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Your Never Run Out of Things To Say Report
Your Never Run Out of Things To Say Report
by Bobby Rio
Copyright 2012 Bobby Rio
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Never Run Out of Things to Say:
9 Steps to Control Her Attention
Let’s face it; talking to a beautiful woman does not come easily to
too many of us. In fact, so much of our energy and anxiety is de-
plored just gathering up the courage to approach her, that by the
time the conversation begins we’re burnt out and can’t think of a
damn thing to say.
So I’ve put together a list of nine ways to make sure that you’re
having conversations filled with fun and banter- and ultimately es-
calate you toward your goal of sleeping with her.
Section One:
9 Skills for Better Conversations with Women
After breaking the ice with a woman, most guys will immediately
start bombarding her with questions. These questions usually tend
to be boring “get to know you” questions… you know, the same
sort of questions your aunt will ask you at a family party. Asking
too many questions not only bores her, but it will also prevent her
from actually engaging in the conversation. What usually happens
is men will jump from question to question, without ever having
the sense to expand upon a topic you can tell she loves to talk
about.
Try this instead:
Any time you are talking to a woman and you ask her a question,
follow up her answer with a statement rather than simply moving
on to the next question. This not only shows that you are listening
to her, but also shows that you can connect at a different level.
And will usually open up the conversation to move toward more
fun or intimate topics.
2. Qualify her
Once you sense that you’ve sparked a woman’s interest a little bit
begin qualifying her with questions or statements that place you in
the role of “the selector.” This means you will make a statement
that may disqualify her as potential lover.
As you can see, you took a “safe” topic like pets and were able to
bring an element of sexuality to the conversation. Not only that,
but by making the statement “we would never get along” you’re
now placing the burden of approval seeking on her.
Next time you’re talking to woman, try using a cold reading that
will allow you to go beneath the surface level, and get her to open
up to some of her feelings. A cold read is simply stating something
you’ve noticed about her, and then making a deeper observation
about it.
Here is an example that you could use fairly soon into a conversa-
tion when she says something about a previous date or guy she
knew.
You: I can tell just by the way that you are talking there that
you are the kind of girl who goes on a lot of dates but has
trouble finding someone you’re actually interested in. Then
when you find that person, you usually lose interest very
quickly.
This particular example allowed you do delve into the mystical and
emotional, and also allowed you to disqualify the other guys, and
at the same time, present yourself as something new, exciting,
and different, who just might be the cure for her ailment.
Since most men stick to “interview mode” topics like work and
school… they seldom have a chance to demonstrate their passion-
ate and excited side to a woman. Instead they talk about topics
that bore them, and in turn, bore the woman.
Try this instead:
When you ask a woman what she looks for in a man, pretty much
all women will use the word passionate. While most of the time, I
take what women say they want with a grain of salt, in this case, I
found this to be completely true.
5. Tease her
First and foremost, the whole point of teasing is to create a fun en-
vironment where a woman canloosen up and open up to you.Teas-
ing basically means being silly with a girl. It means treating her
the same way you wouldyour bratty little sister. It means picking
on her in a fun and flirtatious way.Here is the thing, effective teas-
ing means that you will have to drop your cool guy image for a
while and just relax and have some fun with her. Don’t be afraid to
be a little goofy.
Getting ready to give her a high five… then pulling your hand away
like you changed your mind
Imitating her
Suggesting she’s coming on to you
Tell her an overtly exaggerated lie, and then pick on her for being
gullible and believing you
As you can see, these are the same sort of things you did on the
playground in the fourth grade.They worked then, and they work
now.
6. Learn to improvise
What usually happens is a man will ask a question, and then im-
mediately begin to think aboutwhat he is going to say next. Be-
cause of this, he isn’t really focused on listening to what thewoman
is saying, and misses new conversation topics that he could have
easily transitioned into.
Now instead of forcing her to talk about baseball, she has the op-
tion of transitioning to one of theother threads you’ve brought up.
She can tell a story of somewhere her dad used to take herwhen
she was a little girl. Or she can talk about any number of things
she feels nostalgia for.
Now when she is talking, you should be listening for the same
openings that she is giving you.For example, if she says “I love to
cook, my mom taught me how to cook, and now I even findmyself
watching those stupid cooking shows on TV.”Instead of just staying
on the cooking thread you can say something like, “yea, I’m the
same way with those travel shows on TV. I start watching them
and get sucked into all of the amazinglocations, so where would
you go on vacation if money wasn’t a factor?”
