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B quyt duy tr mi quan h tt p

Mi mi quan h u cn mt nn tng vng chc c th tn ti lu di. Nh tm l hc Paul Hall (tin s tm l hc thc nghim, i hc Harvard) gi nhng b quyt sau y xy dng v duy tr cc mi quan h trong x hi cuc sng thng ngy.

Yu thng bn thn Nu bn khng yu thng bn thn mnh th khng ai khc c th lm thay c. iu ny ng vai tr quan trng trong cc mi quan h lnh mnh. Nu bn lun trn trng mnh th t nht bn c th t tin trong mi mi quan h. T tin gip bn thoi mi v d dng ha mnh vo cc mi quan h m khng phi vng bn cm gic ph thuc, da dm vo ngi khc. Khi thiu t tin, bn hy tm cho mnh ngi bn tin cy hoc nh s gip ca cc

chuyn gia t vn tm l. Vic tin tng hoc trng cy vo mt ngi l iu hon ton bnh thng, nhng bn cng mnh m, bn lnh th mi quan h cng bnh ng v vng chc hn. Dnh nhiu thi gian cho nhau Thng thng, chng ta c th nh gi mc quan trng ca mt vic da vo khong thi gian m ta dnh cho vic . Khi mi quen, mi i nam n u mun dnh nhiu thi gian bn nhau, iu ny xy ra mt cch v thc. Nhng ri cuc sng bn rn, cng vic, con ci, ti chnhkhin bn t quan tm n ngi bn i nh thu ban u. Nn nh rng mi th s tr thnh thi quen sau thi gian di lp i lp li. Cm gic cng vy. Nu bn c thi gian tri qua m khng quan tm nhiu n ngi bn i, bn s dn quen vi cm gic ny. y l mt trong nhng nguyn nhn khin cc mi quan h ngy cng xu i m ng l ra bn c th kim sot. Dnh nhiu thi gian cho nhau chnh l s u t ng n cho hnh phc tng lai. Thng thn bn bc vn Thng thn cng nhau bn bc, gii quyt mi vn l mt trong nhng b quyt gip xy dng v duy tr mi quan h tt p. y cn c xem l yu t c bn quyt nh cht lng ca cc mi quan h. B quyt ny cn c chia s v tha thun ngay t khi mt mi quan h bt u. Thng thn chia s cng nhau l cch duy nht bn chng t cho ngi bn i bit bn l ai, bn mun g v ti sao bn li c x theo cch m bn lm. Cng nhau tr chuyn l gii php tt nht c hai xa i nhng khong cch v hnh. y l kh nng lng nghe, quan tm, chia s m khng h ln n, ph hay ph phn ln nhau thc hin c iu ny, bn phi tht s ci m lng mnh, chn thnh v trung thc by t cho ngi bn i bit cm gic, suy ngh ca mnh. Mi s n trnh, che giu u lm cho mi quan h ngy cng rn nt v c th dn n hu qu khng mong i. Bit cch tranh lun Phi tha nhn rng tranh lun l mt phn khng th thiu trong mi mi quan h. Mi c nhn u khng ging nhau v tranh lun thng nht quan im l iu ht sc cn thit. Thc t, nhng ngi bit cch tranh lun s khng h lo ngi chuyn h thng xuyn bt ng quan im. Mt cuc tranh lun tt p tht s l mt c hi c hai c th nhn nh mu thun, chia s cm gic, cng nhau thng nht v i n quyt nh m c hai cng cm thy thoi mi. C th cng nhau gii quyt mu thun sau mt cuc tranh lun s khin bn thm t tin vo bn thn, tin tng vo ngi bn i v mi quan h y ngy cng tr nn thoi mi. Thng xuyn by t tnh cm yu thng

