The Truth about Obsessive Compulsive Disorders

Sam Fryman 2006

The latest official statistic on mental health tells us that one in five British children
are suffering from psychological problems, meaning ones that are judged to fall
within the parameters of medical mental health care.
That is, one in five of our children are deemed cases to be treated with psychiatric
therapy or psychotropic drugs or a combination of the two.
A recent UK TV documentary showed us the cases of two such children, both
diagnosed as having obsessive compulsive disorder which we will henceforth as
is officially the practice refer to as OCD.
The first of these children was a very intelligent and sensitive looking fifteen year
old adolescent named Jack, who looked like a more than averagely well-adjusted
teenager at a quick glance, and in other circumstances and dress might have been
taken for a member of a teen boy band.
But on closer inspection we found he had all kinds of obsessive-compulsive
behaviours, such as lining-up all his possessions in his room, and could not bear to let
anyone touch his computer or other personal things lest they contaminate them
somehow, or simply move them out of position.
He even has some kind of special trolley to move things on which does not leave
impressions in the carpet.
Whats it all about? Is he crazy?
The short answer is yes, hes crazy all right, but not in the way that the doctors
and therapists imagine. We will explain in due course.
Predictably, as usual, a woman Ph D psychologist soon appeared on the scene to try
to cure his problem, and indeed this documentary even claimed that she had done so
successfully, though as usual we remain unconvinced, only seeing this edited and
likely rather staged potted version of the progress of his therapy and subsequent life
over the few months documented by the TV program.
For example, let us point out a simple fact. We all tend to improve our behaviour in
all kinds of ways when we are given a lot of support and attention and incentive to do
so, just as a person who cannot swim can convincingly appear to do so, if they have a
rubber ring or lifebelt to stop them sinking.
However, when the lifebelt or in this case psychological support mechanism
temporarily provided by the therapist and the unusual circumstance of being made
somewhat a star as the subject of a TV documentary is withdrawn, we will likely
find that this illusion of swimming can turn back into drowning, both in the literal
and metaphorical senses.
Once the ball is over, and the midnight chimes sound, we may well find that our
glittering coach has turned back into a pumpkin, and our white horses into white mice
or even rats, and we too then fade psychologically when we are in the limelight of
attention no more.
We observe this phenomenon in love relationships generally. Many people feel
optimistic and marvellous when they are in love with the object of their affections
who is in love with them, and because they also feel loved. This love empowers
them, but then if or when the relationship breaks down, they go to pieces.
Surely, we have all had this experience at least once, if not over and over again.
The point we are making is the superficiality and non-genuineness and
impermanence of therapies that are based on attention and support.

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The experts involved in the making of this program however argued that the CBT
that they were using this so called Cognitive Behaviour Therapy did not depend
on such long-term and likely permanent support, but sought to make the sufferer able
to therapise themselves after the supervised period ended.
Again, it did not appear that the documentary covered this post-therapy phase
adequately, if indeed at all, and thus we remain unconvinced about the future of the
subject after the cameras had gone, and this lady therapist with them.
But thus we see that the illusion of success of these therapies is maintained.
That is, just imagine a man who was a travelling dentist, and believed he was a great
dentist, because he made new perfect teeth for his patients that remained gleaming for
several days.
But imagine further that these wonder-teeth fell out after a few more days or weeks,
but the travelling dentist had by then moved onto another town, and another case.
Such a dentist would never know that his dentistry was so short-lived and thus
ultimately fake.
Thus is the situation with the modern travelling therapist or psychologist, who
travels in the sense of moving on to another case, deeming the past one successfully
cured, even though it likely isnt.
For the amazing thing about this modern knowledge about OCD, is that these
psychologists and experts freely admit, that the cause is unknown, and only a subject
for speculation.
Well, we are going to speculate some more here, but based on the evidence of our
eyes and an imagination and mind free from prejudice or convention.
For we alleged in our previous works, including The Feminist Offenders Register,
that countless modern Western women are psychologically abusive of their children,
which some of our readers may have found puzzling and indeed unlikely.
So here we are going to expand upon and explain that allegation.
That is, this fifteen year old boy suffering from his OCD clearly had a problem
with his mother.
No mention was made of this by the woman doctor of psychology, who rather
was perceived by him at first in any case as a co-conspirator against him with his
mother, which in our opinion was the actuality of the case.
That is, this psychologist advised that this CBT cognitive behaviour therapy
be used (well, at least its a step forward from ECT, you know electro-convulsivetherapy) in the form of trying to modify his behaviour, by confronting him with his
anxiety producing situations, and getting him to deal with his responses to that.
For instance, she advised that his mother should go on his computer upstairs
something he normally forbade her absolutely from doing while he did something
else downstairs.
Jack reluctantly agreed to this, and tried to argue that she could sit at his computer
as long as she didnt switch it on. But his mother insisted no doubt prompted by the
therapist that she must switch it on, or how else could she truly go on it?
So under the tactics of bullying and persuasion, Jack indeed eventually agreed to
allow her to do these things he found abhorrent, and was shown at the end of the
documentary to be even allowing friends in his room, to which previously nobody
was allowed to enter.
Sounds like success doesnt it? And no doubt the lady doctor went off chuffed with
herself, believing she had achieved victory.
But let us look at the psychological dynamic of what was going on in Jacks
behaviours.

