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Morgan Dang
Dr. Lim
15 February 2017
Gender neutrality is a controversial topic where society is torn between accepting and not
accepting gender neutrality, but everyone has their reasons. It is understandable that gender
neutral parenting can be confusing for a child. Furthermore, “I want more than that for my
children. The kind who could step up and defend our nation in times of need. You don’t achieve
that by telling them, ‘Hey, whatever, just do your thing’” (Lu). The idea of gender neutral
parenting can be perceived as something that is stripping away a child’s gender because of the
fact that gender neutrality is about being nonbinary. Gender neutral parenting can be viewed as
something that is liberating boys from boyhood or girls from becoming a woman. Every parent
wants the best for their children and it is respectable that they want their child to reach their full
potential as a good person. Yes, gender neutral parenting can be seen as a restriction which is
understandable for a parent who wants the best for their child. Gender neutral parenting is not for
everyone because everyone has their own views on how to raise their child and there is nothing
wrong with that. Every parent can understand the love that comes with raising a child. It is
respectable that gender neutral parenting is not always the answer, however by being gender
neutral, it creates a society that is more accepting of each other’s values and interests.
The idea of establishing gender neutral bathrooms is a rising topic in today’s society, but
this can be an uprising in a concern for safety. Sex-segregated bathrooms were first established
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during the Victorian era for one reason. It was established to separate spheres of male and female
and to protect women from the dangers of the male world. The vulnerability of women have
always been a concern and it is reasonable for people to be concerned about establishing
bathrooms that both genders could share. Furthermore, “As late as 2007, Senator Larry Craig
was arrested in an airport-restroom sex sting for signalling interest in sex with a stranger in an
adjacent stall, and convicted of disorderly conduct” (Gersen). Since this incident occurred, it is
understandable for one to be concerned for the safety of people using the restroom. In addition,
bathrooms are where you are most vulnerable since trousers are pulled down in proximity to
where they wonder why their parents chose to keep the child genderless and what it means to be
a man or a woman. Some also question if gender neutral parenting results in unhealthy
development as well. Moreover, “The increased support for gender liberation has some
questioning why people would even consider keeping their children genderless, most accepting
that gender is a fact and not a decision” (Villalva). Yes, gender is a biological fact proven by
science. One cannot choose a gender they want to be because it is determined at birth. Also,
“Sure, it’s wonderful to accept your child no matter how they turn out, but there’s a world of
difference between acceptance and denial of identity” (Gregoire). Gender neutral parenting can
conveying that they do not have a gender when they are living in a world that revolves around
gender binaries. Gender neutral parents stray away from guiding their child on the path to
manhood or their femininity and, instead, letting their child run free. A man, as viewed in
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society, is someone who is honorable, strong, and able to support a family. Every parent wants
their child to be honorable, strong, and supportive. It is understandable that a parent wants to
There has been an uprise in gender neutral bathrooms, where some parts of society are
supporting and striving for it, but have not been very successful at it. The difficulty that comes
with pursuing gender neutral bathrooms is valid because of the laws that segregate gender
bathrooms and the parts of society that do not agree with the idea of gender neutral bathrooms.
For instance, “One practical reason we can’t change to unsegregated bathrooms overnight is that
municipal, state, and federal legal codes, many with origins in the nineteenth century, mandate
that there be separate facilities for each sex, in businesses and places of work” (Gersen). The
laws of America have segregated bathrooms according to gender, so it would be difficult to make
a drastic change in America that has been a law for centuries. Also, gender neutral bathrooms
can be uncomfortable for people simply because of sharing a bathroom with the opposite sex that
identify themselves as another gender. Gender neutral bathrooms can pose as a dangerous
hazard, specifically dealing with sexual assault and rape. With the small percentage of people
who identify themselves as the gender they perceive themselves as, a small fraction of society is
not enough to make a drastic change in the law of segregating bathrooms. The difficulty of this is
logical. In addition, “That means the safety, privacy and common decency concerns for 99.7
percent of the American population are sacrificed on the altar of political correctness and “feel
good” policies for a tiny fraction of the public” (Vliet). The concern for the public’s safety is
rational and wishing to not establish gender neutral bathrooms because of these reasons is
justifiable.
