!

If I have truly chosen fourth-density relationships or to move into fourth-density

relationships which are by choice, honesty, unconditional love, allowance, I won't
feel any pain, correct? If I'm feeling pain in my relationship, then actually...

You're holding onto something from third density.

So whenever I feel pain, then I need to go back and look at this versus that,
honesty versus this and find out which concept I'm holding onto.

Exactly, exactly. If you could 100% embrace the fourth-density idea of

relationships, no, you will not feel pain. But some of you are holding onto some of
the third as your are grasping for fourth, and you're feeling the pain, which an
indicator that you are making the change, and that's quite all right. But if you feel
that you're really in fourth but there's still this one thing, then go back and
examine what premise or belief that you have that is based on third-density
separation.
Again, let me repeat myself. If you are feeling any pain in a relationship, then I
am desperately trying to hold onto some third-density concept within that
relationship.

Yes, exactly. Now, with respect to your channel, we will have a short break.

Sasha:

All right, this is Sasha. Greeting to all of you.

Greetings, Sasha.

It's a pleasure to be here with you and especially talking about one of our favorite
topics. We're going to lighten it a little bit in the second half, and we're just going
to throw out to you that some of you have expressed some interest in the past
about knowing personally about some of my relationships. That information is
certainly available tonight if you would like to ask, just as a model so that you
can be presented with a different way of having relationships. Our way is not any
better or any worse than yours. It's simply different; it's an expression of who we
are. Germane gave you quite a lot of information and this information that he's
given you are the tools you will now have and carry into the future relationships
that you have in this life. It doesn't have to be through pain that these changes
are brought about; it really does not. Now, of course, if your belief system says
that you must grow with pain, then it's more than likely you will manifest it, but
you don't have to manifest pain. And you will begin to see, as you apply some of
the tools that were given to you this evening, some of the understandings, you
will begin to see changes in yourself and in your relationships. We cannot stress
to you how much we mean what we said about that. You will see changes if you
start to recognize when you are operating from third-density principles and
attempting to bring them into a fourth-density relationship. When you start
recognizing that and you start changing yourself, you are going to see
tremendous, powerful changes within your life. Do not be surprised, and those
changes will bring ecstasy and joy. They do not have to bring pain. Now, we'd like
to take this opportunity to just be available to you for questions. So we're going
to let you orchestrate this part of the evening. What would you like to talk about?
As you look into our future on Earth, what probabilities do you see? From the
probability that we view, the way we see the changes in relationships happening
is that the next 20 years is the crucial point. And within the next 20 years we
perceive first more stress in relationships that are fighting change, overall, not
necessarily in every single relationship. The actual overall societal change of
relationships may externally seem to be a change brought about by necessity,
necessity meaning single parents, perhaps with the shortage of a certain sex in a
certain age group. However, what will bring about changes in your relationships
will not be these external things but will be the internal momentum of your
change of energy. The external things will just be symptoms of the change. Do
you follow? So the next 20 years are the most crucial in our estimation. After
that, you will begin adapting with less resistance overall, but of course within the
next 20 years there need to be pioneers and groundbreakers, and many of you
will choose to be such pioneers, and that is up to you and your personal choices
and your agreements. But you are going to see changes in this lifetime,
absolutely 100% guaranteed. Now, we would like to talk about the idea that is
threatening to many of you, but as you know is a very solid foundation of
Pleiadian thought. And that idea is the ability to love more than one person
simultaneously. Third density is the density of polarity; literally that means two
ideas are present, like two ping-pong paddles with a ball in between, back and
forth, back and forth, back and forth. That dynamic cannot be broken in the
density of separation and duality. As you move into fourth-density type
relationships, you're going to find that this rigidity is not necessarily going to
work for you. It can, but it might not necessarily work for you. And so the
introduction then of a third or a fourth or a fifth person is going to change the
dynamic totally. And that is something that we would like to address, because
there are many fears in many of you about the idea of loving more than one
person simultaneously, and these fears are based in third-density premises so
they cannot be applicable in a fourth-density reality. One of these premises is
that if your mate loves another person, it takes away the love they can have for
you. That is a third-density idea, because using the paddle idea, you have a finite
amount of energy that you're batting back and forth with the ping-pong ball. You
are batting this ping-pong back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. There
is a finite amount of energy expended between these two because there's no
expansion. Now, if you in third-density, insert a third variable, you are going to
affect the energy between the two paddles, most definitely. The dynamics will
have to change. In a fourth-density structure (which has been outlined by
Germane), the ideas of unconditional love and trust, living in the moment,
honesty, etc., are present. These 4D ideas do not support the idea that a third,
fourth, fifth or millionth person entering your relationship can take away from the
love that a mate can feel toward you. It cannot happen. Absolutely cannot
happen. Period. Now, those of you who have spoken to us at length are aware
that presently I have a single mate. I was also in a mated group, and in this
mated group, the intensity of the love between the individuals was as strong, as
intense, as equal to the love that is now felt between myself and my one mate. If
another mate comes into my relationship now with my mate, it will not be a
break in the flow of the energy. It will simply be an adding of another facet
through which the energy can travel. And that is the difference between third-
and fourth-density relationships when you're talking about the ability to love
more than one person. The basic structure of third-density is set up to support
the idea of duality. The basic structure of fourth density is set up to experience
multiplicity. So therefore, the amount of love is never less in a fourth-density
relationship. Do you all follow?

Thoughts,comments or ideas or questions on this?

In third density it is so hard for me to see past the element of time. When you're
used to having a mate and therefore spending a certain amount of time with that
mate, and then you bring in another mate, there's a certain amount of time spent
with her that in my mind I perceive isn't spent with me. I get caught in the time
factor.

Well, if spending time with your mate is equal to the idea of you not spending
time with your mate, there will be no problem here. There is an inherent
inequality within the emotions that is saying, "This is better than this, so if I don't
have this, I am deprived." Do you follow? Now, again, we're not saying, as
Germane was not saying, that you must at all cost heal this, you must just go for
it. Make your choices. As you start choosing how you want to live, these things
are going to begin coming up. But recognize where the time element comes into
it. It is not time. It is your identification with something that is equal or unequal
in your reality. When you love yourself unconditionally, then the time spent with
your mate will be equal to the time spent alone.

So when I spend time with my mate, I'm not alone. When I'm not with my mate
I'm alone, so because of the aloneness, I don't feel the one is equal to the other.
Exactly. And again in fourth density, as Germane was saying, the recognition is
there that you are the generator of your happiness. You are it. And so when that
recognition is there, that is when it is equal to be with the mate or to be with
yourself because you love yourself as much as you love the mate. Both
companies are appreciated. Both are equal. And when you see your mate, it's
exciting in the moment; when your mate is not there, you are excited in the
moment with yourself.

Sasha, when you lived with a group, did you all live in one dwelling? I know now
you two have separate dwellings.

We did live in one dwelling that is very similar to the one I live in now only on a
larger scale. Did you want more on that?

Well, no, I was just curious about that because. Did you each have your own
rooms in that dwelling?

Yes

So that you could be by yourself as much as you could be with someone else.

Yes. There were basically three different phases of environments. One were
rooms of privacy, if you will, that only we entered. Then there is a secondary
room where you enter with a specific group, invited guests you may call it. And
then the third environment is the entire community environment, which is open
to all. Question. Or comment.

We have a lot of barriers in our society toward this information, some of which
are religion and societal conditioning. Can you help us learn how to share this
information with the public and teach a new form of relationships?

Just like you cannot be responsible for hurting another, you cannot be responsible
for enlightening another. Do what you can. But don't start any more crusades!
Each way is really different for each civilization, because the way that you will
heal this is parallel to your identity as a species. So for instance, the Pleiadian
viewpoint on the relationship issue came about because of our past and who we
were in the past and through this evolution we came to this point. The same
thing with the Essassani, and the same thing with the Orions. Now you on your
planet, through who you have been as a species, will develop your own personal
way to make this transformation. We do not perceive, at least right now, that
there is a method by which to communicate with Earth humans that is any more
thorough than what we have begun doing with you. The shift is going to happen.
It is going to happen quicker as people consciously make choices to pursue these
things. It will take longer if they resist it, but the transformation to fourth density
is going to happen. The critical mass is going to happen. It's just a question of
when. And that is up to all of you and whether you choose to take the bull by the
horns or whether you choose to run from the bull. Either way, it is still going to
happen.

Sasha, one of the other trouble areas in relationships is that a lot of third-density
relationships have been based on really feeling like you own or you possess the
other person. I assume in fourth density that is completely absent.
That feeling of ownership or possession is the idea that Germane was talking
about, having to deal with the need to control. So it's that issue. Just with a
different twist, or not even that different.

Sasha, you seem to be willing to talk about your own history tonight.

We knew you would be the one to bring it up.

Of course! Did you go right into this group from puberty?

Again, the line of puberty is not as defined as it is in your culture. After puberty I
did a lot of studying and traveling and had relationships that you might call
"flings." But when I came back to my planet and built a homebase there, that's
when I was in the group.

So you were with the group 10-12 years or so?

Equivalent, yes, very rough, but it comprised the greater portion of my

relationship experience.

And we've discussed before that there were seven members of this group, one
non-Pleiadian and six Pleiadians. Is there anything further that would be helpful
in terms of how and why you left the group? I assume the group itself also
disintegrated.

Yes, it was simply a recognition that the excitement of the individuals involved in
the group had changed. Several of the individuals wanted to go off the planet and
explore, and some chose to go into a more quiet time. So when the excitement to
change the relationship was recognized, there was no resistance, there was no
fighting, there were no tears or anger. It was a recognition that the next step was
to move in this direction. And because we had not anchored the past or the future
into this relationship, it was a natural movement from one state to another.

