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 About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the

secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered

the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness,

and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve

success in their dating, social and personal lives. Some say I’m nuts,

others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll

always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never

sugar coat anything. Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest

breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week – and if

you’re the same way, read on…

 The State of Dating in 2018

Let's talk about 2018 and how you're going to survive dating in it,

because after almost 20 years of being in this business, I've seen

dating change immensely – and I don't think it's changed for the

better.

So let's get in the time machine and talk about the way dating was at

the turn of the millennium, which wasn’t even so long ago.

Match.com and some of the other online dating sites were just

starting out.

There were no iPhones. Cell phones are just these blocks of weird

plastic with numbers that you could dial, and no one had even heard

of text messaging.

Most people actually called each other. That was the only way to get

in touch with people, and it was personal.

 Men were really learning

and understanding that if

you don't know how to

approach a woman, you

may never ever meet a

woman. They didn’t have

the option of swiping

through a thousand pictures

in their spare time when the

football game went to a commercial break.

People were making fun of Match.com, saying they would never be

on it. And the people who were dating online didn't want other

people to know that they were dating online.

So, most people were still going out on the weekends looking,

hoping to find somebody.

And most importantly, when people were out, they weren't

staring at their phone screens. There was nothing to stare at. There

was no screen to keep you entertained, to keep you feeling safe and

secure.
You weren't waiting for a text to come in. You weren't looking at

Instagram or Facebook or Snapchat or any other social media feed.

18 years ago, people were actually trying to connect with each

other.

Now look what happened…

The Paradox of Choice

The iPhone came out in 2007. Then text messaging blew up. Then

came the unlimited cell phone minutes. Tinder showed up around

2012, and it’s permanently changed the way we date.

It gave men and women the excuse to not actually go out and meet

each other.

See, human nature and our fears and anxieties haven’t changed over

the 18 years. Men and women have always been afraid to go out and

meet people, connect with people, date people.

But until only recently, that was the only choice you had.

Now, we have literally millions of choices.

And dating has become a nightmare because of that.

It’s called the paradox of

“When you have
choice: when you have millions
millions and millions
and millions of choices, you
of choices, you
actually don’t even make a
actually don’t even
choice. You don’t give people a
make a choice.”
chance.
It used to be you were happy that you were getting an opportunity

to meet somebody. You were happy to get an opportunity to have a

date and you were actually making yourself open and available to a

second date.

Now, it’s just the daily routine. You swipe, you match, maybe you

meet this person, and then you ghost them.

Because we’re all convinced there’s a bigger, better deal out there.

It’s literally insane.

So, what’s a man to do in this insane, modern dating world?

We all desire love. We all desire connection, but the paradox of

choice has made dating infinitely more competitive. You’re

competing with thousands of other men for this person’s attention.

And, they are competing with thousands of other women for your

attention.
 The bottom line is: you need to be able to stand
out and get someone’s attention – AND you
need to see the person standing in front of you,
and allow them to get your attention.

Simply pretending like it’s still 2000 will do nothing for you. In 2018,

you can’t date like it’s 2000. It’s not, because we’ve all become so

programmed by our iPhones, social media, swiping apps, and the

rest of it.

But what you can do is completely reprogram your mind and the way

you approach dating in 2018. And to do that, you’re going to need

certain skills…

SKILL #1: The Skill of Non-Judgment

In this dating culture dominated by swiping and social media, we’re

constantly judging one another. We're constantly critiquing and

looking at people and ripping them apart, whether it’s because…

! They have a cleft chin…

! One eye is bigger than the other

 ! They're three pounds heavier than they were in their profile

picture

And it’s not just being judged on physical

The Skill of Non-
appearance alone. We’re constantly being judged Judgment

on everything at the surface level, from our beliefs to Getting to know the
person in front of you
our dating histories. instead of making
judgments about:

I’ve been on Tinder. I’ve been on Bumble. I’ve seen ! Their politics
! Their physical
all the people who say, “Swipe left if you voted for appearance
! Their divorce or
Trump.” Or, “Swipe left if you voted for Hillary.” dating history

Judge the person

Literally eliminating half of the entire country based based on their attitude
and how they’ve
on that one judgment. learned from their
history, not their
history alone.
I’ve coached men and women who have their

judgments about divorcees, too. They think, well, this person has

two marriages that ended in divorce, so what’s wrong with them?