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Modern psychology freely admits that the compulsive behaviours are a result of
anxiety.
But sadly they dont probe any further than that.
Because what we really need to know is what this anxiety is all about, what more
precisely is the mental or psychological pattern that is hiding behind this omnibus
cover-all, and hence frequently cop out terms of anxiety or stress.
And our theory is that these kind of obsessive behaviours are about feeling in
control.
We all seek freedom. But from the cradle to the grave our actions are controlled by a
long line of others, starting with our parents.
Just as we have experienced easy going supervisors or teachers, or demanding and
controlling supervisors or teachers, naturally parents come in those varieties also.
Some parents will let their children on a long leash and not harangue and constantly
command and dominate them, and others will keep their children on a very short
leash, always ready to bark orders, criticism and commands and demands at them.
So any fool can see that a child who is treated by a parent in one of these two very
different ways is going to turn out very differently depending which kind of authority
the parent is.
In short, the child that is the product of a parent who is bossy and dominating and so
on, is going to turn out insecure admittedly yet another omnibus term, which
covers a whole spectrum of situations.
But what we mean in this case, is that the child feels not in control of its
environment, of its life.
For example, suppose parent A says to Jack occasionally, or perhaps even only
once You should keep your room tidy. Its safer for you, easier to find things, and
looks nicer, and is more pleasant to be in.
That child likely responds to such a suggestion from a gentle considerate parent.
But if we have parent B who adds a lot of negative emotional content and
bullying to their handling of Jack, and barks orders and makes threats like Look at
your disgusting room. You are a dirty untidy boy. No sweets for you today. Tidy that
room up at once or else youll be for it, we will get a very different kind of response
from the child.
Such a child will do things not out of cooperation, love and respect, but out of fear.
Clearly, such a child will feel a lack of control over their environment.
They will carry this state of anxiety, in the sense of disempowerment, being always
a puppet of this overmastering dominant person typically a mother, though
obviously sometimes can be a father also, but mothers tend to be more dominant in
the lives of young children, so its invariably a mother.
The fact is, that when children rebel in their teens against their father, it is typically
not due to what the father has done, but due to what the mother has done to the child,
because she has likely had most of the care for it in its most formative years i.e. 0 to
7 years old.
That is, she has already traumatised it not even realising she has done so, or ever
consciously meaning to do so in many if not most cases and thus by its teens it is in
a rebellious state.
So as we have shown, the traumatised, roughly handled child feels little or no sense
of control in its life. It is anxiously awaiting the next order, or bullying session or
unfair imposition of rules and regulations or punishments.
As we have said, we see in the epidemic of adult men seeking to be abused in such a
way by professional sadomasochistic women the proof of men reliving their