One last question along these lines. We know that the Orion relationships are
changing, that since the Dawn they will be reevaluating, rethinking their entire
concept of relationships not based on conflict. We are going through relationship
transformation. I would assume synchronistically that your civilization would also
going through relationship transformation. If that's true, what is the nature of
that transformation that you're experiencing as a culture?

We're not so much experiencing a change in relationships as you are in the same
way. It's a little bit different. The change that we are experiencing has more to do
with our change in our relationship with other species in that to some degree, not
out of a sense of prejudice, let us say, but we have often preferred relationships
with Pleiadian entities. We are opening up possibilities of relationships with all
different types of species, and therefore for instance, to give you a very dramatic
example, let's say there's a species who is so nonhuman that the sexual
expression becomes impossible. We are learning the expression of that sexuality
and that love in other ways. You follow?

Yes, and the time that you invited Bashar [an Essassani] and Harone [a Zeta] to
your dome...What happened?!

Harone was baffled to say the least. You know those Zetas.
But that's the kind of thing you're discussing. That was kind of a landmark...

We never said that inviting them to the dome was a sexual experience, but that
represents our reaching out to other species more than we ever have. Now,
regarding the group that I was involved in for that amount of time¾we've said six
Pleiadians and one non-Pleiadian, the non-Pleiadian was Essassani. That was not
so much of a challenge, but he taught us a thing or two.

In third density, we have a situation where when children have been adopted out
for example, it seems like it becomes very important to many of them to find out
who their genetic parents are. A lot of this searching goes on. Maybe, in your
situation you have enough control over your sexual activity that you know when
you are being fertilized and when you aren't. But in the transition that we're
going through we have not developed to the point where we're always aware of
that. Does the child always knows who their mother and father are? Does it
become important for the child to know?

No. The idea of some individuals feeling the desire to know their true parentage is
a reflection of the society's or your mass consciousness's need to gain your
identity through your past. And if you were to live in the moment, that becomes
irrelevant, because literally the past does not hold your answers; the present
holds your answers. So because the children in our society are literally the
children of all¾which is something we do share with the Essassani, no child feels
unwanted. No child feels the need to find their identity through their past. They
are very secure in their identity in the present. Again, a different developmental
structure.

If sexuality is allowed to have its natural place which is everywhere in everything

you do, it can't be used against you, can it?

Exactly. Again, sexuality is not sex. We're not talking about the sex act. We're
talking about the natural flow of energy in creation that is sexual/sensual in its
nature. It is of a creative vibration. Now, many people have made the comment
that they feel the sensual energy from the Pleiadian entities, and that is simply
that we allow that energy to flow; there is no sexuality/nonsexuality. There is
simply one expression, and if that is the case, sex does not become a big deal. It
cannot be used for control or manipulation. What is interesting is that we have
had encounters with females in your society (through this channel) who have
found us threatening because of the sensual energy perhaps that they are
perceiving in us. We are therefore threatening to them because perhaps we may
gain more attention in a direction they don't want to look at within themselves.

Not only that, but I haven't met a man who hasn't sat here and said, "Hmm,
going to bed with Sasha..." I mean, any man that I've been around, that I've
ever spoken to about being around your energy, all of a sudden this is the ideal
sensual package that they all think they've been searching for.

And we tone it down quite a bit!! [Laughter] Generally, if people judge their own
or others' sexuality, they may be very threatened by our type of energy.

On our planet and in third density, there is so much emphasis on body types. I
will be attracted to a certain body type; someone else will be attracted to this
body type. Right now, we are all supposed to be skinny body types and physically
in shape, and we're not supposed to have extra weight on us, etc. etc. In fourth
density or in Pleiadian reality, is there any attention at all on physical body type?
No, there is no attention on body type. Now, we may have preferences, but the
preferences are so unimportant.

Well, if you're all gorgeous, then why make a differentiation!

But do you know why we are all gorgeous?

Yes, I know. You all feel wonderful about yourselves, you feel beautiful, you feel
healthy, you feel vibrant.

That is very accurate. If you all felt that way, you would all be "gorgeous" also.
But one of the reasons why you perceive that you are not all gorgeous is that
being in third density you still must create ways to separate each other from each
other. So you come up with wonderful excuses for separation such as, "I can't be
with that person there because they're too skinny, they're too ugly, they're too
tall."

Oh, conditions.

Exactly. Conditional love. Separation. Those symbols have been necessary for you
to maintain the third-density identity. When you move into fourth density, those
symbols will change because you will change.

So you as Pleiadians can enjoy the differences in each others' bodies?

Oh yes. Most definitely. Now granted there are not a lot of differences in our
bodies, but we can certainly appreciate those differences when they are there.
Most definitely. But those differences are not from the result of trying to keep
ourselves separate. They are natural diversifying characteristics.

If you are so together and whole, why is it there is a need to have another
individual as a mate? If you are whole and not separate, you would have all that
male and female inside your body. So what is the need for a mate?

There is no need per se, in the sense that we do not need to seek this idea. We
may choose to have the idea literally for reasons of enjoyment and fun. Do you
see what we mean? Enjoyment. When we express ourselves sexually with
another entity, it is not that they fulfill a need for us. It is that together we play
and we rejoice our own individual connections with the Creator. But it is not a
need in any way.

It always seems in our society that people have relationships out of needs.

Yes, that is a third-density idea.

So basically there is a separation on many levels of ourselves and so we need to

keep looking for relationships to fill the void.

Exactly. And that is the cycle. If individuals keep looking for someone else to
fulfill their needs, no one else will ever fulfill their needs, so they will have a
series of unsatisfying relationships. When you learn that you are the only one
who can satisfy yourself, that you are the only one who can fulfill yourself, all of
your relationships become joyous and ecstatic. When you do not need something
from another individual, you can enjoy them for who they truly are.
It's almost like a paradox here. How can you really tell that it's not out of a need
for joy? How can you tell if it's just for joy?

It's a good question, and in no way would we ever say to you that if you discover
a relationship is out of need that you should disregard it and throw it away. In
fact, we would say, don't swing that opposite way if you discover that. So
discovering it in this particular case is not necessarily a way that is going to
change it. Living the relationship, recognizing your motivation and living it and
healing through living it rather than rejecting it is going to be much more helpful.
It's quite all right to be in a relationship out of need. Recognize the need. Work
with it, but do not reject it because of the need because you'll keep creating
relationships of need that you need to reject. Do you follow what we mean?

I'm thinking of multiple relationships at one time, having¾this individual and this
individual and this individual¾and finding you're able to love all these individuals.
Isn't that being loving out of certain needs and out of the separations inside the
person?

Does not have to be. Can be. If the person is looking for things that they want
inside of themselves in someone else and so they have all these different
relationships trying to get those things into themselves, then it is out of need,
yes. But if the person possesses all those things inside of them and is operating
from total joy and ecstasy, they can have a relationship with none or one or
many people based on joy, fun and excitement instead of need. Do you follow?
There is a fine line. There is a difference.

Sasha, why do you think it is so hard for us to visualize the relationships that you
are talking about, the ones that we're heading toward?

Because the visualization of these relationships¾if you take it past just the
intellect, triggers a tremendous amount of fear, and so the fear will reach out for
protection and will often put a wall down, so you cannot imagine it so you cannot
be threatened.

Just visualizing a relationship that wouldn't fulfill my needs would scare me.
Because that's what I'm in it for!

Yes. exactly.

Could you offer us an interpretation of these needs as pointing to our eventual

evolution into fourth density?

Yes. Fourth density is integration. Third density is separation. To use an analogy,

separation is all the ingredients to make a soup sitting separately on the counter.
Integration is the entire soup itself. Now, if you're going from third to fourth and
seeking to become whole, you must first recognize what the recipe requires. The
recipe requires carrots and celery. The recipe needs those things, so for you to
recognize those needs will allow you to chop them up and throw them into the
pot which will then become the true expression of who you are in an integrated
way. If you do not want to look at your needs, you will not know the recipe, you
will not know how to cook the soup, and it will take a lot more energy, pain and
struggle to eventually try to make up the recipe in a dark room. You see? The
needs are important for the eventual outcome of integration. So your needs in
and of themselves again are neutral ideas. They have no value except what you
ascribe to them. You cannot judge those carrots on the counter as being wrong.
How can you judge the carrots being wrong? It is your needs that are those
carrots. They are ideas that will eventually be put into the pot, which will
eventually become a very valuable thing. Nothing exists without a purpose, and
your needs, as dysfunctional as they may be, are still eventually part of that soup
and therefore very valid and very important that you read those lines in the
recipe and chop up those vegetables and make them a part of the creation you
are attempting to bring forth.

And the trick is to not expect to get the carrots from your mate.

Exactly. You have to be the one to go out and get the carrots.

Go to your own garden. In the way that relationships are set up now where it's
based on needs, if my mate does not provide the needs that I expected my mate
to provide, I become angry, and obviously I think I'm angry at him but I'm angry
because I'm not getting my needs met through my own efforts. Then in fourth-
density relationships do you not have anger, or you don't have that particular
expression of anger?

We don't have the expression of anger in the sense that we attach it to another
person. We do not have that particular expression. There are times when we
recognize, however, that perhaps we have not been true to ourselves. Now again,
we're talking in ways that are different than you, where we will recognize that we
have embraced a reality that we don't prefer, and the anger that is felt from that
is not externalized.

You're not attacking someone.

Exactly.

Sasha, in the book "Messages from Michael" in the first few pages Michael was
discussing the fact that one of his purposes for channeling information was to get
us off of this attention on relationships and help redirect our attention on self-
improvement (that's a paraphrase). It seems to me that part and parcel of third-
density relationships has been that the relationship would take precedent over all
else and that one of the things that we're going through is the realization that
personal growth must take precedence. As long as the relationship takes
precedence, personal growth will always have to suffer. Do you want to comment
on that?