Yu thng, u ym l nhu cu tt yu ca loi ngi. Nhiu nghin cu cho thy nu khng c yu thng, vut ve, u ymnhiu loi ng vt, trong k c con ngi, s cht sm hn bnh thng. Ngi c yu thng, chm sc s hn ch c nguy c mc bnh cao huyt p ng mch, ng thi khi c yu thng, cng gip c th gii phng mt loi cht c tc dng gn nh cht gy kch thch, khin bn thm yu i, tng cng kh nng min dch cho c th. Chp nhn nhng thay i Mi th iu thay i. i khi s thay i hon ton khng nh ta mong mun. i

lc chnh nhng thay i s mang li cho ta nhiu c hi pht trin, nhng cng lm lc n cng li cho con ngi nhng ni au khng g hn gn c. Khi nim thay i y c th c hiu l chng ta phi suy ngh khc i c th thch nghi vi cuc sng mi; iu cng c ngha l bn buc phi nhng th tng quen thuc vi mnh ra i mi mi. Mt mi quan h tt p, thnh cng l khi mi ngi t hon thin, thay i dn c th thch nghi cng nhau trong mt th gii chung ca c hai. Bn nn nhn nhn s i thay l mt phn khng th trnh khi trong cuc sng con ngi, t cng h tr hn ch n mc thp nht nhng thay i c th chia cch bn. Thc hin tt c cc b quyt trn l chuyn khng h n gin. Nhng bn c nhng khi nim c bn, v vy bn s bit cch vun p cho mi quan h ca mnh.

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1.Tn trng quyt nh ca nhm: Nht Bn l mt x hi lun nhn mnh Chng ti thay v Ti. Cc quyt nh quan trng thng c tho lun v ch khi c s nht tr th mi c a ra. Cng v mi kt qu u l n lc ca c tp th nn s khng ph hp khi bn ngi khen mt c nhn c th. -->Chng ta hc c g t ? Ngi Nht quan nim thnh cng l n lc ca c nhm v khng ai c th t thnh cng. H nhn mnh gi tr ca vic mi ngi lm vic cng nhau. H u tin mt quy trnh tho lun mang tnh hp tc m i khi c th chm mt cht, nhng cui cng, vn m bo c rng tt c mi ngi u c ting ni chung. Ngi Nht hiu rng vic m bo mi phn thng c chia u gia cc thnh vin s khng lm ny sinh s ghen t, so o. 2.Hc cch ni gim ni trnh: Ngi Nht lun ch ng hn ch nhng tnh hung i u. H khng thch v khng bao gi ni Khng. Mi li ni v php tc giao tip ca h c phi hp nhm trnh gy him khch ni ngi nghe.Thay v i thng vo vn , ngi Nht thng gi nh nhng, ni bng gi. i lc, h ni mt cch r rng hn nhng rt cn trng khng lm ngi khc b pht hay tc gin. -->Chng ta hc c g t ? Chng ta hc c s tn trng v nh nhn khng nhng i vi i tc m c ng nghip. Khng g t cho bng khi chng ta mit th nhau hay tc gin n mt ta tai trong cc cuc hp. Tnh t ch cao ca ngi Nht gip cho h lun bnh tnh v khng p t ch ca bn thn ln ngi khc. t c kh nng ny, bn cn dnh thi gian lng nghe cn thn li ngi khc ni v li ca chnh mnh. Nh bn s nhn ra nhng du hiu khng hay v iu chnh trc khi mi chuyn tr nn t hi. 3.ng gi l th hin s tn trng:Gii cng s x hoa anh o t nng gi tr ca kao, tc l th din. Khi nim th din bao gm nim t ho c nhn, danh ting v a v x hi. Bt k mt hnh ng no c th khin cho h b mt mt s b coi l c hi trong mi trng cng s, v s b kch lit phn i. gi c th din, bn phi hc cch th hin lng tn trng cao nht. Cch n gin nht l n ng gi i vi bt k cuc hn no. Ngi Nht thng n sm mt cht. -->Chng ta hc c g t ?ng gi l mt thi quen tt chng ta c ngi khc tn trng. Khng c g bt lch s bng vic cho ngi khc ch i bn. V th, bn hy sp xp lch trnh cho mnh mt cch hp l. 4.Duy tr lin lc: Nht Bn, gi in v hn gp trc tip c nh gi cao hn rt nhiu so vi gi th, fax hay email. Dnh thi gian tip xc trc tip vi i tc c xem l du hiu ca s tn trng h. Ngi Nht rt coi trng cc mi quan h lm n lu di, v vy khi lm vic y, bn cn bit cch duy tr lin lc qua li, gin tip hoc trc tip. Chng ta hc c g t ? Ngi Nht a vic lm quen v to dng mi quan h ln mt tm mi bi h hiu c gi tr ca chng. Nhiu ngi trong chng ta cm thy kh chu hoc tic thi gian khi gi lin lc vi ngi khc. Chng ta hn ch vic trao i th t nhng iu th hin s thiu bn cht ca cc mi quan h. Hy noi gng ngi Nht bng cch quan tm hn ti vic lun gi m cho mi mi quan h cng vic ca bn.