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Although these arguments against gender neutral parenting and bathrooms are valid, there
are also some arguments for gender neutrality that are valid as well. Science shows that gender
neutral toys for children can empower them and develop in a healthy way. Evidently,
“Conversely, de-gendering toys will allow children, and arguably society at large, to reap
long-term benefits: when we offer kids equal choices from an early age, it logically follows that
they will continue to expect and demand equality in their personal, social and professional lives”
(Shaw). By practicing gender neutral parenting, this could allow children to be more open
minded, broaden their interests, and allow freedom of expression. Many argue that by practicing
gender neutral parenting, it will confuse the child which can be true in some cases. However,
“Integrated toy aisles won’t result in widespread upheaval and gender confusion among
children” (Shaw). Children will most likely look at toys the same regardless of what gender
binary it is expected to fit into. This can transfer into daily life because of how they perceive toys
with no gender segregation. It can be incorporated into how they view society. Since the LGBT
transgenders. With gender neutral parenting, children can lean towards acceptance and approach
the situation, with the discrimination of the LGBT community, with an open mind.
acceptance for the future. Society is moving more towards gender neutrality like Gucci, a major
fashion industry, is incorporating gender neutral clothing. The traditional gender binary
stereotype is, for example, pink is for girls and blue is for boys or heels on shoes are only for
women and not for men. With the stereotypes, like how women belong in the kitchen or men
cannot cry, that society is engulfed in today, children are being raised with the traditional gender
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binary stereotype. Lastly, “Another preschool removed "free playtime" from its schedule
because, as a pedagogue at the school put it, when children play freely "stereotypical gender
patterns are born and cemented. In free play there is hierarchy, exclusion, and the seed to
bullying” (Rothschild). With gender neutrality, this can erase the stereotypical gender binary
rules that are implanted into children’s minds and can lead to an open minded society.
There are many reasons behind some parts of society not supporting gender neutrality,
however, here are some reasons as to how supporting gender neutrality will benefit both sides of
this controversy. For example, “If you’re tired of endless lines at the women’s room, unisex
facilities will help reduce your wait time” (Lang). Usually, the women’s restroom is always
occupied with long waits and frustrated women waiting in lines, but the men’s restroom is almost
vacant nearly all the time. A woman could not enter into a men’s restroom, even though both
restrooms have the same utilities, because it is a men’s restroom. Since gender neutral bathrooms
are open to all genders, the long lines in the restrooms will not be a problem. Gender neutral
bathrooms can be more safe to everyone. There are many cases on people mistaking a man for a
woman inside the women’s restroom or vise versa. However, this one case in particular was
unbelievable. It is true, “A cisgender lesbian, was thrown out of a McDonald’s in Hull, England,
after using the women’s room” (Lang). Apparently, Richardson was thrown out because she
claimed that she was a woman, but failed to prove her gender to a manager who assumed she
was a boy using the wrong restroom. A similar event happened as well, “When a security guard
mistook Cortney Bogorad for a man and pulled her out of a stall in the women’s room. He
proceeded to bodyslam her against the wall” (Lang). The safety that is concerned for using the
restroom is immense, especially towards the LGBT community. There are many
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misunderstandings because of the confusion of the identification of gender. This confusion and
misunderstanding has lead to conflict and a series of unfortunate events. By providing gender
neutral bathrooms, this can be a safer option for all of society regardless of the stereotypical
categories people are placed in. Gender neutral bathrooms can be beneficial for society, “But
while we should be fighting for trans people to be able to use the bathroom that most closely
corresponds with their gender identity, it’s also about providing better, safer options for
everyone” (Lang). Providing a safer option for, not only the LGBT community, but for all of
society starts by incorporating gender neutral bathrooms. Gender neutral bathrooms will reduce
long lines to get to the restroom and increase the safety of the community.
Although the controversy between being gender neutral and not gender neutral still exists
today, gender neutrality is something that should be taught and valued in order to maintain a safe
community for all citizens. Everyone is different and yet all the same, so society should make it
easier for those who do not fit into those boxes and move more towards acceptance. The
significance that gender neutrality brings out is the acceptance of every diverse individual
whether they are transgender, gay, or even different in race. Being gender neutral brings
acceptance into society and erases some of the discrimination of the LGBT community that
exists today. People of the LGBT community should not feel ashamed of what they are meant to
be because everyone should have the freedom to express their sexuality without being looked
down upon. Society should be a more accepting environment and people should have the
freedom of choice because love makes the world go round and without it, it would be a world
full of hate.
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