Well, the way we will comment on it is that in one way there is no must in the
sense that you are very welcome to choose relationships over personal growth,
but don't expect the fourth-density package deal with that choice. If you want to
choose a relationship to be more important than your personal growth, then
recognize it's a choice of separation and that with that choice comes the package
of third density. If you choose personal growth over relationships, you are
choosing to integrate yourself, you are making a fourth-density choice and then
you can accept the fourth-density package to go along with it. So neither one is
wrong nor right. We are simply saying in terms of your choice, recognize what
you get with that choice.

But if you choose personal growth, then you can use your relationship to enhance
that?

If you choose personal growth, everything in your life (including your

relationships) will enhance that.
Recently my relationship changed with my mate and I went on vacation. The last
thing on my mind was a new relationship. But it came into my life suddenly.

You have given yourself an opportunity now to make a conscious choice. Do you
want to pursue this relationship from a third-density perspective, getting the
package deal there, or do you want to pursue it from the fourth-density
relationship and getting the package deal with that? So yes a whole new world
has opened up for you which can do nothing but enrich you in the long run.

I have one question. Back in this needs issue, I'm pursuing or engaged in a
relationship by intention at the fourth density, and I find that there's a tendency
to go back and forth. The intention is to maintain the fourth density, and if I don't
stay conscious of that intention really clearly, then there's a tendency to think I
need to fall into third density and fulfill needs for the other person. And even if
I'm able to say, "No, I refuse to do that," then I start sometimes feeling guilty
that if I'm involving the other person totally at a fourth-density level, then there's
no room for them to get their needs met by somebody else if that's their choice.

Ahhh, but there is. We are sorry, but would you narrow the question and ask it
again.

Well, I guess, the bottomline question with that as a set up is I don't understand
why I even feel concerned that I'm depriving them of getting their physical or
physiological needs met by another person, if that's the case, from my third-
density perspective. You cannot deprive another person. If they feel deprived, it's
their choice. I appreciate that, but why does it seem to be my choice to feel like
I'm doing that? That's my question.

Because you are making the transition from third to fourth, and you're
recognizing the specific areas that you would like to clear. There is a part of you
which still needs to feel validated by providing for another. And like we say with
the soup, that need is okay. It needs to be seen and put in the pot in order to
transform into the soup. So your seeing that in yourself is very important.

I follow, and I feel it's a very good answer, and I can tune into it. But that still
doesn't mean that I would then meet those needs? Just recognizing them rather
than meeting them.

We're not understanding the exact question.

Well, I think you are because you answered it perfectly! You said that when I
recognized the need that I would then put them in the pot. But does that mean
that I would then be physically satisfying those needs, or just recognizing that
her needs exist?

Her needs?

Yes.

That doesn't matter. You are not responsible for whether her needs are met or
not. All you are responsible for is what in your integrity you would like to give to
a relationship. That is all you are responsible for.

What Sasha is not saying is that you cannot satisfy those needs of another
person. But you can play out that game, pulling yourself back into third density,
which is exactly what I do not want to do. But sometimes I seem to feel that I
could just get out of the way and she could get her needs satisfied whatever way
she wanted but that's depriving the potential of the fourth-density relationship.

Literally 75% of anger in relationships stems from one partner or the other
believing or being angry that the other person is not fulfilling needs. Seventy-five
percent. Now, imagine what a relationship would be like if you did not need to be
fulfilled by another. For one thing, the level of anger would be very, very
low¾hidden anger, hostility, nearly nonexistent. You cannot know what the other
person's needs are. They will not verbalize them; sometimes they don't even
know themselves on the conscious level. If you try to get caught in the game of
satisfying those needs, you will get caught because it is a game, and because the
person is seeking to have needs met outside of themselves, they will never be
satisfied, and then they will be angry.

So all I can do is present myself at my fourth-density awareness, and let it be

whatever it ends up being. And just be pure in my own intention.

Exactly.

One of the things that we ran into was that I finally started examining what I felt
my needs were, and my two basic needs were safety and protection. My husband
tried to provide that safety and protection for me, but he would have no idea how
I want that provided. In other words, my idea of safety was for him to put his
arm around me every time we walked into a room, but he didn't know that that
was what I wanted.

Exactly. You can never second-guess another person, whether you're trying to
protect them from their emotions or you're trying to communicate to them, you
cannot know, so the only thing that you can do is be 100% who you are. Period.

So this now leaves us with one more need: the need for somebody to be with us
that maintains the fourth-density intention also. Obviously that is a trap.

If you have that need, you're not in fourth density. You are still playing the third-
density game.

Is one of the reasons that new relationships are so delightful is because we

haven't started manipulating the other person?

Yes, there has not been time yet for the new person to fulfill or not fulfill your
needs. That's why that sense of ecstasy is there. However, as soon as they either
start fulfilling you or not fulfilling you, the anger, whether covert or overt, starts
setting in, and that's when the manipulation and the control begins.

That is so correct, because I was just thinking about the new relationship I was
in, and it started out, I remember saying, "I don't expect anything from it," and
then I realized about two months into it that I couldn't say that anymore, I
expected a few things! If the excitement and the romance does not peter out by
its own nature then it's simply sabotaged to death. Am I on track?

Yes. Now the Pleiadian relationships framework can be likened to the beginning of
your relationships when your expectations were very low and you are truly in the
level of enjoyment, ecstasy, play, caring and sharing. That taken 100-fold deeper
is what our relationships are like all the time. So when you have no expectations
about the other person fulfilling your needs, what a load off your mind that is,
what a load off your energy. You can enjoy yourself, you can truly experience
unconditional love. The conditional love that is felt in third density is the love you
will give if your needs are met, and if your needs are not met you don't give that
love.

Can you begin to experience that love while still having the needs and
recognizing them also?

Absolutely, yes.

So we don't have to wait for our needs to be gone for us to experience this love?

Correct. Again, it's not a light switch going on and off. It's a gradual movement
from third- to fourth-density thinking.

I know a lot of people right now would chuck the whole fourth-density idea if they
thought they had to manually clear all their needs before they got there. By
recognizing when you are conditionally loving someone, you then know there's an
issue, so then you can actually go through it by turning that around to
unconditionally loving them in spite of the issue. It will just automatically start
unfolding.

Yes. What wonderful things await all of you! We know that your relationships are
painful, and we've heard comments that humans have made such as, "If you
can't feel the pain, you can't feel the ecstasy." In third density, that makes a lot
of sense. In fourth density, that idea cannot exist. You all have a tremendous
amount of love and joy locked within you that will begin to blossom when you
stop expecting another person to validate you, when you stop expecting another
person to make you feel whole. Once that idea is relinquished, you will soar. That
love that you will contain will be beyond what you can now conceive. You are
moving in that direction, and those of you who choose to embrace the fourth-
density idea, whether diving right in or taking it baby steps, going to start seeing
changes, and you're going to start feeling changes inside of yourself. The pain will
start to subside. The joy will start to grow, and we truly are excited to watch this
happen because you will start to begin to see your divine connection. You will
start to begin to know truly the beams of love that you really are. We would like
to honor you and acknowledge you for taking a path that, yes, is difficult. But we
would also like to remind you that if you were incapable of taking the path you
never would have chosen it. And so, we would like to close this evening with that
acknowledgement and recognition of all that you've chosen, for like the analogy
of the soup and the carrot, the things that you see now that you don't like in
yourself, that you judge, that you're angry at, are so valuable because they make
up the soup. If you judge them, they will stay there on the counter, and they will
always be an issue. But if you allow them to exist and you take them with you in
your growth, they will transform.

Much, much, much love to each and every one of you. It has been an absolute
joy to have been a part of your gathering this evening, and it is our sensing that
we will speak again on this matter shortly. Much love and goodnight.

Copyright © 1993, 1995 by Royal Priest Research, All Rights Reserved.

 ET History and Sexuality
Category: Channeled.

This is Germane. Since there were two subject matters advertised for this evening,
we will integrate them together. Now one was the idea of the sexuality of some of
the races that are very close to you, in your galactic family and another subject
was that of galactic heritage.

What we're going to do is to talk about some of the sexual belief systems of
several races that are close to you. This will also illuminate the particular societal
structures that each of these races have so you'll get a little bit of both - galactic
heritage and sexuality.

Orion Civilization - Conflict

We might as well begin with the polarized point of view. We're going to begin first
with a civilization called Orion - that is how you see it from your Earth plane.
We're going to talk a little bit about how their societal structure affects you on
Earth at this time. First, recognize that these particular civilizations we are talking
about represent either your physical forefathers or forefather energies. This is the
energy, the belief systems that you as a civilization have been exposed to during
your infancy as a species. As you know, whatever energy you are exposed to as
infants, you have a good possibility of adopting in adulthood. So let us start with
Orion. Basically we'll outline to you the philosophies of the Orion civilization.

First of all, the Orion civilization was based on the idea of conflict. They were one
of the areas of your galactic family that was committed to resolving polarity or
conflict. So the general dynamic is as follows: The Empire was the dominant force
within the Orion civilization. This Empire took it upon itself to be responsible for its
citizens. That responsibility often meant they would use force and other methods
you would perhaps think did not have much integrity. For any of you who have
seen the Star Wars trilogy, the Empire in the movie is kindergarten compared to
the actual expression of this Empire energy within the Orion civilization.

