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Come for
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the quickie With comedian, writer, and Venom actress Jenny Slate
My happy place: Near the ocean

or surrounded by plants. Every-
one in their 20s should: Be gentle
on themselves. Get outside alone
as much as possible. Go to therapy
(it’s great). My weirdest quirk:
When I talk about food I enjoy,
I gulp like a cartoon mouse looking
at a big piece of Swiss cheese.
My weakness: Romantic gestures.
The sexiest thing ever: President
Obama tweeting at Vice President
Biden to say happy birthday. Big
misconception about me: I’m not
sassy—I don’t like that word—or
thick-skinned just because I’m a
comedian. I’m peppy and vulner-
able and a lovebug, and that’s what
drew me to comedy. Pet peeve:
Road rage. It’s incredibly stupid
to get all brutish out there. Brief
story of my first time: Bunk bed.
I can’t resist someone who: Brings
flowers to my house, shares easily,
is smart and kind, is a good writer,
likes touching and holding hands.
My mantra: Get real. Learn how to
K AT I E M C C U R DY.
deal. Life’s a party. Rock your body.
Venom hits
theaters on
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Food, Travel, The former travel-show
or Sex? host has hit the big
“If I have to choose screen, upping the swoon
one, it’s gonna be
food. I just couldn’t factor in Crazy Rich
Leading live without other Asians and the stylish
Ladies’ Man cultures’ cuisines. thriller A Simple Favor
And food and sex (September 14).
“Crazy Rich Asians
sometimes go
and A Simple
hand in hand, so....”
Favor were each a
master class in
filmmaking, and I Smoke Show
had so much fun “If I could go back
working with all and give my single
my costars. Con- self some advice,
stance Wu is so I’d say to read up
dedicated, Anna on some proper
Kendrick is ridicu- game! There was
lously funny, and no Tinder or Bum-
Blake Lively is ble, so I had to
magnetic.” approach women
in clubs or bars.
Meeting the Back then, Lon-
Parents don had just
started its smok-
“Luckily, I haven’t ing ban. When
met any dragons girls went outside
like Eleanor Young for a cigarette, I’d
[in Crazy Rich pretend to smoke
Asians]. I get too, just so I could
along so well with chat with them.
my wife’s mom. Not too sensible,
But if you’re up but it worked a
against a tough couple of times!”
crowd, be your-
self…and do your
research! Do they
like wine, cooking,
traveling? Focus
on what you have
in common.”
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cream from my neighborhood One of the first documented HAHAHAHAHA represents.
grocer and just down the entire instances of my using AHA- We should be happy that
container in one sitting. HAHAHAHAHA in an e-mail we are living in an age when Ellie, the
Of course, neither of these dates back to October 2014, AHAHAHAHAHAHA star of
options really serves as a solu- when my sister, Carrie, was should be not only accepted Unbreakable
Kimmy
tion. And the truth is, there is about to get married. For their but also embraced. I know I’m Schmidt,
no single panacea. But I have wedding reception, she and talking about something pretty knows the
one very unique coping mecha- her soon-to-be husband, Ben, light here, but I honestly think sound of real
laughter
nism, and it looks like this: had hired two college gym- it represents something more when she
AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! nasts to double as the bride powerful. Women are speak- hears it—or
Now, doesn’t that make you and groom—the lady gymnast ing up. We are making our reads it.
feel better? would be wearing a white dress, voices heard. In the same way
Here is what I want to throw and the guy would be wearing a that LOL is a demure style of
out there: Let’s do away with tux. They would enter the party communicating, AHAHAHA-
writing LOL. Let’s just forget doing backflips and front hand- HAHAHA is the thunderous
about it. At the dawn of the springs. (Carrie and Ben are roar of a feeling that is alive
internet, it was cute. A sweet strong and athletic people, but and passionate, one you don’t
little shorthand to let your they are hardly Olympians.) All feel the need to keep in check.
correspondent know that you the guests at the party would We need that now. A lot.
thought something was funny. temporarily think that this blur Because like I said, the world
At first, I thought it stood for of tumbling was actually Car- is a tough place. We need to
laughing online. That’s how rie and Ben….and I could not find laughter where we can,
fun it is: open to interpretation, stop laughing thinking about and we need to celebrate that
flexible, easygoing, cool. “LOL,” it. Carrie e-mailed me the video laughter. So thank you for your
friends would write to me. of the gymnasts rehearsing a time, LOL, but I will be
“I know, major LOL!” I would week before the wedding, and I AHAHAHAHAHAHAing
write back. was in tears. “AHAHAHAHA- Q
Even then, though, I knew HAHA,” I wrote to her. “AHA-
that LOL wasn’t going to work HAHAHAHAHA THIS IS
for me. Because here’s the thing: GOING TO BE BRILLIANT.”
It’s too tidy. Unbridled, gut- And guess what? It was bril-
GET T Y IMAGES.
busting laughter isn’t tidy. Have liant. It was fantastic and hilar-
you ever seen someone laughing ious and joyful and bright—it
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Confessions
“After coming
out of the
bathroom at
school, my
best friends
and I started
walking across
the courtyard,
and these
senior girls
behind us were
A L L I E H O L LO WAY. C O N F E S S I O N S M AY H AV E B E E N E D I T E D F O R L E N G T H , C O N T E N T, A N D C L A R I T Y.
laughing. We
figured they
were just
trying to mess
with us, and we
continued on.
At one point, I
walked ahead
of the pack. My
friends both
gasped. I had
tucked my
skirt into my
thong! So I had
basically
walked across
campus with
my whole butt
exposed.”
—LESLIE L., 24,
CONSULTANT, KAUAI, HI
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TOO FUNNY!
Celeb
Confession
“A few years “One night

back, my boy- in college, I
friend lived hooked up “I went to
in a house with this an impromptu
with his four guy and meeting with
bandmates. borrowed a big casting
When he and I his jacket. director. I was
announced that The next day, in his office,
we were head- he texted telling him how
ing upstairs to me, asking to much I love
‘nap,’ the other swing by the shows he
dudes thought works on. It was
to get it, so I going great!
it would be waited at my After the meet-
funny to bring dorm entrance. ing wraps up,
all their band It was dark, but I turn to leave,
equipment—I’m I thought I saw and my bag
talking amps, him walking knocks over a TV
guitars, and toward me, so in the middle of
drums—into I called, ‘Here’s his office. I said,
the hallway by ‘I’m so sorry!’
“On my second date with my his room and
your jacket!’ I
realized I had and wrote him
a thank-you
now-BF, we took a road trip to go have band prac-
tice. Meanwhile,
made a crucial
miscalculation.
note, but I never
heard back!”
hiking. We were in the middle me and my guy Turns out, he —DOMINIQUE
were trying was a random
of nowhere on the way home,
FISHBACK, THE DEUCE,
to love on each guy, and the
other. Talk
and I had to pee. There were no about a total
boy I had
rest stops in sight. I couldn’t mood killer!”

—AMY C., 27,
was 10 feet
wait anymore, so he pulled over PHOTO ASSISTANT,

BROOKLYN, NY
had seen that
whole painful
and saw me pee beside his car!” interaction.”
R O P E , D O M I N I Q U E FI S H B A C K ,
—BRIANNA F., 22, PERSONAL STYLIST, BRONX, NY —CAROLINE A., 21

BONG: GET T Y IMAGES.
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“I wanted to impress this guy at a party, so I took a hit off a bong. He came
over, and five minutes into hooking up, he says, ‘I think your boob is leaking.’ I looked down,
and I was lactating! Turns out, that can happen when you’re really high.” —ANNA D., 22
“I had a crush on my coworker.

We met up one night and went to his
place. I had plans the next day but
didn’t set my alarm. I woke up with
texts and missed calls from friends
and my parents. Oh, and my dad
found this guy’s number and texted
him too!” —ALISON S., 28, GRAPHIC DESIGNER, PATCHOGUE, NY
“Once, in
college, I was
at a hottie’s “I found out
apartment a guy I was
for a pre- dating was
game. We cheating.
were flirting, One night, he
and he playfully was asleep, and
went to throw I hacked into
me over his his phone and
shoulder (I’m saw a bunch
5'10"...not easy of dating apps.
to do). My face I changed his
smashed into height on them
his mini fridge. so he was listed
My two front as 5'4". He even
teeth were used a photo
chipped, and of us as one
there was of his pics, so I
blood gushing changed his
all over his floor. bio to ‘The bru-
We both didn’t nette in the
know what to photo is the girl
do, so I literally I’m trying to get
drove five over, who you’ll
hours home never measure
the next morn- up to.’ I blocked
ing, holding every girl he
an ice pack on was texting, so
my mouth, to he’d wonder
get my face why he was get-
repaired. Did he ting ghosted.
come with me? I ended things,
Nope. To this and we never
day, my parents spoke again.
think I ‘tripped Psycho move?
on campus.’’’ Probably. Worth
—TORI L., 25, PUBLICIST, it? Definitely.”
NORTHPORT, NY —RACHEL S., 28
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TOO FUNNY!
“He proposed , so I
at a beach, and
the day was cold
and rainy. He’d
arranged for a
photographer,
video guy, and “When my
flowers, but I had fiancé and I
no idea what was started dating,
going on. When we had a
we got to the naked dance
beach though, party. We now
the spot he call it an NDP. Fast-
wanted to use forward three
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was underwater years, and he was cocktails. I wasn’t hungry, “I was preg- the question!
because it was texting me all day,
asking if I wanted but my mom kept pushing nant and one That day rolled
high tide. So he month from around, and my
was trying to fig- to do an NDP later. me to eat one more and I my due date. guy and I went to
When I walked in
ure out where he
the door, I took kept saying no. I didn’t know I was sick all day lunch, hung out at
should propose. and asked my the apartment,
He didn’t seem to off my clothes, my BF had put my ring on a boyfriend to stay normal weekend
and we got to it. I
be enjoying our
could feel his heart
shrimp tail. Finally, I took a in the bathroom routine. I had to
walk as much as I with me while pretend like I had
was. About two beating fast, and bite and bit on something I showered no idea, down to
minutes later, he he starts saying hard. It was the ring! I because I was the moment he
got down on one how much I mean feeling dizzy. got on one knee.
knee and pro- to him. He got chipped my tooth! I was so Then he used the To this day, he
posed, then this down on one knee happy, it didn’t matter!” toilet. Really?! thinks he pulled
huge wave buck naked and When I get out, off a total surprise.
—JILL S., 29
crashed into him, asked, ‘Will you he was down on I don’t have the
soaking his pants! marry me?’” one knee. All in all, heart to tell him!”
But I said yes, and —KELLY M., 30
it couldn’t have —KATE S., 30
he put the ring been funnier or
on, stood up, and more perfect.”
kissed me !” —LAUREN B., 29
—HOPE W., 23
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at 2 p.m. for
UNIVERSITY OF
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GEORGETOWN
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“E-mailing my
LOL This Month Students’ and professors’ brains must’ve
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PROFESSOR:
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more nervous know when people
become adults?”
than sending S T U D E N T : “They
nudes.” stop drinking wine
UNIVERSITY OF OREGON F R I E N D 1 : “If I get a nose job, do I pass out of a box.”
the new nose on to my kids?” GONZAGA
UNIVERSITY
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GET T Y IMAGES.
68 to a 90?” “And these women would

STONY BROOK wear special robes that
UNIVERSITY gave them more mobility,
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on a volumizing spray,
such as L’Oréal Paris Boost
It High Lift Creation
Spray ($5, lorealparisusa
.com), then dust cheeks
with a golden or
champagne eye shadow—
it’s more pigmented
than highlighter.
On cheekbones:
Chanel Ombre Première
in Poudre D’Or, $30,
chanel.com
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Yes, please. Throw your hair into
a messy topknot, then give
cheekbones a shot of shimmer.
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Look Scary-Sexy
o
Shrieking
Violet
When it comes to slay- 1
ing the night, you
can’t be subtle. Load
your upper and lower
lids with a spectrum
of purple shadows, then
brush on a few coats of
matching mascara. 2 3
Finish with a swipe
of inky purple lip lacquer 1. Urban Decay Aphrodisiac Eye Shadow Palette, $29, ulta.com. 2. L’Oréal Paris
to complete the Voluminous Original Mascara in Deep Burgundy, $8, lorealparisusa.com.
monochromatic vibe.
Black
Widow
Dark, glittery lids and
lacy under-eye masks
make for a mysterious
costume. Cover upper
and lower lids with eye
shadow, rim waterlines
to completely black out
eyes, then stick on the scan to shop
with lace from a craft 3

store; try Black Raschel
Lace, $5 per yard, online 2. Maybelline New York Lasting Drama Matte Eyeliner in Jet Black,
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Trick your friends.
Treat your skin.
Unlike ordinary makeup removers, Pond’s Cold
Cream is 50% moisturizer. It melts away your
toughest Halloween makeup, while infusing skin
with vital hydration leaving it clean, soft and glowing.
Get the look at Ponds.us
Score a
More
Alluring Lipstick with
blue undertones
Smile
(purples, pinks, and reds)
can temper yellowness to
brighten your grin. (Try
L’Oréal Paris Colour
Riche Shine Lipstick in
Enamel Red, $10,
lorealparisusa
.com.)
Your eyes may be the window

to your soul, but your smile?
Consider it the window to a
better dating life. Studies show
A N T O N I B E R N A D/ B L AU B LU T- E D I T I O N .C O M .
that people with nicer smiles are

perceived as more attractive and
successful, and a recent Match
.com survey on millennial dating
habits found that 71 percent of
women and 58 percent of men
judge dates based on their teeth.
Here’s how to upgrade yours.
BEAUTY
Do DIY LED 3 Trends to Try

Whiteners
Really Work?
Yes! “The LED light
alone will not change
the color of your teeth,
The Deal With
Stubborn Stains
They may not even be
Charcoal1
“This natural whitener
has adhesive properties
2 3
Tinted Oil Pulling
Toothpaste Swishing with coconut
oil for 10 minutes a day
Like the purple sham-
that attract surface can lower oral inflam-
but when used with a stains. The aging pro- poos designed to nix
stains from food and mation by reducing
bleaching agent, such cess and acidic foods brassiness, this tooth-
drinks,” says Lowen- fat-soluble toxins (a
as hydrogen peroxide, and drinks can wear paste cancels out yellow
berg. Try a toothbrush by-product of plaque)
it acts as a catalyst to down the outer layer of tones by depositing tiny
with charcoal-infused in the mouth, says
remove deep, dark our teeth (referred to as purple pigments on
stains better,” explains enamel), allowing the your teeth as you brush.
cosmetic dentist Marc secondary tooth struc-
Lowenberg, DDS. ture, called dentin, to
Popwhite Kopari Coco

Primer, $24, Oil Pullers,
Toothbrush,
amazon.com $28,
$24 for 6,
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Is Your
Mouthwash Safe?
Alcohol (found in many
conventional mouthwashes)
may give you that tingly clean
feeling, but using it regularly
can dry out tissue, which can
actually trigger bad breath,
says Sands. Jāsön’s all-natural
version is alcohol-free.
Jasön Powersmile Brightening
Peppermint Fresh Breath
Mouthwash, $10, Whole Foods
A N N E H O J LU N D N I C O L A J S E N / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
Electric Toothbrushes: Worth It!