Well, 60% of marriages end in divorce. So you’re actually eliminating

MORE than half of the entire country when you make judgments

about divorce.
See, there are so many things to judge other people on, and as soon

as we judge them on just one of these things, we bail.

Why? Because when a man goes out with a woman and she's not

100% what he wants, he can then go home and swipe through an

endless supply of women, hoping for a bigger better deal.

But the only way to survive dating is to actually get to know the

person in front of you.

Realize that you’re human, and they’re human too.

Stop looking for flaws. Don’t judge someone when you don’t know

his or her history. Get to actually know her history.

Once you’ve actually gotten to know someone, then you can feel

free to judge her.

Judge her on her attitude and whether she’s learned the lessons of

her history. Judge her on how she speaks about her divorce, her ex,

her kids – not solely on the basis of having a divorce or an ex or kids.

Otherwise, you're going to be stuck in this endless cycle swiping,

ghosting, swiping, bailing. And that, as we know, is something that's

never going to get you the love that you want and deserve and

desire.

SKILL #2: The Skill of Texting

You know, it’s amazing. We’re all so

addicted to our iPhones, and yet so

many people have absolutely no idea

how to properly use their phones for

dating.

I'm just going to be 100% real with all

of you right now. Your texts bore me.

I'm sorry, but just because you're

contacting a woman on a dating app or

you've met a woman out and about, the hey, what's up or how are

you or the simple hi…

 That will not do it.

You need to understand that texting is a form of flirting. That’s

what it’s there for.

The Skill of Texting

And a really simple way to get better at texting is
You need to understand to do this:
that texting is a form of
flirting.

Like it or not, phone calls 1. Read the full text

are a thing of the past.
2. Pick out something from it
89% of dates these days
are confirmed via text – 3. Make sure you respond to everything in
and if you can’t attract and
intrigue with your texts, the text
chances are you will never
get to the date. 4. Add something to it

Be sure to read the text you're about to send out loud. Is there

anything the other person can respond to in that text? Is there a

question? Is there a statement? Is there something that will continue

the conversation?

Ask yourself, what you would say to the person standing in front of

you if they said that face-to-face?

How would you talk to them? How would you speak to them? What

would you say to them? What would you say to them in that situation

when you're speaking to them? How would you be able to

manufacture that conversation?

Imagine them standing in front of you and talking. Would you

answer that conversation exactly the same?

Because, like it or not, you are being judged on your texts every

single day. So learn to text properly.

(RELATED: Download my free Texting

& Flirting Handbook where I dissect 28

different texts and show you exactly

what works, what doesn’t work & why.)

Start using other things in texting. Use a voice text to send. Send a

little video of something funny.

My talking pet is a great act. I use it all over Instagram (you can

check it out here) but I also use it in texts.

Start getting creative in the way that you text, because again, what

this all comes down to is that people have so many choices

nowadays. If you are not standing out in your text habits, you're not

going to be able to get someone's attention.

SKILL #3: The Skill of Flirting

When you meet somebody out and about, you need to understand

how to flirt.

One of the greatest mindset tricks that I tell men all the time is to

imagine that you just had the best sex of your entire life.

How do you feel? Literally go there in your mind.

Breathe it in. Literally feel it. Feel the domination. Feel yourself

“owning the pussy” and literally being the best lover she’s ever had.
(NOTE: I go over this mindset in greater depth in my program, 7

Second Seduction)

You can’t be afraid to let yourself out. You can’t

be afraid of showing who you are, and who you

are is an authentic, sexual being.

The key to flirting is really being open, and

nothing is more open than sexual energy.

Flirting Mindset Hack:

Let out your sexual energy

When I first learned how to flirt all those years by literally imagining the
best sex you’ve ever had
ago, I was fascinated with women masturbating. I
in your life.
thought it was the sexiest thing in the world. To

me, that was better than porn.

So when I walked over to a woman, I just pictured her masturbating,

thinking of me. I always had this coy, fun, little playful smile and

women would stop in their tracks and wonder why I was so happy, so

flirtatious, so open.
 It didn't matter what I said. It didn't matter how I said it. So much of

flirting is nonverbal, and it was just my energy, my presence and my

body language that were so intriguing.

Flirting Is:
And when I opened my mouth, I owned my words,

which is the verbal side of flirting: owning your words

1. Verbal: Speak
clearly and and being clear with what you're saying.
confidently.

2. Non-verbal:
Open,
Even if you're just saying hello, say it with confidence
welcoming body
and conviction. Talk to somebody like you've known
language &
strong presence her for a long, long time, like you're speaking to an old

friend.