Most men are under the false impression that beautiful women
don’t want to talk to them. Thisis not the case. Beautiful women
crave fun and flirtatious conversations just as much as we do.The
fact is, there are so few men who know how to peak a woman’s in-
terest through talking toher, that she is actually dying to meet a
man who can.
The main reason most men don’t communicate well with women is
because they let theirnervousness and anxiety prevent them from
showing a woman their fun side. The second biggestreason a man
doesn’t connect with a woman is because he doesn’t talk to her in
a way that sheresponds to.
If you are talking to a woman and she mentions the fact that she likes to
go snowboarding,instead of talking about facts such as what mountain
does she usually snowboard at, or what kindequipment does she use
(which is common questions you would ask another man) instead get
herto talk about the feelings she experiences while snowboarding.
For example:
When a bunch of guys are sitting around with each other it be-
comes almost a competition as towho can tell the best story. We
try to tell stories that make us appear the funniest, coolest, ormost
dominant guy in the group. Yet for some reason when we get
around a woman we totallyforget to make use of this skill.
A woman wants to figure things out about you on her own. She
doesn’t necessarily trust everything that you’re saying, so she is
trying to look for little clues that will help her determinewhere you
fit in the pecking order.Stories are a natural way to capture some-
one’s attention. And if told right, they are also a greatway to drop
subtle clues as to the finer points of your persona.
You don’t want to come off a bragging during your stories. This is
why any positive detailsabout your life you want to emphasize
must be hidden within a larger story. This means, whilethe story it-
self does not have to be positive, she must be able to uncover pos-
itive traits about youfrom within the story.
Let’s use the same story above about the religious folks knocking
on the door and see how wecould tell it in a way that sheds some
positive light on you.
You: So Tuesday afternoon I’m sleeping late. This was like the first good
comfortable sleepI’ve had in a couple weeks as I’ve been busting my ass
trying to elevate my business to the nextlevel. Monday night we scored a
kick ass contract and me and my team finally decided it wastime to cele-
brate. So now Tuesday morning I’m lying in bed, with the kind of hang-
over Ihaven’t had in years, and I keep hearing a knock on the door. I just
don’t want to get out ofbed. Later than night I had a few more important
meetings, I really wanted to sleep off thehangover so I would be in top
shape to deliver the proposal. Well, the knocking stops for liketen min-
utes… but then starts up again. And now they’re ringing my bell too. Fi-
nally I throw onsome clothes and head downstairs and answer the door…
and it’s these two little girls. At firstI’m thinking they want to sell me girl
scout cookies, but then she hands me this flyer that says
“Let Jesus save you from your treacherous life” and I’m thinking “am I on
some sort of list orsomething? haha”
In this version of the story I included enough details to let her
jump to the conclusion that I aman ambitious and successful busi-
nessman. But I never came out and said it. I gave her thisinforma-
tion in the context of a story about a couple of religious nuts trying
to convert me.
In the next section I’m going to talk about how to draw a woman
into your conversations. In this section I discuss the subtle things
you need to be doing to project that you are a fun, confident man
thatshe should feel excited to be talking to.
Most men don’t do this. Instead, most men let their nervousness
control their entire body andthey wind up coming off fidgety,
tense, and even slightly awkward.This happens because while men
are talking to a woman they get stuck in their own head. Theybe-
gin concentrating extremely hard on how they can impress the
woman.
A tip that I heard from a great pickup artist once that has helped
me over the years is to imaginethat the woman has already told
you that later she is going to get naked and sprawl out over
youbed and let you have your way with her.
If you knew this, how would you act?
You would probably be quite laid back, with a knowing sly smile on
your face, and you wouldhave no problem getting fun and flirta-
tious because there wasn’t a risk of rejection.Well, can you imag-
ine how acting this way can actually get you the result of having a
womansprawled out naked in your bed?
Other guys assume that everything has to do with how “cool” and
“alpha” you appear to a woman. The problem that arises here is
that many men become so focused on portraying “alpha” body lan-
guage that they wind up appearing stiff and unnatural.
They also find that their desire to come off as “cool” makes them
really just come off as cold or boring.
The “cool” factor should really come from being calm and sure of
yourself. That “cool” feeling comes from speaking in a relaxed
fashion, but giving the impression that there IS more, that there is
a “fire” beneath the surface. That’s the “allure”. That’s what
women like, and what people like in general.