The most effective ones use sonic vibrations. “They remove plaque better than manual tooth-
brushes and the electric ones that just rotate,” says Sands. And many have two-minute timers to
ensure you’re brushing for the recommended amount of time. Just make sure the bristles are soft
and the head is replaced every three months (a must whether you use manual or electric).
Philips Sonicare ProtectiveClean 6100, $130, philips.com
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BEAUTY
Brush
Soon After
Eating...
Your New Sleepover Staple
Chew the single-dose tablet, and it dissolves into
a breath-freshening liquid, which you then
swish and swallow (the mouthwash-free formula
is totally safe to ingest). And unlike regular
mints or gum, the tablets don’t mask bad breath
with a minty scent. They contain special mole-
cules to neutralize odor for up to four hours.
Listerine Ready! Tabs, $3 for 8, drugstores
Berries
They have dark pigments
called anthocyanins that A Boss Floss
can adhere to teeth and make Started by sisters
them appear dull. Catherine Cu and
Chrystle Cu, DDS,
the cult-favorite
Cocofloss has a
loofah-like texture
(polyester fibers
“exfoliate” the sur-
face of your teeth
to remove plaque
and food debris) and
Cocofloss Pure Strawberries,
comes in a variety of
$8, cocofloss.com
Pasta yummy fruit flavors
such as strawberry
It sticks to the surface of your and coconut.
teeth and turns into sugar.
Natural vs. Conventional Toothpaste

Dried Fruits
B E R R I E S , D R I E D FR U I T S : G E T T Y I M A G E S . PA S TA : L A R A R O B B Y/ S T U D I O D.
Natural ones don’t contain SLS (foaming yet

They’re packed with drying detergents) and fluoride and, instead, rely
noncellulose fiber, on botanical ingredients such as neem, green tea,
which traps sugar on and aloe, and sage to reduce bad breath and plaque.
We love Lebon’s natural SLS-free formula, above.
around teeth.
Lebon Cap Ferrat Mood, $21, davidpirrotta.com
L I S T E R I N E : D A N I E L L E O C C H I O G R O S S O D A LY.
A Straighter Smile...at Home?!

Pros say to proceed with caution, as results from these DIY
alignment brands (they promise to be less pricey than regular visits
to the orthodontist) can be unpredictable. You make a mold of
your teeth, mail it to the company, then receive trays that move
teeth closer and closer to your ideal shape over time. They’re like
Invisalign but without pro supervision, which leaves room for error.
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6 Clear-Skin Limit Carbs and Dairy
Secrets
Due to their high glycemic
index, refined carbs spike
certain hormones that stimulate
the production of sebum and
increase dead skin cells (two
acne triggers). “They even alter
sebum’s fatty-acid composition,
making you more prone to pim-
ples,” says derm Whitney Bowe,
MD, author of The Beauty of
Dirty Skin. Then there’s milk,
which contains whey and casein
proteins. “Both mess with
hormones and increase inflam-
mation,” says Dr. Bowe.
Add Antioxidants
“New research shows that
free-radical damage to sebum
can trigger acne,” says Dr.
Bowe, who suggests applying
an antioxidant serum before
sunscreen. Studies also show
that acne sufferers have low
levels of antioxidants in their
blood, adds Dr. Bowe. Up your
inner antiacne defenses by
adding berries and leafy greens
to your diet.
Hack Your Hormones

What you Hormonal acne (e.g., the cysts
feed your face
matters. that pop up on the jawline
around your period) occurs
in women whose androgen
receptors are overly sensi-
tive to testosterone, says derm
Cybele Fishman, MD. Typically,
doctors prescribe oral contra-
ceptives or spironolactone to
either suppress or block andro-
gens, but you can also use a
natural supplement called DIM
(diindolylmethane) to achieve a
similar effect, says Dr. Fishman.
A LVA R O G O V E I A / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
Your Glowy
Skin-gredient Kit
1. Charcoal 2. Salicylic Acid
Perfect for oily types, this Need to shrink a
mask uses the material zit ASAP? Pop on one
to absorb excess sebum of these patches to
from pores. reduce inflammation.
Garnier SkinActive Black Alba Botanica Acnedote Pimple
Peel-Off Mask With Charcoal, Patches, $8, target.com
$8, garnierusa.com
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What Makes
Iris So Unique
The few varieties that do
have an aroma may emit
only a faint, slightly powdery
smell, but it’s one of the most
expensive raw materials in
a perfumer’s palette. That’s
because the scent is derived
from the flower’s root,
which has to be dried and
If you have ever aged for at least three
fallen for a fragrance years, like wine, before it
but couldn’t quite can be ground to powder
P U R P L E F R A G R A N C E B O T T L E : G E T T Y I M A G E S . I R I S E S , F R O M L E F T: A N T H O N Y
and distilled into oil for use.
pinpoint what made This ingredient, called orris,
it so bewitching, it solidifies into a “butter” that
probably contained can cost its weight or more
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iris—a near scentless in gold. Until recently, iris
flower and, ironically, was most often used in the
fall’s key to smelling background to give perfumes
warmth and body, but this
ultra-alluring. Here, season, it’s moving into the
we unearth the secrets spotlight as a major note,
of this mystery note. cropping up in everything
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BEAUTY
from the new Tiffany & Co.

Eau de Parfum Intense ($113
for 1.7 oz., bloomingdales Thanks to the rise over 2
.com) to a whole slew of niche the past few years of per-
scents, such as Commodity’s fumes featuring resinous oud
Orris Eau de Parfum ($135 and musk—you’ve probably
for 3.4 oz., sephora.com), heard of leathery cult fave
that home in on its distinc- Le Labo Santal 33 (which,
tively opulent aroma. “It’s P.S., also has iris in it)—we’ve
precious,” says Commodity all grown more accepting
perfumer Stephen Nilsen. of unfamiliar, darker, more
“What it does for a perfume carnal notes. “Iris is a little 3
is like what a diamond does dirty,” says Nilsen, meaning
for a necklace—it makes this in both the whiff-of-soil
it sparkle.” Translation: sense as well as the between-
The multifaceted smell— the-sheets sense. 4
simultaneously fresh
and earthy, floral and Smelling Different
woody, powdery and Is Intriguing
creamy—is unusual but One of the most compelling
indisputably pretty. reasons to wear iris is that
it’s so complex and unusual.
The Cool Girl Unlike rose or jasmine, it’s
Come-On not in zillions of perfumes.
In 2018, the heavy vanilla It’s also not instantly
and supersweet fruity notes recognizable, so when
that for a long time defined someone smells it on your Fresh Picks
sexy are starting to feel played skin, they don’t immediately This peppery scent is
nonconformist. Your BF
out. Fragrances that smell make associations. “It’s will love it and may even
earthy—but still sophisticated very mystical in that way,” 5 want to borrow it.
1. Atelier Cologne Iris Rebelle
and feminine—suddenly says Robert Gerstner, of New Cologne Absolue, $150 for
come across as more mod- York perfumery Aedes 3.4 oz., ateliercologne.com
ern. Iris, more than any other de Venustas. The flower A flirtatious bouquet of
floral, fits that bill. “When typically blooms only once a gardenia and tuberose
is grounded in luxurious
we create fragrances, we’re a year for a few weeks. “Then orris absolute.
always looking for an addic- it’s gone,” he says. “So the 2. Estée Lauder Beautiful
Belle Eau de Parfum, $125 for
tive quality,” says Nilsen. 3.4 oz., esteelauder.com
“One of the ways people used This delicate powdery
to do that was with notes that fragrance combines iris
with an addictive hint of
smelled like cake, but we’re sugarcoated almonds.
moving toward more mysteri- 3. Maison Lancôme Iris
Dragées Eau de Parfum, $195
ous smells, where you’re for 3.4 oz., nordstrom.com
like, ‘Ooh, what is that?’ and Suede-soft iris is blended
want to sniff it again.” with dark, smoky incense
6 in this magnetic scent.
4. Aedes de Venustas Iris
Nazarena Eau de Parfum, $245
for 3.4 oz., aedes.com
A fresh, citrusy take on
iris that’s bright, elegant,
and wearable every day.
5. Prada Infusion d’Iris Eau de
Parfum, $160 for 3.4 oz.,
saksfifthavenue.com
Sophisticated iris blooms
alongside rose in this
ladylike green floral.
6. Chanel N°19 Eau de Parfum,
$130 for 3.4 oz., chanel.com
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not a dull moment to be found in this season’s trends
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Must Dew
This fall, a luminous complexion is the
basis for every look—and an absolute must
if you want to pull off the you-but-better
makeup that’s so of the moment. Start with
an easy skincare routine that you’ll actually
stick to: Cleanse daily—Garnier SkinActive
Micellar Cleansing Water All-in-1 ($8.99)
doesn’t overdry or cause irritation—and then
layer on an antioxidant boost, such as L’Oréal
Paris Revitalift Derm Intense 10% Pure
Vitamin C Concentrate ($29.99), to take
your glow to the next level. If you need
coverage, reach for an ultrasheer founda-
tion; Giorgio Armani Beauty Face
Fabric Second Skin Makeup ($49)
blurs imperfections and feels like
next to nothing. Finish things
off with satiny nude lips.
Maybelline New York Color
Sensational Shine
Compulsion Lipstick
($7.99) has options
for every skin tone.
ON NAILS: Essie Nail Polish

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Electric Avenue
Pretty, pale hair hues have ruled for multiple seasons, but right now it’s vibrant primary
shades and bold streaks that really shine. Marc Jacobs sent models down the runway
with touches of neon green and other rich tones to match the clothes, and Jeremy Scott
went with candy colors. Whatever you choose, remember that color-treated hair needs
extra care. Try a shine enhancer like Redken Color Extend Vinegar Rinse ($24), and
load up on moisturizing treatments like Garnier Fructis Smoothing Treat 1 Minute Hair
Mask + Avocado Extract ($4.49) and Kérastase Resistance Sérum Extentioniste ($51),
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Makeup: Erin Parsons
Bold eyes popped up all over the fall runways, for Maybelline New
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makeup artist Romy Soleimani adhered real gold Hair: Leonardo Manetti
leaf to models’ eyelids using Tata Harper Boosted for ionstudionyc.
Manicure: Naomi
Contouring Eye Mask ($125). A simpler but no Yasuda for
less decadent option: this cat eye accented with Chanel Le Vernis.
aquamarine shimmer. For your own take, trace
eyes with Urban Decay 24/7 Glide-On Eye Pencil
in Zero ($21) and press on loose eye glitter.
ON LASHES:
Maybelline New York
Volum’ Express
the Falsies Mascara
($7.77).
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Soft Tan, $7.99. 3. Chantecaille Lip Veil in Impatiens, $48. 4. Garnier SkinActive Soothing Facial Mist with Rose Water, $8.99. 5. Surratt Beauty Lid Lacquer
in Shikkoku, $36. 6. Lancôme Rénergie Multi-Glow Instant Rosy Skin Tone Reviving Cream, $79. 7. Yves Saint Laurent Beauté Couture Palette in
10 Lumieres Majorelle, $60. 8. Maybelline New York Super Stay Multi-Use Foundation Stick in Buff Beige, $11.99. 9. L’Oréal Paris Paradise Enchanted Scented
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NEW
CAREFREE RISK-
TAKER
CLASSIC
POWERFUL
BEAUTY
Ready to fall in love with
your next glam vibe?
Virtually try on the season’s
hottest makeup look, or
shop the fragrance mood
board you’re digging most—
right from the page. Then
check out Macy’s Find
the Remarkable You Beauty
Event in-store or online,
October 3rd through
the 11th. #MacysBeauty
By Kate Foster
FIERCE
ICONIC
PRESENTED BY MACY’S
Virtually Try
On This Look!
FEELING
Scan using your phone’s
camera (or code reader) to
virtually try on this look
using “Live Makeup.” Then
shop the products to
re-create it IRL!
VIRTUAL
TRY-ON TIPS
1. Avoid
shadows by
facing natural
light, keeping
windows and
sunlight in
front of you.
2. Steer clear
of bright
lamps or glares
behind you.
F R O M L E F T: G E T T Y I M A G E S (3) ; J E N S I N G VA R S S O N / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.C O M .
Juicy
Couture
Oui, $105
PLAYFUL
for 3.4 oz.,
Macy’s
Your vibe? Bright colors and all

