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In this class focused on learning about active listening, I gained many skills that
will be useful for my career to become a more effective leader and team member. In this
class, topics that were discussed included collaborative leadership, oral communication,
motivational cues, understanding social and environmental context, all of which are
important to improving active listening skills. I have been applying active listening for
several years, but have not been able to fully describe or articulate the skills I have
been using. Now I understand that I have been employing many useful skills, but I also
realized that I have used some techniques that would more likely stop people from
talking with me than encouraging them. Because of this class, I have been able to
recognize some of the practices that I have employed that will interfere with or prevent
having the most effective conversations I can with people, both in my personal and
professional life. In addition, I had the opportunity to participate in role play exercises
know now how to improve on these skills, drawing out more information from those to
whom I am speaking and having more meaningful and effective conversations. This
Leadership: Active Listening class has helped me become a better listener, and given
me more skills to help others, which is important in my career because I hope to lead
Collaborative leadership is when people in lead positions take time to work with
their teams, working not only to craft a good work environment, but also to improve the
work of the team and themselves. I learned about collaborative leadership for the first
time in this class. I plan to improve my skills in this area in the future by working in
teams and to applying the skills we learned about in class; all of which inform
collaborative leadership. It is important to work with your team to learn about them,
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their strengths and weaknesses, and how everyone can bring the whole project to a
new level. Working to create a good work environment makes you more approachable
so that team members will come to you if problems or conflicts arise, or if they feel that
you have been disrespectful. If you address all these situations calmly and thank them
for bringing it up to you, you will gain the respect of those people which will help in
professional situations to improve the work and project results of a team. If someone
has a problem with an action that offends them, if the environment allows them to feel
comfortable enough to bring it up for discussion, this can help resolve issues and
improve the ability of the team to work. If issues about you are brought to your attention
and you work to change your behavior, you will earn the respect and trust of the team. I
plan to lead teams in the future to develop games. My strengths and areas of growth
are discussed below as each of these topics are important in being an effective
satisfying and rewarding because you can learn even more about and improve yourself
Interpersonal skills are very important for leading, such as being able to talk to
others and relate to their experiences. This is the area where I had the greatest growth
during this class. I learned many skills related to this topic, particularly in the role play
exercises. The skills I learned and better developed during this class in the area of
paraphrasing what they said, minimal encouragers, greater eye contact and asking
open ended question to bring out more information. Now that I am aware of these skills,
I plan to work to continue to improve these specific skills by practicing them in all my
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to have better, more meaningful, relationships and to better understand others. These
interpersonal skills also helps with resolving conflicts and understanding others which
Oral communication is also very important for effective leadership. Talking with
professional field of game design. I have adequate oral communication skills, but there
are some areas in which I need to improve. When giving presentations and during
discussions, I now am aware that I use many ‘filler’ words, and am working to reduce
them. Within the game design field, one must be aware of and understand the
skills. Knowledge in these disparate fields will give me the ability to communicate across
these fields, thus helping me to create a better game with a team, and I still have much
to improve on in terms of learning key words in different fields in game. Thus, in this
class I learned new elements that are important to oral communication skills in teams or
for leaders, and have identified specific skills I will work to include in my future team
Leaders need to be aware of the social context and environment within which
they working. By being aware of the social context, a leader can make informed
decisions when presented with information, and be able to handle the information
paying attention to the social environment in a team, a leader knows when a conflict is
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taking place, and can properly handle the situation. My peers have told me in this class
that one of my strengths is being aware of social and environmental contexts. Using
awareness of the social context and environment allows a leader to know better how to
motivational cues and be able to utilize them to encourage peers to work effectively.
Motivation is what drives one to complete tasks and accomplish goals. External
motivation is when something requires you to complete a task, and this is usually
something for yourself to gain a sense of satisfaction. I now understand what internal
and external motivation is, and an area of growth is that I need to work more to identify
what internally motivates team members with whom I am working. I think that a leader
needs to recognize what drives a person both internally and externally. If a leader can
harness someone’s internal motivation, they can encourage them to work much harder
than forcing them to work only through external motivation (Nichols, 2009).
factor is that developing a set of shared values in a team or group helps build
craft a set of shared values effectively. By creating a shared set of values, you create a
shared set of ethics, which better helps define the actions of the team, and this
why they are feeling this way. I think that empathy is very important, and I think that
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being empathetic is one of my strengths. There are many reasons empathy is good to
use, especially when talking with others. For example, empathy allows one to avoid
discredited. Empathy also allows you to celebrate with your team members their
can recognize your limitations and places that you need help to accomplish a task. This
allows you to improve, and allowing a better product to be created by a team. Although I
think I am somewhat in tune with myself, this is an area I can improve on to be a better
leader. To lead others effectively, knowing your limitations and where the team can
cover those limitations is key. Because members of the team can work in areas that you
cannot, and you recognize this, the team can create a better project (Shankman et al.,
2015).
because this entails seeing the situation from someone else’s point of view which will
help inform actions and decisions of the team. To understand someone else’s
perspective, you need to understand how they see a situation, and what they are
feeling, among other things. To get them to talk to you about their feeling about the
situation you must show empathy and understanding, gaining their trust. This topic was
very informative for me, and I plan to work further to improve my skills to be aware of
others perspectives. Perspective taking gives leaders insight into the emotional
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perspective from which their team members view the situation so the leader can make
more informed decisions to help the team work better (Stone, Patton, & Heen, 2000).
differences of opinion within a group. This encourages people to come to you with
problems with both coworkers and with you, but to utilize this skill to its fullest you also
Conversations and discussions happening between peers that are working together
create an open and sharing environment, allowing space for improvement and
where arguments are prolific and there is little resolved, tensions can rise and team
members withdraw from the conversations. People withdrawing from teamwork causes
more tension, and the spiral perpetuates. In my interview with Dr. Whittinghill, I also
learned that this was an important area to work on for a leader. He said being open to
differences of opinion within a group was very important to understand and work on
because the team you work with will have a very different set of personalities. If you
can get them to work together, the end project will be better. I think that recognizing and
work to talk with everyone, getting to know them, work to understand the differences
In the future I hope to use what I have learned in this class to improve my
leadership and active listening skills. In this class, I learned that I have used active
listening techniques in the past and have strengths in some of these, including empathy,
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However, I learned I was also using some harmful practices when I was talking with
others, such as saying I understand, when I didn’t really understand, which caused
people to stop talking as openly with me. I also need to work to better acknowledge that
their experiences are different. In addition, I will work also work to summarize or
paraphrase what team mates said, improve eye contact and ask more open-ended
working in teams is critical. Game design is a field that also requires very good
many disparate fields of expertise. My goals for future growth and development are to
incorporate these skills to be able to lead a team effectively, be able to resolve conflicts
with no raised voices, and be trusted and respected by my peers for my skills, abilities,
and conscientiousness. My plan of action to meet these goals are to work hard with
teams, using skills that I have learned in this class, and building on them to further both
In conclusion, I have learned much about leadership and how important listening
is in leadership. Over the course of the semester, the people in the class I have worked
with have pointed out places that I could improve, such as keeping eye contact with the
person I am talking with, encouraging the people with whom I am talking too to talk
more, and validating their opinions. I recognize that my active listening skills have
greatly improved over the course of this class, but I also recognize that I have room to
improve and intend to actively incorporate what I have learned in order to improve my
Bibliography
Nichols, M. P. (2009). The Lost Art Of Listening (2nd ed.). New York, NY: The Guilford
Press.
Stone, D., Patton, B., & Heen, S. (2000). Difficult Conversations (10th Anniv). New York,