The coolest people are the ones that are fun to talk to and fun to
be with.
I’ve been passing along a little slogan that has helped me when I
was in a social situation and wasn’t quite sure how to draw women
into my conversation… I would just ask myself “What would
Tommy Lee do?” If you aren’t familiar with Tommy Lee just go to
Youtube and watch some videos of him and you’ll begin to get a
better understanding of what I mean.
What Draws Women In?
1. Your Voice
One of the biggest tools that you have for drawing women into
your conversations is your voice. Your tone of voice really conveys
a lot about who you are, how calm you are, how interesting you
are, and says a lot about you.
There are many articles and books on improving your voice tonal-
ity, but the common fundamental seems to be speaking from your
chest rather than your nose or mouth. Take a moment right now
to test this out; grab some reading material and begin reading it
out loud. However, focus on generating the sound from deep
within your chest. Relax. Sound relaxed. See how relaxed this
makes you feel and how relaxed you need to be to do this.
Over the next few days when speaking to anyone, make a note to
yourself as to how you are speaking, and where you are speaking
from (your nose, mouth, or chest). Also, make note of how you felt
(nervous, comfortable, and relaxed-confident).
When I use my “What would Tommy Lee do?” motto it usually re-
lates to the energy and enthusiasm he bring to all of his interac-
tions. No matter what he is doing, you get the sense that he is
having a hell of a good time doing it.
Most guys are just TOO BORING. It’s good to have the ability and
range to display passion, enthusiasm, energy, and excitement
when appropriate.
For the next few conversations you have with women where you
ARE interested in the subject, go ahead and SHOW your enthusi-
asm! Be energetic in how you speak, how you listen, and how your
respond. Go ahead and start using energy and enthusiasm when
speaking so that women can become energized and enthusiastic
about listening to and being with you.
When I think of the “What would Tommy Lee do?” motto I also
think about his ability to keep things on a light and fun level.
If you can do this, you will have no problem drawing women into
your conversations.
In the next section you’re going to learn how to make a girl laugh.
Some of the guys I knew who had the lamest, most childish
humor, often seemed to get the best reaction of women.Women
very rarely judged the originality and cleverness of humor the way
my guy friends did.
About four years ago I really started to get serious about trying to
figure out what I was doing wrong with my interactions with
women. It was at this point that I came across a book that taught
the concept of cocky and funny. The concept made a lot of sense,
so I tweaked my humor, and started interacting with women in this
new, different manner.
What I hadn’t realized was that the few girls that seemed to really
enjoy this sarcastic humor, while attractive, were somewhat of
tomboys with a masculine energy that didn’t represent the rest of
the female population.
Then one day I just sat there and watched my friend Will interact
with women. Will had always been somewhat of a natural with
women. I could never understand it as I found his humor silly and
childish… and he rarely said anything that would have any of my
male friends laughing.
It was right then that I came to realize that women don’t want
funny.
Women aren’t that funny. Women don’t really care about original,
witty, and sharp humor. Women want to have fun. They don’t want
to have to think. And if your jokes are making them think too
much, you’re probably taking them out of the moment.
You’ll see that they don’t care much about the originality of your
jokes, and in fact they are more likely to laugh at you repeating a
knock knock joke you heard in the sixth grade than whatever sar-
castic remark that pops into your mind.
You’ll see that women don’t appreciate the concept of “cool” the
way men do. Women would rather you take the stick out of your
ass and act in a fun silly way than stand around like you’re a big
shot.
Women want you be around a guy that allows them to have fun.
The next time that you are out with a woman and engaged in a
conversation with her, make it a priority to take the conversation
back to the playground. As you are talking to her, imagine that
the two of you are a couple of nine year olds on the playground
during recess of school. Begin acting in a manner congruent to
this.
With the mouth race you take a pen and tell the woman that:
Three mice are having a race, a blind mouse, and dumb mouse,
and a deaf mouse. You put the men pen to arm and say “here is
the blind mouse, tell him when to stop” and you start drawing.
She’ll say stop right away. Then you say “here is the dumb mouse,
tell him when to stop” and you start drawing. She’ll say stop right
away. Then you say “here is the deaf mouse, tell him when to stop”
and you start drawing. This time when she says stop you keep
drawing. She’ll say stop again. And you’ll keep drawing. If she
doesn’t get it… look at her and say “he’s deaf, he can’t hear you.”
And keep drawing. By now you’ve drawn a line up her arm.