the glitter. Make your look even
louder with a watermelon and
honeysuckle scent, fun pops of pink
on your lips and cheeks, and
shimmery shadow and highlighter.
From top: Juicy Couture Oui Glitter Velour
Lipstick in Girl Stuff, $18, Macy’s; Juicy
Couture Oui The Shady Eye Shadow &
Highlighter Palette, $38, Macy’s;
Juicy Couture Oui Lip & Eye Topper in
Glitter Crush, $18, Macy’s; Juicy Couture
Oui, Oui Slay Eyeliner, $18, Macy’s
Lancôme La
Vie Est Belle,
$126 for 3.4
oz., Macy’s
G E T T Y I M A G E S (6).
Snap to shop
the fragrance.
Snap to shop
the fragrance.
obsession with nature,
a modern-day hippie.
All you need? Peace,
maximum flower power,

thanks to daisy-tree
petals and driftwood.
Marc Jacobs Daisy Love,
$104 for 3.4 oz., Macy’s
Snap to shop
the fragrance.
Calvin
Klein
WOMEN,
$106 for
3.4 oz.,
Macy’s
Snap to shop
the fragrance.
FIERCE
Life is a runway, and
you’re strutting your
stuff on the daily. The Carolina
most killer accessory Herrera
around? A jasmine, Good Girl,
tuberose, and cocoa $117 for 2.7
oz., Macy’s
scent. It’ll give you
the confidence you
need to achieve all
your big-city dreams.
G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 5 ).
Versace
Bright
CLASSIC
Crystal,
$95 for You’re living la dolce vita:
3 oz., dreaming of wandering
Macy’s the streets of Italy by day...
then dancing the night
away. This peony, magno-
lia, and amber perfume will
be your most glamorous
companion.
G E T T Y I M A G E S ( 5 ).
Snap to shop
the fragrance.
MYSTERIOUS
You have a rebellious streak—at least when
it comes to your moody wardrobe and
edgy new happy-hour spot. A fragrance
Jimmy
Choo Fever,
$112 for 3.3
oz., Macy’s
Snap to shop
the fragrance.
For Your Guy

RISK-TAKER
The way to your man’s heart: a
fast ride, an outdoor expedi-
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LOVE
Love PSA: You and your

significant other may
1
consider that juicy true-
crime TV series the
welcome third wheel in
your relationship…but
your nightly screen habit As You’re
Winding Down...
could be robbing you of
prime emotional bonding.
The time you have with boo before
you go to sleep is a great opportunity to
focus on just each other, says relation- Have a Li’l Say “You’re
ship expert Susan Winter, who coaches Nightcap Cute...I Like You”
people on their love lives. People tend Pour yourselves some- That smirk babe gave
to be less stressed during the pre-zzz’s thing (wine, tea, you when you left for
wind-down than they do during their whatever), and sit the gym this morning
rushed morning routines. But many down at the kitchen was so sexy. And now
also get sucked into a show. A recent table as if it’s the look at them taking
study confirms that streaming activity new, most exclusive out the garbage in
peaks between 9 p.m. and 11 p.m., right date spot in town. the pouring rain....
in the middle of what could be ideal QT. “At first, you might What a dime! When
Using the hour or so before bed to think, This is awk- you’re getting ready
actually interact instead can help you ward. What are we to call it a night, make
both relax, sleep better, and wake up going to talk about?” sure to say something
feeling way closer. So ditch the tech says psychotherapist like “Thank you for
a few nights a week in favor of one of Jean Fitzpatrick, a doing that earlier,”
these activities, which have the poten- marriage counselor to let them know you
tial to spark major intimacy. and couples therapist. appreciate the small
But this is an ideal things they do. “This
time to have each oth- does two things: One,
er’s undivided atten- it makes you happier
tion, and research because you’re
shows that when seeing the good,” says
you and your part- Winter, “and two,
ner open up to each it makes them feel
other, it can make you appreciated.” Both
feel more connected. create good vibes to
Although you don’t hit the sheets with.
need to rehash every-
thing. Just start with
a 10-minute chat-
Oh, and
and-sip to share one
upbeat thing each
(such as a work win or
a great phone call with
your BFF). Before you
? Choosing
Sides…
a steamy
good-night
know it, you’ll both be Does It
kiss never
hurts!
craving this special
catch-up over bevs…
Matter?
and lingering longer.
C O S M O P O L I TA N O C T O B E R 2 0 1 8 By Molly Fitzpatrick
96
2 ONCE YOU’RE IN
THE BEDROOM…
HOST A VIP BOOK CLUB Take turns
reading a super-enticing novel aloud
to each other, suggests sex and
relationship therapist Megan
Fleming, PhD. (Go for an erotic tale
with The Chateau, by Tiffany Reisz, or
revisit a series such as Harry Potter.)
Studies have found that reading
“May I
have this lowers stress and that sharing a book
dance… with bae can actually make you feel
in our
pajamas?”
closer and more united.
3
When It’s
Lights Out…
Rub ’Em the Go to Sleep at
Right Way the Same Time
Before dozing off, A University of Pitts-
scratch your mate’s burgh study found
back, stroke their that the day after a
hair, or have them simul-snooze (yup,
massage your back making that a word),
or shoulders. Want women report feel-
more? Hug it out for ing better about their
a full 20 seconds, interactions with
suggests Fleming. their male partners.
Touching for that long Hit the hay together a
has been shown to few nights a week, or
elevate levels of the if your schedules are
“love hormone” oxyto- crazy, one of you can
cin, which is all in on at least tuck the other
boosting your bond. in, says Fitzpatrick. Q
It’s a ritual every new couple goes through when sleepovers become de rigueur: claiming
your half of the bed. One person likes the cool breeze by the window; the other needs to
be closer to the bathroom for middle-of-the-night pee trips. Which zone you choose
doesn’t suggest anything deeper about your dynamic. However, once you pick, don’t
swap sides. Sleeping in your usual spot can be reassuring and may help promote a sense
of safety and security in your relationship, says marriage counselor Jean Fitzpatrick.
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LOVE
Wait…There’s a
These new platforms for finding love aren’t for everyone—
and that’s what makes them so genius.
He’s so funny,
I don’t even care
what he looks like!
I’d go a few
rounds with
you...
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right on
your BFF’s
behalf.
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and things you despise lifestyle, and dietary dogs, even if you thinks you should date alone, via answers to
Ah, finally a haven restrictions you prefer (sadly) don’t have one Go ahead, hand over a series of icebreaker-
in an S.O. Want a puppy style questions
where you can find a your love life to your
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Bachelor and cilantro add detailed wellness least, someone who download the app, you stuff like “What
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tap Love, Hate, or gluten-free, a hiking place. After indicat- Then sit back as your app’s algorithm will
Neutral on a series of fanatic, and devoted ing whether you’re an bestie makes a profile
send you potential
rando stuff such as to kickboxing. You’ll owner or just a canine for you and starts
be shown 25 matches matches. The catch?
“airplane turbulence” lover, you can filter swiping on your
and “Carpool Kara- per day, each of potential suitors by behalf. If she spots Their photos will be
oke.” Based on your whom meshes with those same basic someone she thinks blurry. To clear things
answers, Hater will your wish list. Scroll qualifications. You’ll you’d vibe with, she up, you’ll need to
serve you other through their photos get five daily (human, can invite the would- start chatting and
peeps who thought, (profiles kinda look duh) matches to sniff be date to chat with answer more Qs. As
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Same. You’ll see which like your Instagram out based on their you. If they accept, the convo flows, both
disinterests you have feed) to find a poten- profile info and a the floor’s yours… your pics and more
in common as well as tial new running and handful of (dog and your matchmaker info, like social media
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Your We don’t mean behind you
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Best
as in doggie-style. The rear-
entry position (you on all fours And variations of P-in-V
with your guy at your backside) doggie fun can be mostly
just officially dethroned mis- hands-free, giving you both
an invite to travel elsewhere
sionary as millennials’ favorite with your digits, says clinical
way to get it on, according sexologist Claudia Six, PhD,
Sex
to the 2018 SKYN Condoms author of Erotic Integrity. Mid-
Millennial Sex Survey, which hookup, either of you can rub
or caress your clitoris (which
polled nearly 4,000 young men
can help you orgasm more
and women in America. easily during vaginal penetra-
tion), breasts, or butt (although
What’s truly awesome he has better access to your
May Be
about this shift is that, for cheeks, obvi) or his balls.
the first time in this annual If you’re down, try these pro
survey, equal numbers of multitasking tips: While your
women and men say doggie is dude is busy thrusting, press
their jam. “Sex from behind a small bullet vibrator against
usually feels great for every- your clitoris, or guide his
one involved,” says certified hands toward your girls to give
Behind
sex therapist Rena McDaniel. your nipples a gentle squeeze.
“It allows for a greater depth Another option: A soft booty
of penetration, and the angle slap (with your permission)
allows more leverage for can feel like a thrilling and
thrusting.” Such deep inter- badass treat for you.
course means you can expe- Oh, and one more reason
rience feel-good stimulation doggie has become man and
from his penis all along your woman’s new best friend:
You
vagina, including your G-spot its versatility. To experience
and potentially even up to the position every which way
your cervix (which, because possible, try these oh-so-
of the nerves clustered there, satisfying switch-ups that will
can be a major pleasure point make you want to roll over and
for some women). beg for more. (Sorry, had to!)
“It’s hands down the best way for me to “I love that it can wordlessly express
“Why reach orgasm! And I’m not always into submission. It’s my way of saying,
I Love eye contact, so I love how I don’t have
to care about what my partner’s face is
‘Please take over.’ The act of turning
my back on a partner unannounced
Doggie” doing—and vice versa.” —CAROLINE B., 22 says, ‘Your call. Go!’” —GRACE C., 31
C O S M O P O L I TA N O C T O B E R 2 0 1 8 By Julie Vadnal
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SEX
Sitting Lying Down Standing

Bowwow While your man is sitting Lie facedown on the bed Stand with your partner
down to these
moves. in a chair (this works best if and spread your legs behind you and lean your
the chair has arms), stand slightly. Have your guy get torso against a dresser, bend
facing away from him, then into a push-up position at the waist and grab hold of
grab the arms of the chair to over you, then enter you a kitchen counter, or steady
hover your backside over his and pump his hips forward yourself in front of a full-
lap and slowly lower your- and backward. The super- length mirror. As he enters
self down onto his milk bone. intense penetration—and you from behind, bend your
Circle your hips around and feeling of complete fullness knees to adjust the angle
around, starting slow at first if you cross your ankles until you find a sweet spot
and then speeding up. This for a tighter squeeze—will that feels amaze. Have your
extra-fresh, 360-degree make you both feel like you guy hold on to your hips for
stimulation can get you both just won Westminster. added stability.
off in no time. MAKE IT HOTTER MAKE IT HOTTER
MAKE IT HOTTER For easier access to your lady For a full-body rush that’ll
Guide his hands up to your parts (and more comfort), make all those yoga classes
breasts to massage ’em while prop a pillow underneath your feel worth it, lean over even
you ride. The extra touching will hips to raise your backside farther into—you guessed it—
make you feel closer, even closer to your man’s body. If downward dog. Put your
though you’re not face-to-face. you’re craving more intimacy, hands on the floor in front of
And for a very erotic twist, rise turn your face to the side and you, head hanging down, and
up slightly so that just the tip of invite him to give you kisses all bend your knees slightly. Stay
his wiener dog is entering you. along your neck, ear, and face. light on your feet, so you can
This super-shallow penetration move backward and forward
can give your G-spot all the feels, to counter your guy’s
and your guy will love that his enthusiastic lovin’.
mega-sensitive head is getting
all the attention.
The OG fans of
this primal pose
“My dude is a little on the smaller “First off, my ass is a sight to see—gotta give my
side, and this position helps man the best view! It’s also super comfortable, and it
make him feel bigger—and I get allows him to easily reach around to touch my clitoris.
GET T Y IMAGES.
more pleasure because of it.” It’s the perfect position for all the possibilities.”
—MEGAN S., 23 —ELIZABETH B., 24
101
all about
men 22
Cuddling
%
“Honey, can we
wear a couples
costume?”
Hoping to get your mate
into an adorbs, matchy-
matchy getup? Our
Cosmo poll of 100 men
%
35
Round Two
hints at your chances....
His
Favorite
After-Sex
Move
Dating app The
League surveyed
guys on what they
most enjoy doing
post-romp.
18
Pillow Talk
Cop and Little Red
Robber Riding Hood
72 said yes. and the
28 said no. Big Bad Wolf
60 said yes.
Nurse and 40 said no.
%
2
Patient
66 said yes. Disney
%
Getting
Dressed and
6 %
Ordering
12
Sleeping
34 said no.
Bacon and
Eggs
50 said yes.
Princess and
Prince
49 said yes.
51 said no.
% 50 said no.
5
Splitting Takeout
Grease’s YOU MAY WANT
Sandy and TO RETURN
THAT PRINCE
Netflix Danny CHARMING
55 said yes. OUTFIT.
45 said no.
THE LOVE COACH
4 Ways 1 2 3 4
Reject Duds Ask Tough Don’t Overlook Show Yourself

to Stop More Quickly
Be open to meet-
Questions
He may seem
the Bad Stuff
The sex is fire, but
Some Love
The more you enjoy
Investing ing new people,
but if you see signs
perfect—but also
want different
he’s controlling. It’s
not just who our
your own company,
create your own
in the that a guy may take
you for granted
things than you
do. Find out by
partner is at their
best but also who
adventures, and
treat yourself like a
Wrong Men or act selfishly,

then bail ASAP. In a
word: Next!
having serious
convos about your
values early on.
they are at their
worst that defines
the relationship.
BFF, the less willing
you’ll be to accept
lame behavior.
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PERCENT OF
MEN GROOM
METICULOUSLY
FOR A HOT DATE.
SOURCE: 2018 CONAIR MAN SURVEY
What’s Something
You’ve Lied About
to a Partner?
“I told my “Sometimes, “I told her
girlfriend at I tell my I wanted to
the time girlfriend I meet her
I didn’t think have things to parents.”
her mom was do, but really —TYLER V., 21
hot...but I don’t want
“Who I’m
I definitely to text her
texting. If my
did.” back while I’m
girlfriend
—CHRISTIAN S., 24 playing video
asks, I just
games.”
“This girl had tell her it’s
—HAYDEN K., 23
never been my brother or
with anyone. “She dropped dad. Not
I said I’d only the L-bomb a going down
slept with week into that rabbit
one person dating, and I hole!”
GET T Y IMAGES.
so she’d date said it back to —NOAH S., 21

me.” her without
—JOSH W., 23 meaning it.”
—ALEX Z., 28
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“When you have
morning sex,
the end result is
a day full of
limitless energy.”
—DARIUS WILLIAMS, 28,
@DARIUS_WILLIAMS11
Hot Guy + Hot Coffee