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childhoods in this way, which of course they no longer realise, not being able to recall
how their mothers treated them in early childhood.
So these obsessive compulsive behaviours are in fact, whilst appearing to be out of
control behaviours, a means to control their environment.
That is the characteristic. Jack forbids anyone to enter his bedroom. He forbids any
alteration of the objects. He has total control over his environment, and of course this
again is a kind of mirror reflection back of this controlling, dominant, demanding
influence of his mother early in his life.
He must carry out his regime of behaviour perfectly or else he experiences anxiety,
which obviously is a throwback to some kind of punishment at the hands of his
mother if he did not do things as she demanded. That of course is not necessarily
physical punishment, but may merely be shouting at, or lack of affection, or
disapproval, which is possibly even worse than physical punishment in its insecurity
creating effect.
It is very hard if indeed not impossible for us as adults to try to imagine once again
what it is like to be a helpless little child about two or three feet tall at the mercy of a
big powerful five or six foot tall mother who is constantly displeased with and hostile
to us.
But it seems safe to assume that such routine experience will result in deep and
abiding insecurity.
So as we said, enter the female therapist, and now we see into Jacks world a little
better i.e. he is using his strange behaviour to try and feel in control in what appears
to him an out of control environment, in terms of its uncertain feelings about him
we see that the therapists technique of dealing with his problem is almost like rape.
That is, he has this one little island of security that he is holding onto like a piece of
driftwood that saves a drowning man i.e. his total control over the private space in
his room and possessions like his computer and she wants to take it away from him.
She suggests his mother you know, the cause of his original trauma invades his
private space, stops him entering his private space she wants to take away his last
island of security and force him to face the anxiety of it.
And yes, she can make him do it, especially when he knows he is the subject of a
TV documentary, and she flatters and praises and maybe even sexually excites him a
little as this therapist was yet another adequately attractive, fashionably dressed and
therefore potentially seductive woman and then it looks like he is cured.
But she has missed the point.
And this was well illustrated by a small incident that happened between his mother
and Jack when she and the therapist were trying to impose the new behaviour on him.
When he was resisting the idea, and arguing with her, his dog was on the stairs, and
his mother said Butch (or Fido or whatever) knows what you are supposed to be
doing.
And Jack said Yes, but Butch loves me. (Jack was obviously very close to this
dog).
And the mother said. Yes, but we love you too.
And here is the exciting bit.
Jack said not one word. But he shook his head frowning at that remark, giving a
definite no you dont.
That was his belief. Unloved. Only his dog loved him, was straightforward, true and
faithful to him. That was his inner core belief. No doubt about it.
So those of us who were mostly loved can have little conception of how that must
feel, to be unloved by ones own mother, in the sense that it means anything to us.

