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But even when partners are rarely physically separated, autonomy can still be maintained,
by having individual activities and interests. Many partners fear that they will grow apart
if each goes their own way. However the opposite is true: people get subconsciously tired
of each other when they do everything together.
The Art of Dialogue
Silence is a lethal passion killer, whereas honest talk stimulates love. Whats honest talk?
Communication that is deeper than the normal chat about daily events. New lovers tell
each other a lot about themselves, they talk of their feelings for each other and let their
partners share their thoughts. If this communication peters out, then there is just no
charge left in the relationship.
The rules: set aside a fixed time to talk. No accusations permitted, no pressure exertedeach partner should simply listen to what the other has to say. What should partners talk
about? About themselves, their relationship, bodily feelings, erotic desire. Obviously this
doesnt come easy for a routine. But if the partners persist, they feel stimulated, thus
creating fertile ground for tenderness. The primary purpose of this conversation is not to
convey information. Its purpose is to say, I am here and I know you are here for me
too.