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Cuc sng lun cha ng nhng yu t bt ng. Bn c th ri vo tnh cnh kh c lc no: Cn bc s tt khi ngi thn ca bn b bnh, cn mt nh u t kh kh khn v ti chnh liu s c bao nhiu ngi dc lng dc sc gip bn n cu h lc hai gi sng v nhng vn v cng cp bch? Nhng vn s quyt mt cch n gin nu bn c mt mng li quan h tt.

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Mt mng li l tp hp c t chc bao gm nhng mi lin h c nhn v mn chnh nhng lin h . Mng li quan h nhanh chng tm ra ngi bn cn ch ca mnh trong bt k hon cnh no v gip nhng ngi khc lm iu tn l nh ngha v mng li quan h c a ra trong cun sch T o ging tr kht ca Harvey Mackay. Cun sch chnh l bi hc xy dng mng li quan h din t t nhin, cng vi rt nhiu thng tin thc t, ph hp cho tt c cc i t gi phn tch nhng yu t khin ng tr nn ni ting, cch ng xy dng mn thnh cng v tr thnh ngi truyn cm hng n rt nhiu ngi.

Mng li quan h l cch kt ni trc tip im A v im Z m khng cn phi im trung gian nh C, D, E X v Y. Mng li cho ta mt li i, mt cch th t im A n im Z trong khong thi gian ngn nht, bng qung ng ngn bn l ai, bn u cn mt mng li quan h. s l bn p, l phng tin c ni u. Harvey Mackay khm ph ra cng c thit yu nht trong kinh doanh mng h.

T o ging trc khi cht kht s ch ra cho bn cch t c nhng iu bn thng qua mng li quan h. Cun sch gip cho tt c mi ngi, t mt nhn v hng ang mun xy dng s nghip n mt ch doanh nghip ang ku gi ngu th tm thy nhng nhu cu ca mnh m khng phi tn nhiu thi gian. Bn s c:

Kiu mng li quan h no tn ti? Cch bt u xy dng mt mng li quan h v cch t c nhng iu tt mng li quan h Rt ngn danh sch lin lc ca bn mt cch thng minh ai cn gi, ai nn b Bn c th lm g nu bn khng c k nng giao tip tt?

T o ging trc khi cht kh ra bn yu t ca mng li qu RISK: Reciprocity C i c li Interdependency Ph thuc ln Sharing Chia s v Keeping at lin tc, hay mng li c ti, hy gi lin lc t nht su th cho mi nt quan h. Cun sc ra 15 hn tng cho mt mng vng 15 ngi lm vic nh tim nng nht s gip bn c m li bn vng: Nh mi gii bt nhn vin ngn hng, cnh st, l sa cha t (xe my)

Khng ch hng dn cch to l xy dng v pht trin chng, m cn ch ra cc sai lm khi xy d li quan h ca bn, tt c cc c so snh vi cc bc, cng i km khi bn tin hnh o gi m bo rng mnh khng cht

V tc gi: Harvey Mackay l m nhng tc gi c a chung n ca cun sch c bn vi s hng triu bn Swim with the Sh Without Being Eaten Alive. ng l nh bo chuyn trch cc vn nghip an gia, nhng bi bo ca ng xut hin trong 50 t bo trn khp nc M. ng CEO v mt nh lnh o xut chng. Trch on sch hay:

"C mt ngi bn hng vng qu n. Mt hm xe t ca anh ta b sa xung m Anh ta nh mt ngi nng dn gip . Ngi nng dn buc con la tn Elmo c chic xe, on nht mt cnh cy, qut vo con vt v ku ln "i, Sam, i no!". g xy ra. Anh ta li qut roi vo con la. "i, Jackson, i!" Vn chng c g khc. T anh ta qut nh vo con la v ku ln "i, Elmo, i". V Elmo ko chic xe ln kh lch. "Ny, sao anh li gi tn Sam v Jackson vy?", ngi li xe hi.