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But on the other hand, we would guess that a great many readers do know what that
is like, or at least to be in doubt of such love.
And the result of this absence of a whole lotta love is clearly a whole lot of anxiety.
And then when we are anxious, trying to escape from the tormenting thoughts of
feeling unloved and valueless and not being able to understand why we are not
accepted, we start rapping our fingers on the table. We start tapping on every railing
that passes by, we wash our hands over and over. Some of us might start even playing
tunes on our teeth with a ruler, or have them compulsively run through our heads to
blot out the anxiety, of this growing awareness that she doesnt care about us, in the
sense of seeing and understanding us for the person we really are, and allowing us to
be that person.
The particular behaviour we adopt is quite likely accidental, or else related to some
particular incident, such as the well known fact that mothers are continually asking
their male children to wash their hands before meals and so on, even though most
boys likely couldnt care less if they eat with dirty hands or not.
The idea may well be if I do as I am told I will get approval, I will get to feel
alright, or on the other hand I will not be criticised.
So the act of washing ones hands once created a feeling of emotional security, it
once relieved some anxiety, as one was either given approval or avoided punishment
or disapproval for carrying out this act. So then we continue it, even though it actually
has become something of a ritual, that can no longer truly relieve the anxiety, but we
hope can at least keep away the hostility.
But these mothers think they love their children. They think bossing around and
traumatising a little child is just the normal thing to do.
So as we were saying, the point that the lady doctor therapist has missed, is that
Jack was using his OCD behaviours to feel secure, to displace the feeling he wasnt
loved, and thus to control his environment.
So both his mother and the therapist might fool his teenage mind for a while,
convince him they love him, but because the love in neither case will be genuine, as
it never ever was in the case of his mother, and the therapist is not going to stick
around CBT is a short term therapy, and thus no doubt regarded favourably as cost
effective this false sense of security is not going to last.
If we follow up Jack, if he doesnt get some real therapy, such as we have done our
best to offer in our various works, then likely he may give up some OCD behaviours
like hand-washing and exchange them for drug abuse or whatever, or as is more
typical with the average male, he will just go through awful teenage traumas, and
eventually seek out and beg some woman or girlfriend who will accept him and take
over where his mother left off.
Because just lets stop and think. Where on earth is the explanation for this
incredible statistic of 1 in 5 children suffering some kind of mental illness, if its not
that parents are getting it wrong?
For example, the second case shown on this documentary was a rather disturbed
eight year old boy, Danny, who had been trying to harm himself.
He claimed he had a voice inside his head which he named Idiota telling him to
do certain self-destructive things.
And for once, we actually caught this mother barking orders at this little boy when
he was misbehaving, which confirmed our theory of prior systematic traumatisation.
So let us speculate on where this Idiota voice in his head originated. Do we
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powerful looking woman in comparison to this frail looking little child with glasses,
who by constantly calling him Idiota had put this demon into his head?
For interestingly enough this little boy had two sisters, who had no such problems it
appeared.
Why is it that so many of these problems of dyslexia and OCD and autism and so
on only seem to affect the boys?
(we accept in some cases, the answer may be congenital brain damage or
malformation, but we feel that this autism diagnosis is far too frequent for that to
always be the case).
And our answer is clear it is this programming that is in women to obsessively and
compulsively dominate the male gender.
It is not in every woman to do this, or at least only in a small way. But in some
women it is very strong. They make traumatised Idiotas out of their little boys by
doing to them quite routinely what if the child were an adult we would describe as
bullying or even brainwashing.
As adults, we no longer perceive or understand the near total powerlessness of the
child. It cannot go where it pleases or escape. Its every act can be and frequently is
controlled by this huge and physically omnipotent female adult which dominates its
life.
Imagine as adults we had to cope with constant barking of orders at us. Sit. Stand
up. Get dressed. Get undressed. Eat up or you wont be strong. Finish that meal (even
if you hate it or arent actually hungry at that particular time). Go upstairs now. Tidy
your room now. Do that or no sweets. Do that or its early to bed. Do that or no dinner
and early to bed. Dont do that or Ill smack you.
And so it goes on. If such a tyrant ruling over us as a child does not cause
resentment, confusion, hate, anxiety then nothing will.
But this abusive parent is a tricky and confusing being. Sometimes after handing out
all this trauma to us relentlessly it gives us a hug or a treat. It tells us how much it
loves us, and of course we want to believe it, we want to believe we are loved and
accepted and approved despite the evidence of the rest of our lives to date at the hands
of that person.
Your author is not talking out of his hat, but based upon observation of women
interacting with children and male adults in real life, and moreover is able to put
himself imaginatively into the mind of a child, and indeed a parent. Thats why he
doesnt need a Ph D in psychology, because sadly very few Ph Ds in psychology can
equal this feat, which really should be a pre-requisite for anyone who would seek to
imagine they are a true psychologist, i.e. he or she who understands (at least to a
good degree) the human mind.
In the absence of such true empathy, modern psychology has just become a
fumbling in the dark, an escape into abstraction, a tinkering around with things that
the tinkerer despite however many academic accolades and degrees doesnt
understand.
The typical psychologist or therapist Ph D is him or herself traumatised, and
consequently has unlike your author lost touch with his or her own innocent and
uncorrupted child self.
Thus the near total lack of insight.
Their efforts to truly understand children are like those of a blind man to describe
sight.
And when you try to tell a blind man or woman that he or she cant see, when he or
she has never known sightwell, yes, of course he or she does not know or