Mmm...nothing can
compete with the “I am
aroma of freshly addicted to
brewed coffee in the coffee, but
a.m. Wait, scratch that. I’d definitely
There is one thing. choose sex
When asked in a recent because it
survey if they’d rather makes me
give up coffee or sex for a
feel better.”
—GIOVANNI BONAMY,
year, 81 percent of millen- 28, @GIOBOYPARIS
nial men said they would
gladly forgo their beloved
java habit if they could
still have naked fun.
Interestingly enough,
both caffeine and sex
release mood-boosting
dopamine in the brain. “Sex has to
Maybe that’s why the “Of course sex is be the best
sexy Instagram account better. Coffee is good, thing on
@MenAndCoffee decided but it doesn’t give earth. The
to combine these two you an orgasm every smell, the
delicious things. time you have it.” connection,
Here, nine guys share
—ALEX TANG, 30, @ALEXTANG888 everything.”
—RIVER VIIPERI, 26,
why they’d much rather @RIVERVIIPERI
be perked up by morning
lovin’ than morning joe.
C O S M O P O L I TA N O C T O B E R 2 0 1 8 By Hannah Kaplan
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LOVE & SEX
“I prefer sex over coffee because it lasts

longer. But please don’t ask my wife this
question. She might not agree.”
—MONSIEUR KOOL, 32, @MONSIEURKOOL
“Sex is hotter
and more
satisfying than
coffee. But
I do like similar
qualities in
coffee as I do
in women:
strong, rich,
and soothing.”
—LASSE RØED, 27,
@LASSEROED
“I am a very
passionate
guy and like
to start my
day with
some love.
It gives me
something
beautiful to
reflect on
later.”
—NIKOLA
MASONICIC, 33,
@NIKOLAMAS
“I’ll have to
go with sex. It
“Sex is the only thing I has the same
effects as
can do before my coffee, but it
just feels 10
morning cup of coffee. times better.”
SINHA: @STILLR AINN.
—CHRISTIAN HOGUE, 26,

I don’t need a jolt of @OFFICIAL_HOGUE
caffeine to do that.”
—SKY SINHA, 24, @SKYSINS
105
LOVE
Ask Him Anything

Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill
Be honest: Do men
secretly love it when we
steal their sweatshirts?
I feel like they do!
A_ As much as it pains me to
say it and as much as I worry
this will only contribute to the
crime wave of girlfriends steal-
ing cozy zip-ups all over this
planet...yes, it’s adorable. It’s
sexy (even if you’re drowning in
our XL fit). I can’t quite explain
why—other than the fact that
it feels kind of intimate to
share something so comfy with
you. I have one more thing to
add: Katherine, if you’re read-
ing this, I want my Baja hoodie
back, please. I haven’t seen it
since 11th grade.
I have this suspicion What is XL,

that my guy friend has comfy, smells like
romantic feelings for eau de dude and
can be yours
me. Any definitive forever? You get
signs I can look for? one guess....
A_ Hmm, not really. Any guy
is lucky to have a good female
friend, and he never wants to
come off like just another bro
who’s being nice in order to
get in her pants. If this buddy
likes you, he’s probably scared
he’ll wreck your friendship if
he makes a move or tells you
how he feels. But are you inter-
ested in him too? In that case,
you can confess (which is also
gambling your friendship) or
have a discreet conversation
with a mutual pal who may see
your guy friend’s feelings more
clearly than you can. If you’re
not into this dude, though, just
continue to act normally.
106
Why do men “rubber-
stall” or deliberately I feel like I’m missing
wait for the woman to giant red flags on first
bring up wearing a dates because I keep
condom pre-hookup? getting ghosted. Help!
A_ Unfortunately, some guys A_ Generally speaking, if a
are irresponsible and approach I really want my guy is making a genuine effort
condoms like they’re some- to get to know you better
thing they can try to get away boyfriend to ask (asking questions instead of
with not using. Unless you talking about himself), that’s
speak up first, they’re willing me to move in with the best sign he wants more of
to take an unsafe risk that puts you. But honestly, some dates
you both in danger of STIs and him. Is there a way go perfectly well and a man
you at risk of getting pregnant. only decides afterward that
Other men are just shy or bad to nudge him along the connection wasn’t enough,
at communicating about so he’ll move on to the next
sex. Either way—juvenile or a little bit? person. You probably aren’t
uncommunicative—rubber- missing any red flags; these
stalling is still tied up in male past few guys just weren’t show-
No need to
privilege and the way our handle this ing their true colors up front.
culture socializes us to put delivery with
most sexual responsibilities extra care. I want to work on my
(birth control, safe sex, etc.) on kissing skills. Are there
women. There’s just no excuse any moves that guys
for that, and it has to change. are guaranteed to like?
A_ We’re generally cool with
This hottie I met asked anything that doesn’t draw
for my number (then I blood or leave us soaked in
got his), but he hasn’t slobber. Ask any guy if he likes
texted me yet. I want to (a) a little peck, (b) a lingering
reach out first. How do romantic kiss, (c) a soft suck
men feel about that? on the lip, or (d) aggressive
A_ Most dudes are so used to tongue wrestling, and he’ll
chasing women—and getting likely pick (e) all of the above.
rejected when you don’t reply— You’ve just got to read the vibe
that it’s a relief when a woman or, better yet, his lips. If he’s
takes the lead. And what’s the reciprocating your enthusiasm
worst that can happen? If he mid-makeout, whatever style
ignores or rejects your text, at you chose is working.
least you’ll know what’s up. But
F R O M L E F T: Y U K Y LU T Z / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T; G E T T Y I M A G E S .
if he’s into you, a little proactive My ex and I keep

flirting won’t scare him off. A_ Dropping small hints is hooking up, even though
Besides, maybe he mistyped for birthday presents, not for it’s been months since
your number! So go for it. decisions as major as this. we broke up. Does
Besides, most men are pretty this mean he wants to
My eff buddy wants to Logan Hill has terrible at picking up on subtle get back together?
dated around,
film us having sex. Is hooked up, grown
signals, and we also really A_ Nope. Maybe he realizes
this a normal request? up, screwed up, don’t like them. We’re better he made a mistake, but unless
and settled down,
A_ Who cares if it’s normal? so he knows what
at dealing with issues when he specifically tells you that,
This is a terrible idea, and it’s he’s talking they’re pushed in our faces, you can’t know for sure. Odds
about. See more
also just plain dangerous. You of his insightful
and we figure you’ll speak up are, he’s backsliding because
don’t know where the video answers to your if something is important. So it’s easy. If you want more, stop
love dilemmas at
may end up or what this guy Cosmopolitan
tell your boyfriend, “I want to guessing at what he might want
might do with it. Tell him no! .com. unpack at your place…for good.” and tell him what you want. Q
107
sex Sometimes
Q+A
I get the
urge to bite
my mate
during sex.
Honest answers to your most private questions
That okay?
A_ Oh, hey there, Dracula!
Your hankering to nibble on
your S.O. is actually pretty
common and can be super
titillating for both parties, says
sex therapist Neil Cannon,
PhD. Way back in 1953, Alfred
Kinsey, the OG of sex research,
discovered that 55 percent of
women and 50 percent of men
found it erotically stimulat-
ing to be lightly bitten. You
can thank pure animalistic
lust and/or the alluring BDSM
aspect of using your teeth.
“When pain is inflicted during
consensual sexual experiences,
endorphins are released,
and that can convert pain to
pleasure,” explains Cannon. As
long as you have your partner’s
permission, go ahead and gnaw
a bit—but don’t ever break skin.
I heard that you can use

