Understanding Your

Inner Self
 Is it important to understand your
inner self?

Yes, it can help you to develop your personality and

opportunities for success in the business world
 A Theory of Personality
 This Theory is developed by Dr. Eric Berne
 Your self image is affected by 3 ego states

• Parent ego state

• Adult ego state

• Child ego state

 Parent ego state
 Act as your parents did

 Act as some person who

took place of your parent

 Occur from the first 5

years

 Collect intentionally /
unintentionally

 2 categories “Nurturing”
and “Critical”
 Parent ego state
 Nurturing Parent  Critical Parent

Positive behavior such Negative behaviors

as bountiful, care, that make them as
respect, show love parents such as
with sincerity , etc. complain, disparage or
like to command you.
 Adult ego state
 Think for yourself

 Look at the situation,

decide what is the way to
solve the problem and
act.

 Act from how you think

not from how you feel
 Child ego state
 The child you once were
still in you
 You behave in a childlike
way
 Good of childlike
• Like to discover new
things
• Be spontaneous
• Laugh and have fun
 Bad of childlike
• Selfish
• Spoiled Child
 Your Three Selves
 Parent
• Critical
• Helpful

 Adult
• Objective
• Gets things done

 Child
• Creative
• Spontaneous
• Has Fun
 Crossed Transaction
 Adult-Child Crossed Transaction

Parent Parent

Adult Adult

Child Child
 Crossed Transaction
 Adult-Parent Crossed Transaction

Parent Parent

Adult Adult

Child Child
 Crossed Transaction
 Complementary Transaction

Parent Parent

Adult Adult

Child Child