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understand what you are talking about, and is likely to even deny what you tell him or
her should you try.
But nevertheless, he or she writes books on eye-sight this fascinating phenomenon
about which he or she has heard so much, and of which there is so much talk.
Lectures are given on it from one blind person to another, and numerous theories are
formulated, but not one of them can see, and thus they never realise that none of them
knows what they are talking about.
Eight year old Daniels Idiota is inside all of us. He is our fear of being stupid,
inadequate, and so on, and sometimes the anxiety can get so great, he says, I have
had enough, Idiota says destroy yourself. Idiota believes it is the only way out.
For in the midst of this therapy, eight year old Daniel refused to talk, he refused to
try, he said Nothing works. He believed the situation was hopeless.
But of course, using the same relentless bullying and seducing tactics, his mother
and the this time male therapist (but really, just a somewhat unmasculine feminist
puppet type of man, of whom we have seen so many) eventually got him to put Idiota
aside, and act normal for a while.
So he is deemed cured. Well, let us wait and see.
For as we said elsewhere, if we can cure anxiety in an eight year old or fifteen year
old as these therapists claim, we can cure everybody.
And so then we ask why dont we have this perfect world now full of totally
together and secure people?
Well, their answer we suppose would be Not enough therapists. More trained
therapists needed and more government funds.
But with 1 in 5 British children needing therapy, quite regardless of adults, just how
many near countless therapists are we going to need?
It is of course ridiculous, and a wrong, fake and hopeless solution.
So does your author have any alternative suggestions for curing OCDs?
Well, firstly, our main point is prevention is better than cure.
That is negligent and abusive parents mainly mothers are the cause of this
crisis of mental illness in the young. Until as we have said, women as mothers realise
how to care for their children properly, nothing will get better.
They should start by devoting their lives to every child they have from year 0 to 7,
and realise that is virtually impossible to do while holding down a job.
Why?
Because overstressed, tired people get angry and impatient, and anger and
impatience are absolutely the two best ways ever invented of destroying the mind,
security, confidence and mental health of a child.
Does the word devotion mean nothing any more?
To be devoted is a beautiful thing, but it is also more often than not a very hard
thing, a tough thing, a most difficult and demanding mission to carry out.
Devotion is the stuff that heroes and heroines are made of.
But these modern mothers, themselves mostly insecure and traumatised, dont have
it, they dont know that it is required, and then when as inevitable they screw up, and
end up having to drag their child to a what use to be more honestly called a
psychiatrist, but is hiding behind the politically correct and comparatively
shameless concept of therapist or psychologist, the motive is denial that they
have screwed up.
And the psychiatrist, or therapist, or psychologist or whatever they want to call
themselves, is getting a very good living and a lot of respect out of this situation. They
even get to believe they are good citizens. They really do, your author has met

