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The self-doubt, the low self-esteem, and low confidence--It all started in third grade at
Hawkins Elementary School. I was a shy girl I was a quiet girl, if I ever spoke I would stutter
and would avoid eye contact with anyone. I had friends I surrounded myself with people that I
would occasionally hang around with.. I did well in school. Nothing was wrong with my life. I
didn’t really care much about my looks, my intelligence, or me in general. I was fine with who I
was. Then suddenly, the bullying started. Along with that came the whispers, the rumors, the
lies, the insults. Everyone left me, I had no one. I began to get self-conscious about everything
and anything. I began to worry on how I look, if I was smart, if I even could trust anyone. Fast
forward to the first year of middle school at Klein Park, the self-harm began. Andrew, the boy
who found me annoying enough that I get punched because of it, is the reason for the harm. It
made me believe I deserved getting hurt for the things I do and for the things I say and feel. A
year later, I was afraid of love. Stupid, right? Why is a 13-year-old girl even considering the
thought of love being scary if I’m still so young? Well, it wasn’t my own experience that gave
me the reason to be afraid of love, it was those around me that was getting hurt because of it. The
fear of love, the trust issues, the fear of the repetition of abuse, the self-harm, the low
self-esteem, the low confidence, getting self-conscious over everything, it stuck to me. I forgot
what it was like to be positive. My freshman year started at Venturidge High School, I was
expecting the worst in everything at all the times just to not feel disappointed or hurt. It might
not have seemed a lot, but it was so much for me to go through that life became hard. However I
made small progress, I made friends. The ones I could actually count on, but I still needed fixing.
When I opened up to them, they couldn’t even help. I believed none of their words. They
eventually forgot what happened to me and gave up. I didn’t mind that, I wasn’t expecting them
to make me feel better. I stopped believing in anything positive if it had to do with me. It
eventually gets ruined. All that changed though, because there he was one day, sitting across
from me during lunch period. He was quiet and just listening to our friends talk. His name is
Nathan, and little did I know how much he’d impact me and change me to who I am now.
I get anxiety frequently. Sometimes they’re for a good reason, such as taking an exam.
Most of the time, they’re from irrational thinking, such as imagining my classmates insulting me
for always asking for help or for getting the answers wrong, or just because of how I am and how
I look. Other times, it’s for no reason at all, it just happens. Today in my fourth-period class I got
hit with anxiety. I started to cancel out what was happening around me. My thoughts began to
run through my head, and they weren’t good ones. I started to feel insecure, depressed, lonely,
etc, but I couldn’t show it. I hide my feelings and that’s mainly because I know others have it
worse. I think to myself that I don’t deserve to express them or think they’re reasonable feelings
because it isn’t fair to those going through or have been through worse situations. “Celeste,”
Bianca says to call for my attention, “Let’s go, Andy’s waiting out in the halls for us. We won’t
get to lunch in time for food at this rate.” I didn’t realize the bell has already rung, the sound of a
ding played into my ears late. I hurried myself to catch up with Bianca. The minute Bianca
opened the door, we see and hear the halls crowded because of the upperclassmen. The hallways
were filled with students and teachers, so many loud conversations were happening that Bianca,
Andy and I had to raise our own voices to hear each other. Once we entered the lunchroom, it
wasn’t any better. Having both sophomores and freshmen in the same cafeteria created chaos.