The Empire vs. the Black League Stalemate

So you have the active Empire individuals, you have individuals who were the
subjects of the Empire and you have a very widespread underground group who
resisted the Empire, who were the freedom fighters. These individuals we've called
the Black League. "Black" is not meant to be negative; it simply means the idea of
absorption or being hidden - they did not want to be found. If they were found,
they would be annihilated. Thus you can see the dynamic. These resisters were
fighting the Empire and both the resisters and the Empire were using the same
methodologies with which to bring about their desires. In a tug-of-war, for
instance, if the weight is balanced on both sides, neither person is going to win. It
took them a very, very long time to realize that all they were doing was holding a
balance through the amount of negativity each group placed on the other. That's
the general dynamic of the Orion civilization. Many of you on Earth, incarnationally
speaking, have connections with the Orion civilization and have come here in order
to break certain cycles, certain patterns of conflict. Earth was a place where you
could come, lose your identity or your memory of Orion and start again. The idea
of losing your memory has actually been something that's worked for you rather
than against you, because if you had kept your entire memory intact, some of the
memories (especially the Orion memories) would be quite intense, to say the
least, and even a bit scary for some of you.

Orion Monogamous Relationships

Now let us talk about the relationships in the Orion civilization. You will find that
the nature of personal relationships in any society is a product of the dynamics of
that society - your civilization included. This means that the Orion relationships
were a product of their dynamic of conflict. So you can imagine that the Orion
relationships would be very, very intense in a certain way. The Orions have what
we could call monogamy, although it's different from the monogamy you have
upon your world. The Orions mate for life. The relationship between Orions and
their mate is of number one importance in the lifetime of the individual. This is
because of the societal dynamics within the Orion system. The relationship
dynamic is primarily that of the Black League civilization (the resistance groups),
because this is the energy that you on Earth, at least for now, resonate with the
most. So this is the one we will talk about. When an Orion is the equivalent of a
teenager at puberty, they already have their antennae out looking for a mate, but
it's not necessarily the way it is on your planet. There's a recognition - an instant
recognition - when two people come together who are to be mated, and there's no
doubt of that recognition. During the period of time when one is seeking a mate,
there is no (to use a colloquialism) sleeping around, for an Orion is not aroused by
anyone who is not their mate. So when the mate is finally found, the arousal and
the excitement come because the person is their mate.

In your civilization you are attracted to someone first and then you decide whether
or not to make them your mate. This is the opposite. This is for a very specific
reason, born out of the conflict of their civilization: They have learned through
thousands of years not to trust. Very often other forces infiltrate their reality, and
so they've learned never to allow themselves to be vulnerable except with
individuals who are very, very close to them. The mate is literally the one person
with whom they allow themselves total vulnerability. This is why an individual is
excited only by the mate because they literally cannot allow themselves to be
vulnerable with anyone else. That is the energy dynamic behind how their
relationships are structured.

Surrogates

So, you ask, is there ever infidelity in the Orion system? It depends on your
definition of infidelity. There is no "sneaking around." That is not an idea that is
compatible with the Orion philosophy because of the idea of vulnerability. But if
someone has to go on a mission or travel away from the mate, it is expected of
each of the mates to take a surrogate. When one is chosen as a surrogate in the
Orion civilization, it's a tremendous honor and privilege. There is no competition
between surrogates and primary mates. Again, the entire dynamic is a result of
the structure of their society. When you're chosen as a surrogate - and you choose
to be a surrogate, because it's definitely a two-way street - the relationship
becomes as mates, but there is an understanding that the surrogate relationship is
temporary. This surrogate relationship is for the purpose of releasing energy
through sexuality, but also through nonsexual intimacy, to release the energy of
conflict, to release emotional energy. So you can see that the entire expression of
relationships was from your point of view perhaps a little limiting, but from their
point of view extremely fulfilling. There were some situations of group marriage
that were usually temporary. If one mate was killed, for instance, another mated
couple may take in the remaining spouse temporarily to act as surrogates until
that spouse finds another mate. But generally speaking there is a lot of rigidity.
They did find it to be extremely satisfying for their civilization.

One thing we would like to say here, which also points out the difference between
you and the Orions, is that the Orions do not know the concept of sexual fantasy.
They are extremely disciplined in their mentality. Because of this, they repress
fantasy, for fantasy simply does not exist. Fantasy with someone you saw walking
down the street, for instance, does not exist. That is an undisciplined thought.
Through eons of time they have been disciplining themselves, and those types of
thoughts were simply less and less necessary. So the closest thing to an Orion
fantasy would be a female thinking about when her mate is coming home, thinking
about how nice it will be to take the mate in her arms, etc. Any fantasy or any
thought of intimate expression can only be expressed - even in thought - in the
direction of the mate. This is not anything that is imposed on them, so it's not a
repression of anything. It's simply the way they are.

Let's stop for a minute to ask if there's something you have a comment or
question about.

Q: Is it totally a cultural thing? Or has it been encoded in their genetics after

awhile?

It is encoded in their genetics after awhile, yes. Experience does change genetics.
So it would depend on which period of time. The Orion civilization was many,
many thousands of years long, so it would depend on which era you're talking
about as to how genetically coded it was. During the times of the intense conflict,
before the conflict was resolved, there was a lot of genetic change. When the
conflict was eventually resolved and they had to learn to live differently, societally
speaking, they started thinking of different ways to express their relationships. But
that was a difficult one. Because they did not have the idea of fantasy outside of
the idea of mates, they moved very slowly. But, yes, it is eventually genetically
encoded.

Q: What about their glandular system and the way they react to stress? Does that
have anything to do with the way the react to their sexuality, how they're excited?

We have talked in the past about this and Akbar has given the information in the
book. However, there are basically three different types of sexual expression that
the Orions used with their mates: One is for procreation; one is for exchange of
intimacy; and the other is the expression of sexuality as a raw energy form. When
one is under stress, that is the way the stress is released.

Q: I was thinking about how they had to learn to control their stress reactions
because of the conflict.

After awhile it's no longer control - it's second nature. Now, those of you who are
familiar with some of the Star Trek scenarios, we will compare this idea to that of
the Vulcan. The Vulcan is repressing; it takes a force to repress the emotionality.
The Orions have gotten to the point where they are not repressing. It is simply the
way they've rewired themselves to channel emotional energy. It is channeled
through discipline and released through sexuality. This is why it is of primary
importance that each Orion have a mate. You on your planet have a combination
of sexual attitudes - some from Orion and some from other civilizations. But you
will find that in history on your planet during wartime, marriage rates increase. We
do not know if this has been studied or not on your planet, but you will find that
mated relationships become very important during wartime. This is a direct
connection to what we are talking about regarding the channeling of certain primal
energies. So if any of you wish to examine that further, you may do some
research. During times of peace other things are looked at, because there are
other ways of channeling energy. You don't have to be as disciplined.

The Pleiadian Civilization - Positivity

Now we're going to go on to another civilization - the Pleiadian civilization. This is,
to some degree, an opposite energy to the Orion civilization. As with the Orions,
their methodologies of relationships and sexuality was born out of their
environmental conditions. In the ancient, ancient Pleiadian past, the Pleiadians
were very desirous of maintaining positive energy in their reality. At this time they
did not understand how vital negative energy is when you balance them and
channel them. So they were intent on repressing negativity. Because of this focus
on positivity, a lot of their relationship structures and their beliefs about
relationships and sexuality came from this desire to not look at negativity.
Whereas the Orions were very rigid and very disciplined in the expression of their
emotion and their vulnerability, the Pleiadians are much more open and flowing
with these positive emotions.

Present-Time Monogamy

There are primary relationships within the Pleiadian system - what you would call
marriage, one on one - but it's a little bit different from what you have here on
your Earth. They have ceremonies, but when they pledge their love to a person,
they're not pledging their love for the future. They are instead pledging and
celebrating their love in the moment. This brings up a lot of insecurity in some
individuals we've talked to, because many individuals on your planet desire the
security of having someone that you know is going to be there when you're 80
years old and in your rocking chair. But as you know from the statistics on your
planet, pledges at the altar do not guarantee that. So what the Pleiadians have
done is to recognize spontaneity, recognize emotionality in the moment - and that
is how they choose to live their lives. We would consider that to be
nonmonogamous according to your definition of monogamous. From their
definition of monogamy (and they've kind of twisted the definition a little bit),
they're monogamous in the moment. The person they're with at that moment is
the only person they are with energetically. That's their idea of monogamy.

If you are in a Pleiadian civilization, the expression of love and sexuality at that
moment is literally so complete and balanced and whole that there is no need to
attach themselves to the other person and drag them through eternity. Because
they have so many of these whole and complete interactions, they feel secure - in
themselves and in their expression of their sexuality. There are also married
groups, which you have here on your world called "polyfidelity," which is simply
taking the monogamy idea and expanding it so instead of two people, there are
three or more. These marriage units are very loving, very connected, very
committed to each other. This does not necessarily mean that they never live with
one person or never have a type of marriage relationship with one person; many
of them do. The difference is that they recognize immediately when it's time to
move into something else. When you on your planet are in a relationship and feel
that it's time to leave the relationship and you go and tell your mate, the mate
quite often will be very hurt, will attempt to latch on to you, will show a lot of pain,
etc. On your planet, however, 100% of the time when one of you feels the
relationship is changed, both of you have. It's just that one person may not be
recognizing it, or may be living in their own type of creation and cannot see what's
really happening. This is changing now, as all of you are committing yourselves to
your own personal growth.

Within the Pleiadian system if the woman comes home and says, "This has been
an absolutely wonderfully fulfilling relationship for me. I feel now that it's time for
me to go to the other side of the planet and do something else," there's total
understanding, total respect with no personal pain withheld on the part of the
other person. They recognize that it must be the time, and there is a
disconnection. This allows relationships to be very fluid and the sexual energy
within the partners is not held or blocked but is channeled through their entire
body and into their lives. One interesting contrast is that the Orions do not express
sexuality in day-to-day life. They express their sexuality only when they're with
their mate in a certain disciplined time period. The Pleiadians allow their sexual
energy to permeate every aspect of their life. So if you have an interaction with a
Pleiadian, you may feel that there's a lot of sensual energy coming from that
being. It's because they do not differentiate between sensuality or sexuality and
life. Sensuality or sexuality to them is life; it's the complete and full channeling of
that energy through their embodiment. That philosophy is brought into their
society by how they structure their relationships.