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personally a good number of them over the decades. When in most cases, as we have
explained, they are actually an ignorant and abusive mothers saviour and best friend
certainly not a childs.
So if you like, write the author off as an Idiota, as a crank, and disbelieve his
theories about childrens mental world, and that children need kind, gentle, patient,
understanding and devoted mothers to grow up balanced and without compulsions and
obsessions in their lives and minds.
But before doing that just do some thorough statistical research please.
Psychologically assess the mothers of all these OCD diagnosed children. Find out
whether they are kind, patient and so on, or do they just put on a puzzled and
apparently caring faade and hand out a few useless and fake hugs in public for show?
Do they bark orders at their children, or treat them gently and considerately? Put
them the mothers in some anxiety producing situations, and let us see how they
respond.
Compare working mothers to devoted non-working ones. See how relative
frequency of appearance of this OCD stacks up.
So what of the teenager or adult with OCD, no doubt at least a few of whom will
sooner or later be reading these words?
What have we got to say to them?
Our advice is if you have got some OCD type behaviour hand washing or
whatever dont treat it as a problem.
If it feels good, do it.
Do whatever it takes to get you through the day and night.
Admittedly thats unfortunate if one has an OCD of cutting oneself or other kind of
self-harming.
But in either case we would say its time to read our earlier work How to Meditate.
The answer to this problem is not to control more, but learn to not control, but
rather to become understanding, to become aware.
i.e. once we see we are caught in this behaviour in our own tiny little private world,
but no one is going to criticise us any more if we do it or we dont, then we are in a
position to unravel our real problems.
There is immense pain and anxiety lying behind those behaviours. There is
depersonalization, dehumanisation, the stealing of ones identity.
i.e. we were not loved, which translates psychologically as we were never permitted
to be ourselves.
And that hurts.
Your author cannot say how deep it goes in any particular case. It is for the reader to
find out for themselves.
But if anxiety remains, how can the OCD behaviour go? The anxiety will demand
an outlet, and an apparent cure of one behaviour will simply express itself in some
other way, possibly clandestine and unobserved by the patient or therapist, just as
some children commit suicide without the parent or anyone else ever being aware that
there was anything wrong.
So they might give us drugs.
If they give us a drug, well, we likely cant do our OCD behaviour when stupefied,
but we dont think stupefaction is the answer, and neither do we think therapists are or
their CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy).
Be your own person. Let everybody else but out of your life though dont get
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Because we see as in the example of Jack even in the course of his therapy that they
wont give it to us.
That is why they are the problem and not we.
Thats how we got our problem in the first place yes, it was them and this
awareness and confirmation that you are not the problem in itself should be greatly
liberating for any OCD sufferer.
But because parents usually our mother cannot admit their failure, they now
seek to blame and medicalize and brand as mentally ill us for having the problem, as
if they were right and we were wrong.
And when we see that, we may feel, unearth, and reveal in ourselves immense hate
for them. And that has to be acknowledged, rather than denied.
e.g. fifteen year old Jack called his mother a bitch in resistance to his therapy,
claiming she was lying to and manipulating him.
So that gave us a clue to what was really going on.
Of course he was made to apologise, but clearly that was only a denial of his
obviously true feelings, and it is those true feelings which created the behaviour
problem (really defence mechanism) in the first place.
So we may have to acknowledge we hate our parent, one or other or both of them,
but our advice is realise that, but dont hurt them because of it, dont take revenge.
We need to be aware in particular of a standard manoeuvre that countless mothers
make, which is to transfer the blame for the childs problems onto the father,
demonise him to the child, and then the boy child is furiously blaming his innocent
likely well-intentioned father, which he has been tricked into doing, not realising that
most likely she was the original cause and therefore mother of his traumas and
conflicts.
We have seen the puzzled what did I do? look on the faces of numerous fathers who
have been tricked into taking the rap for the crimes of the mother in this way.
Boys and men who doubt this explanation, will discover how easily a girl or woman
can open up their old wounds in teenage years or adult life. This is because the girl or
woman we meet starts using exactly the same abusive tactics that our mothers once
did, and thus we are already programmed to respond in the same pained and cowering
or alternatively angry and defensive way.
If we cry due to realisation of what our own mother did to us, which is reflected just
in how we feel about her, even if we cant remember details, lets not consider that a
defeat.
It is better we cry in private rather than get angry and vengeful at her in a public
way, which can often make us look wrong, even though she is the wrong one, yet is
clever as are so many women at making herself look innocent and right and caring
to the world, just as both the mothers of the two boys in the documentary made
themselves appear to the cameras and therapists.
One might even ask, why if the mothers dont care, they seek treatment for the
child at all? The answer is that they are not truly caring for the child, as taking a child
to a therapist or psychiatrist is just about the most awful thing you could do to it
anyway branding it at such a young age as mentally unbalanced or ill, as having
problems but rather these women are seeking to rescue their own sense of rightness,
as likely they dimly realise that the childs current condition is their own creation, and
they have to extinguish this fear and ego-threat by having the child independently
assessed as faulty and therefore not their fault.
So then the nave and unwise therapists play along with this game, and further
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taking to task, and confronting her with her errors, and telling her to give that child
some space, to back off and let it sort out its problems for itself, with the kind of
genuinely-intended-to-help advice we have offered here.
So as we can now see that our mother is the either deliberate or simply ignorant
architect of our problem, we should make sure the crying is in private, or no doubt if
we think she is aware of our suffering, that will only make us hate her more.
And we must see as with behavioural or psychological problems generally
speaking that this is a problem the sufferer has to cure for themselves, and not put
ones faith in some therapist or whoever.
Therapists dont generally truly care. A few might, but mainly they are just on their
own trip, trying to assure themselves they are good caring people by therapising us.
It really is typically about them trying to rescue their sense of identity, and not ours.
For after all, no therapist in their right mind would truly want to take on the
suffering of others. Only Gods, saints and prophets can do that, the rest of us it would
crush, including your author, he freely confesses.
So they play at it. They prod us into a little obedience and hope, and then they take
the money and honour and run. They go off to cure someone else.
So lets stop imagining anyone else can cure us. Nobody else really cares that much,
unless it is a problem for them, and reflects negatively on them, as it does parents, as
we have above explained.
For that too is a possible strategy some of us may unfortunately resort to.
One can be a wreck or oddity or mad case quite deliberately, just to punish ones
parents in the eyes of the rest of the world, to ensure they will be shamed by us.
So that again is only self-destructive.
One has to see that now we are an adult, or almost so as in the case of fifteen year
old Jack, our parents dont much matter any more.
Its our life now, and we have to take full responsibility for it.
We cant make any promises or guarantees to any reader, but our guess is that for
many people, though when they see and feel the truth of all this, they may have to go
for a while through the fires of hell, the cool refreshing fountains of heavenly peace
always await us on the other side.
We have to stop blaming the rest of the world for our problems which principally
in the final analysis means our parents. Or else we play the game of finding a partner
who becomes a parent substitute, and then we blame them instead, transferring the
blame onto them, when typically they have done nothing whatsoever to deserve it,
and we are just using them as a punch bag to take out our frustrations upon.
So thats why we have got to stop blaming anyone.
We can be cured of any psychological disease, the very moment that we stop
blaming and hating someone else.
But we cant do that if we paper our true feelings over with some false claim that we
love these people, our parents or whomever.
We must feel our hate for what they did to us, and let it go.
That wont happen usually overnight. But as long as we stop denying it, and lying to
ourselves and they, if we therefore stop either suppressing or feeding it which in
many cases can amount to the same thing sooner or later the hate will diminish and
gradually wither and disappear.
Then we wont feel such an urge to keep scrubbing ourselves clean any more, or
rapping on the table top, or straightening all the picture frames or arranging cups in
exact rows or whatever.