"C ch xem, nu n khng tng rng c ai gip sc, n thm ch s chng th

Tt c chng ta u cn s gip . L thnh vin trong nhm cng l mt cch .

Nhng mng li quan h khc vi nhm lm vic. Cch d nht gii thch s khc bit l bt u vi mt dy chuyn sn xut

Mt t kin l v d tuyt vi v lm vic nhm. Mi con kin c mt vai tr, i vai tr. Mt s ri khi t mi bui sng i nht l cy. S khc tiu ha l cy chng thnh mt dng thc n cho c t. Mt s khc c ngy trong t, chm s con non hoc lm cng tc bo v. V vn cn nhng con kin c khc chuyn p cha. Mt s loi kin thm ch c c qun i chuyn tn cng cc t kin khc. t binh v lm n l v m nhn nhng vic linh tinh. (Nghe c v rt ging vi x ngi.)

Mi t kin l mt x hi t cung t cp v c t chc hon ho. Mi con kin u v ring v chng thc hin chnh xc nhim v cho n khi cht m khng h Khng c "cu th" no tt hn th trong th gii t nhin. Nhng t kin khng phi l mng li quan h.

Khng khi no c mt con kin t chic l xung, quay tr li t v ni vi ng mnh rng: "Ny, anh bn, ti chn m vic hng ngy phi mang nhng chic l n mnh gp 10 ln. Anh bn chc cng phi ngn n tn c khi ch lm mi mt vi dn ci t ny. Bit u chng ta s cm thy kh hn nu c th i cng vic ch Anh bn ngh th no nu ti c th thu xp cho anh bn thm mt cht thc n i vic ch?" chnh l s dng mng li quan h v nhng con kin th khng lm nh vy n thun lm nhng vic m chng ang lm ng nh mt phn vic ca chng nhm.

a s cc tp on khng n mng li quan h. Nhng cng ty ny c t cht ch thnh cc b phn v mi phng ban hot ng ging nh trong thp kn tin c tch ly theo chiu thng ng nhng khng bao gi c chia s ngang cc b phn khc. Nghin cu v pht trin khng lin h vi b phn bn hng, b li khng lin h vi b phn quan h khch hng v c nh vy.

Mnh lnh c truyn xung theo chui h thng iu hnh. Sau l s tun l nhn vin lm vic ging nh nhng con kin, h thm ch khng cn phi ngh v na.

Nhng t chc c xy dng mng li quan h nh General Electric v 3M l nh v kt qu l h rt thnh cng. Nhng cng ty ny c gng ph b ro cn ngn c cc b phn v ngn nga hi chng cc b thng i km vi chuyn mn ho v cp bc.

H lp ra cc nhm gm nhng thnh vin thuc nhiu chuyn mn khc nhau. M cng vic t chc by gi l nhm phc v khch hng thay v phc v cho chnh

Sng kin c nhn c khuyn khch. Vic xy dng v s dng mng li quan khen thng. Cng ty gi y khng cn l t kin na. Jack Welch - CEO ca General Electric - quyt tm ng dng mng li quan h a ra hn mt thut ng mi v n: "khng bin gii".

"Trong kinh doanh, c iu g t hn l chia thnh cc b phn?" Welch a ra c tFortune Adviser nm 1996. "H khng lin h vi nhau. Bn phi lm mt iu b nhng ngn cch ny v bn s c tng thng xng ng... Khng bin gi rng mi khi bn gp ai l bn ang i tm mt tng tt hn, mi hn v ln bn cng c thi ci m vi nhng tng n t bt k u."

Khng may l, a s mi ngi khng to dng v s dng mng li quan h. N ngi trong s nghip v cuc sng ca h, ch l nhng thnh vin ca mt nh phi l nhng c nhn ring bit. H ct l cy, lau dn nh , qut th khi i lm vo lm vic.

No, hy nhn quanh bn xem. Nu nhng ngi bn tip xc hng ngy li chnh ng nghip trong t kin th n lc tin hnh mt vi kt ni mi ri y." Thng tin v cun sch: Tn sch: T o ging trc khi cht kht Tc gi: Harvey Mackey Gi: 93.000 (vn) S trang: 408 Nh xut bn: i hc Kinh t - quc dn Kh: 15.5 x 24 (cm) Dng ba: Ba mm

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