PaulNewman,oneofAmericasmostlegendaryactors,alsohadoneofHollywoodsmostlegendary

marriages.HetiedtheknotwithactressJoanneWoodwardin1958afterreunitingwithheronthesetof
TheLongHotSummer,launchinga50yearunionthatendureduntilhisdeathin2008.
OnceyoureadthevowsfromtheirLasVegaswedding,itseasytoseewhyPaulandJoannelastedso
long.
PaulNewmanandJoanneWoodward
January29,1958
Happinessinmarriageisnotsomethingthatjusthappens.Agoodmarriagemustbecreated.IntheArt
ofMarriage:Thelittlethingsarethebigthings.Itisneverbeingtoooldtoholdhands.Itis
rememberingtosayIloveyouatleastonceaday.Itisnevergoingtosleepangry.
Itisatnotimetakingtheotherforgranted;thecourtshipshouldnotendwiththehoneymoon,itshould
continuethroughalltheyears.Itishavingamutualsenseofvaluesandcommonobjectives.Itis
standingtogetherfacingtheworld.Itisformingacircleoflovethatgathersinthewholefamily.Itis
doingthingsforeachother,notintheattitudeofdutyorsacrifice,butinthespiritofjoy.
Itisspeakingwordsofappreciationanddemonstratinggratitudeinthoughtfulways.Itisnotexpecting
thehusbandtowearahaloorthewifetohavewingsofanangel.Itisnotlookingforperfectionineach
other.
Itiscultivatingflexibility,patience,understandingandasenseofhumor.Itishavingthecapacityto
forgiveandforget.Itisgivingeachotheranatmosphereinwhicheachcangrow.Itisfindingroomfor
thethingsofthespirit.Itisacommonsearchforthegoodandthebeautiful.
Itisestablishingarelationshipinwhichtheindependenceisequal,dependenceismutualandthe
obligationisreciprocal.Itisnotonlymarryingtherightpartner,itisbeingtherightpartner.

Lafelicidadenelmatrimonionoesalgoquesimplementesuceda,unbuenmatrimoniodebecrearse.
EnelArtedelMatrimoniolaspequeascosassonlasgrandescosas;nuncasestanviejocomopara
nosostenerselasmanos.
Hayquerecordardecirteamoalmenosunavezalda,ynuncairseadormirenojados.
Nuncahayquehablaralotrosoloporsercondescendiente;elcortejonodebeterminarconlalunade
miel,debecontinuaratravsdelosaos.
ElArtedelMatrimonioestenerunsentidomutuodevaloresyobjetivoscomunes,espararsejuntos
enfrentndosealmundo.
Esformaruncrculodeamorquesealimentaentodalafamilia.

Eshacercosasparaelotro,noenlaactituddeservicioosacrificio,sinoenelespritudegozo.
Eshablarconpalabrasdeapreciacinydemostrargratituddemaneraconsiderada.
Nosebuscalaperfeccinens,elArtedelMatrimonioescultivarlaflexibilidad,lapaciencia,la
comprensinyelsentidodelhumor.
Estenerlacapacidaddeperdonarydeolvidar.
Esdaralotrounaatmsferaenlaquecadaunopuedacrecer.
Esencontrarespacioparalascosasdelespritu,enunabsquedacomndelbienylabelleza.
Esestablecerunarelacinenlacuallaindependenciaseaporigual,ladependenciamutuaylas
obligacionesrecprocas.
Noesslocasarseconlaparejaperfecta,esserlaparejaperfecta.
Esdescubrirloqueelmatrimoniopuedeser,ensumejormomento.