Q: What's the definition of monogamy?

On what planet?

Q: From the definitions I've looked at, my mind thinks of monogamy as not being
sexually committed to just one person. The definitions don't even say anything
about sex.

Stephen said something very interesting yesterday about true monogamy, the
idea that most people on Earth at this time do not practice true monogamy. What
he said was that many of us base our decision to be monogamous on insecurity -
of the moment and of the future - fear and unwillingness to do what you think is
right, instead of your parental or societal conditioning. And that is not a valid
choice for monogamy. Not that it does not occur here - it does - but when it
occurs on that basis is where the problems are.

Monogamy Defined

The definition in your society of monogamy is two people committed to each other,
not having sexual relations with another person. We would say that true
monogamy is when two people choose that idea of expression from an excitement
and a willingness to play off the partner for personal growth. When monogamy is
chosen consciously instead of as a denial of something else (which we'll talk about
in a moment), that would be expressed as true monogamy, a conscious choice.
However, there are individuals in your society who choose monogamy for other
reasons. When you are in a monogamous relationship, it's very, very safe; you get
used to the partner, you don't have to face certain issues, certain fears, and you
can go about your life focusing your sexuality in a very tight beam, kind of like the
Orions. If you don't choose to expand that beam out of fear, then is that true
monogamy or is that choosing from fear?

You already know that many people on your planet choose monogamy, yet how
many actually have extramarital relationships? The idea of extramarital
relationships is not a choice of true monogamy. True monogamy would mean that
the idea of extramarital relationships does not stimulate you on a conscious, deep
level. True monogamy would be rather Orion-like - when that is actually what they
are excited by. We really didn't want to talk about this tonight but, since we've
already opened our mouth, we'll finish what we're saying. In your society now, as
your consciousness is raising, you are going to be able to make some conscious
choices for yourself. You're going to be able to make choices as to whether you
want to choose monogamy for reasons of growth or for reasons of hiding fears or
latching onto security.

As your consciousness raises, the structures of your relationships are going to

begin changing. That's what's occurring now. Many of you are seeing that the
divorce rate is going so high. This is not because there's disease and terrible
things going on in your society; it's because the structure of relationships on your
planet is changing. So you're running around and reshifting yourself to see what
works for you, to find out what your own inner truth is. For the Pleiadians, this
inner truth is not to stifle sexual energy whenever it is felt just because they have
a mate. The mate is not threatened by expressions of sexuality from their mate.
There is no idea of threat or negativity from sexual expression within the Pleiadian
civilization.

Now, none of these civilizations are better than yours. They are different. You
have parts of them in you because they have been your energetic forefathers;
they've taught you a lot. But neither of their expressions are better. It's important
that we say this, because you on Earth will eventually come up with a system of
relationships that is perfect for you. Eventually, that system of relationships will
not have denial within it, will not have pain and fear, but will be one that will be
birthed from the type of environment you had growing up as a species. It will work
for you. Right now you don't know which direction to go in; you don't know how to
do this. But you are already beginning to create it. It's very important that we say
that. So when we talk about the sexuality of your galactic family, we're giving you
bits and pieces of who you are, bits and pieces of what is inside of you, so that
you can choose whether you want to embrace them or not or learn from them and
create something for yourself. No one here is any better, any more evolved. It's
simply a matter of choice.

Dis-eases, the Consequences of Repressing Negativity

Q: Do the Pleiadians have AIDS? Are they creating AIDS?

Very good question! We were telling you a little earlier that the environment that
the Pleiadians were birthed out of was an environment of the repression of
negativity. In ancient Pleiadian history there was a period of time when they were
repressing so much negativity that it had to bleed out in other directions. They
could no longer hold that well of negativity within them. What they manifested
were dis-eases very similar to your AIDS disease. So what they learned from that
is that when they are not being true to themselves, when they are not channeling
both positive and negative into their lives and using it for growth, when they are
denying and repressing, it causes dysfunction or disease in their society. So back
then they did have some disease, yes. It was entirely a product of what they were
repressing. AIDS, Repression of Sexuality The issue of AIDS on your planet now
has many, many dimensions to it. The dimension we will choose to talk about for
now, with your question, is that ultimately the reason it is occurring on your planet
now is indicative of the repression you have about sexuality - your own and
others'. We understand it's not necessarily a sexual disease. However, if you say
AIDS to a roomful of people, what's the first thing they think? Sex! So it's coming
up on one level only (there's much more to this) as a way for you to examine your
sexual premises, to understand where your fears, and anger and pain lie, and to
release that. AIDS and cancer, more than any other disease you have on your
planet, are directly connected to your state of emotionality. There are some people
who are choosing to manifest the AIDS virus as symbols for the world instead of
ways to let out some of this energy. But each person who is manifesting it is doing
a very great service for your planet, because they're giving the opportunity for
your planet to heal itself on very, very deep levels - levels that you've not wished
to look at before, and only now in the last fifty years are allowing yourself to begin
to look at.

Q: You've spoken about Pleiadians being able to separate freely. Because of our
inability from time to time to clearly see our own issues, when we feel that a
relationship might be over,how can we tell whether our feeling a need to separate
is from ego-generated issues of fear, thinking separation is a solution, or whether
it's a true excitement.

Leaving a Relationship

The way to discover your motivations in wanting to leave a relationship is by

examining the flow in your life. If, for instance, you want to leave your wife or
husband and it's very easy for you to do so - meaning that you get a job on the
other side of town or things flow - you're going to find the motivation is because
there's a need for growth and you're following that path. If you try to leave and
it's very difficult - things just don't happen to assist you in leaving, there's no flow
- then you're going to find that you are not looking at something. Something
needs to be resolved which will either clear the energy so that you can leave, or
clear the energy so you can stay. It's a matter of resistance and flow. Whenever
there's resistance, examine your motivation. Whenever there's flow, think about
taking action.

Q: Separation is never a solution, so when you talk about the Pleiadians bringing a
relationship to a conclusion and moving on to another one, that does not
constitute separation at all.

Correct. When they are having a relationship, they recognize their wholeness as
separate beings and come together as a whole being as well. They recognize that
when they separate they are separating into two wholes instead of two halves. The
reason this comes about is that they recognize the other person is a total,
absolute reflection of themselves; they're a mirror image of themselves. There is
an agreement between the two people in the relationship that they are together
because they will initiate their own personal growth and help the personal growth
of the other person - it's a partnership. There's no competition for one to get
something out of it and rip off the other person. So when they separate, they
separate into two wholes instead of two halves. Relationships on your planet are
frequently looked at as half a person coming together with another half of a
person; that you're only whole when you're in a relationship. If you really feel that
way inside, then when you separate, you will separate as half a person and you'll
seek out another half-person to make yourself whole. You won't be able to seek
out a whole person, because the idea of being one and a half is a little bit too
much. You'll only draw to you that which you are. You will seek out a half. That is
why when they separate, relationships are frequently not completed. Each person
is not complete within themselves, so they seek another half to complete and on
the cycle continues. Do you follow?

Q: Yes. There goes another expression I can't use anymore - "I'd like you to meet
my `better half.'" Nobody really means that when they say it, anyway.

Thank you. Comments or questions?

Q: I have a couple of questions: One is about the actual physical manifestation of

the sexual act. Are they divided as we are into male and female?

Sexual Anatomy of Pleiadians and Orions

Very good. You will find the two civilizations we've talked about are both
anatomically similar to you. Now, how much do you want to talk about this?
[laughter] Two arms, two legs, body, head; the Pleiadian ears are somewhat lower
than yours, but Pleiadians are so much genetically like you that they consider you
to be their cousins. If a Pleiadian were walking down the street, you would all turn
and remark about how they look (they look terrific). You would notice that they're
different but wouldn't necessarily consider them alien. That's how similar
physically and genetically they are to you.

The Orions are somewhat taller (two arms, two legs, same thing). Their skin is
very different; it's olive-colored - a brown base with a greenish tinge. Their hair
has a greenish tinge because they have copper in their blood. Akbar [the one
Lyssa channels] lives on a desert planet, so they have four very thick layers of
skin to protect them from the harsh environment. That gives you a general idea of
the body types. It is your galactic family. It is humanoid.

Sexually, the difference is that in the males the penis is retractable. It is in the
same location but it retracts back into the body for protection. Now, this is a
terrific thing! You could play baseball without wearing a cup! You can still see it; it
doesn't completely disappear. It's like some of your animals. In terms of getting
aroused sexually, the male has complete control over an erection mentally, and
complete control over ejaculation. So pregnancy occurs only when there is an
agreement between the male and the female that that is what will occur.
Ejaculation will occur only when that agreement has been reached. That's a
perfect form of birth control. The women have similar control over ovulation. A
couple of other minor differences. The female breasts are used for lactation and
child feeding in both civilizations. Unfortunately, the Orions do not consider the
female breasts to be anything sexually arousing although they may use the nerve
centers during the ceremonies and during the sex. There is a lot of ceremony on
Orion concerning sex.

Tantra

Q: We have a practice on our planet called tantra, which is a higher form of sex
where the energy is balanced to a certain extent to create a more powerful union.
Do they have that also? Is that something we've inherited from them?

We would first say that in the Orion civilization the first two forms we were talking
about, one for procreation and one for intimacy, are both highly ritualized, similar
to a Japanese tea ceremony. You would find that within that ritual there would be
practices very close to tantra, yes. But this occurs all the time. It's not as if they
would say, "Well, let's do tantra today." The Orions are not aware that they are
doing anything except their ritual. It's part of who they are.

