nger it is very easy to control, it is very

difficult to transform. You can control your

anger, but what will you do? Suppress it. And
what happens when you suppress a certain thing? The
direction of its movement changes: it was going out,
when you suppress it, it starts going in -- just its
direction changes.
Anger should go out, because poison needs to be
thrown out. It is bad for anger to move within, because
that means your whole body and mind structure will be
poisoned by it.
But you go on doing this for a long time... as
everybody has been doing, because the society teaches
control, not transformation. Society says, 'Control
yourself,' and through controlling all the negative things
have been thrown deeper and deeper into the
unconscious, and then these become constant within
you. Then it is not a question of your being angry
sometimes and sometimes not -- you are simply angry.
Sometimes you explode, and sometimes you don't
explode because there is no excuse, or you have to find
an excuse. And remember, you can find an excuse
anywhere!
One of my friends wanted to divorce his wife. He
went to a lawyer who was an expert on marriage affairs
and asked the lawyer, 'On what grounds can I divorce
my wife?'
The lawyer looked at him and said, 'Are you
married?'
The man said, 'Of course, yes.'
The lawyer said, 'Marriage is an enough ground.
There is no need to seek any other ground. If you want a
divorce, then marriage is needed, because it will be
impossible to divorce a woman if you are not married.
You are angry. Because you have suppressed so much
anger, now there are no moments when you are not
angry; at the most, sometimes you are less angry,
sometimes more. Your whole being is poisoned by
suppression. You eat with anger -- and it has a different
quality when a person eats without anger: it is beautiful
to watch him, because he eats non-violently. He may be
eating meat, but he eats non-violently; you may be
eating just vegetables and fruits, but if anger is
suppressed, you eat violently.
Just through eating, your teeth, your mouth releases
anger. You crush the food as if this is the enemy.
Whenever animals are angry, what do they do? Only
two things are possible -- they don't have weapons and
they don't have atom bombs, what can they do? Either
with their nails or with their teeth they are violent.
These are the natural weapons of the body -- nails
and teeth. It is very difficult to be violent with your
nails, because people will ask, 'Are you an animal?' So
the only weapon with which you can express your anger
or violence easily is the mouth and that too you cannot
use to bite anybody. That's why we say, 'a bite of bread, a
bite of food, a few bites.'
You eat food violently, as if food is the enemy. And
remember, when the food is the enemy, it does not really
nourish you, it nourishes all that is ill in you. People
with deep suppressed anger eat more; they go on
gathering unnecessary fat in the body -- and have you
observed that fat people are almost always smiling?
Unnecessarily, even if there is no cause, fat people
always go on smiling. Why? This is their face, this is
their mask: they are so afraid of their anger and their
violence that they have to keep smiling continuously --
and they also go on eating more.
Eating more is violence, anger that moves into every
arena of your life. You will make love, but it will be
more like violence than love, it will have much
aggression in it. You never observe one another making
ANGER:
Don't Control
But Transform
Almost eighty per cent of diseases are
caused by repressed emotions: so many
heart failures means so much anger has
been repressed in the heart, so much
hatred that the heart is poisoned. Why?
Why does man suppress so much and
become unhealthy? Because the society
teaches you to control, not to
transform, and the way of
transformation is totally different.
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love because you don't know what is happening.
You cannot know what is happening to you because
you are almost always so immersed in aggression.
That's why deep orgasm through love becomes
impossible because you are afraid deep down that if
you move totally without control, you may kill your
wife or your beloved, or a woman may kill her husband
or the lover. You become so afraid of your own anger.
Next time you make love, watch: you will be doing
the same movements that you do when you are
aggressive. Watch the face. Have a mirror around so
that you can see what is happening to your face. All the
distortions of anger and aggression will be there.
While consuming food, you become angry: look at a
person who is eating. Look at that person making love.
Anger has gone so deep that even love which is an
activity totally opposite to anger, even that is poisoned.
Eating is an activity absolutely neutral, even that is
poisoned.
Then you just open the door and there is anger, you
put a book on the table and there is anger, you take off
your shoes and there is anger, you shake hands and
there is anger -- because now you are anger personified.
Through suppression, the mind becomes split. The
part that you accept becomes the conscious and the part
that you deny becomes the unconscious. This division is
not natural. The division happens because of
repression. You go on throwing all the rubbish that
society rejects but remember, whatever you throw in
there becomes increasingly part of you: it goes into your
hands, into your bones, into your blood, into your
heartbeat. Now, psychologists say that almost eighty
per cent of diseases are caused by repressed emotions:
so many heart failures means so much anger has been
repressed in the heart, so much hatred that the heart is
poisoned.
Why suppress so much? Society teaches you to
control and not to transform, and the way of
transformation is totally different. For one thing, it is not
the way of control at all, it is just the opposite.
First, in controlling you repress, while in
transformation you express. But there is no need to
express yourself to somebody else because the 'somebody
else' is just irrelevant. Next time you feel angry go and
run around the house seven times, and after that sit
under a tree and watch where the anger has gone. You
have not repressed it, you have not controlled it, you
have not thrown it on somebody else.
If you throw it on somebody else, a chain is created
because the other is as foolish and unconscious as you
are. If you throw your anger on another person, and if
the other is an enlightened person, there will be no
trouble; he will help you to throw and release it and go
through a catharsis. But if the other person is as ignorant
as you -- if you throw anger on him, he will react. He will
throw more anger at you, he is as repressed as you are.
Then there is a chain: you throw on him, he throws on
you, and you both become enemies.
Don't throw it on anybody. It is the same as when you
feel like vomiting: you don't go and vomit on somebody.
You go to the bathroom and vomit! It cleanses the whole
body If you suppress the vomit it will be dangerous, and
when you have vomited you will feel fresh, you will feel
unburdened, unloaded, good, healthy. Something was
wrong with the food that you ate and the body rejected it.
Don't go on forcing it inside.
- Osho: And the Flowers Showered # 3
From thundering anger to peaceful silence...