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The minute we no longer hate or blame anyone, we will know when that moment
comes, because until then we will be obliged to serve the Idiota within telling us to
be crazy, to destroy ourselves.
We started out as little children innocent and clean, and then not knowing how to
react to the abuse of us we internalized the problem, we developed anger, rebellion as
strategies to combat the abuse.
Thats why now, the adult abusers, including perhaps even still our own parents or
mother can still push our buttons and we respond in the same angry, rebellious way,
which actually hurts nobody but ourselves, and confirms to them that we are the
wrong ones and they are right.
We have to see this response was an error, and we have to gradually let go of it,
become objective to it, above it, as we have explained in our work How to Meditate in
great detail.
Only as this anger and hate subsides, which we cannot do in an instant because it is
now a habit, an ingrained behaviour pattern in our brains, will we become truly free
of these OCD type behaviours.
Of course what we have written here applies to all those who have any kind of
emotional turmoil in them to a significant degree, and is therefore of application to far
more people than would be medically categorised as having OCDs, and in fact is
therefore to some degree applicable to all of us.
We cannot pretend to forgive our abusers. We can say I forgive you, or I love
you, but it is not that easy to actually do so.
Our subsequent feelings and behaviour shows that we still distrust and hate them,
regardless of what we have said.
Once we get to this level of awareness and acceptance of our own true natures and
those of others, we will gradually become free of all distressing psychological
behaviour patterns, including these so-called OCDs.

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Also by the same author

A Mens Liberation Guide to Women 4th edition
An Innocent Womans Guide to Men
How to Meditate
Kundalini - Preventing the Apocalypse
A Mens and Womens Liberation Update
The Myth of the Teenage Rebellion
What Is Intelligence?
Kundalini - A Personal Experience
Feminal Farm - a short satirical novel
The Innocent Persons Guide to Law
Understanding Female Sexuality and Porn
Freedom of Speech & Maitreya
An Innocent Persons Guide to the Da Vinci Code
How the Feminists Stole Psychology
Hearing Voices and Psychic Phenomena
The Psychology of Soaps
Is Competition Necessary?
On Drugs and Alcohol
The Importance of Thinkers
The Demonisation of the Innocents
The Psychology of Prejudice
Science and Fear
The Scientist and the Guru
Respect for Age
A Waste of Paper
Saying No to Peer Pressure
Smashing the Da Vinci Code
If Men Went on Strike
A Message to Readers
Why Size Doesnt Matter
Afraid of Women
The Feminist Offenders Register

All Sam Frymans works are currently available free of charge via the link
http://www.geocities.com/thmlplx/
as .lit files which can be read with the free Microsoft Reader
http://www.microsoft.com/reader/downloads/pc.asp

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