bottled water as a lube
substitute. True?
A_ Lala Kent of Vanderpump
Rules apparently does this (she
dished about it on a “Secrets
Revealed” episode). But pure
H2O is not an ideal lubricant.
“It will be rapidly absorbed
and dry up,” says ob-gyn Tami
Rowen, MD. “It may help with
entry, but even then it is not
particularly lubricating and
probably won’t work for people
Because they who don’t already have natural
house many
nerve endings, wetness.” You’re much better
lobes are off sticking with a legit lube
erogenous zones. that’s meant for increasing
gliding during sex.
108
SEX
E-mail your
My partner has no idea sex questions The guy I just started
how to go down on me. to SexQandA hooking up with told me
@Cosmopolitan
How do I teach him? .com. he’s bi. Does this change
A_ Rather than launch into things in the bedroom?
criticisms, start with a positive A_ A man being bi doesn’t mean
and say what he’s doing right (as he’ll be any less committed or
in, “I like it when you lick me attentive to you or your needs
lightly”). “Good feedback can be between the sheets, says clinical
a real turn-on and something sexologist Sunny Rodgers.
that will make him more open to It also doesn’t mean that his
future suggestions,” says Justin sexual preferences will be
Lehmiller, PhD, a research fixated on anal pleasure.
fellow at The Kinsey Institute. That said, it’s always crucial to
Next, ask for what you want: “It’d practice safe sex with any
be so hot if you moved your partner. “Ensure that condoms
tongue from side to side.” When are always used,” says Rodgers.
he tries it out, let him know you “If you two have had unpro-
are oh-so-glad he did (“yesss!”). tected sex at any point, then you
Um, I think a condom is must be tested for STIs as soon
Is it normal to still stuck inside me! as possible.” Going forward, if
fantasize about What should I do? you’re curious or concerned
having a threesome? A_ Don’t freak. First, try about anything, ask him ques-
A_ Of course! Almost everyone reaching up there and doing a tions—he’s obvi already com-
(male and female alike) has sweep with your finger to see fortable sharing with you.
thought about group sex, says scan to buy if you can get it out, says
Lehmiller, who surveyed more ob-gyn Allison Hill, MD. If How can I clean up
than 4,000 Americans about that doesn’t work, make an after sex quickly and get
their sexual fantasies for his new appointment with your gyno, back to cuddling?
book, Tell Me What You Want: who will have no problem A_ You’re in luck: “Vaginas are
The Science of Sexual Desire fetching it for you (and who’s self-cleansing,” says ob-gyn
and How It Can Help You undoubtedly seen this before). Yvonne Bohn, MD. It’s much
Improve Your Sex Life. “We have Either way, if you are not on more important to pee right
a tendency to grow bored with birth control and don’t want after sex in order to flush out
sexual routines, and group sex to get pregnant, make sure UTI-causing bacteria that may
offers possibilities for switching to take an OTC emergency have been pushed into your
things up,” he says. Plus, every- contraceptive such as Plan B urethra. Then simply wipe
one wants to feel desired, and within 72 hours (the sooner, the any fluids off yourself or your
adding a third partner (even in Tell Me What You better). And if you haven’t had boo with a clean washcloth and
Want, by Justin
your imagination) could be a Lehmiller, PhD,
the STI talk with your partner, warm water before jumping
way to get more attention. $27, amazon.com you should both get tested now. back into the snuggle zone.
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intensity, speed, and tempo of the toy you’re using on yourself at home.
Teledildonics “It’s perfect for long-distance relationships,” says sexologist Emily Morse,
host of the Sex With Emily podcast. Options like the Kiiroo Onyx2 & Pearl2
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Could Orgasm
Anxiety Be
Holding You Back?
When it comes to sex, naked, what she smells or tastes like and psychologist researching
“down there,” whether she’s having human sexual behavior. “Others
performance anxiety sex “right,” and if she’s pleasing her have a fear of actually orgasming.
has pretty much always partner. Then there’s the biggie: They worry that they’ll look
been labeled a guy thing. stressing about taking too long to ridiculous, and they can’t let their
(Dude, can you get it up, keep it climax or whether she will O at all. guard down.”
up, and rock her world?) It’s a lot of Research shows that this “When you’re anxious, you’re
pressure. But the truth is, women last trepidation, called orgasm really at war with your ability to
suffer from similar bedroom hang- anxiety or preorgasmia, is a top experience pleasure,” adds clinical
ups. In fact, according to a recent FPA concern. “Some women have sexologist Patti Britton, PhD,
study, female performance anxiety, thoughts like, ‘Can I get there? Is my cofounder of SexCoachU.com.
or FPA, has always existed, and it partner getting bored?’” explains That’s because your brain is in fight-
can mess with desire and rob women Nicole Prause, PhD, a neuroscientist or-flight mode, during which its
of satisfying sexual experiences. sole concern is to get rid of what’s
“FPA manifests from the same nagging you. So even if what you’re
place as men’s—it’s the fear doing should feel amazing, your
of not being good enough,” mind can’t register the erotic
explains Jim Pfaus, PhD, sensations. Don’t despair
a psychology professor at though. You can take these
Concordia University. steps to help quell FPA
Common causes include and find bliss.
a woman’s worries about
what she looks like
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SEX
When to See
a Therapist
If the below tricks do
nada, connecting with a
professional therapist,
specifically a sexologist,
can help determine
Touch Relax With your precise FPA
hang-up and how to
Yourself Scents address it.
Not only can solo If your mind still
sex help with Silence won’t STFU,
everyday stress Neggy natural essential
(by releasing feel- oils could help
good chemicals Thoughts create a calmer,
throughout your Hating on your sexier energy,
body), but it can naked bod can be says Britton. Try
also be a great powerful enough taking a whiff of
way to learn the to screw with valerian-root oil, Watch Your
moves that satisfy your arousal and an herb that can Breath
you, which you make you avoid lower frantic brain
can then relay to a sex altogether, activity. (It does Use Your A clear sign FPA is
partner. “Try mas- per a study in the this by boosting Words robbing you of a
turbating without Journal of Sex- the amount of a great time in the
“‘Did you come?’ sack: quick and
the expectation of ual Medicine. So Zen-promoting is probably the
orgasm,” advises first, remember: neurotransmitter shallow breath-
most prevalent ing when you’re
sex educator Laci “Being confident called gamma- question asked
Green, author of in yourself is the aminobutyric nowhere near
in bedrooms by climax. If this
the new book Sex biggest turn-on,” acid.) Or burn a men, and that’s
Plus: Learning, says sex and rela- lavender-scented happens, actively
tragic,” says Brit- turn your atten-
Loving, and Enjoy- tionship coach massage candle ton. Both sex and
ing Your Body. Courtney Clemen, that doubles tion to inhaling
communication and exhaling
“Take climax com- cofounder of as a relaxant shouldn’t stop or
pletely off the The V. Club in New and a sultry deeply and
be measured by slowly—just like
table, and turn York City, which foreplay treat. an orgasm alone.
your focus toward offers sex classes. you would when
Work on having meditating. This
pleasurable To tap into your an ongoing dia-
sensations and hot goddess vibes will release ten-
logue throughout sion and get you
how you feel. during the deed, your sex session.
Experiment and engage in some back to feeling all
Give each other the satisfaction. Q
figure out what sensory play by useful directives
turns you on.” turning off the such as “harder,”
lights or blind- “keep going,”
folding yourself. “right there,” or
“When you turn “I love it when you
off one of your do this....”
senses, the others
are magnified,”
says Clemen. And
that can make you
zone in on every
titillating touch.
C A R S T E N W I T T E / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T.
Dating &
Mating With
Esther Perel
7 Signs
You Might
Need
to Call It
Quits
Knowing
when to
fold can be
tricky.
“Should we break up?” It’s a tough is in your future, read through this list of
question to ask…and a hard decision relationship killers (some subtle, some more
for anyone to make, especially these overt) to help determine if you should stay or go.
days. More and more people now believe
that certain common problems that were once THERE’S A LACK OF ENTHUSIASM
seen as deal breakers (e.g., infidelity, infertility, A key breakup-worthy problem I see in my
NICOL AS ORTEGA . C ARDS: DANIELLE OCCHIOGROSSO
mental illness) can be overcome if your overall office is having a chronically ambivalent
values align and you have mutual respect. And partner (or being one yourself). Maybe you’ve
in many cases, this proves to be true. been together for four years but you have only a
That said, there are still some nuanced issues drawer at their place and they haven’t met your
or chronic annoyances that, over time, can build family. Or you keep asking them to make a deci-
up layers of frustration, disappointment, and sion about the next step in your relationship, but
conflict to the point when they become worth they don’t know what they want…in life or with
splitting over. It’s important to remember: you. They may say they can’t live without you but
D A LY/ S T U D I O D.
Breakups are not always just one person’s fault, then never actually commit to living with you.
and it’s valuable to know when your bond is at This push and pull will erode your sense of self-
its breaking point. If you suspect a romantic rift worth and fill you with self-doubt.
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LOVE QUIZ
Are you
in denial
about your
relationship
1
Do you remain hopeful
your mate’s unfortunate
habits will change over
time in spite of evidence to
the contrary?
2 3
Have you been rationaliz-
ing or coming up with
reasons to stay together?
YES NO
Do your friends often tell
you that your partner may
not be right for you?
YES NO
YES NO
woes? If you answered mostly yes, you may If you answered mostly no, you are
have convinced yourself this bond is worth likely seeing your love situation for what it is.
saving, when really it’s time to let go. If you’re Keep being honest while continuing to pay
making excuses for bad behavior, take a closer attention to the realities of your partnership
look at what it is you’re trying to protect. and the opinions of those who love you.
Breakups are not always just one person’s fault, and it’s
valuable to know when your bond is at its breaking point.
YOU ARE NEVER SATISFIED BIG LIES HAVE BEEN HIDDEN
Another reason couples implode: One or both Wild as it may sound, confessions like “I had a
members feel a growing sense of disillusion- child before we met” or “My father was in jail”
ment. If you find yourself consistently making are not necessarily deal breakers if they are
petty comments to your partner, belittling revealed in the early stages of a partnership.
them, or pointing out their every shortcom- But if you or your S.O. has deliberately hidden a
ing, this may be a sign that you are trying to major shocker for a long time or omitted details
sabotage or escape your relationship. Sound that will affect both of your lives, it can seriously
familiar? Deciding to separate now can spare erode your trust in each other. What’s more, it
you and your mate more pain later. can make the oblivious partner feel like they
have been unknowingly and unwillingly lured
PROMISES GO UNFULFILLED into something. That’s never a good sign.
When you’re with someone who likes to make
guarantees but breaks them repeatedly, that’s a YOU FEEL ALONE BY THEIR SIDE
sign they will likely never keep their word. On If you constantly feel lonely while spending time
Esther Perel is a sex
my podcast, I spoke to a couple in which a man and relationship with your partner, they may not be providing
was always reassuring his partner that they therapist, New York you with the emotional support you need. It can
Times best-selling
would move back to her hometown, but he kept author, popular be unbearable to feel isolated when your mate
coming up with excuses for why he couldn’t. TED speaker, and is right next to you. Rather than try to stick it
the host of the
Eventually, they broke up because it was clear award-winning out, realize that it’s more than possible to find
he’d never follow through with the relocation. podcast Where someone who makes you feel more connected.
Should We Begin?
Her next project is
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Does your bond only exist because you do all keep their spark In some relationships, one person may be unable
the work? Do you make all the plans, ask all the alive. Learn more at to move past a breach of trust, even though
EstherPerel.com or
questions? If so, your significant other is not by following both people have committed to working it out
carrying their fair share of weight. Of course, @EstherPerel together. If you’ve had endless talks, swapped
Official on
you can rationalize little moments of imbalance, Instagram. countless heartfelt apologies, or even gotten
but when you look back and add up the days, professional counseling but one of you just can’t
months, or years of evidence...and it’s you who let go or move forward, it might be time to cut
always makes the effort, it’s not an equal part- ties. In situations such as these, it can be nearly
nership. (By the way, the opposite is also true: If impossible for partners to reestablish trust with
your lover shoulders everything, it’s you who is each other, which means the relationship will
being unfair and setting the stage for a break.) likely never rediscover solid ground. Q
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wellness
Gyno
Q+A
Blowout!
T H A I S R A M O S VA R E L A / S T O C K S Y.
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Can my gyno tell if
I’ve gotten busy
before my annual
exam?
A_ If you didn’t use a condom, then probably,
says ob-gyn Jennifer Ashton, MD, Cosmo Health
Advisory Board member. And if she has to dig
through semen to see and swab your cervix, you
could get inaccurate Pap results. Do yourself—and
your doc—a favor and abstain for 48 hours before
your appointment.
I’ve slept with a lot of dudes…okay?

A_ Real talk: The more sex partners you have,
the higher your risk for STIs, says Dr. Ashton.
That said, as long as you always practice safe
sex, get screened for STIs at least once a year,
and ask your lovahs to show you their latest test
results (and request they hit the doc if it’s been
a minute since their last scan), you don’t need to
stress about it, says Taraneh Shirazian, MD, an
assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology
at NYU Langone Health.
My pee feels hot coming out.

What’s up?
A_ Your urine is around the same temp as your
bod, roughly 98.6 degrees. If it feels noticeably
warmer, that could signal a urinary tract infection,
especially if you have classic symptoms such as
pain while peeing or constant trips to the baño,
says Andrea Chisholm, MD, an ob-gyn in Cody,
Wyoming. See your doc for a test and, if you do
have a UTI, a script for antibiotics. S P E C U LU M , C O N D O M S : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
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WELLNESS
Is it okay to shave those rando

hairs on my boobs?
A_ Yep—you can also pluck them. But as
with any other body area, the result could be
ingrown hairs, which may cause an infection
or scarring, says ob-gyn Sherry Ross, MD,
author of She-ology: The Definitive Guide to
Women’s Intimate Health. Period. So unless
they’re really bothering you, leaving ’em be is
also a solid option.
I’ve heard egg freezing is more

effective in your 20s. True?
A_ The goal is to get as many high-quality eggs
as possible, says Dr. Ashton. On average, younger
women have more healthy eggs than those in
their 30s and 40s, so they may have a higher
chance of freezing a big batch to work with later.
(One study suggests that your best shot at a live
birth occurs if you bank them before age 34.)
That said, egg-freezing science is imperfect, and
there are no guarantees of having a successful
pregnancy from it at any age.
Why is my vulva darker than the

rest of my skin?
A_ It’s natural pigmentation, says Dr. Shirazian.
During puberty, a surge in estrogen and other
hormones can cause the vulva tissue (including
the labia, aka lips) to become several shades
deeper. Totes common, totes normal.
So, could I really get herpes even

though I use condoms?
A_ Yes. The virus can spread via bodily fluids
and skin-to-skin contact, whether or not the
infected person has visible sores. Because
condoms don’t cover the entire peen, the base
of the shaft could still rub the skin around your
vaginal opening, potentially transferring the
infection, says Dr. Chisholm. Don’t give up
on rubbers though. They do still offer some
protection. One study found that people who
used condoms every time they had sex were
30 percent less likely to get genital herpes than
those who never used them.
Even when I’m clean down south,

I still smell sorta funky. Why?
What’s the best A_ Your natural below-the-belt scent can be
way to clean influenced by your diet, says Dr. Ross. Garlic,
a sex toy?
Mild soap and water onions, asparagus, red meat, and other foods
will do the trick, can subtly affect your odor—and that’s okay.
says Dr. Ashton. But a healthy vagina should never smell foul,
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WELLNESS
The One If I have itching and discharge, do I definitely have a yeast infection?
Not necessarily. While these are hallmark symptoms, they could also stem from
Question trichomoniasis (an infection caused by a parasite) or bacterial vaginosis (caused
Docs Hear by an overgrowth of certain bacteria). In these cases, over-the-counter antifungal
Most Often cream can actually make your discomfort worse, so your best bet is to see your
gyno for a diagnosis before self-treating. —SHERRY ROSS, MD, OB-GYN
Can I get pregnant on my period? It’s possible. Women’s cycles vary, and there’s
no easy way to know when your ovaries will drop an egg (you’re most fertile for
roughly six days around ovulation). If you have a shorter cycle or a longer period,
you could theoretically conceive during your flow. To be safe, use BC such as the
Pill or condoms every time you have sex (especially because you may be more
susceptible to STIs during your period). —ANDREA CHISHOLM, MD, OB-GYN
Will the Pill make me infertile? Absolutely not—this is a myth. The Pill shuts
down ovulation, but as soon as you stop taking it, your brain and ovaries give your
body the green light to start up the process again. —JENNIFER ASHTON, MD, OB-GYN
fishy, or yeasty. If yours does, check in with I just heard about a brand-new
your gynecologist to rule out issues such as STI called MG. What?!
bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection. (And A_ Mycoplasma genitalium, or MG, actually
to sweeten your flavor profile, try eating more isn’t new. It was discovered in the 1980s, and it’s
fresh fruit and staying hydrated.) pretty prevalent, says Dr. Ashton. It has mostly
flown under the radar because symptoms can
My mom and sister both be vague (inflammation of the cervix, pain
have endometriosis. Should I when you pee, post-sex bleeding) or nonexistent,
be freaking out? making it hard to diagnose, and not all docs are
A_ If an immediate family member has that familiar with it. But it can lead to pelvic
endo—a painful condition in which uterine inflammatory disease if left untreated, so protect
tissue grows outside the uterus—you’re about yourself by using condoms, and if you’re worried,
six times more likely to develop it yourself, per ask your doc about testing (but be warned, the
Could a the National Institutes of Health. But—deep test isn’t widely available, so you may have to visit
tampon get breath—genetics don’t mean you absolutely a large medical center). While MG has shown
stuck to my will develop it, says Dr. Ashton. Your best bet troubling resistance to antibiotics, there are still
IUD strings is to discuss your family history with your certain drugs that can typically zap it.
and pull it out?
Probs not. IUD doctor, so she’s aware of your increased risk.
strings sit And if you start noticing symptoms such as Are organic tampons really healthier?
so high up near extremely heavy periods, debilitating cramps, A_ There is no scientific evidence that organic
your cervix and pain during or after sex, request a pelvic brands are better for you than traditional ones,
that a tampon exam and an MRI or ultrasound. says Dr. Ross. Organic tampons are made
shouldn’t
C O N D O M S , TA M P O N : G E T T Y I M A G E S .
even come with 100 percent organic cotton grown sans