The line to get to lunch wasn’t a line anymore, they were just ninth and tenth graders swarming
in packs hoping to get the good food that’s still left. I sat down at the usual table where my best
friends were sitting in. I notice Andy starting to plug in his headphones to listen to music, Mark
working last minute on his homework, and Antonio and Bianca talking. Those are my best
friends. Then there was Lily and Nathan. Lily knows my guy best friends back in elementary
school, she brought along Nathan for the fun of it. I look at Nathan and notice how quiet he is he
wouldn’t speak when the rest of us were into the the topic, he would just stand there amused just
by listening to the conversation instead. I can’t blame him, if I was brought to a group of
unknown people I’d be quiet too. I felt bad for him, I know what being in this situation was like,
so I couldn’t help but talk to him, “Are you okay?” He looked up at me and simply nodded. I had
a feeling he wasn’t, but I wasn’t in the position to ask him to open up and say the truth. I spaced
out after that, and I guess Nathan noticed because once I snapped back into reality, I saw him
looking at me. I smiled at him and he looked into my eyes. I suddenly felt even more anxious
and looked away. While everyone else in the group began talking and laughing, I was enjoying
my lunch and smiling that my friends are happy. I never really cared about myself, I started
caring about others more and I guess you can say I’m selfless. I put other people’s needs before
my own, so seeing that my friends are smiling and laughing made me happy. What didn’t make
me happy was that Nathan was behaving how I was, isolated and unhappy. I looked at him and I
then ask again, “Are you sure you’re okay?” He blinked, no emotion was shown on his face. He
looks at me and asks, “Are you okay?” I was so off guard by his voice, he was talking. He waited
for my response, and all I could reply was a short and simple yet dishonest answer, “Yeah.”
The next day, I began to feel and notice that I my face, body and brain were terribly ugly
and stupid my face was chubby, my eyes were small, my nose was too big along with my
forehead, acne mars were placed on the side of my face, my mind comprehends things too slowly
and once put together no words aloud can be said without sounding confusing or wrong. It is
worse than ever before. During my lunch period, I group myself with Nathan and a couple of
girls, May and Monica, from the volleyball team outside the school building and onto the field.
I’m not expressing much happiness on my face, so May start to say nice things to me to make me
feel smile, “Celeste, you’re so pretty and athletic. How are you so perfect?” I scoff, “You need
help,” I didn’t like that I am insulting myself in my head and May had the sudden need to say a
lie that made me add on insults to think to myself. “Girl, you ARE pretty, look at your curves,”
Monica said smiling while passing the ball over to me. I bump the volleyball over to Nathan and
said softly, “I’m really not,” Nathan looks at me and I change the subject so that he didn’t feel
awkward or have the need to compliment me. I never like to accept people’s compliments, I
consider them lies and just pity compliments. I notice other students starting to walk inside and I
rush to my things to leave. Once I left the field and start to head to the building, Nathan taps me
on my arm. I stop walking, and smile at him, “Hey.” He looks behind him, I follow his eyes and
notice that Monica and May try catching up. “Text me once you’re home,” He told me before he
left to get to his next class. Before I could ask why, Monica and May reached to me and we walk
in the building together. Once I got home and finished my homework, I decided to listen to
Nathan and message him. I reach for my phone and tap on the ghost that opens up Snapchat. I
tap on Nathan’s name and started typing to him, “Hey, what’s up?”
Within a minute, he replied, “Hey. Do you really think you aren’t pretty?”
I stare at the question and try to answer in a way that I don’t sound as if I am looking for a
“For you,” I then typed something I couldn’t imagine myself texting someone else this, “But you
don’t have to fake anything, you have it all. A cute face, sweet personality, girls coming at you
right and left. You don’t have to fake anything to make it because you have it already.”
“Sure,” He typed and continued, “You see it that way, but it isn’t like that at all. I get girls
coming at me right and left sure, but I only want one in mind. This isn’t about me anyways, it’s
about you. What about you do you think isn’t pretty about you?” Without thinking, I told him
every single detail of what I don’t like about myself. I told him everything. I begin to type that I
do not like my face for having an ugly nose, ugly eyes, an ugly lip from biting, and how my
cheeks are too chubby. I then typed about how I look anorexic, how my thighs are too big, and
about not having what every other girl has. Then from looks I talked about my intelligence. How
I don’t deserve to be in honors classes, how I always ask for too much help from friends and
teachers, and how I won’t make it in college. I stopped typing, the minute I realized how much I
was being pathetic I became angry with myself. How could I have easily opened up to him? He
probably feels pity for me. He probably agrees with everything I have said. I became self
conscious, my anxiety has started to get into effect as I felt nauseous. I didn’t know why I felt so
worried. He was my best friend, I didn’t worry so much when I told Antonio, Mark or Andy.