Don't be intimidated by women. They’re just the opposite sex, and

they want the same thing as you do. They want love. They want a

relationship.

But to have those things, you need to be able to distinguish yourself.

Again, it all goes back to the paradox of choice: what makes you

different and so much more amazing than the millions of other

choices she has?

If you can make a lasting impression on somebody when you first

meet them, you give them a reason not to go right back to endlessly

swiping.

You've moved to the head of the pecking order because you truly

stand out, and they want to get to know you so much more.

SKILL #4: The Skill of Mindfulness

In 2017 and 2018, ghosting is

at an all time high. It’s really

an epidemic, and we’re all

guilty of doing it.

We've all met somebody and

connected with them. And

then all of a sudden we vanish

and treat them like they're not

even like a human being at all.

But if you want to succeed in dating in 2018, you need to make

ghosting a thing of the past. You need to practice mindfulness.

 Learn how to speak to somebody if you're not interested in him or

her. Send them a text. Tell them that you think they're fantastic and

great, but you don't see yourself any more than just a friend for

them.

The “Human By practicing mindfulness, you complete what I call

Transaction”:
the human transaction.
Being 100% authentic
and honest with
another person about You can’t change someone else’s feelings and what
your needs and
desires. they think about you. But you can be honest and

open and authentic about your own feelings.

And that’s what’s so beautiful about the human transaction.

Somebody showed in your life and was willing to get to know you.

That's a beautiful thing, and it’s your responsibility as another

human being to return the favor by being 100% authentic with

them.

Don't just ghost them. Tell them that you don't see yourself as more

than friends. You don't see yourself as having a relationship with

them. You think they're wonderful and you think they're great, but
just vanishing on somebody out of thin air is not a nice, mindful thing

to do.

And I’ll give you a practical reason to stay mindful at all times: If you

ghost a person, that means you’ve burned your bridge with

them.

So maybe down the road you run into her again, and she might

trigger something different in you. Maybe this time, you’re more

open to a relationship.

And you might want to reconnect, but if
you blew her off the first time, that
means you don’t get a second chance
with her.
Here’s another thing that happens all the
time. You ghost someone, you burn your
3 Reasons You Need to Stop
Ghosting NOW:
1. It’s not a nice way to treat
another human being.
2. People change, and you may
desire a relationship with
them sometime in the future.
3. Even if you’re not interested
in them, they may have a
friend you are interested in.

bridge with her… but, maybe she’s got a friend. And her friend is

more your equal. Her friend is someone your attracted to, someone

you can truly connect with.

 But guess what? She’s already told her friend about you and how

you ghosted her. So by burning your bridge with her, you’re actually

burning bridges with all her friends and her entire network of women

you could have dated.

SKILL #5: The Skill of Authenticity

If you truly want to survive dating in 2018, you’ve got to kill your

dating representative.

You need to do is stop always trying to be on your

What is the
“Representative?” best behavior and start being the best version of

Your representative is the you. In order to have the ultimate love, the
well-behaved version of
yourself you THINK other
ultimate connection, you need to be your
people want to see. strongest, most powerful self – NOT who you

think other people want.

You see, when you open up yourself, you become

the most incredible, sexy, powerful, version of

you.
When you meet me or you listen to my podcast everyday, that's the

unfiltered me. Why? Because I don't give a shit what anybody thinks

of me.

Look at the comments some people leave on YouTube and on my

blog. Some are nasty. Some people have even wished death on me.

And yet, I don't care if you like me, you love me, you hate me.

Whatever it is, I'm going to give you the most authentic version of

me at all times. Why?

Because I don’t want you to get to know my representative. I don’t

want you to take my advice, or buy one of my programs, or work

with me, based on something that’s not actually me.

And in dating, it’s exactly the same.

Authenticity is the only way you’re going to meet and connect with

your equal in this world.

I know there are so many amazing
How to Be 100% Authentic at All
women in this world who would love to Times:

date me. And that belief is not cocky, it’s
not arrogance. It’s abundance.
When you’re truly able to date with full
abundance and authenticity, here’s
what’s going to happen for you:
! You’re not going to hang on every
word.
! You’re not going to think of every
1. Believe in Abundance
Realize that there are so many
people in this world…
⇓
2. Date With Abundance
…so, if you don’t connect with THIS
person or THAT person, that’s fine
because there are still millions of
other people…
⇓
3. Ditch Your Representative
…and that means you don’t need
your representative anymore,
because you’re going to connect
with someone in this abundant
world.

text.