It’s always good to have a few of these little games ready. You
never want to do more than a couple of them as they will get old.
But by doing a one or two you show the girl that you’re the kind of
guy that doesn’t take himself too seriously and who she can have
fun around.
She’ll appreciate that a lot more than that witty ironic observation
you spent an hour perfecting the joke in your mind. Remember,
take her back to the playground.
Let’s face something; Not all of us are funny. Sure, we pull off
some one liner that impresses our friends from time to time, and
occasionally we just “click” with a woman and have her laughing
hysterically, but most of the time our sense of humor is just “aver-
age”… at best.
Maybe you had a friend like my buddy Leo. You introduce Leo to
ANYBODY and within minutes he he’ll have them cracking up. He
knew exactly how to flirt.
Girls could say ANYTHING to Leo, and he’d find a way to turn it
into something they could share a laugh over.Even as they were
saying “you’re such an asshole…” they had been smiles plastered
on their faces.
I would never possess a mind that ALWAYS has some funny re-
mark to make. My mind just didn’t work that way. And the more I
tried to force it the more BORING I became.
I still remember the night this clicked for me.I realized that a sub-
tle glance, at just the right moment, says more than any words
possibly could.
She then turned to her friends and started chatting with them. I
squeezed in to order my drink. My mind, still trained to make the
same mistakes I talked about earlier, is now racing to find some-
thing funny to follow up with.
The girl was a little tipsy. Not stupid drunk, but buzzed enough to
know she was a little drunk. Later in the conversation she starts
telling me a story about something that had happened to her the
night before. She is excited about the story and talking quite fast.
She trips over a word or two. I then give her a look similar to the
Rock’s eyebrow raise. Not a blatant eye brow raise, but a look that
says “you lost me sweetie.”
There were three key factors I discovered about how to flirt that
night that quickly took my game to the next level. And I want to
share these flirting tips with you:
Timing
Subtleness
Every interaction has a beat. And once you learn to get in tune
with the beat of an interaction, your social intelligence will appear
to sky rocket. The great stand-upcomedians have mastered the art
of timing. Rent videos of some of the all-time greats… and study
how they use timing.
When the woman at the bar spilled her drink I waited for the right
moment. I didn’t rush to make a comment, making my interest too
apparent. And I didn’t wait until later to use it as a joke. I simply
waited for the inevitable moment that our eyes met, and subtly
shook my head. She smiled.
Flirting with women is a skill you must learn if you want to seduce
them. But, there are more than one ways to skin a cat. These are
some of the best flirting tips I can give you.
Now when you talk to a woman in a way that attracts her you’ll
begin to notice that women will:
Touch you more (putting her hand under your shirt, or feel-
ing your muscles)
The one thing I want to leave you with is: Learning how to flirt and
get good with girls, so that you can attract them, get the kiss, get
them back to your bedroom and close the deal… it’s easier than
you think.
Section Five:
Turn Your Nervousness Around Women
into Sexual Electricity
Around the same time I was battling this approach anxiety with
women, I was quickly conquering a lifelong “stage fright” I had
about performing in front of large groups of people. I was in a fra-
ternity at college, and we routinely performed a homecoming skit
in front of an audience containing several thousand people every
year. Our skit had a long reputation as being the “show stealer”
and we always had a pressure to perform.
It was also during the same period that I came to realize some-
thing else in regards to nervousness with women:
When you jump into a new state, and fear arises unexpectedly,
your body responds with these symptoms. It is a gut level reac-
tion. And in order to overcome this anxiety, you must learn how to
change the symptoms of the nervousness. And not the nervous-
ness itself.
The day of the parade we would thrive on the adrenaline that was
pumping through our veins. We became social animals. We would
march through campus sucking up the adulation and energy of the
many people asking us if we were ready to perform.The more peo-
ple that we talked to, the more pressure that mounted, the further
and further we went into our zen like state.That nervous energy
became energy to exceed all expectations. It became energy to
top last year’s performance. And it became so intense that we
were operating at a completely different plane of existence.
This is what you must learn to do with women.
Now, ignite the energy by elevating yourself to the next level so-
cially. Get outside your head, and begin sucking in the energy of
everyone around you. As you suck in their energy make it a point
to give back just as much energy as you take. It is at this point
that the sexual electricity should begin flowing through your veins.
Additional Resources
Free: Switch a Few “Words” to Ignite Attraction video
Here is a video that talks about how you can switch a few words
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