Coaching Model Assessment Name: Cristina Kampe Date: June 2012 Email: cristina.kampe@gmx.

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The NEW-YOU coaching model is designed to TRANSFORM whoever you are into whoever you want to be. The past does not have to determine the future! If youve been weak yesterday this does not mean you cannot be strong tomorrow. If youve been shy this does not mean you cannot become bold and outgoing. The potential is hidden deep down inside of you. Your resources seem limited, out of your short sighed view, but you have it all there within, it just awaits to be awaken, that part of you that you don t even know about. You might have been hurt, damaged, wounded, broken down in pieces, brain-washed by your parents..it does not really matter, because you have the power to be reborn, THE NEW- YOU the dormant part of you that youve suppressed in order to fit in societys standards and norms. You need that part of you in order to feel fully alive, in order to be the real you, the powerful you, the YOU that you always wanted to be. You live only once and you deserve to shine!

THE NEW-YOU Coaching model

STATUS QUO
Recognize the sabotaging behavior Identify underlying belief Formulate your DREAM VISION

What do you want?

BREAK THE PATTERN

Challenge the belief Formulate an alternative belief

COMMITMENT
Reinforce the alternative belief Be kind to yourself

TRANSFORMATION

AWARENESS

New behavior New underlying belief

NEW YOU

DREAM VISION

PHASE STAGE ELABORATION
We all have some type of self-defeating behavior, we all sabotage ourselves in a certain way, to a certain degree, and the more we repeat a pattern of behavior the stronger that pattern becomes. We feel stuck and we tend to treat the effect instead of looking at the deep cause behind that result. Some of us want to lose weight, they know exactly they should eat less, exercise more but they don t do it. Others would like to advance in their career but they stay stuck on the same level of hierarchy for years. Some people never manage to have committed relationships, every person they meet seems to be the wrong one and their relationships end in the same way. These are only some examples but the list in endless. Our beliefs are a very powerful driving force, controlling everything about us. Our beliefs determine, how we feel about ourselves, about others, about things in general, they determine our decisions, our actions, our behaviors and ultimately the direction we go in life. Beliefs can be so deep that we don t even consider them, or evaluate them; we simply accept their existence and build our thought process around them. We see them as absolute truths but they are often times very wrong and damaging to our existence. They are usually developed in our childhood, when we may not question what we learn. These negative beliefs can keep us trapped in a vicious cycle. We let them drive us, lead our whole life, reinforcing certain actions, repeating the same mistakes, obtaining the same type of outcomes, keeping the same behavioral pattern, and loosing around the same issues. In order to feel empowered to change, to move away from the Status Quo, you need a DREAM VISION, something worth fighting for, something meaningful to you, something that makes your heart sing. It s always easier to leave the past behind when you are excited about where you want to go, about where you want to arrive.

PRACTICAL APPROACH
*Analyze your behaviors. Is there something that you are unhappy with? Something you keep on doing even though it does not help you? *Do you notice any type of behavior that drains your energy, weakens your power, has a bad effect on what you actually want to achieve? Do you feel sometimes that you take action against own purpose? *The starting point is to recognize that behavior! But this is only the surface. What really drives us? what s the leading force behind that behavior?

1.Recognize the sabotaging behavior

AWARENES

2. Identify the underlying belief

*To identify, what belief lies behind your self- defeating behavior you need to question your line of reasoning until we reach to the core belief. When the explanation you give repeats itself again and again you reached to the core belief. *You will distinguish that belief, as it will be something very familiar, something that totally makes sense to you, something that defines you.

3. Formulate your DREAM VISION

*Formulate you DREAM VISION of how you want to become or of what you want to achieve? Do you want to be more Self- confident? Maybe more successful? Richer? Have a better job? *Think of what your heart truly desires and state that goal clearly!

BREAK THE PATTERN

If you keep doing the things in the same way, driven by the same way of thinking, most likely youll obtain the same outcomes from the past. In order to obtain different results you need to break your thinking pattern, you need start challenging your beliefs. Much of what we believe is just a collection of old thoughts put together by a younger, less experienced version of ourselves. Sometimes, it is during disappointment that we make decisions that limit our mind, that limit what is possible for us in the future. Those old decisions hold us back from being fully alive and capable of connecting to the reality that surrounds us. Those old beliefs keep us from living our dreams. The healthiest thing you can do is to find alternative ways of looking at things. A person who manages to see things from different perspectives is more powerful and can easier handle any situation and overcome any obstacles that comes his way. The whole idea is to shift your mind from a disempowering belief to an empowering one, to a belief that works good for you that puts you in the driver sit, and makes you open your eyes to all the things that are possible for you. You should not try to find an alternative belief that is totally opposite to what you currently believe but rather try to find a more realistic view. Be patient and don t expect overnight success or give up because of the lack of it. The best way to strengthen your direction on the new path is by: - repeating the new behavior born as a response to the new empowering belief; -being persistent, -showing resilience and courage (as it takes courage to change) - and by always keeping the end result in mind.

1.Challenge the belief

*To challenge our way of thinking, we need to learn to take a second look at our beliefs. Start by asking yourself the following things: >Why do I believe what I believe? >Who put that belief right there where it is? >Who said that was true? Does that truly make sense? >Is that serving/empowering me? *List advantages and disadvantages/costs and benefits of holding that belief. *If you come to the conclusion that your belief is disempowering you/draining your energy/working against you, than continue by gathering any evidence you can find that your belief is not true all the time.

2.Formulate an alternative belief

*Formulate at least two possible alternative beliefs. *Bring evidence to yourself that supports the validity of the new beliefs. *Choose the alternative belief that you most believe in.

1.Strenghten the alternative belief

*Every time you catch yourself falling in the old thinking pattern remember that this belief does not belong to you any longer, it does not help you to move in the direction you want, and it is not valid anymore. This old belief does not serve your dream vision, does not empower you, does not help you become who you want to become. It is an outdated point of view, an obsolete reflection of a mind, which was lacking the right type of information. *Remind yourself that what you think it is your own choice. You can choose to believe whatever empowers you and discard any belief that drains your energy. You are the master of your own mind, you are the boss, you are in charge!

COMMITMENT

2.Be kind to yourself

Even if you find yourself falling back in the same old behavioral pattern, do not despair. The old behavior has been repeated for years and it is very appealing due to its familiarity. The mind is used with it and it accommodates it easily However, as that pattern has been learned it can be as well des-learned and replaced by something a different one.

*Whenever you find yourself losing faith, remind yourself that nothing happens over night. We are all human beings and we are prone to make mistakes but this does not makes us failures. *Remind yourself that you are perfectly ok and that you are not going to motivate yourself by putting yourself down or by beating yourself up. Talk tenderly to yourself, as if you were your best friend who tries to support and encourage you.