In the Pleiadian civilization it would be the same thing. The processes that they go
through in a sexual exchange can be likened to tantra because it certainly does
utilize the chakra system. On Earth a lot of you are implementing tantric practices,
in a sense as a way to remember your heritage, because it is a God union. This
doesn't mean you have to study tantra in order to achieve this. That is one way.
But you will find that in the Pleiadian expression, their sexual act is not a tantric
exercise as a discipline but an expression that encapsulates the philosophies of
tantra without their even having to think about it.

Q: Can't tantra also be used as an escape?

If the consideration is that normal sexuality has something wrong with it, then
tantra is better. Anything on your planet can be used as an escape, including
chocolate ice cream. There are some people on your planet who may use tantra as
a way to escape their sexual pain. So it would depend on the motivations of any
given individual.

Q: In the movie "Cocoon", when the woman came out of her shell, so to speak, in
her light form and they had that powerful integration - that rang true on some
level as if we'd known it before.

Well, several different levels. One, all of you are extremely sexually active in your
dream or astral state. It's not necessarily considered sex per se as it is what you'd
call an integration. So when you are on your nonphysical journeys, you very often
come together for this integration and this sharing. That's one level of it. Another
level has to do with other civilizations who do utilize that form of sexual exchange.
For instance, for the Pleiadians that is occurring but they are still doing it
physically. There is a civilization called Essassani who represent (and we don't
mean this as being better) a future evolutionary path for Earth. Their forms of
sexuality are both physical and nonphysical - deliberately nonphysical, like you
saw in Cocoon. That type of exchange occurs very frequently. You're also tapping
into that understanding that this will be something available to you in your future
as you learn about your own sexual nature. So it touched you - it touched a lot of
people in your society - because it's something you all know how to do on certain
levels, but for right now you're not choosing to do it except in the context of astral
journeying.

Q: Is there any type of nonphysical sexual exchange while we're awake and in the
body? Doesn't something like this occur sometimes when people are fantasizing
on some level, maybe not visually but emotionally?

The situation in Cocoon was that you had two people focused on each other. If
you're fantasizing alone you may be doing that and getting the attention of the
person you're fantasizing about on another level, but it's not a conscious, eye-to-
eye recognition. You see the difference? And again, none of this is better than
anything else. You are learning and growing. Your forefathers, who we've been
talking about, are also learning and growing.

The Zeta Reticuli Civilization - Group Mind

This is Harone. We are Zeta Reticuli consciousness.

You have been talking about us, so we were called. We will begin by telling you a
little about our work with your species. There is much to share with you. We know
you have many questions. First we will say that in no way do we orient ourselves
as being negative. Our definition of negative means that we would have self-
serving interests only, and that is not the case. We will tell you briefly about our
historical evolution so you can understand some of the orientations we have that
you interact with in your present time continuum. Millennia ago we were a thriving
civilization much like you. Within our civilization we had much diversity. We had
war, we had differing belief systems and we also eventually had severe toxicity
that was brought into our environmental system through individuals on our planet
who were progressing technologically at a very rapid rate. It was understood by
us, as we saw the birth rate decrease, that there was to be a species crisis. Over a
period of generations we recognized that the cranial size of our infants was
growing larger at a marked rate. Our females were not able to adapt to this cranial
increase, and so there were many of what you would call unsuccessful births and
stillbirths. Sometimes the birth would even kill the mother. We recognized that we
were literally having a species crisis and so we prepared ourselves for survival.
Our unique way was to begin preparing underground facilities that we could go
into, since our environment was going to collapse. We knew this was to occur. Due
to severe radiation, we also knew that we were becoming sterile. We learned
cloning abilities and this was of great excitement to us because we realized that
then we could control the conception process; we could control the future of our
race. We gave much thought to this and chose, once we were underground, to
clone out the wide range of neurochemical responses in our brain so that
emotionally our state of being would be consistent, balanced and nonviolent in
every way. Thus you have the beginning of the race that you have called the Zeta
Reticuli.

We were born from conflict; we were born from crisis. We adapted ourselves to
this crisis in the only way we knew how and thus you have the species that you
see in your present day. Throughout thousands of years of cloning, we have come
to realize that what we wanted to achieve had a lot of forethought, but we made
great errors in how we went about achieving it. We now have so little variation in
our species genetically that it is as if you are taking a photograph and xeroxing it
time and time and time again. It becomes dimmer, less complete, it becomes less
likely that the original image will continue to exist. We needed, then, a way to
incorporate into ourselves new genetics so that our species will survive. We have
much to share with you, and we cannot share this with you from our present state
of being.

The Human-Reticuli Agreement for Species Transformation

It is our understanding that you as a species have agreed to assist us in our

transformation. We in turn have agreed to assist you in yours. At this point in
time, the majority of people on your planet are not aware that we are assisting
you. At this time most are simply attributing negative scenarios to us. Yet we
know an agreement has been achieved and we promise you that we will uphold
our end of the agreement. Our end of the agreement is as follows:

1. That we will assist you in triggering latent genetic codes that will propel you
into an accelerated state of genetic evolution. These codes were placed in you by
your forefathers and were designed to be triggered when you achieved a certain
vibratory rate. This vibratory rate occurs when your consciousness accelerates.
That is what is occurring now. In our work with you, when we interact with you
either physically or etherically, we work with these genetic structures, these latent
genetic codes. Some of them can be activated from the etheric level; some need
activation on the physical level. As we have agreed to do millennia ago, we will
carry out this agreement of assisting in this species triggering.

2. Even though we do not understand the concept of emotion we seek to

understand it and we watch you in order to do so. We have been told by others
who interact with us that your species' goal at the present time is in expressing
and then integrating your fears. Even though we do not understand why, we
understand that our interactions with you promote fear in some people. It is not
our desire to promote fear in you, but those we interact with who are guardians to
you tell us that your confrontation with your fear is of vital importance at this time
in your development. Though we do not intentionally desire to trigger your fear,
we are made aware that our interactions with you do in fact trigger that fear. We
are also told by other entities that there are others who are genetically connected
to us who are deliberately promoting fear in you. However, we are told that their
numbers are quite small. They would have you think they are much more
numerous. Recognize that from our point of view and from the point of view of
your mass consciousness, we have joined hands and we are transforming
together. We are taking a species leap together.

There is a recognition that neither our species nor yours can continue indefinitely
the way it is. We have joined hands together with you in order to bring about this
species evolution for both of us. You will find that as evolution occurs, we will
become much more similar. We will become much more individualistic; you will
become more unified. This will provide a way for us to finally open communication
so that you may begin unfolding your memories of your species heritage and of
the galactic family of which you are a part. It is a great honor for us to play this
role for you. It is also a great honor for us that you have chosen to play a role for
us as well. We are infinitely entwined - we are not separate - though our realities
may say we are. We are very connected and for that we send our gratitude.

Zeta Sexual Orientation

When we communicate with you in this fashion through a physical channel, we will
have physical facilitators, other extraterrestrial beings who help to facilitate this
process. We are told by them that you desire to hear about our sexual orientation
or lack thereof. Simply put, when we went underground and began cloning, we did
away with the idea of physical procreation as well as the sexual act. Our organs
began atrophying over many, many generations until now you cannot tell us apart
- males from females, although on a chromosomal level we are still either XX or
XY. We seek emotional understanding and we also understand that you express
your emotions in a sexual nature. Because we have lost this ability for so long, we
also desire to learn how once again to connect with our humanity through the idea
you call sexuality. So we are fascinated by the sexual act that you have upon your
world and the emotional processes that you encounter during these acts. In no
way do we perceive we are being intrusive, for from our point of view we
recognize you have given us permission. There are times when we will view you
when you are having sexual exchanges in order that we may somehow learn how
to initiate this within ourselves. In exchange for this gift that you have given us,
many of you have come to our reality, to our crafts and you have viewed us
engaged in what we call our Oneness ritual, which is a complete and total merging
with our one identity. It has been an honor that you have agreed to come and
share this with us. From our point of view, this is an equal exchange. We learn
what we desire; you learn what you desire.

We recognize there may be questions from you, and we would like to take this
opportunity to address those if you would like to ask them.

Q: At the point in time in your history where children's heads were getting too
large for birth, what was happening in your culture, your civilization, that this
would manifest itself symbolically?

Our technological abilities were not paralleling our spiritual progression. There
became a very marked gap between spirituality and technology, even more than
upon your world today. Our mass consciousness desired a way to communicate
the importance of this recognition of the gap. So in terms of symbolic expression,
the natural tendency was for the cranium to grow so we would recognize there
was a crisis and would then examine this crisis and recognize the gap between
spirituality and technology. Unfortunately for our development, we did not
recognize this until after we had begun cloning.

Q: What did the enlargement of the cranium symbolize? You could have
manifested any number of physical difficulties.

Intellect! An imbalance of intellect over spirituality. You see this on your planet
now when you demand proof for everything rather than recognizing a flow or a
connectedness to all. You manifest this now in a way much less dramatic than the
way we did. It was even more pronounced in our civilization.

Sexuality in Abductions

Q: Can you talk about your interest in our sexuality as experienced by people who
are abducted? Our sexuality is something that our species protects. We're afraid of
being vulnerable, so we have erected a lot of psychological and emotional
methods to protect our sexuality. Many people experience that idea being violated
during an abduction experience, which tends to cause a lot of trauma. Can you
speak to us on how you view this? What are you exploring? What are you learning
about our sexuality? And what is your intent?