close, says Dr. My period is really short (like, two synthetic pesticides. But while regular tampons
Chisholm. But days). What’s wrong? may contain trace amounts of chemicals, the
you can always A_ A normal flow lasts two to seven days, FDA has cleared them as safe. So it’s really
ask your gyno so if yours is always brief, you’re fine. If it’s about what you’re comfortable with. The most
to double-
check the suddenly shorter, check with your gyno, says important rule with any tampon, says Dr. Ross,
placement of Dr. Ross. Potential culprits: a new workout is to change it at least every eight hours to
your IUD. routine, weight loss, stress, or a thyroid issue. prevent toxic shock syndrome. Q
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fans include Vanessa Hudgens and
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by it for weight loss, energy, and
mental clarity. Regular peeps are
into it too. Google searches for
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to see what’s behind the buzz
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WELLNESS
How It Works
The idea is to launch your
body into ketosis, a metabolic
state in which you’re forced to burn The Benefits
Munching so few carbs means The
fat instead of carbohydrates to feed
your insulin should be steady Bottom
your muscles and mind. For most people,
AF, squashing hanger. Fans Line
eating carbs triggers a release of the hor-
mone insulin, which turns those carbs into also report increased focus, The keto
energy, says registered dietitian Amy Goss, says Dr. Cervenka. And some diet nixes
PhD. To achieve ketosis, you have to starve studies suggest that going keto stuff like
your cells of carbs so they break down helps athletes with endurance cupcakes,
dietary and stored fats into molecules and may aid people with which, yeah,
called ketones. “Ketones, like conditions such as diabetes, is healthy.
carbs, are a good source of some cancers, polycystic ovary But it also
fuel,” says Goss. syndrome, and inflammation. cuts out
The diet also reduces fat nutritious
without touching muscle, says fare such
Goss. But FYI: Insulin makes as fruit
you retain water, so without it, and whole
you’ll shed H2O pounds that grains
The Food seafood, poultry, and meats, can snap back when you quit. because
Unlike the paleo diet, which which contain virtually they
calls for more protein and none, according to the USDA. The Downsides interfere
carbs, getting your keto on Most fruits, however, are Some are major, so check with with ketosis.
properly means that 90 percent rich in carbohydrates (blame your doc. The insulin drop Unless you
of your unlimited daily calories those natural sugars), so could lead to dehydration, have a
needs to come from healthy they’re seriously restricted. triggering flulike symptoms diagnosed
fats such as avocado, olive oil, Ditto booze, which prevents during the first few days, says condition
and fish. The remaining 10 the liver from using fat as Goss. Ketosis produces acetone that keto
percent should be split between energy, says Goss. Chips and that makes your breath smell may benefit,
carbs and lean protein, says candy are totally out. And oddly fruity. More fun: Consti- this hard-ass
Mackenzie Cervenka, MD, an if you cave, it could take up pation from dehydration and plan is not
associate professor of neurol- to three days to get back to lack of fiber is common, says necessary,
ogy and the medical director ketosis (so pour one out for Dr. Cervenka. Slashing carbs says Goss.
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of the Johns Hopkins Hospital all those starchy fries you

Adult Epilepsy Diet Center. won’t be eating).
This puts your daily carb
quota at 20 to 50 grams, says
Goss, around the amount in one
measly cup of plain pasta. (It’s
worth noting that not everyone
agrees this is healthy. Current
U.S. dietary guidelines based
on a 2,000-calorie diet suggest
225 to 325 grams of carbs per
day, and the American Heart
Association recommends
getting no more than 35 percent
of your daily calories from fat.)
While non-starchy veggies
and some cheeses contain trace
amounts of carbs, most are
keto-friendly, as are oils, eggs,
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WORK
Picture this: You’re

late to a meeting,
and your boss lays
into you in front of
the entire team. You
look around for help, but no
one’s got your back. You sink
into a chair, feeling totally alone
and totally screwed. If only
someone had confirmed your
(legit) excuse or at least thrown
you a sympathetic smile…if
only you had a work wife.
A female on-the-job ride-or-
die—a peer to grab lunch with,
go to for advice, and rely on
when you’re swamped—
can make your 9-to-5 a whole
lot happier. She can also help
you ace your job (and vice Younger’s Kelsey
and Liza are ultimate
versa), says Chad McBride, #WorkWifeGoals.
PhD, a communication studies
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To get yourself a work wife,
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In other words, you’re
find a gal around your same
level and with whom you’ve had
GREAT IDEAS
Make a deal with your WW: If
psyched to go to your gig casual, pleasant convos. Feel one of you has a killer plan and
because it means being with a out her potential by asking for presents it in an all-staff
huddle, the other will repeat it
pal. “And when you enjoy going small favors that benefit you and give props, so the rest of
to work and are less stressed, both: “Want to brainstorm over the team acknowledges your
you end up doing better work,” lunch before tomorrow’s pre- idea, says McGoodwin. So
says Lauren McGoodwin, sentation?” If all goes well, try if you pitch an itinerary for
an upcoming event, your work
founder and CEO of female asking for a bigger solid, like wife can say, “Great call!
career-development site Career covering your shift (and, That would go so well.” (NBD,
Contessa. “This could then duh, offer to do the same for but some of the women who
worked in President Obama’s
turn into your boss recognizing her). Then follow these tips
White House reportedly
your enthusiasm and giving to nurture that dynamic and employed this strategy, calling
you more cool opportunities.” rock the work-wife life. it amplification.)
“We both worked on a politi- “I started working with her “My work wife and I were
TFW cal campaign a few years on a project. We brainstormed, friendly on the job, and she
reciprocated quick favors,
I Met ago, and now I’m not sure either
of us would take a job where and sent work back and forth
approached me about
forming a company together.
for feedback. Now, when That’s when we clicked. We’d

My the other person wasn’t
involved. She’s the best thing one of us is out for more than a spend weekends holed up
that’s happened to my career!” day or two, we feel it!” in her apartment working on it.”
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Just because you have “your
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HAVE BEYOND® you two should be cliquey and

avoid everyone else. If you
know different people at the
WILD DELIVERED
™ company or are on separate
teams, flex your connections
and make introductions
so both of your networking
TO YOUR DOOR circles grow, says McGoodwin.
You can use this script: “I’d love
you to meet [WW’s name].
She is fantastic to work with
and can help you with your
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you get major cred if your girl
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at Chewy.com.
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The more people you meet
Go From Work
likely both of you are to get
Wife to Real Life
Think your WW has IRL BFF potential?
great new opportunities. The transition can be done, but take it
slow. Start by suggesting an after-work
hang: “Wanna get mani-pedis?” sug-
VENT, LISTEN, gests Lauren McGoodwin. If that’s a hit—
and you talk about non-job stuff—try a
REPEAT
When your boss is frustrating
weekend activity: “I’m going to yoga on
Saturday. Want to join and then get
as hell and you want to talk it brunch?” What’s up, new friendship?!
out with your work wife, call on
her to go chat outside the
office, says Sherry Sims,
founder and CEO of the Black
Career Women’s Network. Or
if you notice she is on the
verge of a freak-out, take her COVER FOR
ied Bites
to a faraway bathroom or
down the street so she can let HER, BUT DON’T
- D r
Free
ze it out. If you’re in an open work
COVER UP
ITH CHICKEN space, you can use the line
“Want to go for coffee?” Or if Even though you’re on your
W you want to be all 007 about it,
come up with some code
work wife’s side, you don’t want
to risk your own job by, say,
words or phrases that you can making up bogus excuses if
say to each other when the she’s playing hooky one
proverbial shit hits the fan. day. If she does have an actual
Maybe that means texting her issue (like having to fill a painful
four exploding-head emoji cavity or pick up her little
during your shift so you’ll both sister from softball practice),
know there’s major drama offer to cover for her until she
to discuss. Venting about your gets back and “be another
job with someone you work set of eyes seeing what’s going
with can actually allow you to on,” says McBride. Whether
go home and not dwell on the that means taking notes
problem. That means you’re at meetings or sending her an

less likely to spend precious emergency update, you’ll be
free moments with your lover, able to fill her in on everything
roommate, or family bitching later. (And she’ll do the same
about work, says McBride. for you next time.) Q
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FOMO Sucks
Your Cash Yep, the fear of missing
out doesn’t just make your
social calendar rival the
royal family’s. Trying to
keep up with friends and
not wanting to pass up an
experience—or just as likely,
an epic ’gram—has left 1 in 5
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ing beyond their means at
least once a month, says a
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bated by social networks,”
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planner Alison Norris, of
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amazing things without you.
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cent of young people report
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ing can crush your future
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Your besties want to go all out Saturday night (bottle do is look back at your 20s
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weekend, your cousins are throwing a major family O’Connor, former director of
dinner at that new barbecue joint. Too bad that by the content at Credit Karma.
GET T Y IMAGES.
time the bill for the braised brisket comes around, your Here, five ways to curb
wallet will have fallen victim to serious FOMO spending. FOMO spending while still
having a fab time.
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PLAY
new
Log Off Find Cheaper Fun TO
NATURALLY When your feed is
cluttered with pics of
“Frugal doesn’t have to be
boring—you can swap in SPEND
CRAFTED. people chilling in Cancún, it’s
hard not to search for vacay
deals. Avoid the temptation by
cheaper thrills,” says O’Connor.
If, for example, your squad
wants to do it up glamping,
OR NOT
TO
NATURALLY ditching social media for a week
or two, says Norris. Remove
suggest a more affordable
campground rather than stay
SPEND?
Insta, FB, Pinterest, or whatever behind (trust, the cozy
DELICIOUS. else gives you the most FOMO
from your phone. “Keep track of
s’mores-by-the-fire shots will
look just as cool). Chances are,
Those trendy
new sandals
how much you spend during you’re not the only one in your on Insta
this break, then compare,” she friend group who’s dealing Verdict: Nah.
says. If you save hundreds, with a spending-saving tug of Just ’cause your
consider doing a longer cleanse war. And if your hangs have fave follow is
to really limit your splurging. Or been getting pricey AF, you’re wearing some-
if temporarily deleting your also not the only one who will thing bangin’
apps isn’t an option, Unfollow be relieved to cut back on the doesn’t mean
the most triggering accounts extravagance. If anyone gives you should
(we see you, trust-fund kids and you crap, they’re likely not shop the look
jet-setting celebs). worth your FOMO anyway. stat. That said,
if you’re still
coveting them
two weeks
Start a FOMO after double-
Account... tapping,
Truth: You shouldn’t always have to then consider
forgo the fun. Start prepping for making room in
must-attend moments by opening a your budget.
new FOMO Fund savings account.
Set aside 50 percent of your total
paycheck for necessities such as Beyoncé and
rent, 20 percent for your OG savings, Jay-Z tix
and 30 percent for can’t-miss stuff, Verdict: Yas,
suggests Norris. (If that breakdown girl...if you’re a
doesn’t work for you, pay off your die-hard fan
bills first, then split what’s left.) and the show
will be the high-
light of your
season. But set
Natural dry food available with a limit for how
Oceanfish or White Meat Chicken. ...and a FOMO Set a Cash Cap much you can
Budget If you know you always
blow through your
drop on tickets.
You may not be
Create a budget for your paycheck at boozy brunch, front row with
FOMO Fund by making a don’t ditch the weekend the Hive, but
spreadsheet of categories tradition altogether. (That will hey, at least
such as travel, food, entertain- just make you feel even more you’ll be there.
ment, clothes, tech, workouts, left out.) Instead, consult your
etc. Prioritize which ones are budget to see how much you
most important to you. If you can spend on bacon and A friend’s last-
know it’ll feel miz to miss a mimosas without hurting your minute b-day
group yoga retreat but don’t wallet. If it’s $20, take out only dinner at a
care as much about grabbing that amount of cash from your posh place
the new iPhone, allocate 50 FOMO Fund and do the legwork where you’ve
percent of your FOMO bills to to find a place in your price eaten…twice
workouts, 10 percent to tech, range. Then, for extra measure, Verdict: Nope.
and 40 percent to what’s left leave your credit card at home, Been there,
over. “Have an awareness of says O’Connor. That way, you dined on that.
where your dollars are going can avoid more credit-card Save your $$$
and what brings you joy,” says debt and you won’t be tempted to take your
Norris. “If something doesn’t to tack on a $5 side of avo or pal to a new,
make you happy, remove it an extra round of screwdrivers less expensive
from your budget entirely.” to your tab. eatery.
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A flick of red is as
ER
sexy as a pair of Loubs.