! You’re not going to wonder if you should say this or say that.

! You’re not going to be afraid to share your story and truly

become vulnerable.

I want you to look in the mirror and ask yourself if any of these fears

are holding you prisoner right now. Because if they do, then it's

time to really invest in yourself and get some coaching.

Authenticity is probably the hardest skill to learn, but I’ve dedicated

two entire decades to showing men and women how to lose their

representative and date with full abundance and authenticity.

And I'm here to support you, as well. The question is: are you ready

to step through and really be honest with yourself?

Then click below:

SKILL #6: The Skill of Following Up

And finally, we come to the skill of following up.

So many men and women have this all wrong nowadays. You need

to follow up instantly.

You need to keep the momentum going. Don't let texts sit and rot in

text hell. Follow up at first connection.

When you first meet a woman, you need to text her instantly.

It's amazing how many people get a phone number and then wait 24

to 48 hours.

Seriously, guys: so many of you ask me how to get a woman’s phone

number. And then, once you do, you wait!?

When someone shows up and you make a connection, you need to

follow up with her instantly.

Text her, then she will get back to you, and the two of you will keep

the ball rolling.

And you need to keep the ball rolling at all times, because if you’re

not moving forward then you’re moving backward.

Follow Up After You

Meet Them:

Follow Up After the

Date:

Follow Up the Morning

After:

Be a man, grow a pair, and text her. Let her know she’s safe with you

and tell her you had a great time. Don't let it sit.
It's all about keeping the momentum going, because that's what a

relationship is. A relationship is when two people find one another

and connect with one another.

It's so important not to let the world revolve and sit, and make it look

like you're being so busy. Because in reality, what are you busy

doing?

Swiping? Checking Instagram? Looking at your fantasy football

roster?

Are you just busy being busy?

The illusion of being busy might've worked when we were all only 14

or 15 or 16, but we are now men and women in the modern world,

and we know what a challenge dating is.

The simple truth is: we can’t afford to be “busy” anymore.

 Are You Ready for 2018?

If you're going to survive dating in 2018, it's so important to learn

and master these simple skills:

1. The Skill of Non-Judgment: Get to know the person in front of

you instead of making superficial judgments, and reserve your

judgments for their overall attitude and how they’ve learned

from their history & mistakes.

2. The Skill of Texting: Understand that texting is a form of

flirting, and learn how to create attraction and intrigue with

your texts.

3. The Skill of Flirting: Speak with confidence and clarity, have

strong presence and welcoming body language, and let out

your sexual energy by literally imagining the best sex you’ve

ever had in your life.

4. The Skill of Mindfulness: Stop ghosting and start becoming

more mindful of other people’s feelings and being upfront with

your own feelings.

5. The Skill of Authenticity: Program your mind for abundance,

so you’re able to lose your “dating representative” and

become 100% authentic at all times.

 6. The Skill of Following Up: Follow up immediately after every

connection, and continue following up to continue building

momentum.

Dating is a survival game, and only the strong will survive.

Do you want love?

Do you desire a relationship?

Is your New Year's resolution to find a great relationship and great

love in 2018?

If so, then you need to have a plan.

I would strongly suggest you contact me for coaching, because if

you truly want to get that advantage in dating over everybody else,

you’ve got to commit to yourself.

Coaching is one of the most powerful ways to get the results you’ve

always wanted. And yet, most people are ridiculously cheap with

themselves.
 It’s really up to you to choose your own destiny.
Fun Fact:
You alone determine your success and whether
Drinking a cup of
Starbucks every day for you’re going to survive dating in 2018.
a year actually costs
MORE money than
my most expensive
Think about all that you did in 2017.
high-end coaching
programs.

! How far did you advance in your dating life?

! How many more dates did you get? How many

more almost relationships did you have?

! How much did you grow personally? Or are

your old stories still plaguing you?

So… what would you Just because the clock strikes midnight December
rather have, a caffeine
high or a love high? 31st and 2018 hits, it doesn't mean anything is going

to change for you.

Things will not change until you make a shift in the way that you're

thinking and the way you’re going about life. A radical shift.

It’s time you manifested the radical shift you need to make the

changes you desire.

If you truly want to succeed and thrive and find love in 2018, that

is…

Otherwise, things can stay the same for you for as long as you

choose. Swiping apps aren’t going anywhere. Online dating isn’t

going anywhere.

The only change is the change you make. What changes will you

choose to make in 2018?