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P O W The Psychology of Winning PDF
P O W The Psychology of Winning PDF
Psychology
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DenisWaitley
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POSITIVE SELF-EXPECTANCY
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ACTION APPLICATIONS
1. Wake up happy. Optimism is a learned
behavioral attitude. Start early in life- and
early in the day- developing positive selfexpectancy. Wake up t o music. Read an
inspirational message. Sing in the shower.
Breakfast with an optimist. On your way to
work, listen to a motivational tape.
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Find something good in all personal relationships, and accentuate the blessings or lessons
in even the most trying circumstances.
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ACTION APPLICATIONS
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POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE
Synonyms: Constructive imagination, visualization, creativity
Antonyms: Dark imaginings, worries, neuroses
Proverb: "What you see is what you get!"
Summary: Winners are especially aware of the
vital importance of self-image and the role
imagination plays in its creation and upgrading. They know self-image acts a s a
subconscious life-governing device: if they
can't see themselves doing something,
achieving something, they literally cannot do
it! They also know the self-image can be
changed. The subconscious is incapable of
differentiating between a real success and a
success imagined again and again, vividly and
in full detail. Behavior and performance
usually are consistent with self-image, which is
an intricately woven concept made up of all
fears, feelings and emotional responses to all
past personal experiences. What is perceived
as real is filtered or shaded differently from
. what others perceive by a time-grown, robotlike self-image. What is frequently imagined as
being real often becomes the dominant version
of reality. Winners imagine and fantasize who
they would most like to become-and the
robot self-image reads the script, memorizes it
and acts accordingly.
m ACTION APPLICATIONS
1. Walk on the beach, in the country or in a
park, recalling your childhood play. Dust off
and "oil" your imagination. It rules your world.
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10. Since self-image is the conceptual, visual, display of self-esteem,take stock this weekend of
those images with which you display yourself:
clothes, auto, home, garage, closet, dresser
drawers, desk, photos, lawn, garden, etc.
Make a priority list to get rid of all clutter and
sharpen up all the expressions of your life.
POSITIVE SELF-DIRECTION
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Draft a financial game plan to fuel your personal growth cycle. Select a hypothetical income goal at retirement age, adjusting for inflation probabilities. Determine annual
savings and investment yields you must generate from now on to build the assets to provide
the income you need. Check your insurance
against income loss, your emergency and contingency savings, and plan your monthly
budget to provide a discretionary surplus for a
savings and investment plan.
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POSITIVE SELF-CONTROL
Synonyms: Self-determination,volition, choice
ACTION APPLICATIONS
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Carry another affirmative motto with you: "Action TNT (Today Not Tomorrow)".
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POSITIVE SELF-DISCIPLINE
Synonyms: Achievement simulation, drill, practice
Antonyms: Repetitive error, inconsistency, lack of
follow-through
Proverb: "Habits begin as harmless thoughtslike flimsy cobwebs-then, with practice,
become unbreakable cables to shackle or
strengthen our lives."
Summary: Self-discipline is the winning edge that
achieves goals, the ability to practice within.
Like astronauts, championship athletes and
skilled surgeons, winners practice flawless
techniques in their minds over and over again.
Knowing thought begets habit, they discipline
their thoughts to create the habit of superb
performance-the mark of a Total Winner.
Most people forget the routine for learning a
skill: Desire, Information, Assimilation and
Repetition. We learned how to drive, type,
speak a foreign language-why is it so difficult to apply learning to our most important
goals? Self-discipline can effect permanent
change in your self-image and in you. Selfdiscipline is mental practice -the commitment
to memory of thoughts and emotions overriding information stored in the subconscious
memory bank. Through relentless repetition,
these new inputs into our "robot achievement
mechanism" result in the creation of a new
self-image.
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ACTION APPLICATIONS
Get current, first-hand experience with stateof-the-art simulation. Make an appointment to
visit one of the following during the next 30
days: a military flight simulator, an airline pilot
training simulator, or a computer simulation
training facility at a university.
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POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM
Synonyms: Self-worth, self-respect, selfconfidence
Antonyms: Self-deprecation, self-doubt, selfconsciousness
Proverb: "If you love yourself, then you can give
love away. How can you give what you don't
feel?"
Summary: Perhaps more than any other quality,
self-esteem is the door to healthy high achievement and happiness. Winners have a deepdown feeling of their own worth. They know
that, contrary t o popular belief, selfacce~tanceand deserving are not necessarilv
legaEies from wise, loving parents- history is
full of saints rising from gutters and literal
monsters growing up in loving families.
Winners aren't outer-directed. Recognizing
their uniqueness, they develop and maintain
their own high standards. They don't give in to
fear and anxiety. Accept yourself as an imperfect, changing, worthwhile person. Realize that
liking yourself and feeling you're a super individual in your own special way is not
necessarily egotistical. Take pride in what you
are accomplishing and in the unique person
you are, and enjoy just being alive right now.
Understand the truth that, although we as
individuals are not born with equal physical
and mental attributes, we are born with the
equal right to feel the excitement and joy of
believing we deserve the very best in life. Most
winners imagine and believe in their own
worth, even when they have nothing but a
dream to hold on to.
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POSITIVE SELF-DIMENSION
Synonyms: Total person, visionary, humanist
Antonyms: Shallowness, egocentricity, superficiality
Proverb: "When you create other winners like
yourself, life will pay you back and shine its
sun upon your face and put the wind at your
back."
Summary: Winners see their total person in such a
fully-formed perspective that they literally
become part of the "big picture" of life -and it
of them. They know themselves intimately.
They see themselves through others' eyes.
They feel as one with nature and the universe.
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d learn from the past, plan for the
future and live as fully as possible in the
present. Winners create other winners without
exploiting them. Winners live in harmony with
their loved ones, their friends and their
communities. Winners practice the double-win
attitude: "If I help you win, then I win."
Positive self-dimension is understanding the
vulnerability of the life process and the
delicate balance of ecology. Self-dimensionfitting in-draws upon the spiritual power
woven intricately into every fiber of our being.
Winners understand the mortality of their
bodies, and are able to age gracefully. They
don't necessarily accept death as the final gun
in the game of life, but as a transition they may
never fully comprehend, yet do not fear. Winners plant shade trees under which they know
they'll never sit.
A Wmer's self-talk: "I live every moment,
enjoying as much, relating as much, doing as
much, giving as much as I possibly can."
Losers say: "Sm only concerned with me today."
I ACTION APPLICATIONS
1. Ask yourself the question, how do I fit into my
family, my company, my profession, my
community, my nation, my world?
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8. Look for and speak the truth. Don't let ads and
fads make you one of the countless victims of
greed. When you read, hear or see something
that impresses you-check the source and
the credentials. View everything with openminded skepticism. Open-minded enough to
explore it without prejudice. And skeptical
enough to research and test its validity.
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POSITIVE SELF-PROJECTION
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Project a pmitive self-image. Projed your creative imagination and always present a
positive preview of your coming attractions
with vivid descriptions.
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Project positive self-discipline. Talk to yourself over and over again when you are relaxed,
visualizing yourself in the act of enjoying and
completing each of your current goals.
Complete the projects you begin.
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Project positive self-expectancy. Your enthusiasm will be wonderfully contagious and infect
almost everyone it touches.
9. Project positive self-dimension. Project yourself as a winner who creates other winners
too.
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