First of all, recognize we have no intent, as we have stated, to change you. Our
interactions with you push buttons. Our interactions with you represent evolution.
Evolution requires the one evolving to look deeply into the mirror of self and
choose what is undesirable for the evolution and to relinquish it. When we interact
with you, you feel the tide of evolution. This translates into your consciousness as
threat because it requires you to look at yourself and relinquish things you have
been carrying as a part of yourself. We are not deliberately doing anything to you.
Our interactions with you bring up this in your consciousness. If you as a species
look in these dark corners where you are afraid to look, engage those fears and
move through them, your interactions with us will change dramatically. Your
interactions with us will not be from a fear-based orientation. You are resisting
evolution because of your fear, and until that fear is confronted and released, you
will feel the pressure of evolution.

Q: Can you comment on the mechanics of what occurs during an abduction? Many
people have their sexual organs examined and probes put inside them and
samples taken. This in itself causes a violation of our systems of protection. It
penetrates all of them, and from their perception puts the person in a powerless
situation.

It is also an opportunity to look at it as being in a vulnerable situation instead of a

powerless situation. Vulnerable - not in the negative sense of weakness - but
vulnerable meaning empowerment. That is, when you are vulnerable, you are
open to All That Is, to the One. You cannot connect fully with your Divine Creator
or Self unless you become totally vulnerable. It is a matter of shifting perspective.
When we interact with you in an abduction situation - again we speak of the
dynamic, not of what we intend to do - you are given the opportunity to look at
the situation either from a point of empowering vulnerability or from a victimizing
vulnerability, or disempowered vulnerability. When you are lying on an
examination table, the choice is to either feel victimized and to hold and repress
that pain of victimization in your life or to confront that feeling and then surrender.
If you surrender, not as if we were invading - that is not what is meant - but
relinquish your resistance and recognize yourself as a co-creator in this, you then
become vulnerable in an empowering way. You let your guard down, you merge
with the One and thus become an active force in the tide of evolution. And you see
that in that choice there is no pain. There is only pain when one chooses to focus
on the idea of disempowerment, saying you have not created this somehow, that
you are not part of species transformation, whereas each and every one of you is
part of that. Are we being too philosophical for you? Do you want to know what we
do with you?

Q: Yes, that's what I was getting at. I was asking for a description from the point
of view of an abductor.

Well, it really depends on which group. We are divided, shall we say, into different
groups that have different purposes. Some are entirely focused on neurochemical
research; those groups will focus primarily on the head and the neck areas. Some
are interested primarily in genetic research, and in that case, samples would be
taken from all portions of the body. Some are interested in reproductive research;
those are the ones who work directly with your reproductive functions. Perhaps it
would not take too much imagination to know what we seek - sperm, eggs,
secretions from prostate, skin samples and also an understanding, a mind link, of
what procreation means to the person. It is not just cold research, as you would
say. We may not know how to understand your emotions, but we do pay attention
to them. We are extremely curious about your emotional selves.

Q: When you are observing people in the sexual act, how do you personally
perceive this? How do you respond to those strong emotions? It's my
understanding that you almost can't bear them.

Very often some of us will have protection, energy shielding, because the
emotions are very intense for us. There is no arousal, as you know the term.
There is a tremendous amount of curiosity in the biochemical secretions in the
brain that are occurring during the sexual act. So biologically speaking, what is of
most interest in viewing the sexual act are the biochemical fluctuations. Our way
of understanding emotions is by first understanding biochemically. Now that may
be inaccurate - perhaps many of you would think it is - but right now that is the
only way we know how to do it. We must deal with data. We cannot deal with it
from an emotional base. We are also interested in the physical methods of
touching that you use not only in sexual acts but in acts of affection and maternal
and paternal demonstrations to your offspring. That is also something of primary
interest to us.

Other Zeta Forms

Q: Apart from the physical form that you maintain, do you project something that
is not as dense in its reality, that can be seen as a light form? And do you use that
form to help us trigger some of these genetic memories whose time it is to come
forward? Can you project that in various wavelengths or colors through the use of
sound? Could it be detected and interacted with?

Yes, certainly. You've done your research well. We interact with you on every level
we can. Sometimes when more physical samples are needed, we must densify
ourselves, which is very uncomfortable. Sometimes when we are working only
with etheric DNA triggering, we can enter your reality in a light state. Some of you
will sense our energy, and your consciousness will translate our energy into a
shape that will tell you the identity of the energy that you are sensing.

Q: Do you ever express any countenance other than what we might call deadpan,
or without emotion? Are you capable of what we would call a smile or would that
be too emotional in nature?

We would have to explain something. We are not capable of a smile as an

individual. We are capable of joy or ecstasy as a group. When we were speaking of
our ritual of the One, it is the only form that we could say approximates a sexual
exchange in our reality. It is basically standing in a circle with others and holding
hands or joining energies, and soaring to heights of ecstasy of the One.

Q: Would that have a tremendous quality of sweetness to it, and could it be

radiated forth from your physical face or from your body?

Yes. You would not necessarily see it as a smiling; it would be a sensing more than
actually seeing the movement in the face.

Q: Would it be a sensitivity or a connectedness that would come from the energy

that you have?

Yes.

At this time we will honor the vehicle and depart. But we thank all of you as
individuals and as a group and as a planetary society for the roles that you have
played in your planetary evolution.

Do not ever underestimate that your coming here has not assisted. Each and
every one of you have your own gift and we thank and honor you for those gifts.
And we thank you for being a part of our gift that we give to you. Our love to you
and goodnight.
Copyright © 1992 by Royal Priest Research, All Rights Reserved.

Tools for the coming Changes

Category: Channeled.

Germane through Lyssa Royal.

We have been talking about some of the physical changes that your bodies are
going through and will go through as your vibrations accelerate. Let us first
address the physical level. What kind of physical changes can you expect? What
can you do to help facilitate the process in a much more easy way?

Well, the primary change is in the electrical system of the body. The human
electrical system is one that you don't necessarily consciously know is operating all
of the time. The electrical field of your body is literally the energy that translates
spirit to matter. You are 90 some-odd percent water, so the electrical current is
always running through your body. Now, the voltage is going to be upped. So,
plan accordingly. This means that water will become perhaps more important to
you than it ever has. Not just the ingesting of it, but the submersion in it (whether
it be your baths, your showers, your jacuzzis) is becoming very important. Also,
the presence of water, either in your auric field or in your sacred space (your
home) is essential. So our suggestion then would be that you drink as much water
as you can, preferably water than is not from the tap but purified or reverse
osmosis, whatever your choice is. We would recommend distilled or purified, but
you will know what is right for you. Remember to eat foods that have a high water
content. That will be fruits and vegetables.

Also, allow yourself to feel fluid. This is rather abstract, but anytime you're feeling
fatigued or raw emotionally, imagine yourself as being a river, a current. The more
you can imagine yourself fluidly moving like water, the more you're going to
facilitate the electrical changes that your body and the planet are going through.
Another suggestion (other than ingestation), is to keep water close to you if you
can. (No need to get neurotic about this, because nothing will happen to you if you
don't do it). There is some jewelry, for instance, that incorporates water. If you
feel attracted to that, wear some of it. The water will then be in your auric field.
You may also sit by a lake, put your feet in the water, or fill your bathtub. The
closer that you can get to the water when you feel you need recharging will be
very, very helpful for you. Use your imagination! You may also use the sound of
water, since your sense of hearing will trigger you in the same way. Showering
and bathing is also a wonderful way to get your daily dose of water. The water will
clear out the electromagnetic field. When you bathe or shower, it helps to release
emotional toxins which will then help to keep you clear. If you want to put crystals
in your bath, that's perfectly fine. Several of these ideas are ideal if you live in an
urban environment. You may want to create in your apartment a small water
environment. You can get one of those fishtanks, fill it with water and pretty
stones and crystals and whatever you want to put in there, so that it feels like a
peaceful place to you. Put it next to your bed or put it somewhere in your home
where you can look at it, and you can feel the environment of that water. It will be
a conversation piece as well, we guarantee you.

That's one idea. You may even want to get some fish. The body is going to
respond well to this water in your presence and continue the process of cleaning
itself out and boosting the voltage of the electrical field. You're clearing out the
toxins of the third density. There are foundational qualities of 3D that are going to
be transformed into 4D as you become clear. Many of the fourth-density planets
have very large amounts of water. Actually, your planet is somewhat unique to
have so much water in a third-density reality. Your planet is also a consciousness
of which you are a part. You are symbiotic. And you reflect each other in your own
transformations. So, your planet also recognizes its need for water. Even though it
looks like you all are creating this horrible hole in the ozone layer, you are in
reality assisting the planet to melt the icecaps to get the water it needs. So, again,
it's all connected. Your planet is also going to be doing what it needs to do to get
the water that it needs. Along with water comes detoxification. Many of you
already are on programs of detoxification. We cannot tell you how much this will
benefit you. It's very beneficial to you to go through some type of detoxification
program (whatever one works for you), whether it's colonics or juicing or fasting,
or very specific types of strict diets, it's up to you. But in the long run, it's going to
be a tremendous boost to your body and to your electrical system because there
will be less interference. Toxins can be seen as electrical interference. We have
often been asked if electrical appliances are harmful to human beings. If you are a
normal person with a normal television and a normal microwave, it's not going to
do enough damage that you would even notice it, if it does any at all. Now, of
course, if you're living under major power lines, that might be a little bit much in
terms of energy.

If you use a computer a lot, there are several options available to you. You could
get a computer that has a liquid crystal display screen, LCD screen; you see these
on your laptops. That's an optimum situation. If you can't do that, on the market
there are radiation screens, and these can be put over your CRT screen and they
can significantly reduce the amount of radiation you are exposed to. The radiation
is not going to damage you, but it can slow the detoxification and healing process
if you spend a lot of time in front of the computer every day. Approximately four
hours at one sitting at the computer (without getting up), can significantly slow
your own healing abilities.