Then I realized I have caught feelings for him. I cared about what he thought of me and my
problems. I felt so stupid for letting it happen and for letting my guard down. Before I saw his
response, I closed off Snapchat and decided to go to sleep feeling worse than I usually do.
The following day I felt like I have embarrassed myself. I haven’t opened Nathan’s
scratching my neck. Time flew by too slow for my liking, but it the bell rung and it was then my
lunch period. I bit my lip and I kept on biting it, I was so frustrated with what I have done it was
nerve wrecking. I decided to skip lunch to starve myself and went directly outside. I took in the
fresh air and screaming teenagers and walked around the field. I saw Nathan playing volleyball,
he stopped playing and looked at me. I immediately turned around to avoid him, but I was too
slow that he turned me around and looked at me worriedly. I then decided to somehow make him
forget what I had said to him and told him, “Hey, um, just forget about yesterday. I didn’t mean
He looked at my lips, he said to me sternly, “You are doing a bad habit. Stop biting your lip.”
“It’s not possible. I’ve always had this habit.” I told him.
I crossed my arms and slowly backed away from him, “It’s hard,”
“How?” I looked at him, I had no hope he would be able to change how I think or act.
He leaned in and kissed my lips and after doing so he said, “You shouldn’t bite your lip because
I was shocked, I didn’t know what to say. I looked at him unsure how to respond.
He pulled me in for a hug and whispered, “Sorry. I probably shouldn’t have done that but if you
could see everything I see, you’d realize how all those comments you made about yourself
“No, it’s not. I know what it’s like to be like this. I helped myself, now since you can’t help
yourself, I’ll help you.” He said and reached to touch my cheek. I flinched when I saw his hand
lift up towards my face, I still get scared I’ll get hit. “I’ll help with that too.” He said, “I’ll help
“Why are you doing this? What do you want?” My heart was pounding so hard I could feel it
He smiled and said, “I care about you, and you know I don’t care about just anyone. What I
“I don’t think, I’ll ever be happy with myself. Too many flaws, you won’t have enough
patience.” I turned around to walk away, but he quickly hugged me from behind and didn’t let
go.
I laughed at him and before I could point out anything my best friends were calling me over to
play volleyball. I felt my phone vibrate and saw it was a message from Monica. I opened it and
I smiled softly and look at Nathan. He noticed me looking and smiled back. Something about
him makes me want to risk it and see if he can actually help me. A part of me also doubts it, but
half the time but it was so consistent I stopped flinching. I’ll tell you what he has done for me
that changed my life forever. By hugging me, holding my hand, by poking me randomly I didn’t
everyday how beautiful I am, I am now fine with how I look. By showing that he cares for me
and by making me feel safe, I no longer bottled up my feelings. He proves to me that he won’t
leave like everyone did in my life. I no longer continue my self harm. Because of Nathan, I don’t
scratch to the point I leave red marks, I don’t bite my lip to the point it bleeds, I don’t punch the
wall the point my knuckles turn red, and because of Nathan, I no longer insult myself. He keeps
on helping me even in my darkest days. He continues to make me happy with myself. Thanks to
him I no longer. I still think he exaggerates when he calls me beautiful or gorgeous, but I no
longer neglected his compliments. I no longer insult my face, or body. I still get self conscious
but like I said, Nathan continues to help me. I probably shouldn’t need someone to make me look
at myself better, but it happens. He changed my life for the better. I have a self esteem now, I am
a bit more confident in myself, my anxiety gets better in control, my depression has been less
frequently, I smile more and I am not scared nor do I flinch when I’m touched, and this is all
because of him. I look at myself differently now. Now the question is, will I remain like that if he