TTE LIN
Draw a thick wing on top (try

NYX Professional Makeup Vivid
Brights Liner in Vivid Fire, $7).
Then smudge black (such
as Maybelline New York Lasting
LE
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OU
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the bottom.
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Looking for the

perfect spot
on the strip to
hit up with
your crew or boo?
The Venetian
Las Vegas Casino
(pictured here) is it.
Off-White c/o
Virgil Abloh dress.
Cartier ring
Extend
Your Play
For a beat that won’t
budge, start with
primer (such as
Maybelline New York
Facestudio Master
Prime Primer Makeup
in Blur + Pore Mini-
mize, $10) and finish
with setting spray
(try Urban Decay All
Nighter Makeup
Setting Spray, $32).
C K POT LID
JA S
Proof you don’t
have to play the slots to
score: these coin-inspired
eyes. Prep lids with a gloss (try
YSL Eye Gloss Smudger, $30),
then use tweezers to place
gold flakes (our model is
wearing Kryolan Metallic
Flakes in Gold, $10) on the
outer third.
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Erase the
Evidence
To remove glitter and
waterproof formulas
thoroughly, you’ll need to
triple-cleanse (your skin
will thank you). First use
an oil cleanser, then your
regular face wash, and
finish with toner to nix
excess debris and residue.
O YA L F L U S H
R
Ace the mono-
chromatic makeup
trend with all-pink every-
thing. Apply a multipurpose
cream tint to your lids
and cheeks. Finish with a match-
ing lip (such as L’Oréal Paris
Colour Riche Lipstick Shine
Lipstick in Burnished
Blush, $10).
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top. Emm Kuo clutch.
Alessandra Rich earrings.
Opposite page: Alexander
Wang dress. Eres bra
Make your lips
FOR GOLD
look money with a
Cupid’s-bow accent. Swipe
on a cherry red (such as Dior
Rouge Dior Ultra Rouge in #999
Ultra Dior, $37). Then trace
gold liner (try Ulta Beauty
Collection Gel Eyeliner Pencil
O
in Golden Egg, $8) along
G
the top lip.
Your
Best Hand
Red tips are always
sexy. “Just file them
short and squared
to keep it modern,”
says celeb manicurist
Jackie Saulsbery.
Try Chanel Le Vernis
in Pirate, $28.
Tom Ford
top. Cartier
necklace
Celebrate your big win
with an old-fashioned
at Rosina at The Palazzo
Las Vegas (left).
On Elvis: Chloé sun-
glasses. On her: LaQuan
Smith dress. Bulgari
necklace and rings
Hair: DJ Quintero at State-

ment Artists. Makeup: Christian
McCulloch at Streeters using
Dior Beauty. Model: Carola
Remer/Marilyn. Location: Shot
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on location at The Venetian
Las Vegas and at Rosina at The
S
Palazzo Las Vegas. See page 171 Roll the dice on a
for shopping information.
green-and-gold smoky
eye and you’re guaranteed
to win. Blend emerald shadow
to the creases and along lower
lash lines (try Maybelline New
York Color Tattoo Eye Chrome
in Electric Emerald, $10).
Finish with sparkly gold
on inner corners.
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The
BY
Kate Williams
PHOTOGRAPHED BY
Kai Z. Feng
FASHION DIRECTOR
Aya Kanai
Liberation
of 148
This page: L’Agence
trench coat. Jennifer
Fisher earrings.
Opposite page:
Norma Kamali coat.
Brian Atwood heels
The pop star with the powerful pipes

has dealt with it all—from loathsome music
execs to criticism of her looks and love life.
In this raw, personal, and vulnerable
interview, she finally sets her demons free.
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Christina
Aguilera is
in pain.
Today, it’s not the psychological
or emotional kind—although Beauty Tip
she’s certainly entitled to those,
Strip down your look
after a traumatic childhood
with Maybelline New
and years of battling her way York SuperStay Matte Ink
through a notoriously cruel Un-Nudes Lip Color in
industry. This time, it’s physical. Driver, $9.50—it creates
As she sits in her dimly lit the ultimate nude lip.
studio on a sunny L.A. after-
noon, the diva with the
legendary voice has blood on
her hands. Literally.
“Sorry, my ear is bleeding,”
she says, then adds, “lovely
for your article.” She dabs at
a brand-new piercing on her
upper right ear, taking the
wound in stride. Christina, 37,
is wedged into the corner of
a black couch, black blanket
around her legs, coffee mug in
her clutches. She’s barefaced,
wearing a (you guessed it)
black T-shirt and black pants,
projecting a majorly chill vibe.
Is this really the daring star
who once made headlines with
skunk-stripe hair highlights and photo of Christina with messy, can’t tell me something I
a triple-tongue stage kiss with damp hair—still platinum haven’t already heard about
Britney and Madonna? Well, but sans extensions—and wait, myself anyway.”
yes…and no. are those freckles? “I still love Some things everyone has
“When I first started out, getting glammed up, but I heard about Christina: She
I would never have dreamed want to show imperfections on entered the pop scene in the
of doing an interview without this go-round,” she says. late ’90s as a rail-thin teen with
makeup on,” she says. She’d Don’t be fooled though. This seriously plucked eyebrows
never have imagined going isn’t a comeback story or a and a midriff on permanent
totally natural on an album reinvention. It’s a reveal, and it’s display. Like her Y2K Top 40
cover either. But her latest courageous. “It’s scary, but cohorts Britney Spears,
record, Liberation, bears a I’m up for the challenge. You Jessica Simpson, and Mandy
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Moore, she was a perfectly
packaged product whose every
appearance was carefully
orchestrated. Christina won
the Best New Artist Grammy
in 2000, but it wasn’t until her
sophomore album, Stripped,
two years later, that she set
herself apart with a pair of
butt-cheek-baring chaps and
highly sexual songs. The coy
ingenue from “Genie in a
Bottle” was now gyrating in a
microskirt to “Dirrty.”
“I was feeling a sense of rebel-
lion,” she remembers. “Freed
from the formulaic experience,
I just threw out anything I felt
was a little plastic or a little
stale or was eating me up with
superficiality.”
Not everyone was ready to
give her room to remodel
herself. Many critics didn’t take
kindly to a young woman—
especially a former Mouse-
keteer—singing about sex on
her own terms. Music writers
at major publications called
her “skeezy,” “a strumpet,” and
“a tart” and likened her new
image to something out of a
“hooker convention.” Christina’s
“Dirrty” video was spoofed on
Saturday Night Live with the
words whore and ho.
“It’s hard to hear yourself
being called names,” she says. “I
remember being hurt by these
commercials on MTV, pitting
Britney as the good girl and
me as the bad girl. It’s like, if
Paul & Joe jacket. Yummie bodysuit. Common Projects sneakers
I’m going to be demure and
innocent, that’s okay. But if
I’m going to just be myself, I’m
FULL NAME: ONE THING YOU DON ’ T KNOW ABOUT THESE PEOPLE I ’ VE WORKED WITH: NOTHING I S
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NOTHING I S LESS SEX Y THAN:
trouble.” She starts telling

stories of music execs treat-
ing her badly. There were the When it comes to her
male reps who never left the personal relationships, she
room when she did clothes says, “I made up my mind I ’ D LOVE IT IF NO ONE EVER ASKED ME THI S
fittings. The person who at a really young age that I QUESTION AGAIN:
called her difficult because had to do for myself. I never
she was exhausted and wanted a man to tell me
yawned during a meeting. what I could and couldn’t
The guys who sat at dinner do, what I could and couldn’t
with her, talking crudely spend. I always knew I had to
about other women’s bodies, be the queen of my castle.”
as if Christina weren’t there. She admits that, at certain
“I love the female body, and points, she might have taken
I think it’s something to be that idea a little too much to
proud of, not something that heart. “I’ve always been that
men should dictate ownership one-foot-in, one-foot-out kind
of,” she says. “‘Dirrty’ was of person who’s like, ‘you’re
extremely controversial at the not gonna break me before
time, but it would be nothing I break you!’ But I find it ONE THING EVERY WOMAN SHOULD
now. I hope I paved the way more rewarding at this point DO IN HER LIFE:
and helped set the ground to work through that fric-
rules that women can be any tion and put a mirror in front
version of themselves they of myself and be like, is this
wanna be…and proud of it.” really his issue…or yours?” OF ALL THE RUMORS I ’ VE HEARD ABOUT
MYSELF, THI S ONE I S THE CR A ZIEST:
More than a decade later, for- It’s a hard-won outlook
mer “nice girls” such as Miley based on a few relationship
Cyrus and Selena Gomez failures, including her now-
got some flack for embrac- dissolved first marriage to
ing racier projects, but SNL music exec Jordan Bratman,
wasn’t cracking jokes about with whom she has a
them spreading STIs (yes, 10-year-old son, Max. One
that happened to Christina). crucial lesson: Avoid pairing
She still regrets not up with another star. “I’ve
standing up to harassment had opportunities, but it
from the men in her life, isn’t my style to date another
including her own father. person in the business,” she
Throughout Christina’s child- says with a smirk. “There’s
hood, he was physically and gotta be something wrong
verbally abusive to her mother. with you if you want to be in
“My dad was very dominant this business. I mean, hi! I
with my mom, and I always definitely have my issues. I
knew I was never going to think that I can only handle
let a man take advantage of one [celebrity] in the rela-
me like that. But making it in
the business was a completely
different mindfuck. I didn’t years, she’s been engaged to
even know to think about it producer Matthew Rutler,
like, Wow, this person’s really 33, whom she met when he
disgusting, the way he talks
about women. I had no
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The untold story of
VIOLENCE
by Jennifer Mascia
Without even pulling the trigger, men use deadly weapons to threaten,
manipulate, and terrorize their intimate partners.
This harrowing form of domestic abuse is called coercive control,
and it impacts millions of American women each year.
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Not long after Sophie*, Until he started taking the weapon out at
night. It was always when Sam was drunk
now 28, moved into her and they were bickering. Without a word,
he’d head into the bedroom, open the safe,
boyfriend Sam’s new house and reappear with the gun. Sometimes, he’d
place it on the kitchen table; other times,
he’d slowly load and unload it in front of her,
in suburban Illinois, he methodically popping bullets in and out of
the chamber. “There were never any verbal
brought home a gun. threats,” says Sophie. “He’d just…have it out.”
It was a pistol, small and

black and heavy. “He
was kind of excited,” she
remembers. She didn’t
understand why he wanted
one—his parents didn’t
own guns, that she knew
of—but he seemed to be
acting responsibly, getting
a legal firearms permit,
keeping it locked in a
gun safe, and storing the
bullets separately. And
she trusted Sam; he was
her high school sweet-
heart. So she tried to put it
out of her mind.
What to do
if you’ve
been subtly
or overtly
threatened
with a gun
At first, she protested. “I’d be like, ‘Oh god, he and his wife watch TV. A boyfriend might
TELL SOMEONE
put that away,’ and he would say, ‘What? Does If you think your life polish his weapon during arguments. While
this make you uncomfortable?’” The next day, is at risk, call 911. For asking his partner where she’s been, a guy
Sam would be full of apologies and promises situations that might casually remove his coat to reveal a
to never take it out again. aren’t immediately pistol clipped to his belt. “This [phenom-
life-threatening, The
Over the next few months, he bought more enon] is almost exclusively male on female,”
National Domes-
guns, and the drunken intimidation intensi- tic Violence Hotline, says Susan B. Sorenson, PhD, executive direc-
fied. He’d point an unloaded weapon at the 800−799−7233, has tor of the Ortner Center on Violence and
ceiling and pull the trigger, a practice known operators standing Abuse in Relationships at the University of
as dry firing. Or he’d load one and point it by 24/7 to listen Pennsylvania. “When you have a gun, you
and direct you to
at her or at himself. Sophie would inevitably can control someone without touching them,
resources.
end up doing whatever Sam wanted, just to without even speaking a word.”
get him to put the damn thing away. “It was DEVELOP A Indeed, a lethal weapon allows an abuser
almost like being held captive,” she says. “In SAFETY PLAN to easily establish a “regime of domination,”
a physical fight, I’d at least have a chance—I Because every state’s as Stark calls it—and in a country with an
laws are different,
could poke him in the eye or knee him in estimated 270 million firearms, countless
the Hotline’s victim
the groin. But when there’s a gun involved, advocates can help women are at risk. One 2016 study found that
it’s not a level playing field.” you navigate the some 4.5 million women have been coerced or
Sophie was too embarrassed to tell her legal avenues available bullied with a gun by an intimate partner. In a
parents. “My father always told me to dump in your area, which separate (as of yet unpublished) survey, Tami
might include
a guy if he hit me or cheated on me,” she says. Sullivan, PhD, the director of Family Violence
a restraining order.
“But what if a guy points a gun at you every Research at Yale, found that 33 percent of
time he gets drunk? I didn’t know who to CHANGE YOUR women in the Greater New Haven, Connecti-
talk to about that.” And despite the creeping SURROUNDINGS cut, area who were victims of abuse had also
terror that started to consume Sophie, Sam If you need to separate been menaced with a firearm. “And that
yourself from an
never actually laid a hand on her. doesn’t count the implied stuff, like when he
abuser and don’t have
relatives or friends cleans the gun in front of them,” says Sullivan.
UnderConstant
nearby, find a shelter in While experts recognize coercive control
your area by searching as a legitimate form of domestic abuse, the
DomesticShelters.org. threat itself can be hard to describe to friends
Threat
and family, let alone the police. There are no
bruises or bullet wounds, and after constant
manipulation, a victim may wonder if she’s
ALTHOUGH SHE DIDN’T KNOW IT at the time, seeing danger that’s not really there. Or she
there’s a name for what Sophie experienced: may become too terrified to act at all.
coercive control. Popularized in 2007 by foren- When Rachel, now 29, first started trying
sic social worker Evan Stark, PhD, the term to break up with her boyfriend of two years
refers to the sinister ways people nonviolently in 2012, he told her he could easily get a gun.
manipulate their intimate partners (physical And he did. When she said she’d get a restrain-
assault often coexists with coercive control, but ing order against him, he whipped out a
it doesn’t have to). They include constant belit- 9 millimeter handgun, loaded it, and said,
tling and criticism or enforcing strict guide- “A piece of paper never stopped a bullet.” Fear-
lines for socializing. “The controlling partner ing for her life, Rachel didn’t move forward
dictates choices most of us take for granted, with the restraining order. A month later, after
such as who we see, how we dress, and which he tried to make her hold the gun—“I want
websites we visit,” wrote Stark in 2017. “It’s not you to hold this, so you know that it’s real and
about hitting or hurting but about taking away that it’s loaded,” he said—she fled to her
women’s autonomy,” he adds. parents’ house. While her boyfriend had been
Abusive partners don’t need a gun to gov- physically abusive in the past, “this was totally
GET T Y IMAGES.
ern their victims, but a gun makes a ruthless different—the worst part of everything,”
tool of intimidation. A husband might keep she says. “Until then, I didn’t think he could
one on the mantel in the living room, where actually kill me.”
* Names have been changed.