Now, we do have to state here that we are talking in generalities and that all of
this is dependent on your belief system. If you truly (on all levels of your being)
believe that nothing outside of you can effect your health, then you can live under
a power line and sleep with your computer, and it's certainly not going to do
anything. So, these are guidelines, and the ultimate voice is your own belief
system, and that's very important to stress. We have gotten questions from many
people also about the teachings of other channels and health practioners. Many
say to throw your TVs, computers and microwave ovens away. Each entity and
each channel has their own belief system through which information comes. Look
at the different things that you have learned in your growth. If you truly believe in
the idea that you create your reality and no one can be a victim, then you cannot
subscribe to the idea of something outside of you affecting you. It's got to be one
or the other.

If you really don't believe that you create your reality and you believe you can be
a victim, then absolutely anything can hurt you. Now, as to why that fearful and
limiting information is said, that is for others to answer. But what we can say is
that it is valuable that it be said, because it makes you think. From our point of
view, when this type of fearful information is given, you are faced with an
opportunity to think about what you really want to believe in, instead of listening
to an outside source without checking it with your own self. Information that is
fearful and negative allows you to process your own fears. We have always said
that information is meant to be taken as information only, information to be added
to your storehouse, information to make you think. Information that we bring
through is not channeled so you will believe us, but so you will take what is given
and learn to grow from it by discovering your own truth. It is not our
understanding that you will ever, ever be affected by anything outside of you
unless you hold a belief system that it can and that you can be victimized. And so
this is about processing belief systems. This is about learning sovereignty, where
you are the only creator of your reality. No television, no computer creates that.
And certainly no evil government with a sinister plot! The power is within you. As
soon as that is recognized and owned, there will be no more victims, and no more
sinister plots.

Your self-responsibility will set you free!

Sacred Sexuality.
Category: Healing.
By the same acts that cause some men to burn in hell for thousands of years,
the Yogin gains his eternal salvation. - Tantra

For a thousand years, the Western Judeo-Christian, authoritarian male-dominant

strategy for handling the emotions, the body, pleasure, and our most basic
instincts, was to keep them well in check, and generally disavow as best we could
any feelings below the waistline.

Freud said that empires were built on the resulting sublimated energy, but the
game is over. It turns out there's nothing unspiritual about pleasure, and it's good
for your health. It is instructive to ask just how we ever came to feel so bad about
even thinking about feeling good. The passions are so overwhelmingly powerful
that religions have been warning you away from them since the dark ages. The
heightened intensity of the sexual experience soon persuades us that it is the
most important one in the world. People get carried away, and begin to believe
that the next great orgasm is the only important thing in life. People use each
other for lust. The most extreme instance is called rape. When we can't handle our
attachments, they enslave us and we enslave others. Yet, ironically, through no
other human activity, save dying, is the opportunity for ego-loss, transformation
and transpersonal realization so prevalent and powerful as in conjugal love-
making.

On the direct path of conscious awareness - The Path With No Obstacles - sexual
union naturally also means the union of the continuing practice and its realization.
This is what the west has come to refer to as Tantric love. (Ultimately, tantra
means more than embracing your physicality: all action, thought, and realization
becomes spiritual liberation itself.) The high art of making True Love is mystical
and miraculous beyond comprehension. It inundates your entire being. It delivers
you - body and soul - to unimagined heights of ecstasy. The discovery of the key
to the union of spirituality and sexuality is at once a path to, and a gift of
Enlightenment.

The ultimate consummation of physical love-making is complete transcendental

Union. It bestows upon the lovers the experience of a spectacular breakthrough to
the Infinite - beyond, but concurrent with our everyday existence. What begins as
duality and polarization within time, climaxes as a shared soul-merging experience
of Eternity. A transformation occurs which evolves from desire and passion to a
level of total and perfect bliss, otherwise rarely known in human existence.
Spiritual merging in love is the elusive prize that everyone seeks when they lay
down with another, whether they know it or not. Lust is only a call to love, and
many have yet to answer it. We may think we are content giving and taking
personal gratification, yet all the while the heart seeks nothing less than to lose
itself absolutely in love, and be consumed in ecstatic union with the beloved and
the Universe.

How to achieve such divine deliverance through one of the most common
"animalistic" functions we perform is the secret known to enlightened lovers as the
direct path of Love. It transcends the trap of the ego-self: In effect, the world's
greatest aphrodisiac is selflessness.

No one is better than the Bodhisattva in bed.

The point of giving her sexual pleasure is to awaken the bliss that she will then
combine with meditation on emptiness in order to attain enlightenment. - Miranda
Shaw, Ph.D. Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism - (Princeton
University Press)

SURRENDER
The paradox of sex is that the same act can both liberate and imprison, depending
upon one's intent, state of mind, and conditioning. Sex can drive you either
towards or away from Enlightenment. The great enigma is, how can we transform
the trap of addictive physical appetite to the ecstatic realization of Divine Union?

It all depends on your true and underlying purpose. It calls for constancy and
commitment to the ultimate goal of Enlightenment. Why is the divine gift of
lovemaking so often little more than a desperate groping for glandular stimulation
in dark rooms, accompanied by feelings of hunger and shame? Ironically, and all
too often - when people use each other uncaringly - this most universally
accessible mystical experience of orgasm is debased into something dishonorable
and dirty. But anti-sex admonitions in turn only give rise to guilt, when - despite
heroic efforts to curb our "lower appetites" - we find ourselves indulging in what is,
after all, the single most compelling human urge after breathing and eating. We
might even say that repression of this primal biological imperative creates rapists
and pedophiles.

Shame is taught by "authorities" who can embrace neither their animal nor their
spiritual nature. They fear one and fake the other, and call this "correct." Certain
religions contend that sex must be solely for insemination and procreation, or it is
devil-worship. By that logic, one should certainly refrain from using one's hands
(not to mention lips and tongue), and get it over with as quickly as possible.
Obviously the Good Lord made this procreational pleasure-drive far more powerful
than most individual's (and any church's) power to control.

A truly relevant and realistic religion would teach us how to consecrate our
sexuality, not deny it. We need to unlearn our guilt about wanting sex, even as we
realize what a guilded cage it could very well become. Of course men and women
compromise their morality and good judgment all the time for sex (although
probably no more than for love, money, power, or fame). But the inherent dangers
are hardly reason to avoid the experience. Respect for that very danger should
make us take care as we take pleasure. Let us celebrate and make sacred our
natural, innate sexuality. Copulation as high communion? Is there any better way?

SEXUAL SPIRITUALITY
Many in today's generation are beginning to re-learn the sacred approach to
lovemaking, as in indigenous tribal customs, mystical rituals, Sufi and tantric
couples practices, and post-sexual-revolution "high monogamy." Cultures much
older than ours have evolved ways for seekers to include their physical bodies
within the context of spiritual practice and the enlightened life. Meditation,
invocations, breathing exercises, incense, candlelight, ceremonial objects, rituals,
music, and potent libations have been used to create a special environment and
mind-state in which to sanctify sexual union. Such careful preparations tend to
quiet the neurotic mind and increase sensitivity and sensuality, while at the same
time engendering the proper reverence.

The essence of this conscious sex approach is to transform the very energy of your
appetite for personal pleasure into one of cosmic realization, by harnessing your
own desire to the happiness, the thrill, and the total fulfillment of your partner.
Thus you achieve Unity through duality, by making her (or his) ecstasy your own.
Giving and taking merge, and you two become One. The transformation from
ordinary mechanical, confused, guilt-ridden sex to the profound gift of
natural/spiritual lovemaking depends upon a broadening of one's focus from the
genitals to the heart, from passion to compassion.

Spiritualized sex opens you at all centers at once, animal to divine. Transcendent
love is a religious experience. Every touch is The First, and time stands still. The
senses are magnified a thousand times. Your partner becomes a Goddess or God,
whom you worship in awe. You notice everything, and it all conveys tremendous
meaning and potency. Foreplay is truly playful, breathtakingly tender. The
pleasure is immediately and continuously perfect, the passion intense and
profound. Time itself disappears and the Holy Universe becomes self-evident.
Opening all your centers, engaging all your faculties, the
animal/emotional/spiritual crescendo of love lasts forever, and the climax is an
exquisite release of the body, the heart and the soul in a spectacular shared
revelation of the Universal Self. The after-glow of such a cosmic physical union
endures for days.. weeks. The experience is healing and unifying in every way.

HOW TO MAKE ENLIGHTENED LOVE.

• Consecrate the setting. Make it Holy.

• Wait for the perfect moment.
• Purify yourself in body and mind.
• Meditate.
• Dedicate the experience to your highest purpose.
• Invoke the Goddesses of Love.
• Begin motionless and in silence.
• Gaze into each other's eyes, long and deep.
• Breathe together.
• Fall in love. stay in love. die into love.
• Listen for Inner Guidance.
• Reside always at the beginning.
• Move in slow motion, with reverence.
• Worship your lover. Touch only in awe.
• Trust your body's deepest impulses.
• Give voice to your feelings.
• Make love with your whole being.
• Transpose taking and giving.
• Decelerate until time stands still.
• Abandon all gain and control.
• Die as a personality. Be born as pure Love in the Universe.

EXQUISITE LOVE
To lose the self in love, look always to the beginning and keep to the beginning.
Worship each other's pure essence as Goddess and God.
Everything matters.
Use all senses Read your beloved's mind/body.
In slow motion abandonment of time itself, Give only pleasure and love, letting
hers become yours, ours.
Surrender continuously, unconditionally, to the sacred fire within, all consuming,
all purifying, all fulfilling.
From "Enlightenment in Our Time." by Lonny J. Brown, Ph.D.