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K: oh with my dad it was kind of.. parang it made a rift? Between us? Well a lot
was going on that time. It wasnt just me being in a relationship on the Filipino but I
think like while were having dinner, he purposely talk about the bad things Filipinos
do? Hm.. you know its very hard to pin point but something like that as in on
purpose sobra didiinin nya na Filipinos are bad, they just cheat, they just use you
and things like that and it was slightly directed to me? So when I was kind of still
immature because I would react violently.. not really violently but Id answer back,
and Id try to say that you are complely racist and things like that and I retaliate
and we just end up fighting. I cant really pin point kasi sobrang indirectly nya
ginagawa na hindi mo makikita ung total connection until a few days and you
realize na oh my dads like sh*t parang ganon.. like he indirectly does it.
J: oh I see, okay.. but then knowing that your dad sometimes does that, what kept
you to stay in a relationship with name of the boyfriend?
K: well, like what ive said he is like a rare species that you dont find these days
anymore. He knows how to respect me, he knows how to treat people properly, and
I think the main factor basically is that my relationship with my boyfriend has been
extremely well. Its like we fine strength with each other and even when my parents
try and get in a way, we find a way to work things out and just tune off everything
else and just focus on what we have and thats what kept us going and what kept
me going with him. And even when my parents are talking shit about Filipinos and
giving the cold shoulder to my boyfriend when hes home, my boyfriend never talk
bad about my parents. Never said anything like why are they doing this? its
wrong and things like that. He still respected my parents which I admire.
J: hm.. okay thats good. Kilig ako wait. Teehee.. so do you have other thoughts that
you want to share, or none na cos im going to ask you the last question na.
K: I just think na relationships with other nationalities or races cannot be compared
with each other, lets say my relationship. I cannot say that if you get into a
relationship with a Filipino, its going to be as good as mine. I just think na it
depends on the person I, weve been through a lot.. my boyfriend and I. and I kind
of felt the great wall in our relationship as in, just with the differences na my dad is
talking about, the culture and how you are (3:57brought?) up. But its a matter of
how much you want things to work out and how much your partner wants things to
work out. Its just a matter of how you deal with things, if your partner is as into the
relationship you have with him, as you are then even with a lot of differences and
obstacles youll get through it.
J: okay.. as of now that you are 6 years together, are you happy or satisfied with
your decision?

K: I am more than happy, like if you ask my friends, they will tell you that Im kind
of weird, not really weird but Im not myself if iccompare me lets say last year kasi
I am more settled? Erase that, I let me think how am I suppose to say that..
(take 2) I am more than happy, if I compare my relationship with my friends
relationships I think na ours is the most mature? And if I compare the man I have
with men that my friends have and how their boyfriends treat them I always see
myself as extremely fortunate, well just because my man knows how to treat me
right not just as a girl, but as a woman and I am happy na we grew old together. I
know it kinda sound cheesy but its very hard when you have different perception in
life. Lets say being a Chinese, we want to own our own company, more business
driven? And I think Filipinos in general are happy as they are and even if they are
just employed and doesnt have their own company theyre happy as they are? This
is just an example okay, but I think through the years weve compromise where we
want or where we will be in the future. Did I make sense?
J: ya.. I think so. Oo naman.
K: So ya, basically Im just very happy. I am more than happy

J: That caps up our interview, thank you so much. And I am so glad that everything
is working out.
K: yes im happy too.
J: so do you have anything to add like or to share or none naman?
K: I dont know, if you asked me something ill answer you
J: well I think kasi everything naman na the info.. but basically what I notice is that
you dad, he si very subtle with the issue, with showing his objections to the
relationship
K: although now wala na.
J: so if like I interviewed you last year, this would have been a very different kind of
interview..
K: ya, not just because my dad was, but also I think mutual maturity namin. As in
my dad and myself we just think over the year everyone just grow mature and learn
to deal with each other better.
J: oh last question. Like with your siblings, do they mind that you are dating
someone that is a Filipino.
K: No, hm.. Patrick my younger brother he is basically dated..

J: all races? Joke.

K: not really all races kasi wala naman masyadong western dito pero like Korean,
Filipino, Japanese alam mo yon, parang he doesnt restrict himself. And oh my dad
does not really care that much when it comes to my brothers as in who they date,
their race. My dad doesnt really care but when it comes with me its like a big thing.
J: baka kasi like youre the only girl.
K: probably because, a lot of factors din.
J: so its nice na youre okay na now. And you have matured.. so I guess thats the
end of the interview. Ill just send the informed consent .