Modern Tools of Intimidation
3 OTHER WAYS ABUSERS COERCIVELY CONTROL THEIR PARTNERS
A Loaded Issue
BOTH SOPHIE AND RACHEL confronted perhaps
GPS
“A man might demand
that you keep your
SOCIAL MEDIA
“A partner
could control or
SMART-HOME
TECHNOLOGY
Abusers can
the most alarming part of coercive control location settings compromise your remotely connect
by firearm: In many cases, it’s perfectly on”—or use a tracking reputation by with doorbells, tem-
lawful. Stroking a legitimately obtained gun app—“so he always impersonating perature controls,
knows where you you online with digital locks, and
during an argument isn’t illegal. Loading or
are,” says Natalie fake profiles,” home assistants to
cleaning one nonchalantly while demanding Dolci of the Seattle explains Dolci. manipulate and ter-
a partner’s online passwords? Not against Police Department. rify their partners.
the law. Asking a woman to hold a pistol to
see that it’s loaded? Also not a crime.
Most U.S. domestic violence laws are struc-
tured to deal with violent incidents—a punch
landed, an actual pistol-whipping, a fired
bullet. When it comes to long-term patterns
of psychological violence, sufferers have less
legal recourse. In many states, it is technically
assault (a misdemeanor that carries little to
no jail time) to actually point a gun at some-
one. But most victims are unaware of this or
remain too ashamed or fearful to report inci-
dents. And when they do, they find getting a
domestic violence restraining order (DVRO)
without proof of physical assault can be trau-
matic in itself, says Sorenson. “Based on what
I know, it is rare for a DVRO to be issued
based only on psychological abuse.” Meaning,
until a domineering partner shoots his gun,
it can be hard to get a restraining order…or to
have his weapon taken away.
Sophie learned this the hard way. A few
months after she broke up with Sam, he called
her, drunk, and said he was going to kill him-
self. She got in her car. As soon as she pulled
into his driveway, she remembers, “He was
like, ‘Get out of the car!’ He was slurring his
words and pointing a gun at me. He reached
for my seat belt, unbuckled it.” He grabbed
her and began interrogating her about men
she’d been seen with. Then he fired his gun.
Sophie, who was not injured, says she isn’t
sure whether he even pointed it at her, “but I
remember a bright light, falling to my knees,”
she says. “I vomited in my mouth.” She
managed to get back in her car and peel out
of the driveway. Sam spent three days in jail,
then because she declined to press charges,
he got his guns back.
GET T Y IMAGES.
Still, Sophie could be considered lucky. In

July, an Alabama man shot and killed his
ex-wife, 41-year-old Debra Ann Rivera, less
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Disarming
than three months after a judge denied her
request for a permanent DVRO. She’d told
police that he had threatened her with fire-
Abusers
arms and had been stalking her and her new
husband. She was granted a temporary order,
but not the permanent one that would have
required her ex to give up his guns. IN SOME COUNTRIES , coercive control is now its
own crime. In 2010, France became the first
The Invisible
to ban “psychological violence within mar-
riage,” and in 2015, the UK made “coercive
“The fear of or controlling domestic abuse” punishable by
a firearm
Wounds
up to five years in prison. Nothing like this is
threat— being considered stateside.
just the fear In the absence of laws, Sorenson says that
EVEN WHEN COERCIVE CONTROL doesn’t turn education is key. Incorporating training on
of the violent, it can leave lasting damage. Rachel coercive control into existing law enforcement
threat, not has struggled with nightmares that involve programs could help police identify and pros-
even the a gun or other weapons, and she remains ecute firearm threats. It may also make
actual on anti-anxiety medication. “My startle removing guns from abusers (and confiscating
threat—is response is very high,” she says. “If a coworker illegal ones) a more standard procedure.
significantly drops something or makes lots of noise that “Victims in domestic abuse cases need to
I don’t anticipate, it will make my heart be asked if they have ever been threatened
associated race. I still have a lingering fear of a gun with a firearm,” adds Sorenson, because
with PTSD. being used against me in a relationship.” that may help them get a DVRO. “We need
It’s stronger Elsa, 28, who had a gun pointed at her— to see what’s happening so that we can help
even than but never actually fired—many times during prevent a death.”
the link a tumultuous relationship in her late teens, Spreading the word about coercive control
between says it took her years to recover from the may also help sufferers, says Natalie Dolci,
mental trauma and that she still has panic a domestic-violence victims’ advocate in
physical or attacks. “When emotional abuse and the Seattle Police Department. “If someone
sexual controlling behaviors are your norm, you feels their partner is becoming control-
abuse and have to relearn autonomy,” she says. “For ling, it’s critical that they stay connected to
PTSD.” women to feel like they’re safe to make their support, whether that’s a therapist, a trusted
own decisions again takes a really long time.” friend, or an advocate at a local community
“The health impact of firearms goes way agency.” Validation and perspective from
beyond homicide,” confirms Sullivan. “The outside the controlling relationship is
fear of a firearm threat—just the fear of essential, she says. To that end, in 2016, the
the threat, not even the actual threat—is advocacy hashtag #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
significantly associated with PTSD. It’s took off on Twitter. People still use it
stronger even than the link between physical to tweet examples of coercive control.
or sexual abuse and PTSD.” In a 2017 paper “#MaybeHe DoesntHitYou,” wrote one
Sullivan coauthored, women who had been woman this July, “but he points an unloaded
threatened with a gun—or feared that their gun close range at your forehead because he
partner would use one against them—had wants to check if the laser works.”
more severe psychological symptoms than Awareness campaigns such as this one
women who had endured other types of abuse. could help evolve and broaden how we talk
And feeling like they are alone, with no legal about gun violence. Because, as Sophie points
or emotional recourse, can only compound out, “You don’t see these domestic situations
victims’ trauma. “When you have a black in the news. It’s only, like, gun incidents
eye, you can show it to someone,” explains in schools and churches. And I’m all for
Sullivan. “With this kind of abuse, you have talking about those. But I didn’t even think
nothing to show.” I was part of the conversation.” Q
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HOROSCOPES
By Aurora Tower | @AuroraAstro
LIBRA0 9. 2 3 – 1 0 . 2 2
You glow, girl! With the Sun in your sign

until the 23rd and goal-oriented Mars in
your love and fun zone all month, you’re
radiating positive energy. But don’t let all
that happy lead you on a shopping spree.
Spend carefully after the 5th, when Libra
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home and at work. If a relationship isn’t
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beautiful new romantic chapter.
LIBRA GAL
HALSEY
09.29.94
SCORPIO SAGITTARIUS CAPRICORN AQUARIUS
10.23–11.21 11.22–12.21 1 2 . 2 2 – 0 1 .1 9 0 1 . 2 0 – 0 2 .1 8
Buckle up: You’re about to be at PSA: Fun is incoming! But first, Ready to get busy? The Sun is in Who’s living her best life? You!
a major romantic turning point. tie up some loose ends, and your zone of fame and success A dreamy trip may set you on a
Venus goes retrograde on phone a friend for help on how and will square up against Pluto new path near the 10th, when
the 5th, giving you the power to take care of business. Then on the 11th. Meaning: It’s time Venus engages bold Mars in
to finally deal with that iffy go be social and enjoy, but to start something. This could your sign. Once the Sun moves
relationship. Then your new- stay chill on the 8th during the mean a big new project or even into your zone on the 23rd,
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Sun moves into your sign on surprising work news on the there will be good times to go your 9-to-5. And if you keep
the 23rd. Someone from your 31st. It may not be what you with the long workdays when an eye on balance, you’ll be in
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PISCES ARIES TAURUS GEMINI

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on repeat. Then you’ll be able you’ll find major career clarity. fireworks around the Full Moon, Go with your gut when Venus
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CANCER LEO VIRGO LIBRA GUY

ZAC EFRON
0 6 . 2 1 – 0 7. 2 2 0 7. 2 3 – 0 8 . 2 2 08 . 2 3– 09. 2 2
10.18.87
Be in your feelings right now, Your hustle is hitting gold, Talk about a star. After the
but take a breath before finally! You are multitasking, New Moon goes into your zone Your main squeeze
acting on them in a serious traveling, and working like a of money on the 8th, work isn’t sure where
way. The Sun squares off demon, but the rewards for will be center stage (and your he stands, so shed
against Pluto on the 11th, all that effort are coming and audience will go wild). Mid- light on all your
which could make you want to will make you feel #BlessedAF. month mishaps may slow your feels for him.
shift gears at home or work. Stay calm if things get tense at roll, but keep dancing. A vacay
Get through that and then sit home when the Sun moves into will help you hit high notes
back and enjoy the love on the your family zone on the 23rd. when the Sun makes a move on
26th, when the Sun gets cozy Big work news hits near the the 23rd. Be ready to improvise
with romance planet Venus. 31st. LEO GUY: All his time and along the way and you’ll be
CANCER GUY: A little petting energy is occupied, but that singing a happy tune. VIRGO
and pampering from you is won’t be the case for long. Do GUY: Oh, girl, the surprise he’s
what he’s craving. you for now. He’ll be back ASAP. got in store for you is good.
ALL ABOUT YOU
Your Personality
Revealed by “Cubing”
This visualization exercise was developed by a Japanese psychologist
who believes it offers insights into your character.
Remember All
That? Good!
First, The size of the cube repre-
imagine you’re walking sents the size of your ego.
alone in a desert...and you
The transparency of the
come across a cube. cube shows how open or
How large is the cube? closed off you are with
others.
What is the cube made of?
How far is it from the ground? The closer it is to the
ground, the more grounded
you are.
Near The closer the ladder is to
the cube, you see a ladder. the cube, the closer you are
How far is the ladder from to your friends.
the cube? If the ladder is leaning
What is the ladder made of? against the cube, it means
your friends tend to lean on
you for support.
Picture The sturdier the ladder’s
a horse next to the cube material, the stronger your
and ladder. bonds to other people.
Is it wearing anything (reins, A saddled or tied-up horse
saddle)? means you want control in a
What is the horse doing? relationship.
The freer the horse,
Now the freer you like your
relationships.
imagine flowers
The more flowers, the more
somewhere. kids you desire.
Is there one flower or many?
The closer they are to the
Where is the flower (or flowers)? cube, the more you’re think-
ing about kids.
Last,
K AY L A VA R L E Y/AU G U S T.
The storm represents your

there’s a storm starting. stress or obstacles.
What is the distance between The closer and more
the storm and the cube? violent it is, the more
Are you afraid of it? stressed you are.
SOURCE: PSYCHOLOGIST TADAHIKO NAGAO
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Are You a Fun Friend?

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between your buds and the
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under is a pile of pillows.
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2. Your sorority bread bowls. Carbs balance
the Campari.
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around. Hair of the dog,
biatches!
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water, and electrolyte tablets
on everyone’s nightstands.
rule for group
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then go back to sleep. get naked. If there’s a
chance of getting caught,
still get naked.
3. Your BFF calls B All phones must be
during work. She confiscated before things
just got dumped and get wet ‘n’ wild.
Giggles is in tears. You: C Someone (okay,
gone wild.
A Meet her at her ex’s you) needs to stay fully
garage and chalk pecker- clothed and protect your
shaped drawings on his car. crew’s underthings.
M O S T LY A’ S M O S T LY B ’ S M O S T LY C ’ S
THE BREAKDOWN
Bananas Bud Good-Time Fun-ish

Girl! Wherever Gal Pal Friend
you go, the party Who says adults Pals love your
follows. Kudos for can’t turn up? You’re suuuper low-key
bringing the good down for max LOLs vibe, and you don’t
times, but make with your crew, have to be the
sure your bound- but you keep some biggest fun-lover
less antics don’t precautions in mind. to make a great ride
land your squad in A little mischief or die, but still...
hazardous territory.
A N A I S & D A X /AU G U S T.
never hurts but doing something

It is possible to neither does being that ups the ante
have a ball without responsible. High once in a while
spiking all your five for striking a can lead to legend-
blood pressures. sweet balance! ary laughs.
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