Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Section A
1. I feel like I always do everything for my partner and he/she never does True False
anything for me.
2. I can see how I am always being hurt by my partner. True False
3. It doesn’t always occur to me to consider my partner’s feelings. True False
4. I meet my own needs because my partner often doesn’t meet them. True False
5. I’m reluctant to yield to my partner’s opinions/requests. True False
6. I no longer try to find ways to meet my partner’s needs. True False
Section B
7. During problem discussions, my stomach often feels as if it is all tied up True False
in knots.
8. I would describe myself as very emotionally charged or tense whenever True False
there is a major disagreement.
9. My body often becomes tense during a relationship problem discussion. True False
10. I often feel a lump in my throat when I argue with my partner. True False
11. My heart often speeds up or races during our conversations. True False
12. I often feel very anxious at the start of problem discussions. True False
Section C
13. My partner does not try very hard to understand me. True False
14. I don’t feel safe in the relationship if I don’t have answers to the True False
problems we’re experiencing as a couple.
15. When my partner does something that makes me angry, I usually let True False
him/her know about it.
16. I really need to talk about my feelings or problems in the relationship in True False
order to feel better about them.
17. I often push my partner to talk about issues even when it is clear that True False
my he/she doesn’t want to talk
18. I feel good after getting angry. True False
19. I tend to give advice when I’m not asked. True False
20. If my partner will not talk to me about a particular issue, I often get True False
louder with my demands.
21. I sometimes nag at my partner in order to get back at him/her. True False
22. It is very easy for me to get angry at my partner. True False
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Section D
23. Sometimes I don’t talk to my partner because I’ve noticed that talking True False
leads to fighting.
24. When my partner and I disagree, he/she is always so negative, loud, or True False
demanding.
25. I often find myself saying, “I don’t care, whatever you want is fine with True False
me” when I’m asked for an opinion.
26. If I had my choice I would avoid conflicts and disagreements. True False
27. I just want peace and wonder at times why my partner won’t ever just be True False
quiet.
28. When my partner brings up a relationship issue, I tend to withdraw, True False
become silent, or refuse to discuss the matter further.
29. I often agree with my partner’s wishes just to end the discussions. True False
30. It doesn’t matter what I say, it’s never right. True False
31. I often sit and stare at my partner, not saying anything. True False
32. It is easier for me to do what my partner wishes or leave the room rather True False
than force my way on him/her.
Section E
33. We hardly ever do any fun things together. True False
34. I frequently don’t have confidence in or trust my partner’s abilities or True False
motives.
35. I am basically unhappy with my relationship. True False
36. I often don’t feel close to my partner. True False
37. I am not satisfied with our sex life. True False
38. Most of the time I do not feel supported by my partner. True False
Section F
39. I have little confidence in being able to discuss a significant relationship True False
problem with my partner without fighting.
40. In five out of ten disagreements with my partner, I will be unable to True False
make any headway in reaching a happy solution.
41. I am devastated because I had so many dreams and hopes for our True False
future and it feels like none of them will ever be possible anymore.
42. Sometimes I feel like we’re trapped in a cycle of endless blame, anger, True False
and shame.
43. Since I can’t talk to my partner anymore, I have a friend that I talk to True False
about my problems—someone who understands me.
44. At times I don’t feel like staying with my partner anymore and am True False
wondering if there’s any reason why I should.
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Section G
45. I’ve said to myself regularly, “I deserve better than this.” True False
46. I have actually researched getting a divorce. True False
47. I have begun thinking about how things could be different/better for me True False
without my partner.
48. I have thought about and brought up the word “divorce” with my partner. True False
49. If things don’t work out with my partner, I have a plan in place to move True False
forward without her/him.
50. The fact that we could be considering getting divorced is out in the open True False
now with family and friends
Results
Now go through each section above and tally up your scores of the number of True and False answers from each section
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